GE-1 Understanding the Self September 24, 2020

(Thursday 7:00-8:30)

TRUE SELF VS FALSE SELF

DR. DONALD WINNICOTT

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 September 24, 2020
GE-1 Understanding the Self
(Thursday 7:00-8:30)

Gem Gabrielle and Tisha Faye will be your

facilitators for this session.

The goal of our session is to turn chaos into clarity.

As facilitators, our role is to keep the session on track
and to ensure everyone participates in the discussion. Gem Tisha
GE-1 Understanding the Self September 24, 2020
(Thursday 7:00-8:30)

TODAY'S
Agenda
Agenda

1 Introduction to the Topic 3 False Self

2 True Self 4 Breaking Free

 September 24, 2020
GE-1 Understanding the Self
(Thursday 7:00-8:30)

LET'S GET STARTED!

Are you
ready?
 He is a

psychiatrist,

psychoanalyst,

and

he is Britain's first

medically trained

child

psychoanalyst.
 Being a pediatrician, his
reflections
are geared and are more
relative to children and their
childhood, and parents
and parental provision, as
well as the consequences of
this relationship.
 The

true self is described as

someone whole and authentic

while the False Self is a

defensive façade in order to

adapt for survival in the society

and it conceals

the vulnerable true elf

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The true self is described as
our real feelings, needs,
thoughts, and desires.
The infant as an example of the
truest self, by nature is amoral
and asocial, and it is not
interested in other’s feelings.
However, when they grow up,
they unconsciously think that
they need their parents’ approval
to survive, so they strive to
please them and meet their
needs.
The
False
Self
Donald Winnicot
The False Self is defined as an
"artificial persona" that
people create at the earliest
stages in life to protect
themselves from happenings
such as re-experiencing
developmental trauma,
shock,and stress in close
relationships.
Types of
False Self
The Heathy False Self

The Unhealthy False Self

Healthy False Self
The healthy false
self is expressed as
one which allows a
Unhealthy False Self
person to be
functional D. W. Winnicott
defines the
in the society.
unhealthy false self
as one that fits into
society through
forced compliance
rather than a desire
to adapt.
The Co-Dependent and
Deflated False Self
Depicted to please parents and maintain
their conditional love.

This False Self is a protective deterrent

that helps children succor their need for
comforting intimacy with their mother, as
well as prolonging the feelings of
safety associated with the codependent
stage of development.
The Counter-Dependent
and Inflated False Self
The counter-dependent and inflated
false self is intended to shield children by
creating a distance between themselves
and their parents from experiencing their
unmet need for dependence. Individuals
that use this defense usually act
powerful and confident, even though
they don't feel that way from the inside.
The False Self and
the Attachment
Trauma
The defense mechanisms
developed by children during their
developmental stage of separation
form the basis for early childhood
attachment disorders and may
evolve into severe personality
disorders as people age. Defiant
and oppositional actions persist
after the age of three.
 Toddlers
and the False Self
As a protection mechanism
solidifies over a person's lifespan
against the desire for emotional
affection, they will become a full-
blown narcissistic personality
disorder. Via child abuse, domestic
violence, road rage, religious and
racial wars and a wide spectrum of
other defensive and revenge-
seeking activities, adult temper
tantrums get played out.
Addictions and the
False Self
The compulsions associated with
separation trauma (i.e. upper
drugs, work, quick sex, traveling,
and over-consuming) all serve as
unsatisfying substitutes for the
profound emotional attachment
and the involvement of union with
the Divine that   people   missed
with their mother.
 Breaking Free
Our False-Self began as a way to survive in this
universe, but it has somehow exceeded its time and become a core
part of our being. Quitting our Adapted Self's familiar ground is never
an easy job, but a wake-up call will eventually arrive.

it is not enough to survive as a result of the expectations and

aspirations of everyone else — spouse, parents, friends, society — as
life is too short for any day of internal deadness.

“Shredding our layers is not an easy

task, but for the one precious life you have, it is worth it.”
Reconnecting with
True Self
Make sense of your past

Identify and find out what you are good

at and not good at.

Find what you are passionate about

Assess your relationships

Seek professional help
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