PERSONAL DEVELOPMENT

SURVEY RESEARCH STUDY

EMOTIONAL INTELLIGENCE

Please fill out this page with some details that let us know a little about you.

How old are you?

Gender
Male
Female

City of Residence

Which of the following best describes your current relationship status?

Single
In a relationship
In an Open Relationship

What is the highest level of education you have completed?

Completed high school
Undergraduate Degree
Would rather not say

Have you ever sought help for emotional or mental health difficulties? If so, please select
the option(s) that best describes the difficulties you experienced:
No, I have never sought help for any emotional or mental health difficulties
Depression
Bipolar Disorder
Bereavement
Anxiety
Substance use disorder
Eating disorder
Psychosis
Would rather not say
Don’t know
Other (please specify)

We would like to ask you some questions about your emotional life, in particular, how
you control (that is, regulate and manage) your emotions. The questions below involve
two distinct aspects of your emotional life. One is your emotional experience, or what
you feel like inside. The other is your emotional expression, or how you show your
emotions in the way you talk, gesture, or behave. Although some of the following
questions may seem similar to one another, they differ in important ways.

For each of the statements presented below, put a check on (5) if you Strongly Agree;
choose number (1) if you Strongly Disagree. Put a check on a number between (1) and (5)
if not in any extreme ends.

  1 2 3 4 5
1. When I want to feel more positive emotion (such as joy or
         
amusement), I change what I’m thinking about.

2. I keep my emotions to myself.          

3. When I want to feel less negative emotion (such as sadness

         
or anger), I change what I’m thinking about.
4. When I am feeling positive emotions, I am careful not to
         
express them.
5. When I’m faced with a stressful situation, I make myself
         
think about it in a way that helps me stay calm.

6. I control my emotions by not expressing them.          

7. When I want to feel more positive emotion, I change the way

         
I’m thinking about the situation.
8. I control my emotions by changing the way I think about the
         
situation I’m in.
9. When I am feeling negative emotions, I make sure not to
         
express them.
10. When I want to feel less negative emotion, I change the
         
way I’m thinking about the situation.

  1 2 3 4 5

1. People’s thoughts are a secret to me          

2. I worry a lot about what people are thinking and feeling          

3. My picture of my parents changes as I change          

4. I realize that I can sometimes misunderstand my best

         
friends’ reactions
5. I believe that my parents’ behavior towards me should not
         
be explained by how they were raised
6. Other people tell me I’m a good listener          

7. I often have to force people to do what I want them to do          

8. I always know what I feel          

9. I feel that, if I am not careful, I could get in the way of

         
another person’s life

10. I often get confused about what I am feeling          

11. I believe that people can see a situation very differently

         
based on their own beliefs and experiences
12. I believe there’s no point trying to guess what’s on
         
someone else’s mind

13. I get confused when people talk about their feelings          

14. I believe other people are too confusing to bother figuring

         
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15. I find it difficult to see other people’s points of view          

16. I am a good mind reader          

17. I don’t always know why I do what I do          

18. I pay attention to my feelings          

19. In an argument, I keep the other person’s point of view in

         
mind
20. Understanding the reasons for people’s actions helps me to
         
forgive them

21. I believe that there is no RIGHT way of seeing any situation          

22. When I get angry I say things without really knowing why I
         
am saying them
23. Those close to me often seem to find it difficult to
         
understand why I do things

24. I am better guided by reason than by my gut          

25. I usually know exactly what other people are thinking          

26. I can’t remember much about when I was a child          

27. Strong feelings often cloud my thinking          

28. I trust my feelings          

29. When I get angry I say things that I later regret          

30. My feelings about a person is hardly ever wrong          

31. For me actions speak louder than words          

32. I frequently feel that my mind is empty          

33. I predict that my feelings might change even about

         
something I feel strongly about

34. I like to think about the reasons behind my actions          

35. If I feel unsure of myself, I can behave in ways that offend

         
others

36. Sometimes I do things without really knowing why          

37. I can tell how someone is feeling by looking at their eyes          

38. Sometimes I find myself saying things and I have no idea

         
why I said them
39. In order to know exactly how someone is feeling, I have
         
found that I need to ask them

40. I can mostly predict what someone else will do          

41. I’m often curious about the meaning behind others’ actions          

42. I have noticed that people often give advice to others that
         
they actually wish to follow themselves

43. I wonder what my dreams mean          

44. How I feel can easily affect how I understand someone

         
else’s behavior
45. I pay attention to the impact of my actions on others’
         
feelings

46. I know exactly what my close friends are thinking          

Please read each of the following statements and rate the extent to which you believe
each statement best describes your feelings about close relationships.

  1 2 3 4 5

1. I find it difficult to depend on other people.          

2. It is very important to me to feel independent.          

3. I find it easy to get emotionally close to others.          

4. I want to merge completely with another person.          

5. I worry that I will be hurt if I allow myself to become too close

         
to others.

6. I am comfortable without close emotional relationships.          

7. I am not sure that I can always depend on others to be there

         
when I need them.

8. I want to be completely emotionally intimate with others.          

9. I worry about being alone.          

10. I am comfortable depending on other people.          

11. I often worry that romantic partners don't really love me.          

12. I find it difficult to trust others completely.          

13. I worry about others getting too close to me.          

14. I want emotionally close relationships.          

15. I am comfortable having other people depend on me.          

16. I worry that others don't value me as much as I value them.          

17. People are never there when you need them.          

18. My desire to merge completely sometimes scares people

         
away.

19. It is very important to me to feel self-sufficient.          

20. I am nervous when anyone gets too close to me.          

 21. I often worry that romantic partners won't want to stay with
         
me.

22. I prefer not to have other people depend on me.          

23. I worry about being abandoned.          

24. I am somewhat uncomfortable being close to others.          

25. I find that others are reluctant to get as close as I would

         
like.

26. I prefer not to depend on others.          

27. I know that others will be there when I need them.          

28. I worry about having others not accept me.          

29. People often want me to be closer than I feel comfortable

         
being.

30. I find it relatively easy to get close to others.          

The following questions ask about how you have been feeling during the past 30 days.
For each question, please check the number that best describes how often you had this
feeling. In the past 30 days, how often did you feel...

  1 2 3 4 5

1. … tired out for no good reason?          

2. … nervous?          

3. … so nervous that nothing could calm you down?          

4. … hopeless?          

5. … restless or fidgety?          

6. … so restless that you could not sit still?          

7. … depressed?          

8. … so depressed that nothing could cheer you up?          

 9. … that everything was an effort?          

10. … worthless?          

This questionnaire contains questions that may relate to your thoughts, feelings,
experiences and preferences.  There is no right or wrong answers or trick questions so
please be as honest as possible. For each question please check either "YES" or "NO".

  YES NO

1. When in the dark do you often see shapes and forms even
   
though there is nothing there?
2. Are your thoughts sometimes so strong that you can almost
   
hear them?
3. Have you ever thought that you had special, almost magical
   
powers?
4. Have you sometimes sensed an evil presence around you,
   
even though you could not see it?
5. Do you think that you could learn to read other’s minds if you
   
wanted to?
6. When you look in the mirror does your face sometimes seem
   
quite different from usual?
7. Do ideas and insights sometimes come to you so fast that
   
you cannot express them all?
8. Can some people make you aware of them just by thinking
   
about you?

9. Does a passing thought ever seem so real it frightens you?    

10. Do you feel that your accidents are caused by mysterious

   
forces?
11. Do you ever have a sense of vague danger or sudden
   
dread for reasons that you do not understand?
12. Does your sense of smell sometimes become unusually
   
strong?
13. Are you easily confused if too much happens at the same
   
time?

14. Do you frequently have difficulty in starting to do things?    

15. Are you a person whose mood goes up and down easily?    

16. Do you dread going into a room by yourself where other

   
people have already gathered and are talking?
17. Do you find it difficult to keep interested in the same thing
   
for a long time?

18. Do you often have difficulties in controlling your thoughts?    

19. Are you easily distracted from work by daydreams?    

20. Do you ever feel that your speech is difficult to understand

   
because the words are all mixed up and don’t make sense?
21. Are you easily distracted when you read or talk to
   
someone?

22. Is it hard for you to make decisions?    

23. When in a crowded room, do you often have difficulty in

   
following a conversation?
24. Are there very few things that you have ever enjoyed
   
doing?
25. Are you much too independent to get involved with other
   
people?

26. Do you love having your back massaged?    

27. Do you find the bright lights of a city exciting to look at?    

28. Do you feel very close to your friends?    

29. Has dancing or the idea of it always seemed dull to you?    

30. Do you like mixing with people?    

31. Is trying new foods something you have always enjoyed?    

32. Have you often felt uncomfortable when your friends touch
   
you?

33. Do you prefer watching television to going out with people?    

34. Do you consider yourself to be pretty much an average sort

   
of person?

35. Would you like other people to be afraid of you?    

36. Do you often feel the impulse to spend money which you
   
know you can’t afford?
37. Are you usually in an average kind of mood, not too high
   
and not too low?
38. Do you at times have an urge to do something harmful or
   
shocking?
 39. Do you stop to think things over before doing anything?    

40. Do you often overindulge in alcohol or food?    

41. Do you ever have the urge to break or smash things?    

42. Have you ever felt the urge to injure yourself?    

43. Do you often feel like doing the opposite of what other
   
people suggest even though you know they are right?

Thank you!