WORDS

reprimand- to speak in an angry and critical way to (someone who has done something
wrong, disobeyed an order, etc.)
disappointment- the state or feeling of being disappointed
disappointed- feeling sad, unhappy, or displeased because something was not as
good as expected or because something you hoped for or expected did not happen
Just because -used for saying that even if one thing is true, this is not a reason for
thinking that something else is true
Just because.. doesn't mean -used to say that, although one thing is true, another
thing is not necessarily true
In confidence (as a secret) -In private; with the understanding that what was said will
not be revealed.
With "Why would you do that?" you're questioning the other person's motivations,
which implies that a) it was deliberate and b) they might do it again.
Vs. With "Why did you do that?", you're asking about the decisions and
circumstances around that past event.

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Dialog
L: Ethan, I need to ask you something, and be honest. Did you tell Rob that I applied
for a promotion?
E: Well, I might have mentioned it when we went out for drinks the other night.
L: I wish you hadn't done that.
E: I thought you wouldn't mind.
L: Just because he's your friend doesn't mean you can share information with him
before it's even been confirmed.
E: You're right. I should have waited.
L: Yeah, you should have. Don't let it happen again. If it does, I won't be able to tell
you anything in confidence again. OK?
E:Yeah, I'm really sorry. I won't do it again.
Dialog Check
1. What did Ethan do?
Ethan told Rob that Leah applied for a promotion.
2. Why did Ethan do that?
Ethan did that because he thought that Leah wouldn’t mind.
3. What will happen if Ethan does the same thing again?
If Ethan does the same thing again, Leah will not be able to tell him anything in
confidence again.

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Imagine All
Imagine 1
L: Eva , I need to ask you something, and be honest. Did you invite Ellen to my
birthday party?
E: Well, I might have mentioned it to her the other day.

Imagine 2
L: Why would you do that?
E: She’s my best friend, so I really want her to come.

Imagine 3
L: Just because you’re good friends with her doesn’t mean it’s OK to invite her without
asking me .
E: You’re right. I should have asked you first.

Imagine 4
L: Yeah, you should have . Don’t let it happen again. If it does, I’m going to have to
uninvite some people . OK?
E: Yeah, I’m really sorry. I won’t do it again.
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・To let someone know you need to talk to them:
I need to ask you something.

・To express disappointment:

I wish you hadn’t done that.
Why would you do that?

・To reprimand someone:

Just because...doesn’t mean you...

・To say there will be consequences if someone makes the same mistake again:
Don’t let it happen again. If it does,...
If this happens again,...

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YOUR TURN
Situation 1: You're upset with your child over something they've done.

L: Ethan, I need to ask you something, and be honest. Did you tell our neighbor we
are going on a vacation?
E: Well, I might have mentioned it when were playing.
L: I wish you hadn’t done that.
E: I thought you wouldn’t mind.
L: Just because he’s your friend doesn’t mean you can share information with him
before it’s even been confirmed.
E:You’re right. I should have waited.
L:Yeah, you should have. Don’t let it happen again. If it does, I won’t be able to tell
you anything in confidence again. OK?
E:Yeah, I’m really sorry. I won’t do it again.
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L: Ethan , I need to ask you something, and be honest. Did you forget to unplug the
iron?
E: Well, I might have done it the last night.
L: I wish you hadn't done that?
E: I forgot about it and I was also in a hurry .
L: Just because you are in a hurry doesn’t mean it’s OK not to unplug the appliance.
E: You’re right. I should have unplugged it after using .
L: Don't let it happen again. If it does, you might cause a fire.
E: Yeah, I’m really sorry. I won’t do it again.
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T: Ethan, I need to ask you something, and be honest. Did you skip school today?
S: Well, I was able to do that last time.
T: I wish you hadn't done that./ Why would you do that?
S: I don't like the subject because it's so difficult to understand.
T: Just because you don't like the subject doesn't mean you would skip your classes.
S: You’re right. I should not have skipped my class.
T: Yeah, you should not have. Don't let it happen again. If it does, I won't be able to
tolerate you again. OK?
E: Yeah, I’m really sorry. I won’t do it again.

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Situation 2: You're upset with your subordinate over something they've done.

L: Ethan, I need to ask you something, and be honest. Did you tell Bryan that I
applied for a another job?
E:Well, I might have mentioned it when we went out for drinks the other night.
L:I wish you hadn’t done that.
E:I thought you wouldn’t mind.
L:Just because he’s your friend doesn’t mean you can share information with him
before it’s even been confirmed.
E:You’re right. I should have waited.
L:Yeah, you should have. Don’t let it happen again. If it does, I won’t be able to tell
you anything in confidence again. OK?
E:Yeah, I’m really sorry. I won’t do it again.
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T: Ethan, I need to ask you something. Did you borrow my laptop without asking me?
S: Well, I took it from your table the last time I had to finish a report.
T: I wish you hadn't done that./ Why would you do that?
S: I thought you wouldn't mind.
T: Just because I let you borrow my laptop sometimes doesn't mean you can just get it
anytime.
S: You're right. I should have asked permission.
T: Yeah, you should have. Don't let it happen again. If it does, I won't be able to lend you
anything again. OK?
S: Yeah, I'm really sorry. I won't do it again.

subordinate - having a lower or less important position: