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The Devil S Inside Us: Ruwan Meepagala
The Devil S Inside Us: Ruwan Meepagala
RUWAN MEEPAGALA
D E V I
THE U S
IN S I D E
What this means: If you can embody her Animus, she will
project her deepest, most primal fantasies on to you. To
do this you must demonstrate behavior consistent with
testosterone:
Initiative - Show your interest. Initiate text threads.
Break the ice and ask her out.
Decisiveness - Make the logistical decisions
(when/what your date is)
Sexuality - Let her see that she turns you on. (This can
be done simply by noticing her hotness while you
make eye contact-- even while talking about something
totally unsexual)
Dominance - Always assume everything is okay. Don’t
take things too seriously. Don’t get butthurt. The lion
does not worry about the lambs.
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The part of me that was able to respond with “Fuck yes” was
my complementary ‘masculine’ archetype. The part of me
spewing a bunch of rational jumble was my controlling ego —
that which kept me ‘in my head’ and held me back from full
authentic expression.
Actually, the parts of us that were playing out this dark fantasy
didn’t even belong to her and me individually. They were a part
of the collective unconscious acting through us. They were
characters in an eternal psychodrama playing out their
missions.
Why Do Sexual
Archetypes Exist?
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The easiest way to relax her ego is to show that you are
paying attention to how she is feeling.
If she’s showing you weird stuff, that just means she feels
safe around your masculinity to let go.
I once met a woman whose father criticized her for having ugly
feet which caused her self-esteem issues at a young age. For
a long time she had fantasies of men penetrating her with their
toes.
It’s not that these guys wanted to actually violate, any more
than a woman actually wants to be violated. These fantasies
and impulses comes from characters within us. They are a part
of us whether we like it or not, like an allergy to peanuts or
double jointed thumbs.
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One could argue that the part of me that could say “fuck yes” to
play perpetrator in the rape fantasy, was really her animus
acting through me. And the part of her that wanted to be raped
was my anima. In another sense, these dark expressions of
anima and animus didn’t belong to either of us. They were
impersonal beings using us to fulfill their roles.
I’ve found in my
coaching practice that
men with a Madonna-
Whore complex are still
stuck in a child-like
relationship with their
mother. They rely on
mommy’s emotional
support over
developing their own
inner feminine. So it’s
hard for them to see a
woman as both loving
An unwillingness to grow up may be the cause of the and sexual.
Madonna-Whore complex in men
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A woman’s animus can also mirror the traits of her father, but
as von Franz observed, in many women “the animus appears
as a group of men… a collective rather than personal
element.”¹ Such a woman will experience her masculinity as
more general traits, rather than the specific characteristics of
her father. Hence the common fantasy of many anonymous
men, a.k.a. the gang bang.
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Dolce got in trouble for this ad representing a common animus fantasy: the gang bang.
But according to Marie-Louise von Franz, it’s actually a way female psyches separate
their own masculinity from their fathers.