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clingers. They were active, competent explorers tact. If they were crying, they held her tightly. And
who used their mothers as a secure base from which being held worked – it calmed them down and they
to explore all around their environment and try out were soon back at play.
all their new skills.
Babies who had difficulty trusting their mother
Of course, some were better at this kind of rela- and using her as a secure base at home behaved very
tionship. They seemed more confident in the mother’s differently in the Strange Situation. Their reunions
availability and thus more confident to explore away were very difficult. The babies turned away from
from her. Bowlby and Ainsworth called these infants their mothers and refused to look as mother chided
securely (confidently) attached. Others who lacked “Oh, don’t be mad. I’m back”. Some began to ap-
this confidence they called insecurely attached. proach only to turn aside and sulk or become fasci-
nated with a piece of lint on the carpet or slap va-
It isn’t immediately obvious why some babies cantly on a toy. Ainsworth called the infants inse-
would be insecurely attached. But if you ask the cure – avoidant.
question this way, “Why would some babies lack
confidence in their mother’s availability and respon- Other insecure infants cried desperately even af-
siveness?”, the answer becomes obvious. Confi- ter mother returned but couldn’t muster an approach
dence comes from experience. If you are always or even a reach toward her. And if mother picked
there for me before, I expect you’ll be there for me them up they would push away. If they settled down
again. And if you let me down when I need you, I a bit, mothers quite naturally put them down with the
won’t know if I can depend on you in the future. toys. But they weren’t really settled and would cry
long and hard at mother’s feet – without as much as
Just what you’d expect and just what Ainsworth’s
reaching for her or trying to be picked up. Ainsworth
found in her research.
called these infants insecure – ambivalent.
These were important steps toward testing
So the Strange Situation proved a valuable tool
Freud’s ideas about the power of early experience.
for assessing infant attachment. Indeed, child psy-
The next big step was to develop an alternative to
chologists around the world voted her work among
following mothers and babies around for weeks to the five most revolutionary studies in the history of
assess secure and insecure attachment. The solution child psychology. Of course they weren’t thinking
was a simple 20 minute laboratory test called the just of her work with babies. In a series of studies
Strange Situation. It works like this. A baby and its over two decades, student trained by Ainsworth
mother are videotaped playing together in a small have shown that the patterns of secure, avoidant,
research room with a chair for the mother and toys and ambivalent attachment in the Strange Situation
on the floor for the baby. At two key points the are also evident in adult relationships. This was very
mother is signaled to leave the baby in the room for surprising. It is also the key to testing Freud’s ideas
three minutes (once with a female research assistant about the infant-mother relationship serving as the
and once alone). proto-type for all future love relationships.
Many psychologists expected that the critical Patterns of Attachment in Adulthood
information would be in the baby’s response to
mother’s departure. But Ainsworth didn’t prejudge After Ainsworth solved the problem of assess-
the issue. She carefully and patiently collected data ing infant attachment, the problem of assessing
on almost thirty infants she had carefully observed adult attachment went unresolved for almost 20
at home over a period of twelve months. Surpris- years. Adult’s relationships are just too inaccessible.
ingly, infants who seemed secure or insecure at They take place over a much wider space and time
home didn’t differ at all in whether they cried when and they are much more private than infant-mother
mother left the Strange Situation room. In both interactions. Also, much more of what goes on in
groups, half cried and half didn’t. What really dis- adult relationships is in their minds. They don’t
tinguished the secure and insecure infants was how have to be interacting at all to be thinking about
they responded when mother returned. their partner and about things that they have done in
the past or might want to do in the future. That is, a
Babies who were good secure base users at lot of their relationship is invisible to an observer.
home were happy to see the mom return. They ap-
proached and reached to be picked up, or at least Fortunately, Ainsworth’s student, Mary Main,
greeted her happily with a smile or gesture across a realized that we might not have to observe couples
distance. Anything to reestablish psychological con- together. Early experience doesn’t just shape later
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T. Waters From your mother’s arms
behavior. It might have powerful effects by shaping more intense. They were left. They were only five.
a person’s beliefs and expectations. So she devel- They didn’t know the babysitter; she could have
oped a carefully structured Adult Attachment Inter- been anybody. They never called; they didn’t bring
view to examine adult’s views of their relationship a gift. And on and on about something that was 20
to each parent. After collecting thousands of pages years ago and seemingly entirely ordinary. In a
of such interviews she sat down to organize her re- word, they were preoccupied with relationship is-
sults. To her, and everyone else’s, surprise, the in- sues, and like the ambivalent infants they have diffi-
terviews showed the same kinds of differences culty moving past a stressful event. Mary Main
Ainsworth had seen in the Strange Situation. Most called them insecure – preoccupied.
of the participants in her study told coherent and
Judith Crowell and Everett Waters (also an
believable stories about relationships to their par-
Ainsworth student) have recently adapted the Adult
ents. They seemed to value these relationships and
Attachment Interview for use with couples. They call
had good recall of early experience to back up their
this the Current Relationship Interview. In a very
descriptions of their parents as kind, funny, warm,
similar interview, adults are asked not about their
and so on. She called these people secure – coherent
relationship with parents but with their spouse. And
with respect to attachment.
as in Adult Attachment Interview participants seem
More surprisingly, a significant number of the to fall into patterns that are easily recognized as se-
participants sounded like the adult version of an in- cure, insecure-dismissing, and insecure-preoccupied.
secure – avoidant baby. They had difficulty describ- The Strange Situation, the Adult Attachment Inter-
ing their relationships to their parents. That is, they view, and the Current Relationship Interview are the
would just draw a blank. And when they come up tools we have needed to test Freud’s 100 year old
with a description like happy or warm they had trou- hypothesis that the infant-mother relationship is the
ble remembering events from their childhood to jus- model for later adult relationships.
tify the description. The memories are there – they
Testing Freud’s Hypothesis
recognize them if a parent talks about them. But their
understanding of their childhood is so incoherent that The Strange Situation, the Adult Attachment
they can’t retrieve the memories; cognitive psy- Interview, and the Current Relationship Interview
chologists would say they have the memory but lack assess a person’s ability to use a partner as a secure
an effective retrieval cue. These same people tend to base. In infancy the partner is usually the mother
minimize the importance of early relationships. They and the secure base behavior is out there for all to
say, “I am the way I am; I don’t think my past has see. The question is not whether infant attachment
anything to do with it”. Sometimes, rather than behavior predicts adult attachment behavior. In-
thinking realistic thoughts about their parents, they stead, it is whether an infant’s confidence in it’s first
idealize them – everything is fine; they were the relationships sets up beliefs and expectations that
best; couldn’t have been better. To a psychologist can guide later relationships.
this seems out of touch and avoidant of real experi-
Waters and Crowell recently published two im-
ences and feelings. Indeed the term avoidant seems
portant studies that lend considerable support to the
to fit these people very well. But Mary Main did not
want to assume that these expressions were necessar- idea that early experience can influence adult rela-
ily related to the Strange Situation. That is best ad- tionships. In the first they measured the attachment
dressed by data. So she termed this pattern inse- security of 50 one-year-olds in the Strange Situation
cure – dismissing rather than insecure-avoidant. and then saw the same subjects 20 years later in the
Adult Attachment Interview. Psychologists were
There was even an Adult Attachment Interview amazed that 85% of the babies who were secure in
pattern that seemed like the insecure-ambivalent the Strange Situation were secure – coherent in the
pattern from the Strange Situation. These were peo- Adult Attachment Interview 20 years later. In addi-
ple who lived with their relationship, indeed the tion, the babies who were insecure at 12 months had
whole history of their relationship, to their parents only a 25% chance of becoming secure – coherent
as if every uncertainty and unresolved issues were in their adult relationships with their parents. Even
on the table and happening today. Ask them if they IQ is not this stable from infancy to adulthood.
were ever left alone when they were children and Clearly, early behavior patterns with parents set up
you get a story about the parent s going to the Baha- patterns of beliefs about family relationships in
mas. Seems ok. But then they become more and adulthood.
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T. Waters From your mother’s arms