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To cite this article: Lis Heath & Steff Oates (2015) To Change or Not to Change, Transactional
Analysis Journal, 45:2, 91-103, DOI: 10.1177/0362153715588522
Equilibrium
Abstract
This article considers whether a legacy in transactional analysis of overinvesting in change and the
analysis or avoidance of games can lead to a foreclosure of important emergent processes in psy-
chotherapy. The authors do not advocate a preferred way of working with games, recognizing that
offering an antithesis often leads to establishing further doctrine. Instead, they describe two ways of
understanding clients’ need to maintain equilibrium and relate this to game theory. They explore the
dialectic between interpersonal analysis of games and the value of giving more space to clients’
intrapsychic processes.
Keywords
change, game, psychological equilibrium, psychological stability, resistance, defense, advantage,
thinking Martian, projective identification, intrapsychic tension
Transactional analysis was developed in the mid-twentieth century as part of the humanistic psy-
chology movement. Carl Rogers and Abraham Maslow, along with Alfred Adler and Rollo May,
introduced a set of values they considered different from those espoused by psychoanalysis. These
values concerned self-development and self-understanding and encompassed higher human motives
such as self-actualization. This term was coined by Kurt Goldstein, a German neurologist and psy-
chiatrist, to describe the attainment of one’s highest potential (Modell, 1993). Rogers, Maslow,
Adler, and May saw the development of humanistic psychology as a challenge to both psychoanaly-
sis, which they saw as overly concerned with neurosis and disturbance, and behaviorism, which they
viewed as too mechanistic (Reber, 1985, p. 330). At the same time, Eric Berne (1966) was raising
questions about psychoanalysis by suggesting inspirational ideas such as everyone has the capacity
to think, people decide their own destiny, and those decisions can be changed.
We also want to offer a challenge, this time to a prevailing idea in transactional analysis today.
Our concern is with what we consider to be a lingering overemphasis on positive (i.e., in the direc-
tion espoused by the practitioner) change and in that, the making of value judgments regarding what
is healthy or not in the teaching and application of TA. We hope to encourage reflection and
Corresponding Author:
Lis Heath, 24 Wordsworth Street, Penrith CA11 7QY, United Kingdom.
Email: lis.heath@gmail.com
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discussion about the importance of the client’s need to maintain his or her psychological balance or
equilibrium. We will invite examination of how a therapist’s overenthusiasm for change or moves to
analyze, understand, and even halt games may influence or interfere with the client’s own process.
We postulate that when the therapist shows interest in and pays attention to the importance of main-
taining equilibrium, it fosters a more organic emergence of the client’s development. We also
encourage flexibility in working with games and value making space for attending to the client’s
interior world as well as his or her interpersonal dynamics.
of options which the client believes to be available’’ (p. 159), we are interested in resistance to
change and what this can tell us.
Bary and Hufford (1997) wrote that ‘‘the homeostatic balance maintained by these patterns comes
to feel as necessary to survival as air and water’’ (p. 38). We appreciate this respectful consideration
and also take inspiration from Terlato (2001), who urged consideration of the defensive advantages
of games and advocated ‘‘a shift in attention away from the analysis of advantages to a consideration
of motivations’’ (p. 112).
In this article, we invite practitioners to consider involving themselves with clients in a process
that may allow often unarticulated and yet important communications to bring forth a deeper under-
standing. Holding this attitude allows us to develop an interest in and compassion for those clients
who may have been unfairly defined as difficult or disordered. Our view is that ambiguity—that is,
being open to more than one interpretation—not only allows for flexibility but also provides a poten-
tial space in which the new can emerge. An unresolved problem can be a source of anxiety but also a
rich resource for creativity if the tension can be tolerated.
Between Camps
The recent development of a relational paradigm in transactional analysis has articulated a challenge
to the classical stance around games. Stuthridge (2006) articulated the classical approach as follows:
[Berne] encouraged the therapist to act as a Martian observer (Berne, 1966, p. 84) who detects the client’s
discounts, games, and script from an objective stance. Using a classical or redecision transactional
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analysis approach, the therapist confronts an enactment as a game, thus refusing the transference; the
therapist remains safely on Mars, outside the relationship. (p. 277)
We have appreciated the challenge that Stuthridge offered, which is that thinking Martian can be
used as a defense. However, we think that there are times when the therapist remaining safely on
Mars is of genuine service to the client and can actually inform and even deepen the transferential
dynamic rather than avoiding it. We believe this to be the case particularly when a client needs more
space and encouragement to examine his or her intrapsychic experience and may be drawn to the
interpersonal as a movement away from transference. The therapist who is able to hold that space,
intervening little, may find that he or she and the client are able to experience more fully and intense-
ly the transference dilemma with less concern about how that affects the therapist. Often this is
unarticulated but palpable and available for interpretation at a much later stage. As Hostie (1982)
wrote, ‘‘‘The Martian’ [is] a TA term for an observer who ‘watches what happens without ‘‘precon-
ceived ideas,’’ . . . (and who) looks at things with the eye of innocence’’’ (p. 168).
We believe that the combination of this ‘‘eye of innocence’’ and subsequent inquiry can open up a
space for intrapsychic dialogue involving the client and therapist wondering to themselves, ‘‘What is
it that has been stimulated in me?’’ or even taking time for the question to find resonance in their
own experience and to have a sense of ‘‘Does that fit?’’ without an obligation to dialogue. Alterna-
tively, or in addition, possibilities for interpersonal dialogue are opened up. Hostie took from
Berne’s idea of thinking Martian the permission to speak to the outrageous as a way of opening
up further possibilities in the dialogue.
For example, a therapist who was feeling strongly invited to be persecutory of a client used Mar-
tian speak to say, ‘‘Gosh, you look like you’re feeling captured and tortured.’’ This was a way of
sharing and trying out her observation to see if it resonated with the client. The transference dynamic
was deepened with the therapist feeling intensely irritated by the client (as was the client’s mother)
and the client feeling distressed and afraid. This may seem like an unusual, perhaps even outrageous,
articulation of the therapist’s experience, but her Martian position enabled the client to access and
give voice to the pressure she had felt as an infant with an agoraphobic mother, something she had
never spoken about before.
In another instance, it might have been appropriate for the therapist, if she had been aware enough
not to act out the Persecutor role, to make the transference/countertransference dynamic explicit. As
therapists we often have this kind of choice: Do I say what I observe from the outside, or do I enter
into and speak directly about my experience of the relationship?
Berne, with his capacity for ambiguity and complexity, seemed to inhabit both camps. At the
same time he encouraged Martian thinking, he also knew that transference/countertransference
involvements were inevitable. As he wrote, ‘‘The Parent and Child aspects of his motivations . . .
influence the therapist much more systematically and pervasively than he may realize. . . . The more
productive question is not ‘Am I playing a game?’ but rather ‘What game am I playing?’’’ (Berne,
1966, p. 22).
bad for attributing motivation to her game playing. In our joint, careful rereading aloud, we discov-
ered in Berne a mind paying serious attention to the depth and complexities of human interaction and
the dilemma of equilibrium versus change. For example, he wrote this about Mrs. White:
As it turned out, however, contrary to her complaints, her husband was performing a very real service to
her by forbidding her to do something she was deeply afraid of, and by preventing her, in fact, from even
becoming aware of her fears. (p. 46)
Berne (1964) went on, ‘‘The general advantages of a game consist in its stabilizing (homeostatic)
functions. Biological homeostasis is promoted by the stroking, and psychological stability is rein-
forced by the confirmation of position’’ (p. 50). This is the defensive function of the game: defensive
as in maintaining the familiar. Berne elaborated the Freudian notion of defense to include advan-
tages in order to extend the concept to the advantages gained from social relationships: ‘‘Experience
has shown that it is more useful and enlightening to investigate social transactions from the point of
view of the advantages gained than to treat them as defensive operations’’ (p. 18). Berne also wrote
that
the advantages of social contact revolve around somatic and psychic equilibrium. They are related to the
following factors: (1) the relief of tension [the primary internal advantage] (2) the avoidance of noxious
situations [the primary external advantage] (3) the procurement of stroking [the secondary advantage] (4)
the maintenance of an established equilibrium [the external advantage]. (p. 18)
Perhaps it is a combination of Berne’s style together with his treatment prescription to ‘‘get better
first, and we can analyse later’’ (Berne, 1966, p. 303) that has led to a trivialization of games. We are
concerned that some practitioners remain almost evangelical in their approach to change, using
transactional analysis as a metaphorical stick to beat clients into changing. To use Berne’s example
of Mrs. White, the risk in exposing her motivation might lead to her being misunderstood as a silly
woman at the same time her real vulnerabilities are passed over. We want to articulate our passion
for reestablishing respect for those advantages or defenses. Berne’s suggestion that people should
become functional first and then get analyzed may, indeed, mean that analysis is needed for a client
to recover from an overinsistence on functionality. Each of us has experienced in our practice some
clients who appear to have achieved autonomy by overadaptation and who, in subsequent therapy,
need to find their autonomous desires beneath the behavioral adaptations.
We think more consideration and respect needs to be given to the importance of defenses for
maintaining psychological equilibrium. It is with those clients who have a greater need to maintain
psychological balance that the work can feel stuck or as if there is no progress. We need a different
emphasis when working with such individuals.
have his or her defenses subtly reinforced, even recruiting the therapist in affirming his or her script
rather than being transformed.
Joseph became interested in patients who failed to improve in analysis and concluded that they
had a profound need to maintain their psychological equilibrium: ‘‘While the patient may appear to
attend carefully and to make use of the analyst’s interpretations, Joseph suggests that this may sim-
ply be a form of accommodation and that what takes place in the session is in fact being used to
support the preexisting balance and thus to avoid change’’ (Feldman & Bott Spillius, 1989, p. 4).
Paradoxically, the very desire to change may have at its heart the belief that ‘‘I am not OK as I
am’’ or ‘‘There is something wrong with me.’’ Working directly toward change may only reinforce
this basic self-concept.
Searles (1979) offered a cautionary note in suggesting that therapists may not attend enough to
their patients’ ambivalence: ‘‘He [the therapist] does not see that the patient has reached his present
equilibrium only after years of thought and effort and the exercise of the best judgment of which he
is capable’’ (p. 74). Searles wrote evocatively of the meaning of change for the patient and the risk
that he or she may ‘‘return to an intolerable pre-equilibrium state’’ and may have to accept ‘‘the
imposition upon him of the therapists’s values, the therapist’s personality, with no autonomy, no
individuality for him’’ (pp. 74-75). Searles wrote that ‘‘he [the patient] resents the therapist’s pre-
sumption that the patient is ‘‘pitiably eager to be rescued and, in assuming equally humiliatingly,
that the intended help is all unidirectional from therapist to patient’’ (p. 75).
Thus, we wish to stress the importance of examining our value judgments about change. Are there
standards we are using to subtly or not so subtly direct our clients? Do we know what they are?
Where do they come from? Are we doing our version of the kind of thing Novak (2008) described:
‘‘My Parental role with clients encouraged them to merely adapt to my views, or society’s, of nor-
mality’’ (p. 139). In our view, it is essential to scrutinize our personal and professional investment in
change in a particular direction, taking into account the client’s need for psychic equilibrium and the
threat that change may pose.
Case Example
Jill, a long-term client who had struggled to have the energy to work for a full day, reported to her
therapist that she had done so and the day had gone well. The therapist said (in retrospect rather too
eagerly), ‘‘So, despite your belief about yourself as dysfunctional, you have managed not only to do
a full day’s work but to enjoy it!’’ The client immediately reported feeling sick and disoriented. The
therapist realized that her intervention had threatened Jill’s self-concept so that she felt destabilized.
The therapist then spoke to that with Jill to offer a nonpathologizing perspective on the process.
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Feeling sick and disoriented were obvious signs that something was wrong for Jill, but sometimes
the signs are much more subtle. A less self-aware client might have simply gone very still at that
point, or perhaps there might have been a sense of that discomfiting, disturbing experience that
something did not feel right between therapist and client.
Projective Identification
The concept of projective identification was developed by Melanie Klein (1946/1975) to describe
the way someone may unconsciously disown and project unwanted or unbearable aspects of the self
into another. Joseph (1989) identified this process as one of the means by which a person might
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Bion insists that projective identification is not only a fantasy but a manipulation of one person by
another and thus an interpersonal interaction. His work manages to capture some of the strangeness and
mystery that characterize the experience of being involved as the recipient of a projective identification,
which he suggests, is like having a thought that is not one’s own. (p. 26)
This conveys the intensity, confusion, and chaos that we know is characteristic of the game process.
Case Example
Martha was what her therapist called a ‘‘talented’’ client. Each week she earnestly brought some-
thing to work on as well as some awareness she had gained during the week following an insight
in her previous session. She was articulate and occasionally cried some about her lonely childhood
and being left to raise her younger brothers after her father left home. He was replaced by a step-
father who sexually abused Martha and ruled the household with a rigidity that bordered on a psy-
chotic defense.
Martha was, for her part, rigidly determined that the therapy not focus on the abuse and neglect
she had experienced lest she become defined as a victim. The therapist bided her time, working with
Martha on events at her work or with her husband. She knew that any attempt to penetrate the defen-
sive resilience that Martha had developed would not be welcome. One week, about 2 years into the
therapy, Martha brought in a problem she was having with a friend, who in a frank discussion had
told Martha that she found her to be overcontrolling and on the edge of being a bully. Martha was
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deeply hurt: How could anyone call her that knowing that she had been bullied as a child and how
much she hated bullies?
The therapist felt the pull to collude in honoring Martha’s goodness and insisting that the friend
was mistaken. She also felt pulled to say, ‘‘Maybe your friend is right’’ and to use the drama triangle
(Karpman, 1968) and winners’ triangle (Choy, 1990) to tactfully put forward the inevitability of
games and a way out of them. This would have reassured both Martha and the therapist that if Martha
remained caring, assertive, and willing to be vulnerable she could get out of the game with her
friend, which could be described as ‘‘I’m Only Trying to Help You’’ (Berne, 1964, p. 125). The
therapist could offer Martha tips on how to correct her friend and not take on the cruel comment.
Had she done so, it would have felt comfortable to both the therapist and Martha as each would
have felt better. But it would have ultimately been unsatisfactory work because Martha’s defenses
would have been confirmed, and change, if any, would have been in the direction of Martha’s and
the therapist’s idea of what was functional by knowing how to get out of the game.
Switch: The therapist would have tired of enduring the good Martha.
Crossup: The therapist would have become irritated.
Payoff: The therapist would have felt bad for becoming irritated, and Martha would have
been indignant and felt confirmed in her view that ‘‘you are just like all the others.’’
fashion. Had she as the therapist colluded too much in only paying attention to the good in
Martha, and if so, whom should she blame now for disturbing Martha’s equilibrium: Martha?
Herself? The friend? These questions had been bouncing around in her head like ping pong balls.
During supervision, the therapist realized that Martha needed a truthful, honest, containing
response.
In the following session, when Martha, still hurting from the situation, raised it again, the thera-
pist chose to speak in an even tone, slowing down her breathing:
You are clearly hurt and shocked and angered by this, Martha, and I know how you despise bullies, yet
what has happened between you and your friend brings material to our work that is really important for us
to understand. I’d like to slow things down and take time to see what emerges in this session. See if you
can bring to me the full impact of her words on you.
During this and subsequent sessions, Martha was able to contact the terror of showing her
vulnerability, of how compelling it was for her to take care of others: to organize them, to
be seen as helpful, to avoid the complete and utter chaos inside her, and to cover the shame
she felt at being so neglected, abused, and unwanted as a child. This did not involve analyzing
transactions between Martha and her therapist or transactions between Martha and her friend.
Rather, it was a process of the therapist slowly and gently finding out, without insisting on
change or a focus on relationship, about the intrapsychic process that kept the most wounded
and lonely part of Martha under wraps through a habitually overfunctioning way of being in the
world to keep herself safe.
The therapist’s capacity to reflect on and digest the conflicting and intense forces engen-
dered in her in response to Martha was key. These were the pull to collude with the idealized
sense of self, the pull to join in the splitting of good and bad, and the pull to flee to theory and
analyze the game. This capacity of the therapist enabled her to deal with the feelings projected
into her in a different way to Martha’s habitual method. The therapist knew it was also impor-
tant for Martha to experience her own vulnerability, regardless of how unwelcome and desta-
bilizing that might be.
The therapist’s conflict was a reflection of the conflict within Martha. Martha’s complex commu-
nication contained within it both the opportunity for the emergence of the new and the resistance to
change. The rising tension was an indication that the tension between those was building. The thera-
pist’s capacity to contain rather than to avoid or act out to relieve tension enabled the conflict to be
held and Martha’s experience to be transformative.
As noted earlier, Martha’s friend had reached the threshold of her intrapsychic tolerance for what
was happening between Martha and herself. However, the therapist had not yet reached that place.
She had remained in a Martian position, observing and listening nonjudgmentally to Martha’s
accounts of her daily life and relationships. Postgame analysis of the interactions between Martha
and her friend led the therapist to reflect and question how up until then she had not consciously
realized that Martha was limiting herself in relationships by hiding her vulnerability and taking care
of others. The therapist was only just wondering why she had not been able to speak about this
before.
The therapist, consciously or unconsciously, had held the tension in the relationship with Martha,
choosing not to impose ideas about a healthier way of functioning but waiting until Martha brought
the interpersonal conflict into the room. In further supervision, the therapist was encouraged to
examine in her own therapy whether her holding the tension was facilitative or defensive of her own
goodness. On this occasion, the therapist’s unconscious wisdom did not appear to be defensive,
though she could recall many situations in which that would have been the case, times when her
patience had, in fact, been in the service of avoiding conflict.
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Funding
The author received no financial support for the research, authorship, and/or publication of this article.
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Author Biographies
Lis Heath, BSc, is a Teaching and Supervising Transactional Analyst (psychotherapy) and a United
Kingdom Council for Psychotherapy-registered psychotherapist. She lives in Penrith in the north of
England, where she maintains a private clinical and supervision practice. She also teaches transac-
tional analysis in Romania. Lis can be reached at 24 Wordsworth Street, Penrith CA11 7QY, United
Kingdom; email: lis.heath@gmail.com.
Steff Oates is a Teaching and Supervising Transactional Analyst (psychotherapy) who maintains a
private psychotherapy practice in the northwest of England and travels to teach and learn in various
European locations. She also served as ITAA Secretary from 2009-2014 and remains involved on
various committees and as a Transactional Analysis Journal reviewer. Steff can be reached at Swal-
lowfield, Slade Lane, Mobberley, Knutsford WA16 78N, United Kingdom; email: lcfan@me.com.