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5 RANDOM
MISCONCEPTIONS
STDs
SEXUAL FETISH
Generally, a fetish is
“an object that someone
cannot get sexually
aroused without”
INTERVIEW
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Letter from the editor
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Nhan Ngo
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Table of Contents
5 Misconceptions 04-05
Hymen 07-08
Abortion 09-12
STDs 13-14
Cosmetics tips 17
Q&A 18-19
Netflix show 20
5 random misconception
about sex you might hear
at least once
Before becoming thorough about sex and orgasm, it is understandable that you
once feel overwhelmed and confused with some sexual assertions. You doubt
yourself about the rightness of them but at the same time, those statements sound
too persuasive that you decide to believe in them right away. Those below are 5
popular sexual myths and the facts hidden behind them. Remember that they are
just 5 among hundreds of misconceptions which might cross your mind when men-
tioning sex.
01.
The longer your sex
activity last, the more
skillful you are
It is wrong to assume that
lengthen the duration,
by all means, can prove
your excellence and
proficiency in sex. My group of close friends commonly discussed about the regular length
of sex acts; then, they immediately compare with their habits to conclude if they are
healthy or abnormal. If the time of sex were shorter than usual, they would have pouted,
"Oh my God, is he having erectile dysfunction?" On the contrary, if the time were too long,
they would rant uncomfortably. "Oh, he might be satisfying but I am tired. My "girly part"
has been dry, but he keeps penetrating." Is the problem really about time, or is it women's
nature to be a problematic creature?
According to the findings of a survey, the average time of sexual intercourse lasts from
5 to 7 minutes. However, the latent lies in various factors, such as health, location, vibe
of the bedroom, etc. There should be no bias upwards the time estimates in copulation,
although people would be proudly brag about how they could go long all night. Sex is not
something you can monitor like a bedtime clock. Putting pressure about the time
estimation might affect the mood of lovemaking that destroys the excitement and rejoice
to reach the sexual climax.
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02.
Having sex during period
can totally
prevent pregnancy
Sex is a basic need for
humans. Increasing sex
experiences is an excellent
way to heal the relationship, even with sexual intercourse during menstrual bleeding. There
is a popular myth I have heard among Vietnamese youngsters that you can have sex during
period to avoid pregnancy. This also leads to a reinforcement of withdrawing
contraceptive methods since there is no egg to fertilize at that time. It seems,
notwithstanding, to be a big misconception. Scientifically, regular ovulation appears around
day 14 of the cycle. The average length of a cycle is around 28 to 30 days; however, there
are months you might suffer from shorter cycles. Due to this instability, having intercourse
during your period is a jeopardy that it might bring a possibility of being conceived. For
example, if your sexual activity takes place at the end of your period and your ovulation
occurs earlier, there is a high chance you can be pregnant.
03.
The difference in physical
appearance is a barrier to
sexual activity.
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05.
Masturbation is
only for men.
04.
those uncomfortable feelings. Men have
sexual needs and enjoy sexual pleasure,
so do women. Masturbation never stands
for the underlying thoughts of "I want
to betray my partner" or "I am a lustful
girl so I masturbate." Masturbation is a
Emergency contraceptive basic need as well as it is an ideal way for
pills (EC) a woman to understand and take care of
cause infertility her body. It is an act of self-love. It also
contributes to pulling off the orgasm
that makes every sexual activity perfect-
It exists a widespread opinion that the
ly complete. This stereotype should be
emergency contraceptive pill might im-
diminished for women's sexual confidence.
pair future fertility or put the women use
any couples decided not to take the EC
them in life-risking situation. This brings
after unprotected sex, albeit they were
to the fact that many couples decided
not ready for pregnancy. Statistics show
not to take the EC after unprotected
no sight of possibility for the aforemen-
sex, albeit they were not ready for preg-
tioned hypothesis; alternatively, the
nancy. Statistics show no sight of possi-
benefits of EC are highlighted. EC might
bility for the aforementioned hypothesis;
contain minor side effects, but it causes
alternatively, the benefits of EC are
"no long term or serious side effects." The
highlighted. EC might contain minor side
reason why condoms are more encour-
effects, but it causes "no long term or se-
aged in Vietnam is its effectiveness of
rious side effects." The reason why con-
avoiding pregnancy (with a much higher
doms are more encouraged in Vietnam is
ratio than EC) and STDs (sexually trans-
its effectiveness of avoiding pregnancy
mitted diseases).
(with a much higher ratio than EC) and
STDs (sexually transmitted diseases).
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1 million dates a week
01.
The hymen perfect sexual intercourse.
is not Instead of whining about the difference,
a closed membrane. spend time to learn and understand more
about you and your partners' needs. It's all
This problem about the skill, not about the size.
indeed troubles lots
of couples. Some
02.
believe that the dif-
Not everyone
ference in terms of
possesses
weight, height,
a hymen.
"sensitive parts"
size is a big deal We all hear that all females are born with a
that it has increased anxieties, insecu- hymen, or else, the hymen is a factor to in-
rities, and distant the relationship. It is dicate virginity since it appears on EVERY
undeniable that there always come up myr- woman’s body. In fact, some women are
iads of problems when in a sexual relation- born without a hymen or some own such a
ship. However, sex is about harmony and very small hymen are scientifically proved.
understanding from both sides. It takes Thus, is it a disability without an innate
time, it needs devotion, and it requires the hymen? The answer is absolute, no. This is
commitment to perfect itself. You can't entirely healthy and does not require any
underestimate the sex life of others based types of medical treatment.
on what exists outside. Many couples fol-
low happy sex lives
despite their disparity of outside look.
It demonstrates the little effect of the
difference in physical appearance towards
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03.
The hymen is not always
torn after the first time
you have sex
04.
Painful sex during the first
time is not due to the
hymenal stretch
05.
Hymen examination can not
determine whether sexual
assault has occurred
It is seen in some movies that detecting a sexual assault by the status of the hymen is pos-
sible. However, no medical or legal condition supports this idea due to the lack of evidence.
Moreover, you can hardly tell whether a woman has had sex before just by looking at her
hymen. Every hymen has differences in shape; hence, there is no standard and base to find
proof of penetration.
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Abortion
from
obsteric
experts
perspective
Interviewed by Thuy Le,
edited by Nhan Ngo
Vietnam is ranked as one of the top countries possessing the highest abortion rate.
(Annual abortion numbers for countries 2008, PP USA 2013, IPPF 2014). It results
from the lack of understanding about sexual health as well as sexual issues. We
luckily conducted an interview with Mrs. Cao Thi Hong Chi who is currently working
as an obstetrician in Center for Reproductive Health. Discussing abortion with an
expert is an unforgettable and scarce experience; however, it worths all the time
and effort with useful knowledge she provided.
Q: A:
Hello. What do you do as Most of the time, I do medical check-ups and
an obstetrician? consult. Besides, I also work as a member of
the Vietnam Family Planning Association
(VINAFPA). There are annual visits and
gift-giving programs here, such as giving birth
control pills for free or ordering free rings. It
depends on the period or stage that the pro-
gram will differ.
Q: A:
Hello. Why did you choose to (laugh) It only because my mom used to be an
be an obstetrician? obstetrician, so I "inherit" her ability.
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Q: A:
What is the main issue of Viet- I think….The lack of sexual knowledge. The
namese youngsters these days? youth do not know about sexual health at all.
When I go to deliver a speech about safe sex
at some schools, everybody said, "Oh, there's
no need to tell us, we all know it. Sexual prob-
lems are common things now." That's right!
They know inaccurately. Before giving any
information, I always ask them three questions
to examine their awareness of sex education.
However, all the answers show that they are
so shallow or even have no understanding of
this issue.
Q: A:
Many people are struggling to It sounds unethical to kill a baby. I understand
take an abortion due to the feel- their feelings. However, if they give birth to
ing of guilt. How do you think the kid without having the ability to raise
about this reason? them, it is a crime. Please think thorough-
ly that the kid needs the best conditions to
grow up. I will give you an example. One week
ago, a girl around 2nd-year university booked
an appointment. She told me that her period
had been delayed for months. Through her
belly condition, I can guess she is pregnant,
and it is more notorious when she took the
ultrasound scan. It is 36-week-fetus! She in-
sisted, "No. Maybe it is a mistaken. How can I
have a baby". Only after the ultrasound result
came up did she believe in what I said. It is only
three weeks left until the baby would be born,
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Q: A:
Many people are struggling to yet she had no idea about her pregnancy. How
take an abortion due to the feel- can someone not know such simple and funda-
ing of guilt. How do you think mental knowledge? What would she do once
about this reason? the baby is born? Will she be able to take care
of her kid back then?
Q: A:
Are there any problems that make The rising trend of abortion is what has been
you painfully think about since bothering me a lot. Usually, when the fetus is
you started your career? pulled out, I never throw it away because it is
heart-aching. My rule is never aborting an em-
bryo that has turned into a big baby. It's not
about my ability to do such things. It is just a
thought I am always obsessed with, "It used to
be a human, but now it is cruelly abandoned."
Especially since I have a family and my kids, I
never do these things again, albeit it is my job.
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Q:
Thank you for spending time for
taking this interview. I wish you
success in your future endeavors!
Contraception Effectiveness
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Crack 5 most asked
questions about STDs
Can STDs kill you? Yes and No
STDs can weaken your immune system, which makes you be easily exposed to other infec-
tions. Pelvic inflammatory disease (PID) is a complication of gonorrhea and chlamydia that
can leave women unable to have children. AIDS (final stage of HIV) and HPV can kill you.
16000
12000
Deaths per year
8000
4000
0
2010
2011
2012
2013
2014
2015
2016
2017
2018
New HIV Infections: All ages estimate HIV/AIDS-related deaths
• Can be cured with the right treat- • Can be cured with the right antibi-
ment, but some drug-resistant strains otics
are developing
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03. Chlamydia 04. HIV
• Caused by Chlamydia trachomatis • Caused by Human Immunodeficiency
Virus
• First Symtom
- Painful urination • First Stage
- Lower abdominal pain - Fever, Headache, Sore throat,
- Vaginal discharge in women Swollen lymph, Rash
- Discharge from the penis in men
- Bleeding between periods • Last Stage
in women - Persistent, unexplained fatigue
- Testicular pain in men - Soaking night sweats
- Unusual, opportunistic infections
• Can be cured with the right treat-
ment • No effective cure at the moment. Can
control by proper treatment
STDs can be mostly prevented by avoiding sexual Falsed medication can cause failure in
interactions, such as vaginal, oral or anal sex. treatment process.
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Sexual fetish : Normal or
abnormal obsession ?
It was on a bonding trip when I was in high school. We had gathered as a group and
played "Truth or Dare." The game soon became boring since we were lack of ideas for
the questions and challenges. All of a sudden, when we were going to end this game,
one girl suggested, "Hey, give the last turn for me. I have something to ask." Hesitant-
ly, she pointed at a girl in a group asking, "M, do you...have any sexual fetishes? What
are they?" The atmosphere turned silent for a few seconds. A few moments later, the
crowd started to mutter. Some wonder what sexual fetishes are, while others think
the question is too bold and inappropriate. At everyone's reaction, M crept back, "I
am obsessed with having sex in front of a mirror to the extent that I always choose a
hotel room which has a large mirror. I'm so embarrassed to confess this." The ques-
tion is, what is a sexual fetish? Why did my friend M. feel distressed to talk about it?
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What is a sexual fetish?
Sexual fetish refers to sexual excitement with non-living objects or non-genital body parts.
People with fetishes are interested in fantasizing, easily being aroused, and even having an
orgasm with the object of attraction. It means, generally, a fetish is "an object that some-
one cannot get sexually aroused without." says sex expert and psychologist Dense Renye.
There exist many different types of fetishes that sexologists have divided throughout his-
tory. They can be grouped as clothing, body parts, footwear, and even rubber. Many people
feel sexually aroused with leather in their bodies during sex, while some have a deep inter-
est in licking partners' feet in the foreplay time (foot fetish). In the case of M, a mirror is
her object of attraction, which called Katoptronophilia.
There exists the type who wants to take control of others (Dominance & Submission);
also, the kind only achieves sexual climax when physically torturing the partner like
billionaire Gray in "50 shades of Gray". (Sadomasochism); and, the type that only enjoys
sex with multiple people at the same time (orgy/gangbang). You must be familiar with the
notion of role-playing sex or public sex. These two are also considered as part of sexual
fantasies. Generally, kink is the extent terminology of fetish, which is also popularly
utilized in ordinary life.
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An abnormal obsession
A sexual fetish, or sexual kink, is considered 'abnormal' in this society. While sex is still
a sensitive issue that is avoid being mentioned all the time, it is fair that sexual fetish is
looked down on. I used to hear my friends commenting on people who are into BDSM. Most
of them agreed that those people must be mentally problematic, and they need to see the
doctor. Disgusting, weird, psychic is just some common words to describe their expression
among those fetishes. Ignoring or accepting this interest seems to be unpopular.
However, anyone can have a sexual fetish. It can take place inside the closed bedroom of
the "bad guy" or the docile girl. It is discussed actively in the sex forum of teenagers from
16 to 23. There were some hotels opened with BDSM bedroom style to serve the need of
those who own this fetish. This is normal nowadays. In a considerate level, it is entirely rea-
sonable to help us reach the depth of sexual pleasure. We are not the ones who have the
right to judge personal lives of others. Everyone has their sex interests and experiences;
it is as well as a person's' right. Imagine you love eating rice in a bowl, and others like to eat
rice on a plate, it is simple like that. As long as sexual fetishes bring satisfaction for those
who possess them without harming anyone or anything, it is accepted. My friends' opinion,
likewise other conservative views in this society, can't stop the curiosity of those who want
to explore their inside needs.
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When a fetish is harmful
A fetish is not a disease or disorder by definition; nonetheless, it can reach that level if
it causes intense and lasting distress. According to sex expert, these fetishes and kinks
occur between someone are acceptable if they are in mutual agreement and feel happy to
do it. When it turns excessive, bizarre, and harmful to others, it becomes a problem that
needs counseling from a psychiatrist. If you are addicted to your fetish that it keeps you
from doing your job, you must consider it dangerous. For example, a physician could have
a foot fetish, and spend a significant amount of time and attention on his patients' feet.
Moreover, people with disorders might spend the entire time stay alone with the object of
attraction while they are maintaining sexual relationships with other ones.The danger of
sexual fetishes and kinks might lie in the lack of knowledge from the youngsters. As Viet-
nam is a traditional Eastern country, sexual fetishes and fantasies are against social norms
and customs. Consequently, the feeling of embarrassment and awkward to talk and ask
about fetish issue can result in potential hazards, such as the improper way to perform
safe sex.
Conclusion
It is normal to have sexual fetishes and kinks. If you portray ones, it doesn’t mean you are
weird and bizzare. Social mindset might be a thing, but don’t obsess with it to neglect your
true self. Moreover, researching thoroughly about your fetishes is a must to protect your
health while having fantastic moment with your partner(s).
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Q&A to all the girls
Q:
Hello BOLD,
I used to be a 20 virgin girl. I decided to give my current boyfriend my “first time.” I have
thought about this issue a lot, and after all considerations, I still went with the flow. The
point is, this first time which should be romantic and full of excitements, turned out to be
a nightmare for me. “My girl” was wet, but I felt no sign of pleasure. I didn’t achieve the
sexual climax as well. Especially, I had vaginal bleeding, and I know that it was the loss of vir-
ginity. I feel sad and depressed. I feel like I have lost something important. My inner self is
empty. I suddenly grew hatred towards my boyfriend, although he did nothing wrong. He is
trying to take care of me, but I am so distant to reach. What happened to me? Is it because
of my elating decision? What should I do to get rid of the existent anxieties?
(Hoa, 20 y.o, Hanoi)
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A:
Hello Hoa,
Thank you for your interest in BOLD Confession.
Regarding your question, I must say that your concern is reasonable. It is similar to many
girls’ feelings after their first time having sex. I also developed such feelings when I experi-
enced my initial time. Sex is not an alarm clock; therefore, it is unpredictable without being
able to be monitored. You might enjoy the first sexual intercourse as a tool of pleasure and
excitement, but you might see it as a source of fear and anxiety. It is hard to tell how it will
be during sex. What we always see in the movies usually is far beyond reality. I know that
many inexperienced people trust and believe in romantic scenes and sweet footages the
movies bring us, but it is not like that. I mean, it is possible that you find it painful, because
things aren’t always going easy—everything, not only your first time experience.
While the incident is different for everyone, there are a few words I hope to deliver to you.
That having sex won’t make you to be a different person. Virginity is only in definition, and
you are influenced mostly by social context. It either means you will be more mature now or
it will change you. You will remain to be a lovely girl as usual with all the good traits of your
personality. Nothing changes. The only thing changed is that you have a new experience.
At some points, it is a good thing.
That you don’t need to have an orgasm like your partner. You are inexperienced, and it
is new and fresh for you. Orgasm is the best moment during sexual intercourse; you can
achieve it once you have practiced without an anxious mind.
That it’s okay to talk about it. You can tell your boyfriend how scared and depressed you
are right now. Tell him to understand your situation. Tell him not to reach you when you are
unstable. But let him take care of you because it is the sign showing that he cares for you,
and he guarantees to do something to make you feel better. You should be proud of your-
self for having such a good and caring boyfriend like him. These detrimental feelings are
temporary. After all of them fade away, tell him what you need to build an improved sexual
activity. A conversation about this issue, at the first stage, might be embarrassed and awk-
ward; however, it contributes to a long term relationship with well-rounded understandings
from two sides.
Last but not least, it is not an elating decision. It’s worth trying to examine all or suspicions
and confusion about sex. It might not go well as you expected, but at least you tried. Leave
yourself be for a while, then try again. Be well-prepared about what might need, and do
it with consensus. If, after several times of trials, you still feel uncomfortable with sexual
intercourse, you can get rid of it. Every problem leads to proper solutions; don’t bury your-
self in negative thoughts.
The most important thing you should bear in mind is that sex is your choice. You can
choose to do it or not do it. As long as you are happy without being forced by your part-
ner, there is no problems.
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Inside the Museum of Sex
In 2002, the Museum of Sex was founded with the mission to “preserve and present the
history, evolution and cultural significance of human sexuality”. This year, with the rise of
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tacular experiences to broaden your horizon. Let’s take a look!
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