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L. T MAGURANYE
Finding Your Way to Happiness Copyright © 2020 by L.T Maguranye. All Rights Reserved.
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CONTENTS .................................................................... 5
INTRODUCTION ........................................................... 2
part one ......................................................................... 4
Chapter 1 – The Truth ................................................ 11
Chapter 2 – Friendship .............................................. 31
part two ....................................................................... 43
Chapter 3 – A Whole New Mind ............................... 48
Chapter 4 – Your Life Purpose and Work ............... 66
Chapter 5 – Why Mentorship? ................................. 77
part three .................................................................... 83
Chapter 6 – Friendly Criticism ................................ 88
Chapter 7 – Self Criticism ......................................... 98
part four .................................................................... 106
Chapter 8 – Confidence and Motivation ................. 111
EPILOGUE .................................................................. 119
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INTRODUCTION
The purpose of this book is a very direct and simple
one: to help you find your way to happiness. It is to
describe and articulate some of the most important
keys to a happy life, that are ‘Openness, Change,
Criticism and Self-confidence’.
Who decides whether you shall be happy or
unhappy? The answer – you do. Happiness is
achievable and the process for obtaining it is not
complicated. Anyone who desires happiness and, who
learns and applies the right formula can be happy.
Most people manufacture their own unhappiness
instead of happiness. Life itself manufactures enough
problems to dilute our happiness, and it is foolish for
you and I to add to the problems by crafting
unhappiness with our own minds. We bring forth our
unhappiness by entertaining unhappy thoughts
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CHAPTER 1 – THE
TRUTH
“And ye shall know the truth, and truth shall make you free” -
John 8:32 (KJV)
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Before you can get the truth from anywhere else, the
first source of truth is yourself. Be true to yourself. Ask
yourself all the difficult questions about yourself. Why
am I broken? Why am I always failing? Why did I lose
my last job? Why is it that my business is failing to
breakeven? What am I passionate about? Be open to
yourself and ask yourself questions about your own
life.
Truth is the most valuable thing we have. Let us economize it. | Mark
Twain
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“Buy the truth, and sell it not; also, wisdom, and instruction, and
understanding” - Proverbs 23:23 (KJV)
“The lip of truth shall be established for ever: but a lying tongue is but for a
moment” - Proverbs 12:19 (KJV)
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may love you, but they won’t trust you, since you don’t
trust yourself. More importantly, your own sense of the
lack of authenticity will burden your capacity to act
with clarity. You will spend most of your energy trying
to keep up with the lie that is leading your life, and
believe me, the race of trying to keep up with lies is a
painful one. Your actions won’t jibe with your core
being. However, what does it really mean to be true to
yourself?
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“Be strong and of good courage, fear not, nor be afraid of them: for the LORD
thy God, he it is that doth go with thee; he will not fail thee, nor forsake
thee.” – Deuteronomy 31:6 (KJV)
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time. Your list won’t remain static, and that’s fine. The
point is to check in with yourself and clarify your
values. You can do this exercise any time to help
yourself with that process.
Determine what some of your own interests are.
This is an important part of getting to know yourself
and staying true to who you are. Interests can include
things like interpersonal skills, professional skills, and
hobbies. Once you have a few of your own strengths in
mind, you will have a better idea of yourself and a
better handle on what it means to be true to yourself.
For example, maybe one of your friends is an incredible
athlete. But you lack their athletic talent. That’s fine.
Figure out what you are good at; maybe that’s music or
business.
Brush off mistakes that you make.
Everyone can and will make mistakes. Over time, it’s
important to learn from the mistakes you have made
and move forward, rather than dwelling on them.
Otherwise, you will continue to mentally beat yourself
up for something that’s in the past and unchangeable.
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CHAPTER 2 –
FRIENDSHIP
“A man that hath friends must shew himself friendly: and
there is a friend that sticketh closer than a brother” – Proverbs
18:24 (KJV)
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Friendship is born at that moment when one person says to another, “What!
You too? I thought I was the only one”. | C.S Lewis
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for, they will walk with you and labor with you, but
never think they are for you. They are for what you are
for, and you have to know that, because if they meet
somebody else that will further their agenda, they will
leave you and hook up with them, because they were
never for you. They were just for what you were for.
And, throughout your life if you are not careful,
particularly if you are broken, you will mistake your
CONSTITUENTS for your CONFIDANTS. And you will
think that they are for you when they are really not for
you; they are just for what you are for. By the time you
get to falling in love with them, they will break your
heart as they hook up with somebody else who is for
what you are for, because it was never about you
anyway. It was about the causes that you represent.
They are for what you are for but they are not for you.
They are your constituents.
COMRADES; these people are not for you, nor are
they for what you are for. It is just that they are against
what you are against. The comrades will make strange
bedfellows. This will cause people to come together
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who are not for you and they are not for what you are
for, but they are against what you are against. And they
will team up with you to help fight a greater enemy.
But don’t be confused by their associations. They will
only be with you until the victory is accomplished.
These people are like scaffolding. They come into your
life to fulfill a purpose and when the purpose is
completed, the scaffolding is removed. But don’t be
upset when they are removed, because the building
always remains when the scaffolding is removed.
Expect the constituents and the comrades to leave
you and desert you after a while. Don’t be upset when
they don’t react to your dream, the way you expected
them to, because they were never really with you in the
first place.
Be careful who you tell your dream, because if you
tell your dreams to your constituents, they will desert
you and try to fulfill the dream without you. If you tell
it to your comrades, they won’t support it because they
never were for what you were for anywhere.
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CHAPTER 3 – A WHOLE
NEW MIND
“And be not conformed to this world: but be ye transformed by
the renewing of your mind, that ye may prove what is that
good, and acceptable and perfect, will of God.” – Romans 12:2
(KJV)
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Once your mindset changes, everything on the outside will change along
with it | Steve Maraboli
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An Open Mind
In fact, the more each person can remove his or her ego from
the discussion and focus on the subject matter, the more
fruitful the conversation will be for all involved | Matthew
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mistakes over and over? While the answer isn’t cut and
dry, there is an interesting difference in mindset
between the two: they approach challenges and
obstacles in a different way. Their mindsets are worlds
apart.
Successful people approach life with an open
mindset. They possess an eagerness to learn and a
willingness to be wrong. However, unsuccessful people
dig their heels in the first sign of disagreement and
would rather die than be wrong. The way each group
approaches and deals with challenges and obstacles is
what separates them. Which group are you in?
Before you smugly slap an open-minded sticker on
your forehead, hear this: closed minded people would
never consider that they could actually be closed
minded. Actually, their perceived open mindedness is
what’s so dangerous. Nobody wants to admit to
themselves that they are closed minded.
The ability to change your mind is a super power.
The rate at which you learn and progress in life
depends on your willingness to weigh the benefits of
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Being honest
To be open minded means being honest enough to
admit that you are not all knowing. This understanding
creates an underlying sense of authenticity that
permeates the character of any person who lives with
an open mind.
For some, being open-minded is as easy as
breathing. For some, it’s a challenge, it’s something
they have to think about constantly and make a
continual effort to keep and obtain. The majority of
people struggle with this concept. But making the
effort to think openly and embrace new ideas will truly
produce great benefits for your business, career and
your personal life as well.
Since we are all facing this challenge together, what
can we do? The following are the top five things
successful people do differently in this regard. They are
simple tactics you can use and adopt as well to become
more open minded in your life. If you follow them
carefully, you will achieve great success. These are:
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Whatever your life’s work is, do it well. A man should do his job so well that
the living, the dead, and the unborn could do it no better. | Martin Luther
King, Jr.
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but you are living the truth about your life, and
changing your life for the better, bit by bit. For you,
each day becomes an opportunity to fulfill your life
purpose.
As you drive yourself to the edge of discovering your
purpose, your purpose will begin to make itself known
unto you. During this process of discovering your true
purpose, you will go through layer after of purposes,
with each one bringing you closer to your true-life
purpose. It’s as if your true purpose is placed at the core
of your being, and surrounded by layers of lesser
purposes. You have to penetrate each of these layers
until you reach the core of your being where your
purpose is found.
These layers of purposes are often the purposes you
have learned or inherited from your childhood
experiences, school or parents. The outer layers of your
true-life purpose, the purposes you often adopt too
early in life, are most likely distant from your true
purpose.
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only they can do, and thus you must do the work that
you only can do – the work in front of your face. The
work that your community, city or nation needs done.
The work in front of you that validates your purpose,
building trust with other individual, and making you
capable of serving your purpose – that’s being a true
human being who has decided to put on the work and
effort to change his or her life for the better.
“He becometh poor that dealeth with a slack hand: but the hand of the
diligent maketh rich.” – Proverbs 10:4 (KJV)
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CHAPTER 5 – WHY
MENTORSHIP?
“Give instruction to a wise man, and he will be yet wiser: teach
a just man, and he will increase in learning.’’ - Proverbs 9:9
(KJV)
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One of the greatest values of mentors is the ability to see ahead what others
cannot see and to help them navigate a course to their destination. | John
C. Maxwell
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CHAPTER 6 – FRIENDLY
CRITICISM
“Iron sharpeneth iron; so a man sharpeneth the countenance
of his friend” – Proverbs 27:17 (KJV)
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riendly criticism observes, listens and gets
involved. It is a gift of caring intended to help and
serve the one criticized. Friendly criticism is willing to
give caring advice not an X-ray. The critique takes
openly the side of the person; to forewarn, to protect,
to improve, to encourage and to help succeed. Friendly
criticism is vital for you if you want to succeed in this
life. It helps you realize the areas of your life that you
have to improve.
You don’t analyze a friend to show things as they are
from an arm’s length of criteria and values, you
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CHAPTER 7 – SELF
CRITICISM
“Thou hypocrite, first cast out the beam out of thine own eye;
and then shalt thou see clearly to cast out the mote out of thy
brother’s eye.” – Matthew 7:5 (KJV)
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Benefits of Criticism
The trouble with most of us is that we’d rather be ruined by
praise than saved by criticism. | Norman Vincent Pale
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also correct you and they are still there to support you
through the ups and downs of life. You don’t have to be
sensitive, annoyed, or self-critical just because
someone sees something differently than you do.
Helps to monitor the inner self-talk
You must be willing to recognize that your biggest
critic is yourself. Before anyone criticizes you, you have
already done so. There are self-criticizing thoughts
that come directly from your mind, you have to
embrace them. You have to embrace criticism and then
choose to monitor your own inner critic to make sure it
is not taking simple advice to an unhealthy extreme.
The cost of uncovering your unique path and living a
productive life is getting face to face with criticism.
You can’t get away from it, but you have to choose to
learn from it. What benefit has criticism served in
your life?
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PART FOUR
The will to win, the desire to succeed, the urge to reach your
full potential…these are the keys that will unlock the door to
personal excellence. | Confucius
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CHAPTER 8 –
CONFIDENCE AND
MOTIVATION
“Watch ye, stand fast in the faith, quit you like men, be
strong.” - 1 Corinthians 16:13 (KJV)
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EPILOGUE
You have finished reading this book. What have you
read? A series of practical and workable principles for
living a happy life. You have read the principles of
‘Openness, Change, Criticism and Self-confidence’
which will help you live a happy life.
But reading is not enough. If you really hope to live
a happy life, please go back and practice consistently
the principles given. Keep at it and the results will
surely come.
I have written this book with a sincere desire to help
you. It will give me great happiness to know that the
book has helped you. I have a strong belief and
confidence in the principles outlined in this book. They
work when worked.
We may not or never meet in person, but in this book
we have met. We have become good friends. God will
lead you – just believe and live a happy life.
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