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Courtney Gunter
Wheaton College
Dr. Langan
The world is a complex place, full of confusing people with messy relationships.
navigate these complexities well and with understanding. Leslie Baxter, a communication
scholar and teacher, offers an explanation of the messiness seen in relationships through her
Relational Dialectics Theory. The Relational Dialectics Theory (RDT) of Leslie Baxter looks at
the ways in which relationships are created by competing discourses, and an exploration of
RDT’s concepts can provide understanding into the competing discourses found in adoption
narratives.
The central claim of RDT by Baxter is that meaning is created from competing discourses
identities are constructed through language use” (Baxter, 2011, p. 2). When we speak, we are
invoking discourses, either consciously or subconsciously.. Baxter and Braithwaite (2008) define
a discourse as “a cultural system of meaning that circulates among a group’s members and which
makes our talk sensical” (p. 349). However, these discourses are not expressed equally; they
incessantly struggle and compete with each other for dominance. Baxter (2011) claims that these
tensions are both necessary and inevitable for interpersonal relationships. In other words, they
create meaning.
Baxter draws upon ideas from Russian scholar Mikhail Bakhtin and his work on the
concept of “dialogue” in order to inform her theory. Baxter’s development of relational dialectics
was impacted by Bakhtin’s five conceptions of dialogue: constitutive process, dialectical flux,
aesthetic moment, utterance, and critical sensibility. First, Baxter believes that dialogue is a
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communication constructs the social world, including interpersonal relationships. RDT takes this
idea and furthers it: the tension of differences in discourses is “the mechanism by which such
construction [of the social world] takes place” (Baxter & Braithwaite, 2008, p. 355). Bakhtin’s
second concept of dialogue is that dialogue is a dialectical flux. Relationships are perpetually
changing; they are composed of contradictory emotions and expressions (Baxter, 2004). Third,
Baxter draws upon the idea of an aesthetic moment in dialogue. These aesthetic moments “create
fragmented life experience” (Baxter, 2004, p. 12). They are moments of unity in the midst of
competing discourses. Fourth, Bakhtin discusses the idea of dialogue as an utterance. Discourses
do not exist in isolation. They are part of a larger chain of communication, including words
already spoken and words not yet spoken (Baxter, 2004; Baxter & Montgomery, 1996). A single
“utterance can be viewed as a link in a chain, a link bounded by both the preceding links and the
links that follow” (Baxter, 2004, p.14). More simply put, what two people say in the moment is
only part of the overarching story (Griffin et al., 2019). Lastly, Baxter was impacted by
Bakhtin’s fifth conception of dialogue as a critical sensibility. In other words, “dialogue is the
obligation to critique dominant voices” (Baxter, 2004, p. 16). Discourses do not exist in equal
power, and dialogue must seek to critique the dominant discourses. Each of these five
conceptions of dialogue influenced Baxter’s theory of relational dialectics and provide context
According to RDT, discourses exist in tension with each other, but do not have equal
influence on the social world. These tensions, also known as discursive struggles, are crucial to
the understanding of RDT. Two or more discourses struggle for dominance in meaning. Some
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discourses have power, while others do not. Centripetal discourses are centralized and standard,
occupying a position at the center. Contrastingly, centrifugal discourses occupy the margins
(Baxter, 2011; Baxter & Braithwaite, 2008; Baxter & Montgomery, 1996). These terms hold
significance for recognizing what stories are marginalized and silenced (Baxter, 2011). Baxter
and Braithwaite (2008) tell how, although centrifugal discourses are “removed from the
authoritative center, [they] are never completely eradicated” (p. 353). Centripetal and centrifugal
discourses exist simultaneously in tension, constantly in flux. With that in mind, centripetal
discourses occupy a position of privilege and power “because their systems of meaning are
discourses are commonly seen as deviate from the standard. Differing discourses are perpetually
in competition with one another, and it is necessary to identify which ones occupy the central
position.
RDT provides practical insight into various types of interpersonal and familial
relationships. Families are a complex concept. According to RDT, communication constructs the
social world and reality of family. Families are created by tensions in discourse. More
specifically, “the dialogic move is one of recognizing that family life is a both/and experience—
families gain their meanings from the give-and-take interplay of multiple, competing themes of
perspectives. …No theme or perspective is better or worse than its opposites—their interplay is
what is important” (Baxter, 2006, p.131). For example, Baxter and Montgomery (1996) describe
how healthy families are those that are characterized by the common tension of navigating
individuation and connectedness of the family members. The tensions between competing
discourses are an important part of the family experience. Moreover, RDT offers a deeper
understanding into adoptive families by showing how adoption narratives by challenge dominant
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discourses, provide alternate options, and further the conversation of what constitutes a family.
Harrigan (2009) tells how adoptive families may be even more reliant on social interactions to
create their identity and establish a familial connection. In other words, according to RDT,
discursive tensions may be even more unavoidable and necessary for families created through
All narrative stories, including those of adoption, have the potential to exist in a
discursive struggle “because of its capacity to place several viewpoints in play simultaneously”
(Baxter, 2011, p. 143). Adoption narratives fight the pervasive discourse that adoption is a
second-best alternative to a biological family (Baxter et al., 2014; Baxter et al., 2015; Thomas
and Scharp, 2017). The narrative that “biological families are best” dominates modern-day
culture in the United States. Around 2.4% of contemporary families in the United States are
created through adoption, and although adoption in the United States is not a veiled secret like it
was even a few decades ago, research shows that many Americans still believe that biological
parents should raise their own children (Baxter at al., 2014). Additionally, there is an increasing
number of “visibly adoptive families,” or those in which members’ physical racial characteristics
show evidence that there are no biological ties to each other” (Harrigan, 2009). These adoptive
families are impacted by the dominating discourse that their family is second-best. Thomas and
Scharp (2017) claim that the dominant discourse that says biological relationships should be
protected even when it is not practical, realistic, or safe for the child “speaks to a need to attune
to the effect that ideologies of family have on understanding who is, and who is not, allowed to
be family, at what times, and in which contexts” (p. 47). Clearly, adoption narrative must
The discourse of biological family is a valid narrative, but it becomes problematic when
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it dominates others. The biological family, as a centripetal discourse, “is easily legitimated as
normative, typical, and natural, and thus it functions as a baseline against which all else is
somehow positioned as a deviation” (Baxter, 2011, p. 123). With that in mind, the adoption
unnatural, and somehow deviant” (Baxter, 2011, p. 123). Adoption narratives must fight against
the common narrative that biological families are the preemptive option for family life.
RDT highlights how various adoption narratives have emerged to provide alternate
options to the common discourse that adoption is second-best. Narratives help make sense of
life; they are used to create legitimacy. Numerous studies of adoption have shown a variety of
discourses that have surfaced as a response to the discourse of biological family relationships. To
begin with, the entrance story is an example of an adoption narrative that seeks to establish the
legitimacy of adoption (Baxter et al., 2014). Entrance stories tell how the family and child come
alternative to pregnancy (Baxter et al., 2014). This discourse does not deny the legitimacy of
pregnancy, but marks its limitations. It pushes back against the narrative that biological
pregnancy is always the most viable option. Next, scholars identify the discourse that “familiar is
forever.” This discourse focuses on the permanent nature of family, regardless of biology. It
struggles against the discourse of biological relationships (Thomas & Scharp, 2017). Lastly,
Baxter et al. (2014) find evidence for the discourse that constructs family as communal kinning:
“recognition that, in adoption, it takes a village of both biologically and nonbiologically related
persons to get and raise a child” (p. 264). Adoption and family are both inherently communal.
Notably, this discourse combines multiple other discourses, ones that emphasizes biological
relations and ones that fights against the dominant discourse. Baxter (2011) refers to this mixing
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new meaning” (p. 139). This discourse is unique, but it is influenced by two competing
discourses. The interplay surrounding discourses relating to adoption underscore the complexity
of family relationships.
These alternative options do not exist in isolation, however, but are part of a larger utterance
chain. Utterances exist in the context of what has already been spoken and what is yet to be
spoken (Baxter, 2011; Thomas & Scharp, 2017). For instance, entrance stories of adoption
narratives, including background information of adoptive parents, are a response to the prior
utterance that adoption is second-best to biological families (Baxter et al., 2014). They are also a
part of the chain of the not-yet-spokens of future words. The adoption narratives, with the
discourse by negating and countering. Negating and countering are both methods of disclaiming,
rejecting a discourse or proclaiming it irrelevant (Baxter, 2011). These methods provide a way to
legitimacy (Baxter, 2014; Thomas and Scharp, 2017). Each of these “narratives underscore the
complexity of dialogic interplay in constructing the meaning of adoption” (Baxter et al., 2014, p.
265). They often employ several discourses in order to resist the dominant one. Adoption
narratives exist in conversation with past and future utterances; they respond to, push back
Leslie Baxter’s Relational Dialects Theory provides an explanation for the ways in which
discursive tensions in relationships create meaning. These tensions are unavoidable yet beneficial
in the relational process. Various concepts from her theory, including dialogue, utterance chains,
and centripetal-centrifugal tensions, provide insight into real-world relationships and narratives,
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such as those surrounding adoption. Adoption narratives commonly push back against the
dominant narrative that biological families are preeminent by responding to already spoken
narratives, providing alternate options, and anticipating future responses. As seen through the
lens of adoption narratives, RDT underscores the reality that relationships are complex, and
narratives can become muddled. The messiness of relationships is unavoidable, but the resulting
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