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Confidence is key to success in many areas of our lives.

Confident people
stand out at work, in social situations, and in group settings.

Studies have shown that those who appear more confident achieve
higher status than their less confident peers.

As a result, they wield more influence, tend to be more admired and


listened to, and have access to better resources.

If you're not as confident as you'd like to be, some slight modifications to


your body language can have a huge impact. Learn to fake it until you
make it with these eight tricks.
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1. Keep your chin and head up.
Lillian Glass, a body language expert and author of "The Body Language
Advantage," says you need to have your head up at all times.
"Confident people are always looking up, never down at the table, the
ground, or their feet," she says. "You have to always pretend that there's
a string holding the crown of your head up."
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2. Stand up straight.
Good posture goes a long way in how others perceive you. Standing up
straight projects confidence, authority, and poise, while slouching makes
you look unprofessional and disinterested.
Roll both shoulders back and avoid looking tense by allowing your upper
body muscles to relax while maintaining firmness in your core.
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3. Plant your feet in an open, wide stance.
You may think no one is looking at your feet, but the correct stance can
demonstrate confidence. Standing with your feet too close together can
make you appear timid.
As a general rule of thumb, aim for a stance that's in line with your hips
and shoulders. You want to have your feet about a foot apart, pointing
outward.
"A confident person literally has two feet firmly planted on the ground,"
Glass says. "You're more balanced physically, and it shows more
confidence than if your legs are crossed or together."
Also keep in mind the difference between an open and closed stance
when talking to someone. Angling your feet outward and in the direction
of the person you're speaking with shows interest, trust, and
receptiveness, while a closed stance can convey disinterest.

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 4. Gesture with your palms up.
"Gesturing with your palms up gives the illusion of honesty, and this will
make you appear more confident," Glass says. Aim for broad, smooth
motions, which will show composure and poise.

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5. Keep your hands out of your pockets and 
always visible.
Make sure your hands are always visible, never hiding. "Putting your
hands in your pockets is one of the worst things you can do if you want to
appear confident," Glass says. "We hide our hands when we're nervous,
so putting your hands in your pockets sends a message that you're
uncomfortable or uncertain."
Crossing your arms has a similar negative effect, making you appear
closed off and unreceptive.

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6. Eye contact is essential.
Strong eye contact is probably the single greatest indicator of confidence,
according to Glass.
If this is something you struggle with, try looking at the other person's
eyes for two seconds, looking at their nose for two seconds, looking at
their mouth for two seconds, and then looking at their face as a whole for
two seconds. Continue this rotation throughout your conversation.
With this trick, Glass says the other person won't be able to tell that
you're not looking directly at their eyes the entire time.

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7. Cut out 'um' and 'like.'
People measure confidence in the way a person speaks, so it's very
important to be aware of your mannerisms and tone.
"You want to speak while pressing down firmly on your abdominal
muscles, because you'll have a more confident, lower, more powerful
voice," Glass says. "Cut out words such as 'um' and 'like,' and practice
being more articulate."
"Don't run through your words, try to speak precisely and directly," she
adds. "Also, don't be afraid to use inflection in your tone and show
enthusiasm, because this shows confidence."

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8. Be interested, not interesting.
Glass says the best piece of advice for people who want to appear more
confident is to focus on the people they're engaged with, rather than
worrying about how others perceive them.
"The bottom line is be interested, not interesting," she says. "Be more
focused on the other person and what message is being communicated
than focused on yourself and your self-consciousness."
She says it's very possible to make people think you're more confident
than you actually are through body language.
"As you act, so you become. As you change your body language, so you
become."

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