The Life

Innovator
By Nicholas Finnegan

© 2008, Nicholas Finnegan. www.nicholasfinnegan.com

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What you want, what you don't want...

Wherever you are in your life right now in terms of how you feel
about yourself, your self esteem, your level of confidence, whether
you feel anxiety, stress, frustration... etc...

You must now start your journey towards changing these problems
around into new learnings and experiences that serve you from now
on...

To start this process you must first accept these problems and fully
come to terms with your current life circumstances; Its only once
you do this you can start moving towards what you want, allowing
you to measure your ongoing results and overcome limitations more
easily.

First, lets focus on what you really want because this is much more
important. You want to move towards what you want, not what you
don't want.

So while your here...

Write out a small list of the things you really want.

What are some of the feelings, beliefs and new habits that you really
want for yourself and to experience in your life?

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IF you did experience these in your life, how would they full-fill you
right now?

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And what would these experiences be like in the future once you
obtain them?

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Now that you have become clearer about what you want and how
you will feel once you have it. Let us figure out what gets in your way
of achieving these goals.

Write down a list and think of all the habits, beliefs and/or actions
that you do or feel on a daily basis that prevent you from achieving
your goals.

What limitations do you have right now?

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And If they weren't there, how much closer would you be to

achieving your goals?

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How much more easier would it be to create what you want, without
limitations?

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As you address your limitations you may find that some of them
come in the forms of...

"I want to achieve this, but...."

Or...

""I cant create a better life, because..."

Figure out and write down a list of all the things that prevent you
from gaining what you really want.

Once you begin to become aware of these hindrances, you will be

able to learn from them in ways that empower you, and use these
positive new learnings to make you stronger and move closer
towards your future achievements.

Remember, that it is more important to focus on and move towards

what you want to create in your life!

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Its not a good thing to wait, but its not a good thing to rush either.

Don't invest your time and energy in negative emotions anymore,

only use them as a means of reminding you of what you have set out
to create in your life.

To be a follower or to be an individual,
that is the question...

There is a big difference between what you think you want and what
will truly and deeply fulfil you.

As you ponder about what your life is like right now, do you find that
everything you have is a result of what you've been taught to chase
after, or is it a result of what you chose and deeply want to be filled
up with?

A dog needs an owner to teach it what to do, an owl is wise enough

to figure it all out on it's own.

The owl is its own being. It studies carefully and awareness becomes
expanded when a task needs to be completed, such as eating a small
rabbit, a mouse and their favorite dish - skunk.

The dog rely's on an owner to be fed and cared for. It scurries around
looking for food and picks up the scraps people leave behind, even if
they know it isn't good for them, and most of the time aren't even
aware of it in the long run.

The dog learns habits, where as the owl chooses and creates them!

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Owls live in many places. Owls live in tree trunks, farms, in bushes, in
forests. Sometimes owls live in old buildings, barns and even
cactuses.

Dogs either sleep inside an owners house or stray outside in the

cold. A few of them even get locked up in cages.

So...

As you begin to become as wise as the owl, you will find your sense
of possibility and self beginning to expand. As a wiser person you
will find you have complete choice to create whatever you want in
life without limitation.

Once you adapt to this mind-set (the mind-set of individuality and

wisdom) and begin to make this attitude more apparent for yourself
in your life today... Would you still be living the life you currently
have right now?

... I didn't think so!

... Because you begin to live your life based on your own decisions
and what will truly and deeply fulfill you as a person in your life, NOT
what other people think or have taught what is best for you to do
and/or be.

In the end... Its all up to you!

Life success secret on a drunken bus ride...

Life sucks! Why does everything have to suck! Why does this always
have to happen to me!?? Life sucks!

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This is the sort of attitude I had towards life before I figured out
another secret of self esteem success that im about to share with
you...

When I was about 18 I got very drunk and started talking to myself
on the way home. I was on the bus, it was 3.00 am, there was only
one other person on the bus sitting across from me, she was a
middle aged woman looking out of the window.

"life is shit!" I screamed! "why cant I just die!"

Little did I know she was about to show me the path to revealing yet
another secret...

After speaking to her for a while and then getting off the bus I came
to be in walking distance from my house. Pondering on what she
said, feeling very disoriented - I walked into my front door, ran down
the stairs to my room, took out my note book and started writing
another secret down...

This is what she told me, written down in my own words at the age
of 18 years old while I was still drunk...

When you think about which direction you are heading in life, which
one is it? Forward or backward?

I am guessing that you are gaining in life and moving forward,

otherwise you wouldn't be here reading this as you take in more
knowledge and becoming happier in life.

Now... as you begin to move towards your goals, you may find yourself
getting close to them as each day goes by, whether if you achieve
massive accomplishments or small accomplishments alike.

And there is also a way to speed up this process and make it more fun...
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How?

Simply by realizing for yourself that creating what you want "is a never
ending process" Meaning up until now you have already chosen to
move towards what you really want, haven't you? So you will only
become more stronger from now on, whether if its a little bit at a time
or massive action.

This should be a relief!

It doesn't matter what setbacks you are going through now or what
you were going through in the past because becoming stronger "is
forever an ongoing process" and you are always moving forward and
learning from your experiences into the future.

So you can never lose!

As you think about accepting this principle and and having a

willingness to move through the world with it, how much more easier
does life become as you realize you are always participating in "a
forever ongoing process of future growth!"

It is inevitable that you will only become more of who you are as you
have already chosen to move towards what you want

Life is "a forever future ongoing process of growth", so allow your

frustrations to melt away and realize for yourself that you are always
becoming more of who you are no matter what happens each and
everyday!

As you think about your life in this way, how much more are you willing
to grow and allow success to naturally unfold ahead of you.

Your possibility of awareness is always expanding!

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Falling in Love... The hidden truth revealed.....

We don't fall in love when we are in the company of someone, we

fall in love when we are off by ourselves thinking about them
afterwards.

Its quite clear that we enjoy being in each-others company and like
having fun together. And its also plainly obvious that a butt naked
angel called Cupid doesn't shoot an arrow into our asses.

But it is when you are on your own and you find yourself thinking
about someone in such a unique way, that allows you to list all the
qualities about them you really like, and imagine yourself with them
connecting together with the flow of your personalities, is when a
feeling of love begins to take place deep inside of you. And although
you may try push these feelings down or talk yourself out of them,
you only find it comes back 10 times more powerful than ever
before, allowing you to fall into deeper emotional states of falling for
this person during moments of the day. With me, according to my
experiences with people, there's always potential connections that
can be built between us as human beings.

When you recall a time in your past when you fell in love, where you
then able to stay cool, in control of yourself and the relationship? Or
where you calling that person everyday, always wanting to see
them, thinking about them and eager to experience a growing
connection with them?

Heres the point: We do not fall in love by "tripping" over or falling

into a "hole!" Love is a process we do to ourselves! And there are

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always new ways to discover how love can manifest between us - to

the point where you act upon it right now!

Gaining Life Confidence

Next to self-esteem we would all like to feel an inner sense of

gaining self-confidence. Many of us mix the attributes of self-
esteem and confidence up, they are both uniquely different and they
actually compliment each-other really well.

However this course is all about raising your confidence levels...

Now, there are generally three types of confidence:

- Performance confidence

- Self-confidence

- And Confidence in the company of others

Performance confidence is described as being really good at doing a

particular activity or skill. This particular form of confidence usually
comes from doing something over and over again so many times
that it becomes easily to execute.

Depending on our tanisity levels, difficult tasks can be very easy to

learn, where as others may find certain tasks requires more of an
effort.

For example: For different people learning to fix a bike could be

easier than learning to do a back hand-spring. Performance
confidence comes with continuous practice, the more you practice

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doing something the more you will find inner self-assurance

beginning to grow as tasks become more easy to do.

Now, Self-confidence and inner self-assurance is described as what

you believe you are capable of, it is that inner sense of self
confidence based on how high you believe your level of being able to
feel confident within yourself can rise.

For example: If you feel confident about your skills and capability to
learn and grow you are more likely to feel more secure within
yourself and move through the world with more ease based on the
situations you find yourself. and that will continue to grow as you do!

Self-confidence complements performance confidence really well.

The more reasons and evidence you have for why you should feel
more confident within yourself the more confident you are likely to
feel as you do new things! In a sense its a one-way street, there is no
opposing traffic!

And last but not least, Confidence in Company! Which is an

extension of self-confidence and performance confidence,
ultimately creates LIFE CONFIDENCE.

When you can learn to feel confident about your skills and
communicate with others effectively, you gain a sense of free-er
self-expression that is not thwarted by negative attacks or external
circumstances. Your contribution to the world is 'just' and is
energised by the display of your personality!

Events and situations are sometimes un-controllable but you can

always rely on yourself to feel confident and express to others that a
strong energy is always around to support them.

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These 3 types of confidence(s) I have laid out for you display a great
foundation you can start working on.

If you want to gain higher levels of confidence within yourself, trying

something new performance-wise will allow you to do so, especially
if its in an area of life you really want. Feeling more confident around
others will help you to become more confident performance-wise,
and feeling more confident performance-wise and social-wise will
allow you to feel more confident about yourself. And thus the spiral
goes round and around like a formula 1 racing wheel.

To build more overall confidence you should seek out to practice in

each of these areas to build more confidence, notice your growing
progress and start in which ever area feel right for you!

So your task for today is to write down two things you would like to
improve your confidence in, in each of the three areas we have been
discussing.

What do you want to feel more self confidence about?

Self-confidence

1.

2.

Which area in life to you want to perform better in?

Performance confidence

1.

2.

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In which types of social situations do you want to be at your

absolute best?

Confidence in company

1.

2.

Soon I will show you some extra techniques, tips and exercises you
can do to speed up this process of building overall LIFE
CONFIDENCE and more ease in a way that allows you to become
stronger and happier today about your life!

Do and feel in the ways you really want to feel about yourself and
expand this into your daily life.

The Confidence Plan! Start creating success

TODAY!

I want to give you some tools that will propel you forward towards
reaching your confidence goals in a way that is always expanding.
After all each and every one of us experience certain setbacks when
it comes to manifesting what we really want in life. Many of us have
big goals and dreams for the future but we tend to put them up on a
shelf and forget about them, perhaps we tried to take action but
slowly gave up because we assumed we wasn't going anywhere.

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What are the reasons for why you haven't set out to go after what
you really want??

Why haven't you taken consistent action to create what you

rightfully deserve in your life???

For most of us its the "fear of Failure!!"

Fear of not being able to achieve our goals, the fear of rejection, the
fear of pain - all of these things and the overall risk factor of it all
keeps us stuck. But when you really stop to think about it, what is
the real risk here? Is it the risk of someone saying "No" or the
ultimate risk of NEVER BEING ABLE TO CREATE THE TYPE OF LIFE
YOU TRULY DESERVE!

After all isn't this the biggest risk? The risk of losing out!?

You see, if you tried to achieve something a couple of times and

failed at it - it doesn't mean you should slowly leave and not do it
anymore because of a momentary set-back! The key here is to keep
trying and keep changing until you succeed!! If you fail once you
must TRY SOMETHING ELSE and KEEP GOING!!

As soon as Thomas Edison first created the light bulb he was

interviewed and the interviewer asked him a question, he asked him
"How does it feel to have failed 10,000 times?" Edison replied "I
didn't fail 10,000 times, I only found 10,000 ways that didn't work
and so i knew it was only a matter of time before I figured out what
WILL WORK!"

This is the exact same approach you should take when it comes to
building life success and confidence, after all this is what confidence
is! It represents the tanasity to keep learning and keep expanding
until you succeed. The place you are at now in your life and where
you desire to be IS A CHANGE! And its learning and changing
towards our dreams that allows us to grow more as people! By
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constantly coming up with new ideas and skills on your journey

towards obtaining self-confidence - your behaviours, feelings and
reactions change in regards to how you view yourself as a person
and how you view your overall life!

These changes are very subtle and i can say to you that as you
continue to grow and imagine what your life will be like 10years from
now - you'll look back and go "WOW I have grown so much!! I cant
even believe that i had so many limitations to begin with!!!"

The more you take action towards creating your dreams the more
that "decision action taking muscle" will be effortless to execute
time and time again, in those areas of life that matter to you most
and this will build even more self-esteem.

So why are you still sitting here reading this for?

TAKE ACTION TOWARDS YOUR GOALS DAILY UNTIL YOU

SUCCEED!!

Confidence Plan

(Make a confidence plan for each of the three different areas

including: Performance Confidence, Self-confidence and Social
Confidence. And write down three answers for each separate
question below)

1. what do you really want to achieve in your life?

2. What will achieving it give you back? And how will it make you feel
once you have it?

3. When do you want to achieve it? (Set a realistic time limit and live
up to it!)

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4. Imagine what it will be like if you started taking action how would
you be feeling significantly stronger two weeks from now?

5. Imagine yourself taking action everyday down your future time-

line to the point where you reach your goals achievements! Whats it
going to be like when you create it?

The great feelings you will experience once you have achieved your
goals is what you are working your way towards. In other words you
must focus on the RESULTS and to never let yourself, or anybody
else or anything that happens stop you from making these dreams
REAL!

You will achieve little results during your pursuits and these little
results create the ultimate result, so be grateful for them and seek
joy in these little moments of achievement!

There is no such thing as failure and you can NEVER fail at anything!
Why? Because failure means learning and learning means growth;
growth equals successful results and successful results create drive
and passion to succeed;
And Drive and passion starts this process all over again in the pursuit
of another endeavour you want to achieve in.

Your personal power, as you can see, is full of unlimited possibility

and potential, and from now on you must begin to utilise it on a daily
basis, just as Thomas Edison did everyday!

Take action, be flexible in your approach, learn and ultimately

succeed in your everyday life!

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Self Esteem Exercises

Welcome to the self esteem exercises page. Let me share with you
some of the ways how you can manifest the new thoughts,
feelings and behaviours that build higher self esteem for the near
future.

Here is the first understanding...

Whatever you focus on, you feel because your mind cannot tell the
difference between what you imagine as being real and what you
actually experience. In other words what you consistently focus on
and imagine in your mind eventually becomes your future self-
esteem.

What you focus on, and imagine yourself doing on a consistent basis
determines how you’re going to be feeling about yourself on a daily
basis.

...the second understanding...

Thus if you imagine and mentally rehearse yourself in positive

scenarios feeling good about yourself and reacting in the ways that
you want in those troubled situations that used to bother you: your
mind will naturally take these mental impressions as being part of
your new higher self esteem reality!

The mind learns and adapts to whatever you habitually focus on, on
a consistent basis!

The Key Here Is To Design In A New Habit Of Higher Self-Esteem and

More... Awareness By Rehearsing it!!

So now that you are aware of this understanding let me introduce to

you a model that will enable you to build more Higher self esteem…
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Self appreciation process

(This exercise will enable you to raise self appreciation levels with
just about anything you want!)

First: Think of a positive thought or idea about yourself. (Even if it

isn't true just yet...)

Second: Notice the positive feelings that come from thinking about
these positive ideas about yourself (because positive thoughts equal
positive feelings)

Third. Stop for a moment to appreciate yourself for the fact that you
have just made yourself feel good about what you just thought
about: Therefore you can feel good about the things you want!
(Can't you...?) Just by doing steps one, two and three.

And…Fourth. Be grateful that you can manifest "feeling good about

yourself" - and build ON a never ending process of self-worth and
higher-self appreciation.

(Actively go over these steps until it sinks in! And do the process
over and over again until it feels more comfortable!!)

This is a 4 step key to manifesting your self-esteem in any area of life

you choose, not to mention total life success! Why? Because
rehearsing the things you want in life in ways that allow you to feel
like you already own them within, will create a chain reaction of
inner-fulfilment - a stronger inner sense of self-worth and passion -
multiplying and growing throughout your everyday living because
you are appreciating yourself to feel better about the future.

Very soon you will begin to react confidently with positive ideas -
which will bring positive new experiences your way; and this will
reinforce more positive reasons for why you should feel good about
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yourself even more... which in turn increases your higher self-

esteem.

Can you remember when somebody gave you a compliment? Such

as “You’re a great person” – Well first you considered it, you felt
good about the idea, you appreciated the fact that someone
complemented you, then you were grateful about yourself and the
whole experience of feeling like the great person you are - and will
be... Win Win Win!
Can you see a pattern forming here?

Get Used To This Pattern!

- What are three positive aspects that you can think about yourself?
and want to feel about yourself?

- As you think about already having these qualities in your life, how
does it feel inside of your body? (And notice where you feel it)

- Now thank yourself for the fact that you have the ability to make
yourself feel good just by doing these first three steps

- And now be grateful for the entire process you have done that
allows you to feel good about yourself now and for the near future...

Get used to rehearsing this model throughout your daily life about
the things you really want to manifest... practice makes perfect and
you’ll begin to find yourself doing this exercise more and more easily
and eventually AUTOMATICALLY, you will also find your personal
power and self-esteem re-turning back into your awareness:
Bringing you the ability to feel good about yourself dramatically in
just a few short days - weeks!

YOU CAN make yourself FEEL GOOD!!!

Do this exercises as often as you will yourself to do so...

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P.S. These principles and technique can be used in any area of your
life that you truly want to manifest in! You will be kidding yourself to
think that you cant..! You can use this exercise for literally
ANYTHING positive you want to become used to feeling good about
on a daily basis!

Do you have ideas about becoming fit and healthy? Building a

business or taking a new course to receive a degree? Or increasing
everyday happiness and morale? The choice is yours!
I hope you enjoyed this ebook.

Please share your comments concerns and questions at:

nicholas@nicholasfinnegan.com

Warmest Regards,

Nicholas Finnegan
Author of Higher Self Esteem and More...

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