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PREFACE
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Babies, for example, who are too young to love philounta) but
not too young to hate, when they are disciplined by their
mother or father, are at that moment, even though they hate
their parents then, their very dearest friends [Lysis 212e8–
213a2].
Here Plato presents love (in the mode of philia) as virtue (i.e. civic
excellence) which is perhaps not immediately apparent as innate in
human existence (though inherent in humanity by nature) but has
to be taught to turn an infant animal to a wholly formed human
being who ‘partakes’ of virtues. We can think of such love as being
potentiality present but not yet actualized. Hence, a certain devel-
opmental aspect is accentuated in such an understanding of love.
Love is thus a thing (perhaps a natural disposition) to be devel-
oped. Some Christians take this position as operative for Christian
life even in contemporary times, on account of its endorsement by
some major Christian authorities, notably St. Augustine. Thus, in
the first book of Confessions 1 Augustine gives us a lively description
of ‘evil babies’ corrupted by sin and vividly described their lust for
self-affirmation (thereby perfectly replicating Plato’s argument
which had clearly influenced him).
On the other hand love was also thought of as a gift of God.
We can find such affirmations again in Plato’s Lysis:
I think we’d better go back to where we turned off, and look
for guidance to the poets, the ancestral voices of human wis-
dom. What they say about who friends are is by no means triv-
ial: that God himself makes people friends [lovers], by drawing
them together [213e4–214a2].
Here again philia is discussed, a form of love associated with mutual
affection and loyalty by friends and family members. Yet, a devel-
opmental aspect of such a form of love is de-emphasized in the
new context; instead, the notion of gift or divine intervention (or
providential care) is accentuated. This aspect is indeed extended
throughout all modes of love. Moreover, a henotic or unitive aspect
of love is also highlighted in this section. And the theme of two
pray for those persecuting them. 5 This same element lays down the
foundation of the cosmic redemptive process that is meant to bring
the whole creation back to the very source of its being (and hence,
assumes a dominant role in soteriology).
What are the implications of such a radical conception of love
for our Christian ethos? Does not love transform the very nature of
human relationship? Does not it turn contractual marriage into the
union between husband and wife in God? Does not it assign a
deeply sacramental significance to marriage? Does it not bring
about a metamorphosis in our ordinary life in which not only the
members of the community of faith, but also these outside it, de-
serve to be ennobled as the loved ones? Christianity tends to the
affirmative on all these questions. This present book sets out to
making this complex subject both discernible and formative for the
ethos of our faith. The study includes work by world-renowned Or-
thodox scholars along with promising young Christian theologians,
historians and litterateurs of the next generation, and systematically
investigates a subject that has been excessively neglected in Ortho-
dox literature. This family of Sophia scholars who are also ‘friends
in Christ’ offer this volume as a spiritual gift to Christian communi-
ties across the world. We, the editors, deeply appreciate their ef-
forts and are proud to facilitate their appearance for the wider
academy.
Sergey Trostyanskiy
Theodore Dedon
John 13:34–35
ἀλλήλοις
5 Mt. 5.44.
FOREWORD:
THE MYSTERY OF MARRIAGE:
AN ORTHODOX REFLECTION
J.A. MCGUCKIN
The Lord revealed the essence of his special and unusual under-
standing of marriage on several occasions during his earthly minis-
try. This present reflection intends to take its lead from an exegesis
of key scriptural passages and continue into a review of central Or-
thodox Church attitudes and practice in relation to matrimony. 1
Jesus was a radical thinker on so many levels. His remarks in the
New Testament on marriage, mainly tangential in character (analo-
gies, images, fragments), equally demonstrate that radicality. He
changed the theological significance of marriage considerably from
that of the Old Testament ‘contract’ which remains the inspiration
(via Roman legislative philosophy) of civil law to this day, into
something greater than that: an entrance into a spiritual profundity
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of communion that actually mirrors the Lord’s own salvific love for
his church. The idea of contract of course (especially such an im-
portant social one as marriage) need not be necessarily opposed to
the idea of spiritual communion. Nor do we need to set up polar
opposites – as if love and law were irreconcilables. The Old Testa-
ment theologians knew well enough that at the root of the idea of
contract between God and Israel was the sacred notion of Cove-
nant (berith), which included such foundational notions as the di-
vine election of a people, the nurturing of their social progress, and
the fostering of the covenantal contract with Israel through the
Temple cult as well as through the overarching ‘divine’ virtues of
Faithfulness and Mercy (Hesed and Emet). But even so, Jesus’
change of emphasis at the outset is significant and important. His
tendency in beginning to theologize on human relations sets him at
a tangent to Old Testament legalism and makes his teaching stand
in an even sharper contrast with the presuppositions of Roman
law: both of which have their philosophy of marital relationship
steeped in the laws of possession.
When he was asked about the Mosaic law of divorce he clearly
taught the Pharisees that they were fundamentally mistaken to set
the bond of marriage in the context of contractual ‘social law’, but
should rather see it in terms of the deeper and more basic divine
covenant that God made with humankind in the creation:
And the Pharisees came up to him and tested him by asking, Is
it lawful to divorce one’s wife for any cause? He answered,
Have you not read that he who made them from the beginning
made them male and female, and said, For this reason a man
shall leave his father and mother and be joined to his wife, and
the two shall become one flesh? So they are no longer two but
one flesh. What therefore God has joined together, let not man
put apart. They said to him, Why then did Moses command
one to give a certificate of divorce, and to put her away? He
said to them, For your hardness of heart Moses allowed you to
divorce your wives, but from the beginning it was not so. 2
Over and against the economies that were necessary for society
where ‘hardness of heart’ was the common order of the day (has it
changed so much?), the Lord begins to set a new standard for his
church, which itself goes back to the more fundamental creation
covenant, which he has come to restore and repristinate in his
church. The Mosaic law of contractual divorce is made to give way
to a higher ‘law of one flesh’, in other words erotic communion.
Here, marriage is not to be seen as a prophetic-ethical institution
for the refinement of society (the matrix of so much modern Chris-
tian thought on the issue), rather as a creation-structure instituted
by God as part of the human participation in the divine energy of
his gift of life to the world. It is this aspect of participation (methex-
is) in God’s energy of creation that leads to marriage being found-
ed, in Jesus’ logion, in terms of communion (being joined into one-
ness). Orthodoxy deduces form this the premiss that it is God who
bonds a man and a woman in a mystical union that grows out of
the union of flesh. Now there are many other different types of
definition of what a marriage is: but it seems to me that this fun-
damental New Testament insight is specific to the point of unique-
ness, is counter-cultural, and surely needs to be prioritized as the
basis for the essence of ‘authentic’ Christian theology of marriage.
This kind of marriage that the Christ is talking about, is not
available off the shelf. It is not the result of a mutual passion that
wishes to set up house together and get a civilly valid piece of pa-
per to assert mutual social rights and obligations following from
the ‘engagement’. The Lord, as far as I can see, has nothing to say
about this presumption of marriage. It does not seem to interest
him. This is like a Civil Union. Now a Civil Union (by which term I
also mean to include civilly registered marriages) is very important
to society and to the partners involved, and to the families which
result. But it is not what Christ means by marriage in this Gospel
text. Nor, for that matter, is much of the modern discourse about
marriage in society always necessarily in harmony with the mind of
Christ (the phronema Christou). Anyone who has studied the scrip-
tures for even a few moments ought to realize that the Lord has
some very off-center views: not least the call to disciples to regard
marriage bonds as subservient to the demands of discipleship even
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6 Jn. 15.15.
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the Apostle calls marriage (as this core energy of the mimesis of
Christ’s deepest salvation mystery) as ‘Great Mystery’ (mega mysteri-
on). How often has this deep and magisterial teaching of the Apos-
tle been dimly rendered as an affirmation of late Roman social or-
der – in the form that wives ought to be subordinated to their hus-
bands? All too often has the Apostolic meditation on Christ’s es-
chatological mysticism been so falsified as bourgeois ethics. What
the Apostle says is that husband and wife must apply to one the
kenotic subjection of Christ, and also his lordly dominion. In his
subjection the Christ was shown to be Kyrios, Lord and Master. In
his Dominion he was shown to be Doulos: servant of all. This mu-
tuality and synonymity is set as the pattern for the Christian hus-
band and wife: in their communion they live out the mystery of the
Lord’s own redemptive ministry as both Lord and Servant.
In this way marriage becomes a ‘mystery’ as a sign or ideal
epitome of all the Christian life: that searching out of the ‘Mind of
Christ’ (phronema Christou) that seeks a kenosis in order to gain the
love and communion of the beloved. 7 The husband’s authority
(which in the ancient world was presumed to be very high and su-
perior to that of a woman) is laid at the service of the beloved, just
as his authority is laid at the feet of his Lord, Christ. But all three
partners meet equally in kenosis, and find their equality in the laying
aside of privilege by love. In a uniquely mystical way the married
couple are called to fulfill the supreme command of disciples:
‘Love one another as I have loved you.’ And this ‘as’, the way
Christ loved his Church, was to give himself without counting the
cost: the way of the martyrdom of love. It is this martyrdom-gift of
self which sets the flame to make the continued gift possible and
desirable. If this martyrdom gift is met and reciprocated the mar-
riage relation becomes a Merkavah: a fiery chariot that leads to the
kingdom. The mutual love and joy that a Christian partnership lives
from within this mystery of Christ’s Passion (for it is a mystery of
the Redemption, a sacrifice, a radical risking of the ego) reaches a
critical reactive mass, like a nuclear reaction, when it is followed to
the point of becoming a culture of self-giving within a marriage. It
is then that the marriage bond starts to function to others as a liv-
7 Phil. 2. 5–11.
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ing icon of the burning love Christ has for his church, and how
that love will be the eschatological bonding of all the disciples, in
the Kingdom of his joy.
This true and mystical definition of marriage is a peak of
Christian perfection. The reality can be assailed, and constantly is,
by the ‘hardness of heart’ that causes so much other human misery
and sin; but it is set up by Christ and his Apostle as a different or-
der to this. According to Christ’s own vision: love within the mys-
tery of marriage leads a couple to enter deep into the roots of the
creation power, and to find there the primal language of commun-
ion: the love in which God first made humanity, male and female,
in his own image. Marriage is, to that extent, an entrance of the
creature into the life of the Holy Trinity itself. In Christ, the mar-
riage mystery is graced as an authentic and whole part of creation
which is meant to encounter the Uncreated. This is undoubtedly
why Christ rebuked the Pharisees when they set out to define mar-
riage first and foremost in terms of closely boundaried contract of
mutual rights and obligations. Over and against this limited per-
spective (legal prescript which takes its basis on the premiss of hu-
man closure and self-interest, rather than altruism and sacrifice) the
Lord places the image of how God himself contracts with his crea-
tion: an overwhelmingly excessive and great outpouring of charis-
matic generosity, a search for a mutuality of love (such is the hu-
mility of God!) in which the invitation to love is an invitation to
transfigured transcendence.
The language of marital purposes, functions, contracts, obliga-
tions: has been used very heavily in times past (and in secular socie-
ty especially) to hedge around the mystery of marriage. Such terms
are not inapplicable, of course, especially considering the weighty
responsibilities to others which the marriage bond itself creates, but
they are secondary. Christ speaks of the primary mystery: all else
flows from it as deductions. Christian theology of marriage begins
in a spiritual mystery of communion that is awesome (causing
thauma in its divinely revelatory energy) in all its power and signifi-
cance. It is this alone that can breathe Christ’s joy and his life into
all the contracts the world can draw up. When the spirit of loving
communion leaves a marriage (graceful presence of that Spirit of
truth who fashions the Church constantly into the true Icon of
Christ and thereby elevates it into communion with the Trinity),
not all the paper of all the contracts in the world can keep it to-
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1 Cor. 7.38, but here St. Paul is speaking about the expectation of an im-
minent end to the world, and in this light advises his congregations not to
worry too much about wedding settlements, and to care instead for the
impending judgement. He is not giving a relative reflection on the merits
of virginity or marriage as such. The fathers who exegeted him in this way
were ascetics themselves, concerned with the glorification of the virginal
life in a Hellenistic context which broadly despised it. Now the balance
needs alteration, for often the ascetical writers give the impression that
marriage is an inferior vocation fitting only for those who are’ not able to
take up the challenges of celibacy’. Which is a deeply distorted view.
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rious and mystical is the path of married love, for those to whom
God has appeared within it. Its secrets are hidden from those with-
out. Its profundities are blessed by God with a creation ordinance
‘to be fruitful and multiply’. 14 It is an ascetical path as much as any
other – in its own terms and specific styles.
Marriage is the broad highway where most Orthodox Chris-
tians (not the specific and zealous ascetics and celibates) are called
by God. When they are so called into this mystery of mutual love,
it is to perform once more the priestly task of refining raw matter
into the purified gold of spiritual glory. In the eyes and ways of this
world marriage is a simpler less mystical contractual matter, to
mark off sexual and legal relations; something that is entirely in the
hand and at the disposal of the men and women who fashion this
bond among themselves (which is why its survival rates are so des-
perate in this day and age of increasing spiritual bankruptcy). How-
ever, in the thought processes of the church, it is not like this. Mar-
riage itself is called to become something new: a great mystery, as it
rises into the art of being the way in which two Christians form
one heart and mind with Christ as their common Lord.
‘There are many mansions in my Father’s house,’ the Lord
told his apostles; 15 marriage is the mystery by which means many of
those mansions are being fashioned out of the raw matter of histo-
ry, and through the struggle of kins and families to create a com-
mon heritage of Christian civilisation across generations. In the
Orthodox Church great stress is placed on the celebration of the
feast days of Christ’s ancestors ‘according to the flesh’. Their life-
stories, their achievements and personal histories are caught up
into something greater than they could ever have known. So it is
with the mystery of marriage: each smaller unit of the new family is
part of a greater and more complex hidden family of ancestors.
The mutual love of two Christians is part of the very spiritual and
moral formation that has been given to them by generations that
were mature before they were even born. Born out of love, they in
turn learn to love and create new love, and co-create new life. The
spiral of human history making its way forwards in a civilising
14 Gen. 1. 27–28.
15 Jn. 14.2.
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Evdokimov sounds a clear note for us:
It appears that a new spirituality is dawning. It aspires not to
leave the world to evil, but to let the spiritual element in the
creature come forth. A person who loves and is totally de-
tached, naked to the touch of the eternal, escapes the contrived
conflict between the spiritual and the material. His love of
God is humanized and becomes love for all creatures in God.
‘Everything is grace,’ Bernanos wrote, because God has de-
scended into the human and carried it away to the abyss of the
Trinity. The types of traditional holiness are characterized by
the heroic style of the desert, the monastery. By taking a cer-
tain distance from the world, this holiness is stretched toward
heaven, vertically, like the spire of a cathedral. Nowadays, the
axis of holiness has moved, drawing nearer to the world. In all
its appearances, its type is less striking, its achievement is hid-
den from the eyes of the world, but it is the result of a struggle
that is no less real. Being faithful to the call of the Lord, in the
conditions of this world, makes grace penetrate to its very
root, where human life is lived. 1
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Recently, I have explored this idea of holiness in and for our time. 2
There has been a great deal of conflict recently, about how mar-
riage should be understood in our society and about what the
church teaches from scripture and tradition. Some of this has been
occasioned by the efforts to afford the same legal status to all, by
recognizing same-sex marriage as the law does heterosexual mar-
riage. It has been seen as necessary, by some, to ‘defend’ marriage
from such efforts, yet this is hardly the only sense in which mar-
riage has been in crisis. The high rates of the breakup of marriages
by divorce, the choice by many not to marry though sharing a life
in every respect, spousal abandonment and abuse – and the list of
factors could go on.
Some in the church believe there are really no questions to
explore, nothing to discuss or debate regarding marriage. Our ver-
sion of marriage in the early 21st century is simply thought of as the
way marriage always has been. The scriptures, the church’s tradi-
tions, both in council canons and the writings of the fathers and
others present marriage unequivocably as between men and wom-
en who are in love with each other, will only have one spouse and
one marriage in their lives, and who marry for the purpose of bear-
ing children and raising them. Clearly even in the scriptures these
models of romance-based monogamy and the nuclear family are
not to be the only ones, if they are found at all. Rather we find po-
lygamy, much larger extended families that appear tribal, not to
mention rigorous rules for whom one can marry, abandonment and
the ending of marriage. Provisions are made too in the case of a
spouse’s death for inheritance of property and further support of a
parent and children. Even in the NT there is the understanding
that some members of the Christian community will be married to
individuals outside of it.
In light of all this I want to reflect on some of the distinctive
contributions of theologian Paul Evdokimov (1900–1969), one of
the émigré Russians who settled in France and was educated at the
first Orthodox theological school established in the West, St. Ser-
gius Institute in Paris. Evdokimov wrote almost exclusively in
2Michael Plekon. Hidden Holiness and Saints as They Really Are (Notre
Dame, IN: University of Notre Dame Press, 2012).
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well. Thus one hears the voices of Paul Claudel and Berdyaev, but
also DeBeauvoir, Sartre and Camus in Paul Evdokimov.
This background, I believe, will help give context to his think-
ing about marriage in our time, most of it to be found in his book,
The Sacrament of Love, although some of his essential perspectives
are to be found throughout his substantial body of work. I should
say at the outset that there are few explicit solutions in Evdo-
kimov’s work to issues that are controversial today, such as same
sex marriage or couples living together and not wanting to get mar-
ried. Given when he wrote on marriage, in the 1950s, he simply did
not address these issues. But this does not mean he has nothing to
offer us today. I believe he does make a valuable contribution, a
way of thinking about marriage as well as monasticism as vocation.
On the basis of his careful look at the history of marriage in the
church, he was critical about the shape and details of marriage be-
ing held up as ideal in the 20th century, this over against the evolu-
tion of marriage from the ancient world, from Judaism, the Greco-
Roman and other traditions and then the emerging church of the
early centuries.
In The Sacrament of Love and other texts, Evdokimov looks
carefully at both history and church tradition. He examines a host
of images of marriage and sexuality, purity and corruption from
classical antiquity, the Hebrew Bible, the New Testament and later
Christian culture and writers. He traces and identifies over time a
distortion of the scriptural vision of women and men, sexual union
and love. From the original beauty and goodness of creation, the
effects of the fall came to distort everything about the body, about
sexuality and relationships. There were classical roots for this in
Hellenic and Gnostic repulsion from the body’s temporal, fallible,
corruptible nature but also later in Christian ascetical perspectives.
These came to see anything having to do with the flesh as contrary
to holiness, as dirty and corrupting. Even within marriage, the sex-
ual expression of spouses was seen as a necessary evil for what be-
came the primary purpose of marriage, namely procreation.
Evdokimov’s view of marriage is rooted in the anthropology
he uses throughout his writings. Marriage is a profoundly beautiful
human relationship, a gift of God and of immense worth in itself.
Marriage is connected by the Hebrew prophets to God’s covenant
or marriage to God’s people. Thus the intense human eroticism of
the Song of Songs celebrates the erotic union of lovers while at the
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same time imaging the love of the Lord for Israel. One of the most
beautiful passages containing the anthropology of the human per-
son comes from The Sacrament of Love. The human person is a child
of God, created in God’s image and likeness. Each is par excellence
a ‘liturgical being.’
A saint is not a superman, but one who discovers and lives his
truth as a liturgical being. The best definition of a person
comes from the liturgy: the human being is the one of the
Trisagion and of the Sanctus (‘I will sing to the Lord as long as I
live’) … It is not enough to say prayers; one must become, be
prayer, prayer incarnate. It is not enough to have moments of
praise. All of life, each act, every gesture, even the smile of the
human face, must become a hymn of adoration, an offering, a
prayer. One should offer not what one has, but what one is.
This is a favored subject in iconography. It translates the mes-
sage of the Gospel: chairé, ‘rejoice and be glad,’ ‘let everything
that has breath praise the Lord.’ This is the astonishing lighten-
ing of the weight of the world, when man’s own heaviness
vanishes. ‘The King of Kings, Christ is coming,’ and this is the
‘one thing needful.’ The doxology of the Lord’s Prayer (‘the
kingdom, and the power and the glory’) is the heart of the lit-
urgy. It is to respond to his vocation as a liturgical being that
man is charismatic, the one who bears the gifts of the Holy
Spirit and the Holy Spirit Himself: ‘You have been sealed with
the Holy Spirit … you whom God has taken for His own, to
make His glory praised’ (Eph 1:14) … The best evangelization of
the world, the most effective witness to the Christian faith, is
this full liturgical hymn, the doxology which rises from the
depths of the earth, in which moves the powerful breath of the
Paraclete who alone converts and heals. 5
There is no theological abstraction here. The focus is on the lived
experience of prayer – of each of us becoming prayer, becoming
what we pray. Faith is incarnate in a person’s action, enacted in
living. Everything that Evdokimov has to say about marriage is set
in the context of vocation – the call through baptism for every
6 Ibid., 67.
7 Ibid., 70–71.
8 Ibid., 74–76.
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9 Ibid., 77.
10 Ibid., 80–82.
11 Ibid., 83–84.
12 Ibid., 85–86.
13 Nicholas Afanasiev. The Church of the Holy Spirit, Vitaly Permiakov,
work, The Church of the Holy Spirit, offers a thorough historical ar-
gument as well as a theological case for the grounding of all voca-
tions in the ecclesial community created by baptism and constantly
affirmed in the Eucharist.
So for Evdokimov, marriage is the vocation to holiness in the
relationship of love between the spouses. Marriage is personal but
also ecclesial, for marriage is an image of the relationship of Christ
to the church and of each soul with God. Moving from Christian
history to the present, Evdokimov connects the vocations of all,
married or not or monastic to new patterns and ways of holiness in
our time, as the opening passage I cited claims. The ways of holi-
ness for us are ones ‘drawing nearer to the world. In all its appear-
ances, its type is less striking, its achievement is hidden from the
eyes of the world, but it is the result of a struggle that is no less
real.’ 14 Christendom, Constantinian or otherwise is long gone. Yet
some still yearn for this alliance of church and state, and in some
places, like Russia, the vision of Russkiy mir or ‘the Russian world,’
attempts to recreate the symbiosis of state, church and people. Like
his colleagues in the ‘Paris School,’ Evdokimov did not see our
world as a secular wasteland, a godless jungle of promiscuity and
corruption. Unlike those in the ‘culture wars,’ he points to the di-
verse and more ordinary forms of holiness that the Spirit is giving
to our era. Christianity may no longer be the social, political and
economic agent it once was, but in the lives of Christians the world
is taken into communion with the Holy Trinity. The world de-
pends, he says, on the cosmic love of saints. 15
The forms of social life undergo rapid and unforeseen changes;
by contrast, the religious action of every believer possesses a
great stability. One can become attentive to the designs of God
in the prodigious progress of science and technology … bring
together those who are lonely and create living communities of
witnesses … kindle the spirit of adoration and make a prayer
16 Ibid., 101.
17 Ibid., 101–102.
18 Ibid., 115–117.
19 Ibid., 118.
20 Ibid., 120
21 Ibid., 123.
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and life, fire and healing, opens the kingdom to the world and the
world to the kingdom. 22 While the typology of male and female in
The Sacrament of Love as well as in Woman and the Salvation of the
World now appears forced and problematic, it does not ultimately
devalue the vision of love and the understanding of marriage in
Evdokimov’s writing. (In a communication from his now deceased
second wife, Tomoko Faerber-Evdokimov, I learned that Paul Ev-
dokimov had very much wanted to revise both of these books’
treatment of the charisms and types of women and men. His sud-
den death in 1969 had prevented this.)
Evdokimov displays not only a healthy sense of ‘economy’ but
a profoundly humane and pastoral compassion in his treatment of
the misogyny of Paul and later ecclesial devaluation of sex and mar-
riage. 23 The encroachment of Greek repulsion for the flesh and
monastic/ascetic obsession with its corrupting force are simply not
supported by the scriptures and I the fullness of time, the Incarna-
tion of God. The influence not only of Solovyov but of his own
teacher, Sergius Bulgakov, is to be found here. By the Incarnation,
the ‘humanity of God’ changes everything not only for us crea-
tures, we humans, but for God as well. For an ascetic and celibate
such as John Chrysostom, spouses are not inferior to monastics
and can even manifest greater holiness than their monastic sisters
and brothers. 24 The canons recognize both marriage and monasti-
cism as honorable paths to holiness. 25
Finally, Evdokimov gives a discerning overview of modern
culture, literature and other depictions of sexuality. While critical of
the glorification of sex, he is careful to see both promiscuity and
Puritanism as dehumanizing. Though his depiction of the culture
of sexuality will appear dated in several ways, what is insightful is
his nuanced understanding and use of Freud and Jung, along with
Dostoevsky and others to separate what is destructive from what is
good and beautiful and human. It is not eros, not sexuality, not the
22 Ibid., 125.
23 Ibid., 161–164.
24 Ibid., 164.
25 Ibid., 162–163.
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body that are problematic, rather how we use or abuse these inte-
gral aspects of our being and identity.
The same humane, pastoral perspective informs Evdokimov’s
observations on contraception and divorce. In the Eastern Church,
there is no absolute prohibition to the former. Rather it is a matter
of freedom – that of the spouses and their spiritual father, their
circumstances, their abilities. Divorce, always a tragedy, is not
simply ‘allowed’ by the Eastern Church. Rather, the leading princi-
ple is to work for the good of the individual, of each of the spouses
whose marriage as been destroyed. 26 Evdokimov urges us to recog-
nize the mystery of the ‘yes’ pronounced and then lived out in a
marriage. There are real incompatibilities only discovered in time.
There are people who are ‘mis-loved’ as well as not-loved, abused,
betrayed, abandoned without leaving the premises. Indissolubility
cannot have primacy over the good of the spouses, over love. Di-
vorce in the Eastern Church is not simply license to terminate mar-
riage and enter a new one. In principle the process of divorce must
be as serious as the marriage, the tragedy and sin of the destruction
appreciated. In the New Testament there is a radical inversion of
social and cultural norms – the last become first, the poor are fed
and the mighty cast down, the tax collectors and prostitutes are
first into the kingdom! So much for nice romantic, middle class or
even ‘religious’ models of behavior.
Paul Evdokimov offers us no convenient solution of issues
that are controversial, that divide us regarding marriage or for that
matter, sexuality, contraception, same-sex marriage. This was noted
at the outset. Yet what he offers is a different view of marriage,
love and sex from the ones we often find in church thinking. He
clearly takes scripture seriously and as primary. He consults the
tradition with great discernment, using celibates to praise and sup-
port marriage while viewing monasticism as having its own distinc-
tive charism and place. He is careful not to privilege any state or
vocation, recognizing the potential in every human life for holiness.
He is never a moralist, both due to the Eastern Church’s non-
legalistic approach to ethics as well as to the personalism he learned
from Berdyaev as well as many other contemporaries.
26 Ibid., 186–190.
PAUL EVDOKIMOV’S VISION OF MARRIAGE 13
Michael Plekon & Alexis Vinogradov, eds. & trans. (Crestwood, NY: St.
Vladimir’s Seminary Press, 2001), 59.
14 MICHAEL PLEKON
JEFFREY B. PETTIS
INTRODUCTION
I should like to begin a discussion on love, marriage, and family in
the New Testament by starting at the front of the New Testament
with the Gospel of Matthew. In like order, I will end discussion at
the back with the Book of Revelation. Between these two
bookends I will examine the notion of spiritual rising as a funda-
mental and expanding context through which love, marriage, and
family can be read and seen to transform from the literal to the
mystical. Specifically, I divide my talk into five parts. Part one exam-
ines love, marriage, and family at the flesh and blood level, what I
refer to as the root level, beginning with the genealogy of the Gos-
pel of Matthew, and moving to the birth narrative of Jesus and the
figure of Joseph. Part two considers further the birth narrative of
Jesus in Matthew, taking note how the dreams which happen to
Joseph integrate into story narrative the element of spiritual tran-
scendence. Here I will also draw from the story of the dreamer Jo-
seph of Genesis as the precursor to Joseph betrothed to Mary. Part
three explores the notion of disembodiment as a consequence to
what I see to be a preoccupation with spiritual transformation in
the stories around family in Matthew in relation to Genesis (one
cannot be experienced and read without the other). This section
includes a consideration of the meanings of ‘love’ used by New
Testament writers and how physical love, eros, finds no place. Part
four focuses upon Paul who as one possessed and taken up by the
God understands love, marriage, and family in the same way. Paul
actually refers to himself as aggelon theou (‘an angel of god’), and in
15
16 JEFFREY B. PETTIS
rectly result. Family becomes renewed and restored. Joseph and his
brothers and father will be reunited. Mary and the child and the
father will be a family after all. Marriages are made. Children are
born and given names. Dreams appear in large ways and regenera-
tion involves something powerful and impressionable: Joseph
transforms through his dreaming and earth pit journey from a tat-
tling child to a governor of Egypt and mediator of his family. Jo-
seph of the Gospel of Matthew is betrothed to Mary and through
his dreaming becomes a significant medium and enabler of the
family’s survival and well-being, this ensuring the life of the child,
the life of the people. The mixture of the high and the low, of
dreams and flesh and blood yields the potent life-giving creation.
field and the diggers of graves along with the keepers of the prisons
do not rise. They are too heavy, it seems, too enfleshed to have
fluidity. Spirit and dreams seem not able to penetrate them, and in
the story they are left behind for what must become a larger re-
demption.
The Joseph of Matthew takes on the same bodiless quality.
Even with all the narrative spotlight he receives, Joseph lacks phys-
ical substance. He is spoken to by the angel but he himself says
little, and when the angel tells him to do something, he does exactly
what he is told to do. An example of faith, Joseph at the same time
seems to have no voice or weight of his own. Has he become
claimed/possessed by the god, somehow void of the ability or de-
sire to engage? After the birth narrative Joseph will then disappear
as if to blend into thin air.
The notion of spiritual disembodiment also occurs in the
Gospel of Matthew in relation to Mary, Jesus’ mother. Her figure
in the story is anemic. It has little narrative substance. The author
mentions her by name a couple of times, and says nothing more. I
should like to know more. What does she have to say about her
pregnancy? What kind of emotion does she experience with regard
to the conception which has happened in her body? Fortunately we
have the author of the Gospel of Luke, written for a much differ-
ent audience, who steps in, so to speak, to embody Mary as the
pregnant virgin Theotokos who manifests just what she thinks and
how she feels in the words she says and the songs she sings.
There is also the absence of any statement of love between
the couple in the story. The text says that they are betrothed, but
nothing more. It may be, as often was the case, that the relation-
ship was understood by hearers to be pre-arranged. In fact, there is
no reference to flesh and blood love – eros – in the Gospel of Mat-
thew or anywhere else in the New Testament. The word eros is not
used by the New Testament writers, unlike the Jewish Scriptures
which do refer to physical love, ahb, although not always in a posi-
tive way. In Genesis, Sheckhem the Prince is drawn to Dinah the
daughter of Jacob. Sheckhem ‘loved and spoke tenderly to the
maiden’ but only after he seized her and lay with her and humbled
her’ (34.2–3). There is also Amnon the son of David who with
force made love to Tamar his sister (2 Sam. 13.14–15). Passion also
marks the book of Hosea, where love and marriage are connected
to the faithlessness of Israel who chases after other gods.
LOVE, MARRIAGE, AND FAMILY IN THE NEW TESTAMENT 21
In the New Testament the words agape and philia are used to
connote love. Philia references friendship. Agape has the meaning
of warm affection and regard for another person. This is the more
profound love in its connection with sacrifice and the divine.
Agape is what Paul refers to as the greater of the three Christian
pillars faith, hope and love (1Cor. 13.13), and in the Gospel of
Mark 12.30–31 Jesus instructs followers to love (agapeseis) your
Lord God with all of your heart, soul, mind, and strength, and your
neighbor as yourself. In Ephesians 5.25 the author says that hus-
bands are to agapate their wives as Christ loved the church and gave
himself up for her (cf. Col. 3.18–21). The text goes on to tell hus-
bands to love their wives as they love their own bodies, and the
two male and female to become one flesh (Eph. 5.31; Gen. 2.24).
The stress here lies on monogamy, something which is not neces-
sarily practiced by the Jewish patriarchs. 2 In Ephesians the author
also says that this joining of husband and wife occurs as a mysterion
mega, ‘great mystery’ and that it refers to Christ and the church
(5.32). It is as if the author wants to make sure or cannot help but
to keep language high and away from the primal instinctive in hu-
man relationship. Words like cleansing and washing (5.26) and be-
ing spotless (5.27) tilt marriage imagery heavenward toward the
purer realms away from the physical realm and always in the con-
text of the divine and godliness. For these authors love, marriage
and family are patterned after Christ’s marriage to the church. They
are cast in mystical terms. See how far and quickly we have come
from the flesh and blood relationships of Matthew’s genealogy.
In the narrative which follows the conception of Jesus in Mat-
thew, the family seems to have less and less grounding and more
and more transcendence in the wake of dreams and angels and di-
vine instructions. Like Joseph of Genesis this Joseph of the first
Gospel along with his family become hard to hold down. They
pheuge, ‘take flight’ into Egypt (2.13). Additional dreams and angel
appearances will come to Joseph to tell him in exact instructions
2Jacob, for example, is given both Leah and Rachel for wives (Gen.
29.15–30). The patriarchs also take concubines when a wife has difficulty
conceiving. Consider Hagar the Egyptian maid given by Sarah to her hus-
band Abram and bears him Ishmael (Gen. 16.1–16).
22 JEFFREY B. PETTIS
me … I will show him how much he must suffer for the sake of my
name’ (Acts 9.15–16).
LOVE, MARRIAGE, AND FAMILY IN THE NEW TESTAMENT 23
5 ‘But whatever gain I had, I counted as loss for the sake of Christ.
Indeed I count everything as loss because of the surpassing worth of
knowing Christ Jesus my Lord’ (Phil. 3.7–8).
6 Gal. 4.14. There is then the blurring, if not breakdown, of bounda-
ry between human and divine. To me this makes Paul and his appeal irre-
sistible before the Gentiles and the Hellenistic world. Like Paul, the pagan
world inclined toward seeing the god as being viable, present, and embod-
ied. Athena is seen and worshiped through her statue residing in the tem-
ple, and emperors are perceived by the populace to be gods incarnate. See
‘Seeing the God in the Greco-Roman World’ in Seeing the God: Ways of
Envisioning the Divine in Ancient Mediterranean Religion, Jeffrey B. Pettis ed.
(Piscataway, NJ: Gorgias Press, 2013), 19–41.
7 Alan Segal, Life After Death: A History of the Afterlife in the Religions of
11 ‘I desire then that in every place the men should pray, lifting holy
hands without anger or quarreling; also that women should adorn them-
selves modestly and sensibly in seemly apparel, not with braided hair or
gold or pearls or costly attire but by good deeds, as befits women who
profess religion. Let a woman learn in silence with all submissiveness. I
permit no woman to teach or to have authority over men; she is to keep
silent. For Adam was formed first, then Eve; and Adam was not deceived,
but the woman was deceived and became a transgressor. Yet woman will
be saved through bearing children, if she continues in faith and love and
holiness, with modesty’ (1 Tim. 2.8–15); ‘Wives, be subject to your hus-
bands, as is fitting in the Lord. Husbands, love your wives, and do not be
harsh with them. Children, obey your parents in everything, for this pleas-
es the Lord. Fathers, do not provoke your children, lest they become dis-
couraged. Slaves, obey in everything those who are your earthly masters,
not with eye service, as men-pleasers, but in singleness of heart, fearing
the Lord. Whatever your task, work heartily, as serving the Lord and not
men, knowing that from the Lord you will receive the inheritance as your
reward; you are serving the Lord Christ. For the wrongdoer will be paid
back for the wrong he has done, and there is no partiality’ (Col. 3.18–25).
See also Eph. 5.21–6.9; Titus 2.1–10; 1 Pt. 2.18–3.7.
26 JEFFREY B. PETTIS
and family on the other hand raises questions. Just how permanent
did writers of these household codes see the prescripts to be? Do
codes of marriage and family occur merely as a temporary holding
pattern, a fixation in the wake of Jewish-apocalyptic anticipations
of the end-time? On the other hand, do these clear definitions
about marriage relations reveal a necessary releasing from the no-
tion of eschaton (Jesus still has yet to return) and the subsequent
demand for becoming grounded to survive within and as part of
the literal Roman world? Ancient sources relate just how difficult it
can be for a family to exist in this world. One epitaph of a woman
married at age 11 reads:
Here I lie, a matron named Veturia. My father was Veturius.
My husband was Fortunatus. I lived for twenty-seven years,
and I was married for sixteen years to the same man. After I
gave birth to six children, only one of whom is still alive, I
died. 12
In the world of the New Testament about 1/3 of infants died be-
fore reaching 28 months, and ½ before 8 years died to epidemic
and famine. Few people knew both grandparents. 13 Babies were
routinely exposed, and women often died in childbirth. The house-
hold codes, it seems to me, provide rather definitive values and
practices in order to assure love, marriage and family in a harsh
world where the odds for survival, let alone longevity, are less fa-
vorably than ours today. They are a reminder that the New Testa-
ment books and letters were written not for you and me but for the
people and immediate circumstances of those who wrote them.
Regardless, the household codes by their very nature empha-
sized and confirmed love, marriage, and family amidst an increasing
early Christian preoccupation with the ascetic lifestyle. By the sec-
ond and third centuries some heretical groups said that marriage
17 Cf. Mt. 15.1–12 the Parable of the Ten Virgins (deka parthenois).
18 E.R. Dodds, Pagan and Christian in an Age of Anxiety: Some Aspects of
Religious Experience from Marcus Aurelius to Constantine. Cambridge: Cam-
bridge University Press; Reprint edition, 1991, 14.
LOVE, MARRIAGE, AND FAMILY IN THE NEW TESTAMENT 29
where within this matrix of human desire that love, family and mar-
riage finds its Christian meanings.
THE SACRAMENT OF MARRIAGE AND
UNION WITH GOD
31
32 BRUCE BECK
work life, and that I was terribly wrong to expect that our marriage
could stay intact (without nourishment or honor) while all my ef-
forts and focus went on outside of the home with my professional
obligations at the high tech firm that I managed. I had let every-
thing else but her be in focus, so that when her birthday came, it
was as if I could no longer see her, the person whom God had
joined to me as ‘bone of my bone, and flesh of my flesh.’ I knew in
my bones then that I was in deep trouble, and that nothing short of
God Himself could get me out this pit into which I dug myself.
With God’s help, and my wife’s mercy, we were led through
this dark time together, but I am still humbled daily by marriage
and raising children; it is the hardest, and by far the best, thing I do.
From this turning point seven years ago, I realized firstly that mar-
riage was not just a natural phenomenon between a man and a
woman who loved each other, but rather was dependent on God to
transform it. I realized second, that I did not know the first thing
about Orthodox marriage, and that I needed to learn what its icon
looked like, by reading whatever I could lay my hands on. And
thirdly, I am still learning that marriage is not a private, family af-
fair, blessed by the church, but rather it is mystically caught up in a
sacramental essence of being the Body of Christ, and is itself the
address at which we daily work out our salvation ‘with fear and
trembling.’
My remarks today will touch on a few of these aspects of what
marriage actually is within the Orthodox faith, that ‘mystery’ which
is Christ and His Church. I will also try to provide images and
theological vocabulary from our Tradition for how our relationship
with our spouse is related to our life in Christ and in His Body the
Church. I hope, as fellow travelers, these remarks will be of help to
some of you as well.
MARRIAGE AS A SACRAMENT
The starting point for talking about Orthodox marriage is to high-
light the fact that it is a Sacrament of the Church. But one could
ask, why, of all the various ‘states’ of human life, is marriage singled
THE SACRAMENT OF MARRIAGE 33
kimov, Ibid.
THE SACRAMENT OF MARRIAGE 35
the need to add that last part? Why can’t I simply take care of the
dishes silently, and why should I care whether she even notices that
they have been taken care of? Is our service not to be done ‘as to
Christ,’ and not to put points on the board? This is the ‘stuff’ of
marriage to which I am referring. I hope for at least some of you
that this is sounding somewhat familiar. For it is my belief that it’s
not so much in the big decisions or blow out arguments where we
are tested, but it is in every encounter with our spouse, every deci-
sion contemplated, every task done, every word spoken.
Fr. Alkiviades Calivas, a beloved professor emeritus of Litur-
gical Theology at Holy Cross Seminary, addressed head on this di-
lemma about living out the sacramental life of marriage in our daily
lives. He wrote in his article ‘The Sacrament of Love and Com-
munion;’ that this lofty vision of marriage could rightly be discard-
ed as unattainable ‘were it not for our faith that Christians are a
new creation, … and are called to manifest the fruits of the Spirit
… Marriage in the Lord cannot be viewed or understood apart
from the new life in Christ. The nuptial union, like the whole of the
Christian life, is placed into the realm of grace, into that power
which flows from God and his Kingdom.’ 13 Thus marriage as a
sacrament manifests the new reality of the grace filled new creation,
giving us a vision of what we are to be in the Kingdom, and yet
daily we find that we must offer our will to God, and ask for the
indwelling of the Holy Spirit, in order for our new nature to be in
fleshed. In other words, the grace imparted in the sacrament of
marriage participates in the same mysterious dynamics and effort
on our part as our entire Christian lives, what we sometimes refer
to as Theosis. In marriage, though, the location of where we work
out our salvation with fear and trembling is now known, it is in the
face of our God-joined spouse.
A LITTLE CHURCH
I think we can begin by rediscovering what St. John Chrysostom
meant when he called the home ‘the little church.’ 14 While this
phrase is frequently quoted recently as more attention has been
given to the home and the family within our archdiocese, it is im-
portant for our purposes here to understand what this phrase
‘small church’ meant within the specific context of Homily XX on
Ephesians. St. John is not talking about bringing the prayers and
icons of the church into the home, thus making it into a ‘miniature
version’ of the ‘big church;’ nor is he talking specifically about
Christian formation of our children in the home; (although he does
use a similar expression in other contexts to express such a con-
cept). Here the ‘little church’ is not cast in the position of being
derived from the big church, but rather this ‘little church’ signifies
the ‘first church’ or the ‘priority one’ church; for immediately prior
to his comment about the small church, St. John states, ‘If we thus
regulate our own houses, we shall be also fit for the management
of the Church.’ 15 That is, first be faithful at home, then be involved
in ministry at the church. The meaning here of the word ‘little’
means ‘first things first’, in the same way as it does in the saying of
Jesus about the talents distributed to the three servants by their
sible for us by becoming good husbands and wives, to surpass all others.’
THE SACRAMENT OF MARRIAGE 41
master (Mat 25:14–30). Here, as you know, the master, upon find-
ing that the first servant made use of the 5 talents and doubled it to
10, pronounced his approval saying ‘Well done, good and trustwor-
thy slave; you have been trustworthy in a few things, I will put you
in charge of many things; enter into the joy of your master.' Like-
wise, we find in I Timothy 3 Paul’s instructions for the qualifica-
tions for an overseer in the Church; that he must also ‘manage his
own household well, keeping his children submissive and respectful
in every way – for if someone does not know how to manage his
own household, how can he take care of God's church? (I Tim 3:4–
5).’ 16 The implications of this understanding of our homes and
married relationship are quite significant if we let them sink in. Not
only is our home-life related to our churchly and spiritual life, but it
is the primary location where we work out our salvation with fear
and trembling. We will look now at how Christ becomes present in
our homes and transforms our marriages well after the rite of mar-
riage is celebrated.
these three sources. 1) rejoice o Isaiah – 9th ode, irmos in 1st plagal tone of
the Thursday matins service; 2) martyrs – apostichon from Monday vespers,
grave tone; 3) glory – apostichon from Sunday vespers, grave tone.
20 Homily 9 on I Tim 3:1.
21 The common thread that unites Sts. Helen and Constantine with
St. Prokopios seems to be the cross of Christ. Both Prokopios and Con-
stantine witnessed an epiphany of the divine cross.
THE SACRAMENT OF MARRIAGE 43
ing chosen for the marriage ceremony; just prior to his being
named in the dismissal prayer, the priest prays that God will grant
to the couple progress in life and faith.
CONCLUSION
In conclusion, we can’t even begin to explore the depths and ex-
panse of God’s tender mercies towards us, especially his conde-
scension towards us in the incarnation of Christ through the The-
otokos, his suffering, death, and resurrection bestowing life to us
who were in the tombs. We stand in awe as we witness his love for
THEODOR DAMIAN
Values are at the foundation of every choice, attitude and action.
Whether they are material or spiritual, relative or absolute, local or
universal or of any other kind and category, values create a mentali-
ty and a way of being in the world. Besides religion, the family rep-
resents one of the most important values people held in the course
of human history and civilization. Marriage is the stepping stone
for the constitution of the family. In this paper I will explore the
issue of marriage and family in both traditional and modern terms,
with no intention to cover every aspect, and having in mind in par-
ticular the way family and marriage evolved from tradition to mo-
dernity in the Christian civilization.
PRELIMINARIES ON MARRIAGE
Man is a walking mystery, the universe is a mystery, everything is a
mystery, including God’s intervention in the life of the created or-
der. Out of love for His creation and for man’s salvation God or-
ganizes man’s spiritual life in particular, in mysterious ways, yet
concretely and visibly, sometimes instituting structures to be used
like steps to be taken so that man can more easily and more secure-
ly advance on the way to salvation. According to the Orthodox
Tradition these structures are the holy sacraments instituted by Je-
sus Christ and practiced in the Church. One of them is the sacra-
ment of marriage, or matrimony.
According to a simple, classical definition, the sacrament, the-
ologically speaking, is the visible action through which the invisible
divine grace is transmitted to those who are receiving it.
45
46 THEODOR DAMIAN
(http://www.eromance.com/relationships/breaking-up-103.html)
50 THEODOR DAMIAN
(www.census.gov/hhes/socdemo/marriage/date/census/index.html), pp.
1–2. October 2003.
12 Soulen R.K. ‘Cruising Toward Bethlehem: Human Dignity and the
New Eugenics.’ God and Human Dignity. R. Kendall Soulen and Linda
Woodhead (editors). William B. Eerdmans. (Grand Rapids, MI: William
B. Eerdmans, 2006), p. 110.
TRADITIONAL VALUES – MODERN REALITIES 51
embryos to make sure that their offspring are healthy, strong and
gifted (whereas the old eugenics implied coercion and racism). 13
This is how bio-ethicist John Harris argues in favor of the new eu-
genics: ‘either such traits as hair color eye color, gender and the like
are important, or they are not. If they are not important, why not
let people choose? And if they are important, can it be right to
leave such important matters to chance?’ 14
Of course these matters are not as simple. There are those
who warn against many negative implications and consequences of
these technologies. According to some, sex selection leads to gen-
der inequality and discrimination against women. 15 Elaine L. Gra-
ham for example believes that genetic engineering and determinism
leads to the commodification or instrumentalization of human life,
which amounts ultimately to dehumanization, 16 and R. Kendal Sou-
len raises a Christian objection to the new eugenics that relates to
human dignity and God’s creation. New eugenics basically pro-
motes preference for some human beings over other human be-
ings, he writes. That goes against the ethical principle of equality
for all human beings in terms of right to life and to human digni-
ty. 17
This tendency towards a kind of hyper-humanism, theologi-
cally speaking, may well be considered a form of idolatry where the
human being, finite creation, is raised to the level of ultimate reali-
ty, and hence the ontological confusion between the fabricated and
the ineffable. 18
(http://prbblog.org/index.php/2012/10/16/sex-selection-further-
devalues-women).
16 Graham E.L. ‘The End of the Human or the End of the Human?
PRELIMINARIES ON FAMILY
As Arlene and Jerome Skolnick acknowledge, family issues are
rooted in strong moral and religious beliefs. 20 However not only
family issues, but also the very idea of family, to begin with, is a
religious construct and consequently has a moral character. Ac-
cording to Orthodox Christian theology the concept of family is
rooted in the doctrine of the Trinity. Paternity or maternity and
filiation indicate a type of relationship implicit in the family that no
other type of relationship indicates.
The perichoretical love amongst the persons of the Holy Trinity
represents the supreme model for the ideal family which is meant
to be cradle of love and holiness.
William J. Goode writes that ‘the family is the only social insti-
tution other than religion that is formally developed in all socie-
ties’. 21 This kind of stability is what makes family powerful, yet this
power is derived from the religion that consecrates family as the
basic social unit that makes the society grow, last, and last healthily.
The power of family comes from its sacramental character as the
sacred has always been, in all societies, on the top of their hierarchy
of values. Even today in some very secularized societies, where
religion was moved from the center to the periphery, the most
fundamental moral values, in principle preached by religion and
embedded in cultural norms, traditions and habits, remain essential
for social growth and survival, despite or besides many kinds of
deviations.
Current Population Reports, series P23, Nr. 162, Studies in Marriage and the
Family, U.S. Government Printing Office. Washington, DC. 1989. p. 1.
31 Frolick L. ‘Why Do People Divorce?’
(http://www.divorcemag.com/c/s3/?relationships/whydivorce).
32 Frolick L. ‘Why Do People Divorce?’
TRADITIONAL VALUES – MODERN REALITIES 55
33 Kneip Th. and Bauer G. ‘Did Unilateral Divorce Laws Raise Di-
vorce Rates in Western Europe?’ Journal of Marriage and Family, 71, No. 3
(2009): pp. 592–595.
34 Kneip Th. and Bauer G. ‘Did Unilateral Divorce Laws…’ p. 592.
56 THEODOR DAMIAN
term or long term, with another person outside the family, but does
not reject the spouse, that is not adultery, and seemingly is accepta-
ble. And this is exactly how, in general, adultery is viewed today.
Almost everybody knows of somebody who has an extra-marital
affair, but nobody cares. One has to be in a high status position for
a social fall to result from a case of adultery.
The liberalization of abortion in the Western world is also a
factor that greatly affects and changes the landscape of the tradi-
tional family today, both in terms of laws and in terms of people’s
attitude, 37 R. Kendall Soulen observes.
The breakdown of the family is not a singular phenomenon in
modern world. In his book Coming Apart: The State of White
America, 1960–2010, Charles Murray places it in the larger context
of the decay of the American culture. He indicates that today ‘for
the first time more mothers below the age of 30 are unmarried than
married’. 38
This is a real problem, in particular for the poor where the fa-
ther is either absent or unemployed or a drug addict or has a crimi-
nal record, in which case he does not take responsibilities in the
family and is not a good model for the children who, in such a situ-
ation, have many chances to follow in the father’s footsteps. 39
One widespread practice, which is part of the change of the
traditional family, is cohabitation. According to Rebeca L. Melton,
the terms ‘alternative family’ or ‘non-traditional family’ refer to
people living in ‘arrangements other than the traditional one for
married couples with their own children’, basically ‘known as do-
mestic partners or cohabitants’. 40 The transition from cohabitation
to marriage between gay and lesbian people and their right to adopt
and raise children or have them through in vitro fertilization and
other bio-engineering technologies also greatly changes the way
family used to be understood.
New York Times, vol. CLXII, Nr. 55.971, Friday, November 20, 2012, p.
A4.
44 Green P. ‘Under One Roof…’. Ibid.
TRADITIONAL VALUES – MODERN REALITIES 59
positive trend are evident. This is how Green sees the changing
shape of the American family: ‘boomer couples with boomerang
children and aging parents, an increasingly multi-ethnic population
with a tradition of housing three generations under one roof and
even singles who may need to double up with siblings or friends in
this fraught economic climate.’ 45
This kind of family is the place, in both the physical and the
spiritual sense of the term, where everybody is taken care of. Elder-
ly people will not need to be sent to nursing homes and be left
there in strangers’ care, longing for a phone call or visit by their
busy children and grandchildren; the young married who work will
have who to leave their children with, so they be not raised by
strangers; and the children themselves will grow in an atmosphere
of love and care and in a place where family values are transmitted
from one generation to another. This context will provide stability
and continuity 46 and inner health, and this is where personal and
civic virtues such as respect, warmth, love, mutual help, commun-
ion and compassion grow and bring fruit.
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Nearly 25 years ago, Peter Brown remarked that the theology of
sexual desire Augustine developed in the last twelve years of his life
marked the beginning of a continental drift between eastern and
western Christianity. 1 This paper takes a closer look at that drift by
seeing how Augustine’s views on sex compare with that of a foun-
dational figure for eastern Christianity: St. Gregory of Nyssa. My
intent is, in a way, ecumenical. I hope to contribute to healing the
fissure Brown described by destabilizing anachronistic judgments
about both figures’ sexual ‘prudishness.’ In particular, because Or-
thodox scholars have had a tendency to dismiss Augustine as nom-
inal or treat him as a heretic, I want to show that his view of sex,
owing to a complex understanding of the divided will, is in some
ways more positive than many are apt to give him credit for. 2
1 See Peter Brown, ‘Sexuality and Society in the Fifth Century A.D.’
Tria Corda (Como: Edizioni, 1983), 70.
2 Oft-cited examples of Orthodox treatments of Augustine include
John S. Romanides The Ancestral Sin: A Comparative Study of the Sin of Our
Ancestors Adam and Eve (Ridgewood, NJ: Zephyr, 2002). Christos Yanna-
ras, Orthodoxy and the West: Hellenic Self-Identity in the Modern Age. Edited by
Norman Russell. (Brookline, MA: Holy Cross, 2006), 33–34. Fr. Seraphim
Rose acknowledges the marginal status of Augustine in some Orthodox
circles in his apologia for the good bishop, The Place of Blessed Augustine in the
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tine’s polemical writings tend to reinforce the stereotypes one has about
him, and second, his views on sex, so far as I can tell, remained relatively
stable, even during his polemical period. Thus, to treat the controversy
with Julian, in the third place, would require providing a great deal of con-
text which would be superfluous to my argument.
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create Adam and Eve male and female, and thus God intended our
different sexual organs to serve a divine purpose. (We will see later
how different this view is from Gregory.) Thus sex is something
originally good. 5 This is, in the second place, because God intended
the number of elect to replace the number of fallen angels. 6 Sex
and procreation had a cosmic significance. Augustine is quick to
add that Adam and Eve did not have sex because God did not tell
them to have sex. Without sin, there is no lust. One’s sexual de-
sires, and thus one’s body, are fully under one’s control. Thus Au-
gustine describes the sex Adam and Eve would have had in the fol-
lowing way:
[T]he sexual organs would have been moved by the same
command of the will as the other members are. Then, not
needing to be aroused by the excitement of passion, the man
would have poured his seed into his wife’s womb in tranquility
of mind and without any corruption of her body’s integrity.
For, though this cannot be proved by experience, there is no
reason for us not to believe that, when those parts of the body
were not driven by turbulent heat but brought into use by the
power of the will when the need arose, the male seed could
have been introduced into the womb with no loss of the wife’s
integrity, just as the flow of menstrual blood can now come
forth from the womb of a virgin without any such loss of in-
tegrity; for the seed could enter in the same way as the men-
strual flow now leaves. Just as the woman’s womb might have
been opened for birth simply by the influence of the maturity
of the foetus, and without any moans of pain, so the two sexes
might have been conjoined for the purpose of impregnation
and conception by a natural use of will, and not by lustful ap-
petite. 7
biological assumptions at work in this passage, see Peter Brown’s Body and
Society, Peter Brown, The Body and Society: Men, Women and Sexual
Renunciation in Early Christianity (New York: Columbia University Press),
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1988.
Augustine, City of God, XIV.26. Emphasis mine.
8
time (but probably just one), but the same is not true of sexual cli-
max. As Augustine indicated above, orgasm makes every lover a
selfish lover. Sexual pleasure overwhelms all our cognitive faculties.
No matter how much we may delight in the companionship of our
beloved, when sexual climax comes, we are all just nerve endings.
But pleasure is only a problem because lust is a problem. Sin is
like a cycle of addiction. Lust reinforces pride, and pleasure rein-
forces lust. But the absence of pride negates the problem of pleas-
ure. Thus Peter Brown has noted that, for Adam and Eve, ‘[Augus-
tine] saw no reason why conception should not depend upon a
moment of intense pleasure…’ 15 I would go one step further than
Brown and suggest that it is probable that Adam and Eve would
have taken pleasure in sex. Augustine did not think that the Fall
brought about any fundamental change in our biology. 16 What is
pleasurable now would have been pleasurable in Eden. The only
difference is how we react to that pleasure. Thus, sex is not a sin so
much as the pleasures of sex arouse the sinful tendencies that are
always present within us. Were it not for pride, there would be no
lust, and sex would be innocent.
The sinfulness not of sex itself, but of the lust present in sex,
is important to understand why Augustine thought that sex, even
within the bonds of marriage, was sinful. It is sinful because, no
matter how much we might love our spouse, during sex we love
ourselves more. Even if that self-love is present only for a moment.
It is still there! But it is a minor – venial – sin. It belongs to the
same category of sins as cursing or laughing too much. 17 But the
sin present in sex can be redeemed – overcome – when sex is or-
18 Augustine, On Marriage, 3.
19 Augustine, On Marriage, 8.
20 Augustine, On Marriage, 5, 13.
21 Augustine, Letter 262.
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which could titillate pride just as easily as married sex. 22 This cau-
tion stands in sharp contrast to Gregory of Nyssa’s encomium On
Holy Virginity, to which we now turn.
15:26), it gnaws away at the living, and it is a foe against which both
martyr and virgin have declared war.
Death began its feast when Adam and Eve disordered them-
selves and all their offspring. In On the Making of Man, Nyssen says
that humans have three souls: the rational, animal, and vegetative. 25
Only the rational soul is made in the image of God, which is wit-
nessed in its sovereign rule over the body. 26 The animal soul obeys
the rational soul to move the body, while the vegetative soul en-
sures that what we consume nourishes the body. 27 That is the order
God intended, and it is the order our edenic progenitors violated.
Rather than epectasis – the infinite perfection of both soul and body
through the spiritual and intellectual contemplation of the Word –
Adam and Eve allowed themselves to become distracted by the
flesh. The rational soul subordinated itself to the animal soul by
diving headfirst into carnal delights. The Fall from God was thus a
Gregory builds his case in this text slowly, laying the minutia of one
argumentative move carefully upon the one that preceded it. Therefore
the reader will be able to see evidence of what I site in other passages.
Where possible, to help guide the reader I have limited my citations to
one or two paragraphs, noting whole chapters or larger passages only
when necessary.
27 Nyssen, On the Making of Man, VIII.8.
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fall into flesh (in the Pauline sense, not to be confused with a fall
into the body), which plunged the human race into sin and death. 28
It is worth pausing for a moment to observe that Gregory of
Nyssa’s construction of the interaction of the three souls, and their
effects upon the body, is somewhat analogous to Augustine’s con-
cept of the divided will in a couple of ways. For one, it is a way of
thinking about internal conflict and struggle with sin that, further-
more, can explain why human beings do not always act according
to their desires, evidenced in our inability to exercise total control
over our bodies. But etiologies matter. Two different diagnoses can
explain the same set of symptoms but yield different courses of
treatment. To wit, both viral and bacterial infections can cause fe-
ver and nausea, which affects what the doctor prescribes. Augus-
tine says we fell because of pride, and we continue to fail because
the will now lacks the strength to do the good it wants (or may
want) to do. The struggle against the passions is thus a struggle of
constant supplication. Pray for grace, Augustine says, and call me in
the morning. For Gregory, the source of our sin is not pride but
carnal distraction. He does not think in terms of a will that needs to
be strengthened by divine grace, but an unruly animal soul that
needs to be tamed by ascetic discipline.
Gregory does not say that sex is original sin, but he does say
that sex is a consequence of the Fall. Unlike Augustine, God did
not intend humans to have sex to make babies. Rather, God want-
ed Adam and Eve to reproduce by ‘that mode by which the angels
were increased and multiplied…’ 29 What Gregory means by this is
not clear. Perhaps he is suggesting that God would have created
the offspring of Adam and Eve just as God had created the angels.
Or he might imagine some kind of intellectual union between male
and female, such that the idea of a human being would produce a
human. But whatever Gregory meant by that statement, the point
is that, though sex was not the cause of the Fall (at least he does
not say so), it is clearly an effect of the Fall. Even our biological dif-
ferences – our genitalia – is that God foresaw our Fall and thus,
28 Gregory does not suggest that sex was the original sin. See Nyssen,
On the Making of Man, XII.10–11, XVIII.6, XXII.6,
29 Nyssen, On the Making of Man, XVII.4.
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gress as epectasis – a desire for the infinite God that grows infinitely. The
one who loves God is always satisfied with God, yet experiences this satis-
faction as an increase in desire. This may strike some as a contradiction
because it seems impossible that we can be both satisfied and yet want
more. To wit, it seems like Gregory is saying that we are satisfied and dis-
satisfied at the same time. But epectasis makes sense when we think of di-
vine love in terms of eros. Spiritual satisfaction is not unlike sexual satisfac-
tion. Good sex, sex that satisfies both partners, does not lead to a reduc-
tion of sexual activity. It increases it. True eros – whether it is for God or
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the beloved – satisfies but never satiates. Everett Ferguson explained this
well in ‘God’s Infinity and Man’s Mutability: Perpetual Progress according
to Gregory of Nyssa,’ Greek Orthodox Theological Review 18.2 (1973): 59–78.
See also Ekkehard Mühlenberg, ‘Synergism in Gregory of Nyssa,’ in
ed. Eduard Lohse. (Berlin: Walter de Gruyter & Co., 1997), 93–122.
Zeitschrift für die Neutestamentliche Wissenschaft und die Kunde der Älteren Kirche,
CONCLUDING IMPLICATIONS
The preceding has shown that Gregory and Augustine agree that
sex poses a spiritual risk, but each thinks about the nature of that
risk, and thus the best response to it, in terms not easily reconciled,
so that what is of secondary importance for Augustine is primary
for Nyssen. For Augustine, the problem with sex is not pleasure. It
is pride. Pleasure is only a problem because we are fallen. It con-
tributes to the self-delusion of pride and thus weakens the will by
dividing its loves between the true love of God and the false love
of self. The spiritual danger of sex is thus, in a word, spiritual.
But pride does not feature in Gregory of Nyssa’s anthropolo-
gy, at least not when he thinks about the Fall. He agrees that we are
disordered, but this disorder has to do with an imbalance between
the internal and external life rather than the internal life with itself.
Pleasure caused the Fall by distracting us, and pleasure keeps us fall-
en by continuing to distract us, siphoning off spiritual energy that
could otherwise go toward our beatification. Disciplining the body
and bringing it under the rule of the rational mind begins to return
us to Eden. This is not anthropological dualism; Gregory does not
deny the goodness of the body. This is to misunderstand asceti-
cism. Ascetic discipline does not reject the body because it needs
the body to train the soul. Chastity is the foundation of the ascetic
life because it refocuses our energies onto the Good, putting us
back on the path toward prelapsarian integrity. By withdrawing
from the distractions of the flesh, we begin to master it, making
sarx into soma again. 42
The difference between Augustine and Gregory is thus be-
tween a divided will versus a distracted soul, a difference that sheds
light on the way each conceived of the ‘sinfulness’ of sex. It is not
uncommon to find criticism of Augustine that echo the sentiment
of Uta Ranke-Heinemann, who accused him of fusing ‘hatred of
sex and pleasure in a systematic unity.’ 43 The above shows that not
to be the case. Augustine did not hate sex (one might say the prob-
lem was that he liked it too much). Sex was part of God’s original
plan for creation, and therefore it is good. Nor is pleasure a prob-
lem. Though Augustine’s modesty obscures what he actually
thought about the pleasure of sex in Eden, there is nothing in his
thought that would preclude pleasure as sinful (again, absent the
Fall). Indeed, Augustine did not believe the Fall changed human
nature. The bodies of Adam and Eve did not change when they
were expelled from Paradise; they only lost grace that had pre-
served them from death and pain. Thus it would be inconsistent
with Augustine’s anthropology to propose that the endings in hu-
man genitalia are more sensitive now than in Eden. 44
Ranke, Heinemann and others may be reasoning by analogy
when they accuse Augustine of hating sex and pleasure. If even
marital sex is a sin, and we are to hate sin, then it follows we must
hate sex. But it is not accurate to say that Augustine thought sex
was a sin. Rather, he thought there was a moment of sin in sex –
irreducible selfishness – that could not be avoided, but only over-
come in the greater good of hastening the kingdom by bringing
more of God’s elect into the world. 45 But we have seen that even
sex for lust ranks low on Augustine’s list of sins. It deserves as
much of our hatred as immoderate laughter.
Gregory of Nyssa’s doctrine of sex has received less critical
treatment than Augustine’s, but this may owe to the fact that his
genius has only recently received wide recognition from modern
scholars. Some have argued that Gregory held a positive view of
human sexuality, particularly married intimacy. For instance, Mark
D. Hart has argued that Gregory believed sex was good because it
continued the species, but this ignores the fact that sex is only nec-
essary because of sin. It was not a part of God's original plan for
creation. Neither is gender. Had Adam and Eve remained firmly
rooted in the good – had they not excited the passions of the flesh
221, 224ff.
44 Augustine, The Literal Meaning of Genesis, VI.35–36.
45 Augustine, The Literal Meaning of Genesis, IX.5–6.
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– then there would have been no sex. 46 Any good we might associ-
ate with sex, when it comes to the thought of Gregory of Nyssa,
must be judged against the broader context of human sinfulness.
One could argue that Gregory’s theology of sex is more posi-
tive than Augustine. Though his asexual vision of Eden (and thus
the eschaton) arguably applies a monastic standard to a context
where it does not belong, Gregory does not see sex as sinful. It
does not transmit the guilt of original sin. Nor is it an act of lust
that confirms the self in its own delusions of grandeur. Sex is only
a problem for the soul insofar as it is one of many distractions of
the flesh. This places it in the same order of food, drink, and enter-
tainment, neither of which is sinful, but all of which are spiritual
dangerous in immoderate doses.
As an Orthodox thinker, I might be tempted to take pride in
Gregory over Augustine. Though I cannot say that Gregory’s views
on human sexuality were positive, they are perhaps less negative
than Augustine’s. Gregory may fail to appreciate fully the way that
marriage is its own kind of monastery, where members of the fami-
ly learn to deny themselves for the sake of each other and, ulti-
mately, God’s kingdom. But at least he does not make couples feel
guilty when they cleave to each other in marital concourse.
But polemical preening not makes ecumenism difficult (it con-
tributes to the continental drift of which Brown earlier spoke), it
can also keep us from seeing the irony inherent in Gregory’s theol-
ogy. For him, sex is less negative because it is less important.
Gregory appears not to have completely escaped the expectations
of the aristocracy. Like Julian of Eclanum, he believed sex was just
something people did. It lacked the spiritual gravitas Augustine saw
in it. Sex is just a bodily function that has no inherent purpose in
the divine order of creation. To wit, its purpose in that order is
conditioned on the Fall. The same is not true of Augustine, who
sees sex as a part of that original order of creation. Though the
visible church made pride a greater temptation than it was for the married.
See 31.
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PIA CHAUDHARI
INTRODUCTION
Over one thousand five hundred years ago, in Antioch, St. John
Chrysostom gave advice to men seeking to pacify an upset wife.
Speak lovingly to her, he instructed; tell her ‘that you love her more
than your own life … and that your only hope is that the two of
you pass through this life in such a way that in the world to come
you will be united in perfect love.’ Say to her ‘Our time here is
brief, and fleeting, but if we are pleasing to God, we can exchange
this life for the Kingdom to come. Then we will be perfectly one
both with Christ and each other and our pleasure will know no
bounds.’ 1
This counsel is striking in the depth and weight he gives to the
love, and pleasure in such love, between a husband and wife. No-
tably, this love does not end with death but transcends it, extending
into the Kingdom of Heaven. Elsewhere he speaks warmly of the
same bond, saying ‘the power of this love is truly stronger than any
1 St. John Chrysostom, On Marriage & Family Life, Homily 20, trans.
Roth, C.P., & Anderson, D., (Crestwood, NY: St. Vladimir’s Seminary
Press, 1986), p. 61.
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passion; other desires may be strong but this one alone never fades.
This love (eros) is deeply planted within our inmost being.’ 2
We have here a strong and simple insight into the nature of
love as eros. It is deeply implanted in our inmost beings, and it is
stronger than death. How, then, does it relate to salvation? Does it
provide a clue as to the link between our embodied lives now and
the life to come? And what do we do with aggression that surfaces,
or goes underground, to bedevil the best of our attempts at union?
This paper is a brief exploration of the intertwining of eros and theo-
sis in the sacramental union that is marriage, using insights of depth
psychology and Orthodox theology. It is an attempt to uncover the
generative energy of desire, what Olivier Clement has likened to
the psychoanalytic concept of libido, 3 and perhaps further texture
the discussion of the role of desire in salvation.
tion, however, is that the false self can appear to be highly religious.
According to Thermos, the false self: ‘moves on the ‘level of ‘ex-
actness’ and with a fixation on ‘purity’. For this reason it isolates
the only ‘pure’ thing which it believes itself to possess, the intellect
which it controls, and offers it to God, thereby implying that the
body, feelings and desires are ‘children of a lesser god’. One is left
wondering if the Incarnation of the Logos has been comprehended
and experienced.’ 4
Because the false self is itself a construct, it can only find res-
onance in religious constructs, not in existence itself. This leads to
a primacy of disembodied spirituality: ‘The theological foundation
of the false self comprises an essentially bodiless existence as the
zenith of self-sufficiency which flirts with the idea that one is equal
to God.’ 5 For Thermos, the emphasis on becoming a person, remi-
niscent of other Orthodox theologians such as Olivier Clement and
John Zizioulas, is integral in the journey of theosis. One might say
we are called to become more human, not less, in our journey to-
wards ‘becoming God’. This entails a life of emotions, feelings and
desire fully lived. Thermos writes: ‘Because He [God] is the source
of feeling and desiring, He calls man [or woman] to personal com-
munion by raising him [or her] to the level of a person who feels
and desires. Through this personal calling, man [or woman] is made
able to feel and desire; because He is the truth, man [or woman] can be-
come true and encounter the actual person who is the source of his
[or her] person and learn to commune.’ 6
We have here another strong insight. True self life, embodied
life, is also necessarily life lived in relationship, in communion. It is
personal relatedness that calls forth the true self. How then, does
tions mine).
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MARRIAGE AS SACRAMENT
The Orthodox marriage is sacramental. As Orthodox theologian
John McGuckin writes: ‘…many Orthodox theologians have linked
the couple’s journey towards union in flesh and spirit, with a trope
of the perichoresis of the Persons of the Holy Trinity, radiating out
essential unity in their harmony. The Trinity itself, the goal of all
Christian life, is the pattern and aspiration of the mystical unity that
the marriage can bear witness to. Such a mystery of union is only
possible because of the indwelling Trinity.’ 8 Such a marriage re-
quires ascesis of both partners, hence the Orthodox understanding
of the martyrdom of marriage, where in putting on the mind of
Christ, the phronema Christou, each partner submits to the willing-
ness to accept the death of self for the sake of the loved one. 9 The
ascetic struggle McGuckin outlines is the ‘constant struggle to
make all things in a Christian life charged with light and gracious-
ness, not least the powerful forces of the desire for acquisition and
the desires of the flesh … But the Gospel … does not presume
that one should be devoid of desire: it is the use to which the fun-
damental drives of human energy are placed that is in question.’ 10
We see here a return to the power of desire, properly trans-
formed, as an active driver in the sacrament of marriage. In this
context, sexuality itself is transformed: ‘The sacred mystery of
Christian marriage sings a different song to the anxious (and often
violent) subtext of sexuality as the world knows it. The key issue, of
course, is the presence of joy … [without] this renovatory ‘mind of
Christ’ at the core of a Christian marriage, the very concept of two
human beings staying with one another for decades would be un-
imaginably boring and suffocating. With it, the love deepens day by
day, for those who have the eyes to see, and reveals new layers of
the significance of being.’ 11
To avoid the pitfall of ‘false self’ religiosity, a confusion of the
phronema Christou with a life of stultifying ‘shoulds’, this radiant con-
ceptualization must also be grounded in the life of the body, in the
emotions and desires. Yet, is it not here that we risk a marriage of
what Orthodox theologian John Behr has called a ‘companionate’
or ‘unitive’ marriage, one that is self-centered, rather than a mar-
riage with Christ at the center? 12 The tension of embracing desire
becomes a question of discernment as to when desire is ‘disor-
dered’, to use the language of the Fathers, and the work of uncov-
ering and living from God-given desire. If we look to marriage
from another angle, I believe we can see more concretely how this
may happen, how eros does not lead to fusion, nor true desire to
self-gratification. On the contrary, I would argue that eros can only
truly thrive in differentiation thus allowing for relatedness, and de-
sire is the deep reaching out from self to ‘Other’, which actually
bespeaks the end of pathological narcissism or religious solipsism.
TRANSFORMATION OF AGGRESSION
Paradoxically, this process of full commitment to engaging with
self and other leads to a progressive purging of the ego of posses-
sive and power motives. Each has to learn to give up ‘sadistic grati-
fication’, ‘fighting dirty’, in order to harness the tremendous energy
and aggression underlying these actions and put it to different use.
The concept of aggression here is not used in the colloquial sense,
but rather to denote a kind of primal energy which is morally neu-
tral, in much the same way some of the Fathers described the in-
herent neutrality of the passions, while being keenly aware of the
possibility of their misuse. 17 She writes: ‘We need aggression to
focus on the true worth of the other, to dig it out, and to work to
restore it, and to differentiate that effort from trying to impose our image on
the other … a transcendent presence lives in the other … [who is]
made in the image of God … we dig down to it and excavate it …
the support must be vigorous, summoning, lavish, and aimed right
at the center of the other person’s existence the way the other is
connected to all existence. Betrayals in marriage usually issue from
betrayal of this deeper center.’ 18 This is the opposite of a desire that
uses the other as a ‘self-object’, or subjective-object, but is a desire
that recognizes the other as subject in their own right. As Clement
reminds us ‘…we perceive in [the other] an irreducible personal
existence, beyond limitations and errors, beyond even the disap-
pointment we may have felt for the moment. The other is in the image
of God, not of us.’ 19
the other. It is, of course, still painful to fight, but the fighting can
be ultimately constructive, rather than destructive. She writes ‘we
know now that aggression can serve love as well as destroy it.’ 21
The other area of healing lies through the experience of what
psychoanalyst Winnicott termed ‘ruthlessness’. 22 Like aggression,
this is a word that colloquially has negative connotations, but which
in the depth psych-ological world is descriptive rather than pejora-
tive. It describes the direct movement of going towards an object
of desire. It does not fear one’s own force of being; it trusts the
other to survive the full on engagement with one’s own energy. At
an unconscious level, something astonishing happens which is that
when we do not seek ‘to control through projected images of who
we want the other to be, or fear the other might be, or need the
other to be, or think the other needs us to be. We let be. And we
discover, uncover, greet the one who is left after our projections
have been destroyed … this may happen when the other disap-
points us: he or she failed to live up to our idealized image and the
image is destroyed. Thereby we release ourselves and the other to
find out who is actually there. If we are using our aggression to
reach the best self of the other, this is all gain, no loss … we may
have lost a fantasy but we have gained a reality with which to inter-
act and in which to unfold our own self.’ 23
St. Maximus the Confessor wrote: ‘The aim of faith is the true
revelation of its object. And the true revelation of faith’s object is
ineffable communion, with him, and this communion is the return
of believers to their beginning as much as to their end … and
therefore the satisfaction of desire.’ 24
The true revelation of the object, if we are to learn that it ex-
ists as subject in its own right, outside our unconscious fantasies of
omnipotence, requires that we live ruthlessly – not in the colloquial
sense of the term – but in the sense of going all out in our move-
ments towards the other, not withholding our being. We learn to
survive the destruction of our fantasies because in exchange for
any such encounter with a real Other must mean the experiential
end of our illusions that we stand at the center of the universe, in-
violate and invulnerable – indeed, immortal. It is the end of the false
self. To encounter Otherness is to encounter our own limits, but it
is also to encounter the possibility of true love between two who
are other to each other and yet connected through the power of
eros, living out of desire.
DREW MAXWELL
There can be little doubt that the Patristic revival in the Orthodox
tradition during the last century has borne tremendous fruit both
Deacon Drew Maxwell in terms of the Church’s modern theologi-
cal reflection and the pastoral implications for the faithful. 1 The
concomitant, and sometimes competitive, explosion of Athonite
monasticism throughout the world, but particularly in America, has
provided much of the same in many respects. However, perhaps
one of the most puzzling results of these recent developments has
been the effect both movements have had upon the Church’s un-
derstanding of marriage, and within marriage, the role of sexuality
and intimacy in the life of the everyday Christian striving towards
Christ while living in the world. An apparently negative view of
sexuality, which historically emanated out of a cloistered and mo-
nastic vision of communal life, has managed to sidle its way into
the heart of Orthodox homes, causing husbands and wives to ques-
tion how, or even if, the Church values their intimate and sexual
relationship in particular, or the sacramental quality of their union
in general.
1 See for instance, Andrew Louth, ‘The Patristic Revival and Its
Protagonists,’ in The Cambridge Companion to Orthodox Christian Theology, ed.
Mary B. Cunningham and Elizabeth Theokritoff (Cambridge: Cambridge
University Press, 2008), 188–202.
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give the devil any way of catching hold of them should not
marry. 2
Here St. Gregory suggests that a holy life is one that is ‘above’ bod-
ily intercourse, and that living within a marriage, even presumably a
marriage guided by chastity, is tantamount to allowing the devil to
catch hold of you. More troubling perhaps, however, is the paucity
of positive Orthodox witness to marriage in the modern context,
even, surprisingly, within the pages of texts meant to strengthen
families! Take, for instance, this example from Demetrios Constan-
telos, a writer who attempted to illustrate the positive aspects of
Christian marriage within an Orthodox context: ‘We have already
noted that marriage is honored as a natural, God-given institution,
and that virginity or celibacy is viewed as a state above nature, a
special gift from God bestowed on a few.’ 3 There are a few things
that seem problematic in this statement. Firstly, The idea that
somehow celibacy is above nature, which then makes marriage a
poverty-filled category of ‘natural’ is far afield of a traditional Or-
thodox understanding of nature; and like a sibling at Christmas
who has merely been given socks after watching the opening of a
particularly exciting present by a brother, the married person is
meant to understand that their ‘institution’ bears no resemblance to
the ‘gift’ so especially given to a monk or nun. 4
Returning to the Patristic legacy, however, we can see that St.
Gregory is by no means unique in his rhetorical assessment of mar-
riage and sexuality. The patristic, and mostly monastic, literature is
deeply suspicious of any talk of sexuality, preferring instead to not
do discuss the matters of sexual ethos. Take for instance the mus-
ings of Isaiah the Solitary on sensual pleasure.
5 St. Mark the Ascetic, On the Spiritual Law. Taken from: Philokalia,
vol. 1, p. 117.
6 St. Neilos the Ascetic, Ascetic Discourse. Taken from: Philokalia, vol.
1, pp. 246–247.
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7 Evdokimov P., The Sacrament of Love: The Nuptial Mystery in the Light
of the Orthodox Tradition (Crestwood, NY: St. Vladimir’s Seminary Press,
1985), p. 161.
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two will become one flesh.’ So they are no longer two, but one
flesh. Therefore, what God has joined together let no one sepa-
rate.’ [Mark 10:6–9] Here we find enshrined in the words of Our
Savior a godly sanctification of marital intimacy and love in which
sexuality brings complete unity; a unity intended by God in the
beginning.
The words of St. Paul in Ephesians complete this picture. ‘For
no one ever hates his own body, but he nourishes and tenderly
cares for it, just as Christ does for the Church, because we are
members of His body. ‘For this reason a man will leave his father
and mother and be joined to his wife, and the two will become one
flesh.’ This is a great mystery, and I am applying it to Christ and the
Church. Each of you, however, should love his wife as himself, and
a wife should respect her husband.’ [Eph. 5:29–33] The attempt to
overly spiritualize this passage so as to limit the sincere linkage be-
tween the marital bond and the bond of God with humanity is
perhaps illegitimate. The great mystery consists in the return to true
Paradise in which communion with the human other is done in
concert with, and facilitates, communion with the Ultimate Other.
The salvation of humanity lies in our ability, together in commun-
ion, listen for the sound of the Lord God walking in the garden at
the time of the evening breeze and not hide, but come forth in uni-
ty to be one with God.
Archdeacon John Chryssavgis reminds us of this when he
turns to the sacramental service of marriage and by carefully look-
ing at the text determines that the Church values sexuality within
marriage based upon the prayers of the service. He writes, ‘The
ascetic aspect of marriage is further shown in the prayer asking for
the Archangel Michael to prepare the marital chamber. Only a
Church that believes in the sanctity and integrity of the body and
the world could either imagine an angel preparing the bed of the
couple, or else implore for the preservation of an undefiled mar-
riage bed.’ 8
What, then, shall we say of our monastic and patristic texts on
marriage where its rigorous ethos seem to undermine the sacra-
9 St. Gregory Palamas, To the Most Reverend Nun Xenia. Taken from:
Philokalia, vol. 4, pp. 300–301.
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10 See the note of the editors in Philokalia, vol. 4, p. 289, and also the
words of St. Gregory himself in section 7 of the letter itself.
11 Clark, E., Women in the Early Church (Wilmington, DE: Michael
12 Ford, D. Women and Men in the Early Church: The Full Views of St.
John Chrysostom (South Canaan, PA: St. Tikhon’s Seminary Press, 1995),
pp. 76–78.
13 St. John Chrysostom, On Virginity, 41.1. Taken from: Ford, D.,
apophatic theology, the ikon is laid aside: love for God is expressed
directly, not through the image or medium of another human per-
son. Like the two ways in theology, the two forms of love complete
and balance one another. 15
After this brief overview of the Church’s multivalent view of
marriage and sexuality, Metropolitan Kallistos’ words provide a
simple and clear exposition of the mind of the Church. It is a bal-
anced and healthy perspective which understands that marriage and
monasticism provide the borders in which sexuality is played out in
a healthy and life-giving way. That is, sexuality is a great mystery of
God, and like all of God’s mysteries it is bound up and defined by
love; in this case erotic love. This deep and abiding longing for the
Ultimate Other finds its deepest expression within both the life of
marriage and the life of monasticism.
The last thorny issue that must be addressed, then, are those
contemporary views of marriage which cannot be understood to be
life-giving because the context in which they are expounded is
purely monastic and thus cannot be applied, without qualification,
in the lives of laity. One chief example can be used in this regard.
The very familiar text of the Elder Ephraim of Arizona entitled
Counsels from the Holy Mountain holds within its pages a particularly
relevant point towards this view of marriage. It reads:
Girls desert their beloved parents and brothers and relatives,
and through marriage cleave to a mortal man and bear with his
weaknesses, his bad manners, his passions, and sometimes (if
he has a bad character) even with his beatings and curses.
Nevertheless, they do not leave their husband because they re-
spect the bond of the sacrament of marriage, or because they
want financial support and security. But you, on the contrary,
have married the incorruptible Bridegroom of Christ and have
deserted parents and all the good things of this vain world in
order to be united with Christ through a spiritual marriage.
You lovingly follow Jesus, Who for our sake endured the
Cross and death and gave you an immense dowry: the King-
dom of Heaven. Although you were poor and dirty, He made
you into queens to enjoy in heaven more glory and delight than
emperors.
How incomparably the grace of virginity surpasses marriage, and
how much loftier is the gift of the mystery of the mystical spiritual
wedding with the Bridegroom of Christ than a carnal wedding! And
this is because the Bridegroom is heavenly, spotless, eternal – God!
We see that the wife in common marriages becomes a heroine of
patience by enduring the sorrows, the worries and difficulties of
married life, the passions, the beatings from her husband, and the
difficulties beyond her strength in raising and fostering her chil-
dren. So then – alas! – how reprehensible we are when we don’t
have patience, forcefulness, obedience, and everything that the easy
yoke of the sweetest Jesus calls for, to a greater degree than a mar-
ried woman does! 16
Certain negative notions of marriage contained within this
passage reflect some of the opinions of the fathers of the Early
Church. However, as we have mentioned, the Patristic legacy was
one meant, at least originally by its authors, as the exclusive wis-
dom of the monastic tradition. In cases where wisdom was meant
for the cathedral and urban churches, we often see an entirely dif-
ferent tone applied. The work of Elder Ephraim, however, while it
may have originally been given in a purely monastic context, clearly
is reproduced as intended to be heard by the Orthodox faithful lay
people of America and beyond. Since its translation into English, it
has undergone two printings within the life of the Geronda. It is a
regular occurrence that the faithful visiting St. Anthony’s Monas-
tery in Arizona walk away with this volume of the Geronda’s wis-
dom tucked beneath their arms.
If we seek to lead the Church with discernment, it is up to the
faithful scholars and clergy of the Church to clearly delineate the
context and application of certain predominantly monastic ethical
1 John 2:1–11.
2 Eph. 5:20–33.
3 For the connection of all sacraments with the eucharist, see N. Mi-
losevic, To Christ and the Church: The Divine Eucharist as the All-Encompassing
Mystery of the Church, (Los Angeles: Sebastian Press, 2012); id. The Holy
Eucharist as the Center of Divine Worship: The Connection of the Sacraments to the
105
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same rubric is to be found in the 8th/9th c. Sinai NF/ MG53 from Pales-
tine. See Skaltses, Marriage and Divine Liturgy, p. 164f.
5 The tradition has invariably been to commune the neophyte (with
the reserved sacrament in today’s practice) and this points to the baptis-
mal liturgy’s original eucharistic context. For an excellent general review
on these origins and the meaning of baptism, see A. Schmemann, Of Wa-
ter and the Spirit: A Liturgical Study of Baptism (Crestwood: St. Vladimir’s
Seminary Press, 1974).
6 Skaltses, Marriage and Divine Liturgy, p. 129.
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7 John 2:1–11.
8 Milosevic, To Christ and the Church, p. 63.
9 Ibid, p. 61.
10 Ignatius of Antioch, Epistle to Polycarp, 5:2, SC 10, p. 150.
11 1Cor 7:39.
12 For the concept of the bishop as icon of Christ who as president
During the First Three Centuries (Brookline: Holy Cross Orthodox Press,
Bishop, Church: The Unity of the Church in the Divine Eucharist and the Bishop
2001).
13 Earlier patristic evidence seems to point already to nuptial blessing
prayers referring to the couple as in Tertullian (2nd – 3rd c.): ‘how shall we
ever be able to describe adequately the joy of that marriage which is pro-
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vided for by the Church, the rite strengthens and is certified and sealed in
a blessing, at which angels are present as witnesses, and to which the fa-
ther gives His consent?’ (Ad Uxorem, II, VIII-6, SC 273, 148); see Skaltses,
Marriage and Divine Liturgy, p. 136. Similarly, Clement of Alexandria refers
to marriage ‘according to the performed word’ (λόγον τελειούμενος)
which also seems to refer to a blessing prayer, Stromateis, 4 PG 8,1337A.
14 For example, Chrysostom on the crowns as a symbol of victory,
PG 62:546; see also PG 62:64; cf. Milosevic, The Holy Eucharist, 196–197
and Skaltses, Marriage and Divine Liturgy, pp. 141–147 for other references.
15 For some of these depictions and explanations of them see
vice which trace the gradual divorce from its original eucharistic
context. We find 1) the marriage rite in the context of the Divine
Liturgy 2) a special pre-sanctified liturgy marriage rite; 3) a service
offering a choice of either the pre-sanctified gifts or the ‘common
cup;’ and 4) a service like today’s which offers only the common
cup. 18
What led to this development? It seems that there were cer-
tain practical reasons that led to this as well as an underlying popu-
lar mentality that had been developing which gave philosophical
support for these liturgical changes. We will begin with the former,
more objective factors that could have led to these developments
and then attempt a preliminary venture into the possible thought
patterns behind them.
Let us first of all, then, begin with some historical facts. De-
spite our tendency to idealize Byzantium as an almost perfect
Christian society, not all of its citizens led a storybook synaxarion-
style life. The Byzantines themselves (who never called themselves
Byzantines nor Greeks but Romans), saw themselves as continuing
the venerable tradition of Roman Law. Regarding marriage, Roman
law in the early Christian era, allowed three choices for ‘legal’ mar-
riage: 1) a verbal agreement in the presence of witnesses; 2) a writ-
ten contract; and 3) Church marriage. 19 Evidently those who chose
the third option were those who were interested in living nuptially
according to the Church’s conception of marriage as a ‘great mys-
tery.’
It is ironic that the gradual abandonment of all these choices
in favor of ecclesial marriage for all citizens is one of the main fac-
tors that finally sealed the permanent separation of marriage from
the eucharist. This occurred in three basic stages: 1) in 537 Emper-
or Justinian ordered that all government figures be married in the
Church; 2) in 893 Emperor Leo the Wise legislated that Church
marriage was mandatory for all free citizens (there still were slaves
in Byzantium); and, finally; 3) in the 11th c., Emperor Alexios
Comnenos determined that the only valid marriage is ecclesiastical
18For the MS evidence see Skaltses, Marriage and Divine Liturgy, pp.
163–327; Milosevic, To Christ and the Church, pp. 67–86.
19 Skaltses, Marriage and Divine Liturgy, pp. 55–56.
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marriage for all. 20 Thus the Church took over the role of the state
to become the only legal ‘marrier.’ This meant that all people, even
those who in earlier times would freely have chosen not to be mar-
ried in the Church, were now compelled to do so. This led to two
results that contributed to the separation of marriage and liturgy: 1)
the increase in the number of people that had to be accommodated
led to an overflow of marriages outside the Sunday liturgy, which
contributed to the gradual privatization of the service; and 2) the
marriage service had to be adapted to accommodate all types of
people which led to a general ‘watering down’ of the service. This
is reflected in the aforementioned marriage service which offered a
choice between pre-sanctified gifts for the ‘worthy,’ 21 or the ‘com-
mon cup’ as a sort of ἀντίδωρον, i.e. substitute communion, for
cases when the couple was ‘unworthy’ for communion.
What did this ‘unworthiness’ entail? First of all, there were
those who were married for a second and even a third time. Such
people were subject to a penance barring them from communion
for as much as 2 years for a second marriage and 5 years for a third.
In keeping with this prescription, the second marriage rite had a
penitential character: there was neither crowning nor communion
in this service. 22
A similar prohibition of communion to the couple was also
the case for mixed marriages. In Byzantium there was an increase
in mixed marriages from the 10th c. on. Such marriages were con-
tracted with either non-Chalcedonian Christians or, after the 13th c.
crusades, with Latin Christians. 23 Regarding possible philosophical
bases behind this gradual separation of marriage from its natural
vor, the practice of crowning the couple has philanthropically been intro-
duced by the Ecumenical Patriarchate.
23 Skaltses, Marriage and Divine Liturgy, pp. 303–305; Milosevic, The
cent Church’s policy to seek ways to distinguish herself from her mother
Judaism is manifestly evident in this era. For example, some form of fast-
ing was a universal given in the religious world of the East and the Jews
fasted twice a week on Mondays and Thursdays (cf. the parable of the
Publican and the Pharisee, Luke 18:12). This custom was continued by the
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Roman Empire, on the other. 28 The celibate life had the potential
to be a radical statement in such a milieu. This was facilitated by
the aforementioned Christian penchant to distance herself from her
Jewish roots (with its more ‘body friendly’ biblical basis), 29 which
prepared the way for an easy adoption of Stoic and Neo-Platonic
anthropological models that were part of the common intellectual
air of the Hellenistic world within which Christianity spread. One
can cite an early Church Father such as Clement of Alexandria,
who in one place even seems to praise the goodness of marriage
over the celibate life, 30 but who in other places interprets it under
garding the body does not reflect a negative anthropology regarding the
body as is seen in Neo-Platonic and other Hellenistic philosophical sys-
tems. These notions of ritual purity/impurity were a common element of
all religions in the ancient world. The ‘body-friendly’ aspect of Judaism
mentioned above refers to the biblical view that the human being is a psy-
chosomatic reality, body and soul as a whole (hence the teaching of the
Resurrection), rather than the Hellenistic view that the two are separate
and therefore death is a liberation freeing the soul from the prison of the
body. It is possible that the more Hellenized Jews of the diaspora in Alex-
andria and elsewhere could interpret this biblical anthropology in more
Hellenistic terms.
30 ‘For having become perfect, he has the apostles for examples; and
one is not really shown to be a man in the choice of single life; but he
surpasses men, who, disciplined by marriage, procreation of children, and
care for the house, without pleasure or pain, in his solicitude for the house
has been inseparable from God’s love, and withstood all temptation aris-
MARRIAGE AND THE EUCHARIST 113
ing through children, and wife, and domestics, and possessions.’ Clement,
Stromateis, 7.70.
31 Ibid, 3.7.58. See also Brown, Ibid, p. 128f.
32 See Brown, Ibid, pp. 160–177.
33 For his own autobiography relating all these stages in detail, see
the holiness of marriage over against the teachings of the Encratites and
other Gnostic, dualist tendencies (The Rudder, pp. 523f.), as well as the
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lybades and Nikodemos the Athonite, see Nikodemos Skretta, The Eucha-
(‘the Wise’) – who actually married a fourth time also – in mind. See Mey-
endorff, Marriage: An Orthodox Perspective, (Crestwood, NY: St. Vladimir’s
Seminary Press, 2000), pp. 51–52; for the full text of the ‘Tome of Union’
see L. G. Westerink, Nicholas I Patriarch of Constantinople, Miscellaneous Writ-
ings (Washington DC: Dumbarton Oaks Texts 6, 1981), pp. 58–69.
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ized as binding for all Christians (!) – indeed, for the churchgoing
Christians who adhered faithfully to the full liturgical rhythm of the
Church and kept all the fasts! 44
Another major factor that added yet more impediments pre-
cluding the marriage-eucharist connection was a tendency to revisit
Old Testament prescriptions on ritual impurity as well as pagan
notions on sexuality. These O.T. prescriptions originated in a very
particular context that was fulfilled and therefore transformed in
Christ according to the Christian interpretation. This stance, how-
ever, was not always assimilated uniformly everywhere and wherev-
er the older view survived along with the aforementioned Christian
stance confusion and strife was caused as is reflected very early on
in St. Paul’s temporary dispute with St. Peter regarding Judaizing
tendencies. 45 Indeed, the temptation to take Old Testament Leviti-
cal prescriptions as a standard for Christian life never disap-
44 Milosevic, The Holy Eucharist, p. 200. Those who were ‘less faithful’
would receive even less! Needless to say, this teaching goes against the
sacramental theology of the Church and the very nature of the eucharist
as that which constitutes the Church. This is reflected in the official ca-
nonical tradition of the Church that excommunicates those who abstain
from the eucharist! See the 2nd Canon of the Council of Antioch: ‘As for
all those persons who enter the church and listen to the sacred Scriptures,
but who fail to commune in prayer together and at the same time with the
laity, or who shun the participation of the Eucharist, in accordance with some
irregularity, we decree that these persons be outcasts from the Church…’
(The Rudder, D. Cummings, ed., [Chicago: The Orthodox Christian Educa-
tional Society, 1983], p. 535), yet this is exactly what was imposed by this
pseudo-canonical tradition of the Ottoman period! Similarly, see also
Canon 80 of the Quinisext Council excommunicates those who do not
show up at the Sunday liturgy for three consecutive Sundays in a row. Ibid,
p. 384.
45 For indications of the dispute see Gal. 2:11–14; Acts 10:9f; 11:1–3;
omit other things that might make us weep; your auguries, your omens,
your superstitious observances, your casting of nativities, your signs, your
amulets, your divinations, your incantations, your magic arts…’ The Nicene
and Post-Nicene Fathers, vol. XIII, (Grand Rapids, Michigan: Eeerdmans
Publishing Co., 1969), p. 440 and Ibid, Commentary on Colossians 2:16–
19, p. 288f. See also Homily III, Titus 1:12–14: ‘unto the pure, all things
are pure’ (Titus 1:15) ‘Things then are not clean or unclean from their
own nature, but from the disposition of him who partakes of them … All
things are pure. God made nothing unclean, for nothing is unclean , ex-
cept sin only. For that reaches to the soul, and defiles it. Other unclean-
ness is human prejudice … scrupulous observances are no mark of purity,
but it is the part of purity to be bold in all things … moral. What is un-
clean? Sin, malice, covetousness, wickedness … You see how many forms
of uncleanliness there are. The woman in childbed is unclean. Yet God
made childbirth and the seed of copulation. Why then is the woman un-
clean, unless something further is intimated? He [Moses] intended to pro-
duce piety in the soul, … But these things now are not required of us. But
all is transferred to the soul.’ Ibid, pp. 529–531. For these and other texts
in this vein see Kyriaki Karidoyanes Fitzgerald, Women Deacons in the Ortho-
dox Church: Called to Holiness and Ministry (Brookline: Holy Cross Orthodox
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then generally could not understand the original language of the canons)
were a compilation of translated, paraphrased or truncated canons, cus-
toms and superstitions. Oftentimes the so-called Κανονάρια (‘Rule-
books’) or Ἐξομολογητάρια (‘Confessionals’) were appended to these
collections as a guide for spiritual fathers. These often took the form of a
list of sins and their corresponding penances. The tendency in these com-
pilations was to impose monastic categories on married life (see Milosevic,
The Holy Eucharist, p. 199) or even certain pagan superstitions on Chris-
tians in general (see Theodore Giagkou, Canons and Worship, (Gk. txt.),
[Thessaloniki: Mydonia Publications, 2006], pp. 163–196; 289–362).
49 One must note that the sexual relations referred to here are within
other canon that states that anyone who goes to a Jewish doctor is ex-
communicated. The first canon, which seems logical, has always been
systematically ignored by our bishops and the second suggests that all
inhabitants of New York are automatically ‘excommunicated!’ Because of
its importance for the sake of this discussion I quote a portion of the Syri-
ac Didaskalia that is pertinent to our argument here (note that the Syriac
Didaskalia was incorporated into the first 6 chapters of the Apostolic
Constitutions): ‘Now if any persons keep to the Jewish customs and ob-
servances concerning the natural emission and nocturnal pollutions, and
the lawful conjugal acts, (referring to Leviticus XV), let them tell us
whether in those hours or days, when they undergo any such thing, they
observe not to pray, or to touch a Bible, or to partake of the Eucharist?
And if they own it to be so, it is plain they are void of the Holy Spirit,
which always continues with the faithful … For if you think, O woman,
when you are seven days in your separation, that you are void of the Holy
Spirit, then if you should die suddenly you will depart void of the Spirit,
and without assured hope in God; or else you must imagine that
the Spirit always is inseparable from you, as not being in a place. But you
stand in need of prayer and the Eucharist, and the coming of the Holy
Ghost, as having been guilty of no fault in this matter. For neither lawful
mixture, nor child-bearing, nor the menstrual purgation, nor nocturnal
pollution, can defile the nature of a man, or separate the Holy Spirit from
him. Nothing but impiety and unlawful practice can do that.’ Then refer-
ence is made to the account in Mark 5:25–34 of the woman with the issue
of blood: ‘She who had the flow of blood was not condemned when she
touched the fringe of our Savior’s cloak but, rather, received the for-
giveness of all her sins. Therefore, beloved ones, avoid such foolish ob-
servances, and do not come near them. See Apostolic Constitutions, Book
6:27 (= Syriac Didaskalia 26:4:21).
51 See the Rudder, D. Cummings, ed. (Chicago: The Orthodox Chris-
riage and Divine Liturgy, pp. 313–318 with copious notes and citations. In-
terestingly enough, Symeon of Thessaloniki (15th c.) in PG 155:865C justi-
fied abstention after communion because ‘God and flesh cannot com-
mune,’ which seems to go directly against the fundamental teaching of the
Incarnation!
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jor fasting periods of the Church. 56 So, to these fast days (tradition-
ally non-eucharistic) the festal days of Saturdays and Sundays 57
were also added as well as all other eucharistic feast days through-
out the year and the paschal period of bright week which tradition-
ally had a liturgy everyday. 58 Since according to such views both
this teaching, which made its way into the Rudder and various earlier ca-
nonical collections, the message given, as stated above, is that sexuality
even in the confines of the sacrament of marriage is not holy and there-
fore incompatible with the Eucharist. This notion led to the prohibition
of sexual relations for newlyweds on the eve of their wedding if they mar-
ried in the traditional way with participation in the Eucharist. Thus the
12th c. Patriarch Loukas Chryssoverges imposed penances upon couples
who had intercourse on the eve of their marriage! This is found in the
commentary by the 12th c. canonist Balsamon on the 4th canon of the
Council of Carthage, Ralle-Potl, Σύνταγμα, vol. III, p. 304. See also
Skaltses, Marriage and Divine Liturgy, pp. 315–316.
58 The prescription of the Ottoman period barring Christians from
ies…’). See The Rudder, p. 365. Cf. the 2nd Canon of the Council of Anti-
och for similar teachings (see note 44 above).
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deed, theology, biology and psychology all point to the fact that
sexuality is an inseparable part of the human hypostasis as a psy-
chosomatic reality not only from the embryonic stage but also the-
ologically from the very creation of Man in the book of Genesis.
These mixed messages and inconsistencies reflect that lack of a
clear, coherent statement regarding this central aspect of human
life 59 on the part of the Church and impose a strange schizophrenia
on religious people regarding this neuralgic aspect of life. Philip
Sherrard hit it on the nose when he wrote regarding the Augustini-
an tradition on sexuality that has affected both East and West that
‘It is hardly surprising that the modern heirs of this community
would suffer from an in-built schizophrenia in all that concerns this
most intimate and personal aspect of their lives.’ 60 Because no real
positive theology of marriage and sexuality has been articulated in
both East and West, people either accept this ambiguous or even
negative view of sexuality and attempt to extirpate this aspect from
life as shameful and harmful, or simply reject this teaching and all
Church teachings by extension as out of date and ludicrous. These
two solutions all too often translate in real life, on the one hand, to
a puritanical (oftentimes hypocritical) suppression or rejection of
sexuality, or, on the other hand, to a libertine ‘anything goes atti-
tude’ which throws away the baby with the bath water by promot-
ing free sex and rejecting legitimate sacramental marriage as totally
meaningless.
It is therefore high time that we rediscover the traditional pos-
itive teachings on marriage and sexuality which incorporate this
aspect of life in the context of the holy of holies and unambiguous-
ly reject confusing and schizophrenic notions adopted from dubi-
ous sources, but which have recently been baptized very uncritically
as ‘venerable tradition.’ If this is not done now, it will soon be too
late for future generations who, in their search for spirituality with-
59 R. Taft makes the very salient point that ‘Since the beginning of
history, religion, sex and gender have been entwined in an unrelenting
embrace.’ ‘Women at Church in Byzantium: Where, When – and Why?’
Dumbarton Oaks Papers 52 (1998): p. 27.
60 P. Sherrard, ‘The Sexual Relationship in Christian Thought,’ Stud-
KATE MCCRAY
As Klaus Klostermaier describes his experiences of India in the late
1960s, he identifies two ways of doing theology – what he calls 70
degree theology, done in a temperate environment and interacting
with a temperate God, and 120 degree theology, done in extreme
and often inhospitable conditions and interacting with a God who
knows suffering. Klostermaier reflects after watching a goat die of
heatstroke that nature itself seemed to challenge life in a heat so
extreme:
The theologian at 70˚ F and with a well-ordered life sees the
whole world as a beautiful harmony with a grand purpose, the
church as God’s kingdom on earth and himself as the promot-
er of the real culture of humanity. The theologian at 120˚ F
sees the cracks in the soil and the world as a desert; he consid-
ers whether it wouldn’t be wiser to keep the last jug of water
till the evening; he wishes the heat was a few degrees less and
he has to exert all his Christian faith trying to find a little bit of
sense in this life wherein he plays such a very insignificant role,
because he depends on so many people. 1
Certainly St. Gregory the Theologian has a 120-degree environ-
ment in mind as he addresses the problem of leprosy in his four-
teenth oration, On Love for the Poor. Identifying a strict division be-
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tween the social interactions of the healthy and the sick, Gregory
paints vignettes of the other side for wealthy patrons as he invites
them to bankroll St. Basil’s hospital complexes for the sick and
dying. As the lepers struggled for food and water, city life could
exist as if untouched by reminders of mortality, reminders which
the Theologian intends to describe in as much verbal and visceral
detail as possible. The patrons and landowners lived in metaphori-
cal 70 degree environments, lulled into thinking their bodies were
not susceptible to decay, while in stark contrast the lepers lived in
120 degree environments, their own bodies seemingly pitted
against them, withering and cracking like the Indian soil in the
summer heat. Describing the human struggle, Gregory laments this
fickle body – ‘How I came to be joined to it, I do not know; nor
how I am the image of God and concocted of clay at the same
time, this body that both wars against me when it is healthy and
when warred against, brings me pain, that I both cherish as my fel-
low-servant and evade as my enemy; that I both try to escape as my
chain and respect as my fellow heir.’ 2 What the Theologian pre-
sents to potential donors is not comfortable theology, armchair
advice, or casual dialogue with a temperate God. On the contrary it
is within a world of sweltering heat and disease that Gregory cen-
ters his oration and its corresponding discussion of the true family.
Certainly an oration discussing leprosy and concern for the
poor is a curious place to find an examination of family. Gregory
of Nazianzus begins his Oration 14 by addressing his brethren, an
expected opening in keeping with Pauline letters and Christian
homilies. ‘Brethren and fellow paupers,’ Gregory declares to those
listening, ‘we are all poor and needy where divine grace is con-
cerned.’ 3 At first blush, Gregory’s use of ‘brothers’ seems to indi-
cate a brotherhood of common humanity by which we connect
with one another’s plight. On a base level he calls for these patrons
to view the leper as a human, asking them to challenge the dehu-
manizing impact of leprosy’s disfigurement. After all, we are all one
4 Orat. 14.8.
5 Orat. 14.10.
6 Orat. 14.9.
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tion. 7 St. Gregory points to poverty and lack of concern as the de-
cay beneath the disease. If a friend would truly help the leper, food
and shelter would cure him.
Painting a picture of the leper calling out in the streets, Grego-
ry slowly begins to reveal the deeper brotherhood:
There lies before our eyes a dreadful and pathetic sight, one
that no one would believe who has not seen it: human beings
alive yet dead, disfigured in almost every part of their bodies,
barely recognizable for who they once were or where they
came from; or rather, the pitiful wreckage of what had once
been human beings. By way of identification they keep calling
out the names of their mothers and fathers, brothers, and plac-
es of origin: ‘I am the son of so-and-so. So-and-so is my moth-
er. This is my name. You used to be a close friend of mine. 8
Master of pathos, St. Gregory pulls at the heartstrings, peeling back
the layers of family to reveal another layer closer to the core of true
family identity. Beneath the layer of common human family, Greg-
ory reveals the nuclear family. The genetic, generational family fails,
however, to provide a better image for true family values. Despite
having given birth to a child, St. Gregory agonizes with a mother
who feels compelled to hate her own offspring as a result of this
rotting disease. The father despises his own son, regardless of their
bond, for fear of becoming infected. Once again leprosy challenges
the constitution and resolve of the family, dismantling both the
human and genetic family.
The leper calling out his name actually reflects a greater theme
in Gregory’s oration, the theme against fleshliness. Once the flesh
has literally fallen away, the leper is forced to call out the names of
his family members for lack of external identification. ‘This is my
mother’ – since I no longer resemble her; ‘you were my friend’ –
since you no longer recognize me. 9 This fleshly association with
personhood is a distraction, however, masking the final and true
10 Orat. 14.13.
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11 Orat. 14.13.
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provided they suffer with him in order that they may also be
glorified with him. 12
And immediately Gregory identifies our family name – ‘But what
of ourselves? We have received as our inheritance the great and
new designation derived from Christ’s name, we, the holy nation;
the royal priesthood; the peculiar and chosen people.’ 13 What is the
designation from his name but the title Christian? Much more than
a descriptor, the word Christ, indeed Christian, is a title, a patronal
and family name. Those suffering, those with whom the healthy
seem to share no connection, are ‘our brothers in God, whether
you like it or not.’ Gregory’s audience of wealthy patrons would
certainly have expected his oration to bid for their funds, even to
make use of pathos to convince them to dedicate money to care for
lepers.
But Gregory is not only asking for their money – he is reflect-
ing on how the wealthy patron over all of us, Jesus Christ, has giv-
en us his name through a process of communal dying, baptism.
This Patron of patrons suffered, was buried, endured tortures, to
which Gregory responds, ‘What of ourselves, who have been given
so great a model of sympathy and compassion? What will our atti-
tude toward these people be? What shall we do? Shall we neglect
them? Walk on by? Dismiss them as corpses … most certainly not
my brothers!’ 14 The temporal patrons are Gregory’s brethren,
which certainly does not offend them as he too is a wealthy land-
owner – but brethren with them as well are the lepers. St. Gregory
is not offering an opportunity for charity alone but a reclamation of
familial ties between estranged brothers. The patrons are obligated
to the lepers because they have been baptized into the same family,
share the same name, together in the Church form the same icon.
Truly they are united, birthed through death into the true fam-
ily, funded and cared for by the true Patron and brought together
under the banner of his love. St. Gregory reminds those in posi-
tions of aid that as we have experienced great mercy, so too it is the
12 Orat. 14.14.
13 Orat. 14.15.
14 Orat. 14.15.
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1 John Chrysostom, On Vainglory and the Right Way for Parents to Bring
up their Children, trans. in M.L.W. Laistner, Christianity and Pagan Culture in
the Later Roman Empire (Ithaca, NY: Cornell University Press, 1951), 1–10.
Hereafter: On Vainglory. The translation is employed with the slight altera-
tion of the second person singular to ‘you’ rather than ‘thou’. (The second
person plural is rarely, if ever, used, limiting the argument of Laistner for
this archaic translation strategy.)
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even instructs the father on drawing the pedagogue into his scheme
of Christian education.
Similarly, Chrysostom shows little wariness of the pagan
schooling that a Christian child would receive. Certainly, there was
cause for Christians to be concerned about pagan schools. The
curriculum was full of pagan literature and religion, and even the
apostate emperor Julian saw the conflict between Christianity and
pagan schools, issuing a ban on Christian teachers in such schools.
Nonetheless, a responsible father with the means would see to it
that his son’s career prospects would not be stunted by a lack of
education. As Nathan puts it, ‘No doubt many relied on a classical
program for their children without fully being comfortable with its
pagan trappings; but it is clear, too, that many were simply oblivi-
ous to the concern entirely.’ 19
Though Chrysostom is critical of much of pagan culture, he
does not suggest abandoning the schools in this treatise. While
such schooling feeds young men into the culture of the social and
political positioning that he decries, ‘Chrysostom simply takes it for
granted that the children of Christian parents are pupils in ordinary
schools; his concern is to ensure a correct balance or relationship
between their Christian formation and encyclical studies.’ 20 He
speaks of the fear that a child would know the feeling of waiting
for punishment from his teacher, 21 as well as the use of both Chris-
tian and pagan examples of temperate men. 22 As Bernard Schlager
observes, Chrysostom need not worry unduly about the pagan edu-
cation, because ‘its value pales in comparison with the more signifi-
cant elements of the family home and the church community.’ 23 If
a child is well formed in Christianity, he will approach his pagan
education and the predominantly pagan culture critically. 24 By the
join the paterfamilias and his friends at table, this was by no means as-
sumed. Additionally, he cites Quintilian’s concern that the convivium would
have been a corruptive influence on children. Meals, 41–44. In contrast,
Nielsen notes that in mourning Caligula banned pleasures like laughing,
the baths, and dining with one’s parents, wife, or children. If the former
were common pleasures, she argues, we ought to assume that dining with
family was both common and considered pleasant. Hanne Sigismund
Nielsen, ‘Roman Children at Mealtimes’, in Meals in a Social Context, 48–9.
30 Nathan, The Family, 145.
31 Nathan, The Family, 145.
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nose, and touch. It is the father’s role to fortify the city well and
establish prudent laws. Guarding the gate of the tongue, the father
himself must keep a close watch over what his son says. ‘Words
that are insolent and slanderous, foolish, shameful, common, and
worldly, all these we must expel.’ 32 Furthermore, the son is not to
swear or be contentious. 33 We must note that, while these are not
unusual habits of speech to condemn, it is to the father that Chrys-
ostom says, ‘If you should see him transgressing this law, punish
him,’ 34 and later, ‘Stop his mouth from speaking evil. If you see
him traducing another, curb him and direct his tongue toward his
own faults.’ 35
The fact that this act of bridling the tongue is the duty of the
Christian father, rather than that of the pedagogue, is emphasized
more explicitly in three ways. First, Chrysostom directs the father
to instruct the child’s mother, pedagogue, and servants to correct
the boy for vicious speech. 36 Thus associated with unspecified
household servants, we see the pedagogue – and even the mother!
– as secondary authorities or disciplinarians after the father. Addi-
tionally, the father is taking a more direct role in the formation of
his son than simply selecting a bonus vir as pedagogue. This empha-
sis on the father is reinforced when Chrysostom considers how
fathers often instruct their sons in the disciplines of military life.
Fathers, he says, teach their sons to shoot and to ride. They even
teach them about military dress and how to wear it. Similarly, they
ought to take such interest in training their young ‘soldiers of
God.’ 37 Finally, the father is told that he should not overlook the
verbal abuse of his son towards a servant, such as the pedagogue,
‘for if he knows that he may not ill use even a slave, he will abstain
all the more from insulting or slandering one who is free and of his
class.’ 38 Elsewhere in this text, Chrysostom even suggests that the
father instruct the other children and slaves to provoke the son in
question to practice controlling his anger. 39 As the lesson goes, the
father is to teach his son to be considerate of slaves (i.e. not em-
ploy slaves when he could perform a task without undue inconven-
ience), as slavery was not a natural state but a result of the Fall. Ex-
panding upon this, some are slaves to human masters, and some
slaves to their habits and passions. In light of the natural (i.e. pre-
lapsarian) state of things, slaves are to be treated as brothers, own-
ership aside. 40 Such lessons on the treatment of slaves would cer-
tainly be more effective coming from the paterfamilias than a slave
who benefits from them.
To keep vicious speech from emerging from the mouth, the
father must guard the second gate: hearing. If the youth does not
hear vicious speech, Chrysostom reasons, he will be unlikely to
generate it on his own. 41 The father must pay attention to how the
slaves and servants who come into contact with his son speak. 42
Apparently, Chrysostom expects the house to include loose-lipped
nurses who either prattle on about frivolous topics or gossip about
who kissed whom in town. 43 If a slave speaks lewdly in the pres-
ence of his son, the father ought to ‘punish him straightaway and
inquire zealously and sharply into the offense committed.’ 44 Of
course, this is not limited to the slaves of the household. ‘If any
man’ – perhaps even a friend, client, or neighbor – ‘would relate
what is base, let us not … suffer him to come near the boy.’ 45 Cer-
tainly, this concern ought to be considered in the careful selection
of the boy’s pedagogue, but Chrysostom does not seem to be will-
ing to allow the guarding of this gate to be delegated fully, even to a
father that if he should allow the boy to smell such things, it will
relax the otherwise vigilant and rational brain. No doubt, with a
relaxed brain passions will run wild, and the boy will seek ways to
gratify them. 46 Touch is also treated somewhat fleetingly with the
simple instruction to keep sons from soft couches, clothing, and
bodies; as an athlete for Christ, he ought to be accustomed to aus-
terity. 47 Such austerity is to be coupled with an insistence that a son
must not rely upon slaves to do things that he can do himself, such
as wash himself and put on his own coat. 48
These may seem unusual points of contention, but Chrysos-
tom repeatedly insists that these are not ‘trifles’ in the formation of
a boy, and even in the formation of society at large. 49 Let us recall
first that this is a treatise on vainglory, which manifests itself in an
ostentatious delight in pleasurable things or in a well ornamented
house. To train one’s son against such delight is to create a prudent
steward of family resources, an important concern of the paterfamil-
ias. Second, it is in attention to such details of daily life (‘trifles’)
that the value of the virtuous pedagogue is expressed. This is why
the pedagogue chaperones his charge at home and in the city. In
this case, the father (as pedagogue) watches over his son’s daily
surroundings and encounters, recognizing that these contribute to
his character formation as much as any lesson articulated with
words.
Of course, intercepting vice is not a full program of moral
formation and socialization. There must be some positive contribu-
tion to fill the void left by the eliminated vicious elements of daily
life, and so Chrysostom gives the father the task of creating a thor-
oughly Christian culture for his son. Rather than frivolous, lewd, or
abusive speech that a child may have picked up from slaves or
guests, he should have on his lips the Word of God, thanksgiving,
‘grave and reverent words’ or even discourse on God and philoso-
phy. 50 So, too, his father should teach him hymns to sing, and this
70 Chrysostom, On Vainglory, 1.
71 Leyerle, 267. In reference to other texts, she sees children as use-
ful in educating adults by showing how childish adult pursuits and activi-
ties are.
72 Bakke, When Children, 172.
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wax; for those well raised, virtue will harden and be difficult to
change. 73 Vice, by contrast, can also harden for those poorly reared,
‘for men who have been reared and grown old with a bad constitu-
tion, it would be very difficult to reform.’ 74
Despite this depressing picture, Bakke does not think that
Chrysostom has lost hope for the adult generation. They are saved
through the proper rearing of their children, and there are theolog-
ical and worldly reasons to encourage them in this. Theologically,
the rearing of children is the greatest example of love of one’s
neighbor; it is a fulfillment of the natural concern of a parent for a
child implanted by God; and it reveals the image of God within the
child. 75 On the other hand, Bakke contests, Chrysostom appeals to
vainglory at the very time that he is arguing against it. A child
reared in virtue will bring glory upon his parents, in Chrysostom’s
thinking. From a negative angle, a disobedient child would bring
shame upon his parents, while on the positive side, Chrysostom
reorients honor to show that a virtuous child and well-ordered
household bring great honor within Christian circles through the
recognition of closeness to God. 76
Chrysostom certainly argues that good Christian fatherhood is
to the father’s benefit. Early in On Vainglory he says quite clearly,
‘You will be the first to benefit, if you have a good son, and then
God. You labor for yourself.’ 77 However, I would like to contest
the notion that Christian parents are incorrigible, only redeemed by
rearing a saint (as if sanctity were transferrable via a joint-account).
As much as Chrysostom recognizes the difficulty in changing old
habits, he is surprisingly optimistic about the possibility. Of those
who ‘have grown old with a bad constitution’ he adds, ‘Even they
can be reformed if they be willing.’ 78 On the one hand, Chrysostom
warns the father father that this process must proceed laboriously
day-by-day, and he must devote all of his leisure to rearing his
DYLAN PAHMAN
INTRODUCTION
What makes a society? While this may seem like a simple question,
the various ways in which different schools of Christian social
thought answer it have wide-reaching ramifications for how one
approaches any societal challenge. This essay seeks to offer a con-
structive, Orthodox Christian answer to the question and argues
for its broader relevance to Christian social thought as a whole. I
begin by very briefly surveying three other approaches, the Roman
Catholic (subsidiarity), neo-Calvinist (sphere sovereignty), and the
presocial or statist. Drawing upon Fr. Georges Florovsky’s defini-
tion of true asceticism, patristic biblical commentary and theology,
and Vladimir Solovyov’s analysis of the ascetic nature of marriage
in his work The Justification of the Good, I argue for asceticism as the
Orthodox answer to the question, ‘What makes a society?’ 2
1 A large portion of this paper, which was first presented at the 2012
Sophia conference, is a revision of two sections from my forthcoming
monograph to be published by the Acton Institute. My thanks to those at
the Sophia conference for their helpful comments and feedback.
2 A good account of asceticism in the Orthodox tradition comes
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ORTHODOX ANSWERS
Though several principles have been advocated as the core Ortho-
dox principle of societal engagement – such as incarnation and res-
urrection, holism, diakonia, and agape – these, however true and use-
ful, tend to be based upon little substantial research and, in some
cases, can be overly abstract for a subject that requires a healthy
practicality and realism in order to be applicable. 3 In general,
OTHER ANSWERS
For Roman Catholics, each community has a God-given nature and
purpose. With this in mind, the Roman Catholic answer to the
question comes in the form of subsidiarity, which holds that each
social problem is to be addressed by the most local community and
only appropriated by a higher level if a particular community is in
need of outside assistance (subsidium). Pope Pius XI describes it in
the context of the state as follows,
The supreme authority of the State ought … to let subordinate
groups handle matters and concerns of lesser importance,
which would otherwise dissipate its efforts greatly. Thereby the
Orthodoxy. (Notre Dame, IN: University of Notre Dame Press, 2012), 53.
158 DYLAN PAHMAN
5 Pope Pius XI, Encyclical Letter Quadrigesimo Anno (1931), 80. Ac-
cessed September 13, 2012: viz.
http://www.vatican.va/holy_father/pius_xi/encyclicals/documents/hf_p
-xi_enc_19310515_quadragesimo-anno_en.html.
6 See Aquinas, T. Summa Theologica, Ia q. 1 a. 8 ad 2.
7 For an introduction to this perspective, see Kuyper, A. ‘Sphere
which Christ, who is Sovereign over all, does not cry: ‘Mine!’’ 8 This
sphere sovereignty, then, is what truly makes a society from a neo-
Calvinist perspective.
Other traditions have other answers. For example, one prom-
inent approach – perhaps more often assumed today than thought-
fully chosen – is the idea that human nature is presocial. This bar-
baric state of nature is only overcome when order is imposed upon
people from outside of them by a powerful, sovereign state. Natu-
rally, this statist approach favors state-centered solutions to social
challenges in accordance with its assumed answer to the question,
‘What makes a society?’ The power of the state makes society, and
the state is therefore the primary solution to all of society’s prob-
lems. 9
My goal in the rest of this paper is to very briefly outline an
Orthodox Christian answer to this question. As may become ap-
parent, I do not feel that it is mutually exclusive with the Roman
Catholic or neo-Calvinist approaches but rather that it offers an-
other perspective by bringing to the forefront an area of Christian
thought often neglected or minimalized by these traditions in dis-
cussions of social ethics: asceticism. This, I argue, is the Orthodox
New Testament (cf. Matthew 17:21; Mark 9:29; Luke 2:37; Acts 13:3,
14:23), it is sufficient to note that the Didache recommends fasting on
Wednesdays and Fridays (Didache 8.1–2. In trans. Richardson, C.C. Early
Christian Fathers. Philadelphia PA: Westminster Press, 1953, 174), a prac-
tice still observed by Orthodox Christians today, and that the practice of
observing a period of fasting before Pascha (Easter) can be documented
from, at least, the time of St. Irenaeus (see Eusebius, Ecclesiastical History
5.24.11–18. NPNF2 1:243–4). See also the elaborate metaphor of the rela-
tionship between the body and soul in the Epistle to Diognetus 6 (ANF
1:27). If this is not enough, one needs only to consult the work of Tilley
on the crucial role asceticism played in the endurance of the earliest mar-
tyrs and Satlow on the presence of asceticism in Judaism of the same time
period to see from the former that asceticism was not only present in the
early Church, but essential, and from the latter that it was not only Hellen-
ASCETICISM, MARRIAGE, THE FAMILY, AND SOCIETY 161
istic (as if that would be a bad thing), but thoroughly Jewish as well. See
Tilley, M.A. ‘The Ascetic Body and the (Un)Making of the World of the
Martyr.’ Journal of the American Academy of Religion 59, no. 3. (1991): 467–79
and Satlow, M.L. ‘‘And on the Earth You Shall Sleep’: ‘Talmud Torah’
and Rabbinic Asceticism.’ The Journal of Religion 83, no. 2. (2003): 204–25.
14 Cassian, J. Conferences 1.7. In ed. Chadwick, O. Western Asceticism.
rable from true piety and altruism. See Solovyov, V.S. The Justification of the
Good. Rev. ed. Trans. Nathalie A. Duddington. Ed. Boris Jakim. (Grand
Rapids, MI: Eerdmans, 2005), 51–2: ‘Asceticism in itself is not necessarily
a good, and cannot therefore be the supreme or the absolute principle of
morality. The true (the moral) ascetic acquires control over the flesh, not
simply for the sake of increasing the powers of the spirit, but for further-
ing the realisation of the Good. Asceticism which liberates the spirit from
shameful (carnal) passions only to attach it more closely to evil (spiritual)
passions is obviously a false and immoral asceticism. Its true prototype,
according to the Christian ideal, is the devil, who does not eat or drink
162 DYLAN PAHMAN
and remains in celibacy. If, then, from the moral point of view we cannot
approve of a wicked or pitiless ascetic, it follows that the principle of as-
ceticism has only a relative moral significance, namely, that it is conditioned
by its connection with the principle of altruism, the root of which is pity.’
Simons interprets this connection in the context of Solovyov’s thought on
war and the natural reverence due to one’s ancestors. See Simons, A. ‘In
the Name of the Spirits: A Reading of Solov’ëv’s ‘Justification of the
Good.’’ Studies in East European Thought 51, no. 3. (1999): 189–90.
17 Petrakis, V. ‘Philanthropia as a Social Reality of Askesis and Theosis in
Gregory the Theologian’s Oration: On the Love of the Poor.’ In ed. Pereira,
M.J. Philanthropy and Social Compassion in Eastern Orthodox Tradition. The
Sophia Institute: Studies in Orthodox Theology. Vol. 2. (New York, NY:
Theotokos Press – The Sophia Institute, 2010), 91.
18 McGuckin, J. ‘Embodying the New Society: The Byzantine Chris-
ASCETICISM IN MARRIAGE
In The Justification of the Good, the Russian Orthodox philosopher
Vladimir Solovyov writes, ‘True asceticism … has two forms – mo-
nasticism and marriage.’ 21 Marriage, of course, is the most basic socie-
tal institution, ideally at the heart of the family, the most basic and
natural societal group. If marriage is truly a form of asceticism,
then society itself must be ascetic in its roots.
But how is marriage ascetic? St. Paul, first of all, defines mar-
riage as a relationship of mutual submission (Ephesians 5:21–33) in
which one’s body is not one’s own (1 Corinthians 7:4). Similarly,
Solovyov notes that the bond of marriage actually limits and trans-
forms sexual desire, writing,
CONCLUSION
So what makes a society? As unlikely as it may sound at first blush,
I contend that the Orthodox answer is asceticism and that this an-
swer need not be limited to the Orthodox tradition but reflects a
fundamental reality of society as everyone, in fact, experiences it.
As such, this Orthodox perspective therefore constitutes a vital
contribution to Christian social thought as a whole and one that
deserves to be explored in greater detail and to be further em-
ployed in future Christian societal engagement. It is an answer, I
believe, that speaks directly to the sentiment of the eighteenth cen-
tury, Irish statesman and political philosopher Edmund Burke:
Society cannot exist, unless a controlling power upon will and
appetite be placed somewhere; and the less of it there is within,
the more there must be without. It is ordained in the eternal
constitution of things, that men of intemperate minds cannot
be free. Their passions forge their fetters. 27
Asceticism is the means by which people put inner restraint ‘upon
will and appetite,’ apart from which they ‘cannot be free’ and
‘[s]ociety cannot exist.’ And indeed, if, according to Archimandrate
Sophrony, ‘[a]sceticism, understood as spiritual labour, constitutes
an inseparable part of the histories of all known religions and civili-
zations, even of civilizations with no religious basis,’ 28 then asceti-
cism as a core societal principle holds great potential for thoughtful
public discourse as well.
(KALE T H UGATER ) 1
LEGACY FROM THE GOOD DAUGHTER
V.K. MCCARTY
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170 V.K. MCCARTY
4 There was a tradition that he had appointed their forbear the Duke
of Constantinople, hence the family name Dukas.
5 F Dölger. ‘Byzantine Literature.’ in Cambridge Medieval History. v. 4.
the royal birthing room in the palace, a chamber lined with semi-precious
purple porphyry stone.
12 See Ostrogorsky. History of the Byzantine State. p. 376.
172 V.K. MCCARTY
13 Maria of Alania had caught the eye of Anna’s father as well: Alex-
ios Komnenos was ‘so passionately attached to this beautiful and clever
woman that he was ready to sacrifice his own wife Irene for her; he was
only saved from this false step, which might have had grave political con-
sequences, by the energetic protests of Patriarch Cosmas who insisted on
the crowning of Irene.’ Ostrogorsky. History of the Byzantine State. p. 376.
14 He was also, it should be noted, a rival emperor during the reigns
which Anna took after her mother, who cleverly persuaded her of
the wisdom of the Fathers. 20 Empress Irene was often found at
table ‘diligently reading the dogmatic pronouncements of the Holy
Fathers’ [V.ix; 178], and was said to have written the Typikon for
the convent she founded, the Mother of God Kecharitomene. 21
Even with the evidence of their gruesome intentions hanging in the
balance, Anna Komnene crafted the Alexiad to complete a project
inaugurated by her mother; Irene Doukaina had commissioned
Anna’s husband to write an historical account of the deeds of Alex-
ios after his death. What survives of this effort is the essay ‘Materi-
als for a History.’ 22
Anna Komnene composed her own fifteen-volume work dur-
ing the reign of Manual I, the next emperor after John. Although in
all probability she intentionally offered a version of history which
passed over her brother’s reign in critical silence, John II Komne-
nos has in fact been regarded by some as the greatest of the Kom-
nenian emperors. 23 Written in retrospect, the Alexiad looks back on
memories of her father’s life culled from war stories of the emper-
or’s retired comrades-in-arms [XIV.vii; 460], Anna’s own eyewit-
ness memories, 24 and conversations between the emperor and his
tion v. 23. (1953): pp. 469–530. vv. 25–27. 1955–57. pp. 881–925.
23 See J Birkenmeier. The Development of the Komnenian Army: 1081–
dom every day before her father the Emperor and was roused to emula-
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cannot have been written by a woman and must therefore derive from
lost Breyennios dossiers rather than having been written by Anna Kom-
nene has fortunately not found many adherents.’ D.C. Smythe. ‘Middle
Byzantine Family Values and Anna Komnene’s Alexiad.’ in Byzantine
Women: Varieties of Experience 800–1200. L Garland. (ed). (Aldershot: Ash-
gate, 2006), p. 130. For James Howard-Johnson’s evaluation of Anna
Komnene’s authorial integrity, see ‘Anna Komnene and the Alexiad.’ in
Alexios I Komnenos: Papers. M Mullett and D Smythe. (eds). (Belfast: Belfast
Byzantine Texts and Translations, 1996).
28 See M Psellus. The Chronographia. E Sewter. (trans). (London:
ne’s son, this double-team mothering of Alexios for the sake of dynastic
strategy created a dove-tailing of the generations which was unusual, to
say the least.
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33 Empress Irene was ‘deeply pious and became the patron of monks
and holy men.’ Angold. Church and Society in Byzantium. p. 45, 69.
34 Additionally, the fact that he confiscated Church treasures to pay
phia during her son’s coup d’état by clasping the sacred doors at the en-
trance and crying out, ‘Unless my hands are cut off, I will not leave this
holy place, except on one condition: that I receive the Emperor’s cross as
guarantee of safety.’ Book II.v; 85. Another remarkable action-film-
worthy image depicts the warrior-prowess of her father, who suddenly
struck at the enemy; ‘his hand, together with the sword in it, was at once
hurled to the ground.’ Book I.viii; 50.
41 See Connor. Women of Byzantium. p. 248.
42 ‘He yielded her precedence in everything, relinquishing the reins
vives inscribed with the phrase. 43 Anna also offers the reader ap-
preciative descriptions of her mother, Irene Doukaina, comparing
her lovely hands to carved ivory. [III.iii; 110–111]
Demonstrating her filial devotion, Anna Komnene recounts a
miraculous occurrence in connection with her birth: since her fa-
ther was away on campaign, Empress Irene is said to have made
the sign of the cross upon her belly, charging her unborn child to
stay the onset of labor until his return. [VI.viii; 196] Anna paints a
picture of the rounds of her pious imperial family life with sched-
uled times for Scripture to be read and Psalms to be offered, where
‘it was natural that men of culture should attend the palace when
the devoted pair (my parents, I mean) were themselves laboring so
hard night and day in searching the Holy Scriptures.’ [V.ix; 178]
Later, after her childbearing years, Empress Irene accompanied her
husband on campaign, 44 and was known for her generosity and
good counsel to the poor. [XII.iii; 377–378] Maria of Alania as well
comes in for admiration and praise in Anna Komnene’s descrip-
tion. 45
Anna Dalassene, Irene Doukaina, and Maria of Alania each
figure significantly in Anna’s family life and that of her father,
Alexios I. All three women ‘deal with the individual crises they face
with courage and vision.’ 46 Both Anna Komnene’s mother and her
grandmother retired to the convents they founded, Irene Doukaina
to the Kecharitomene, and Anna Dalassene to the Pantepoptes.
Anna followed in turn, also retiring to the Kecharitomene convent,
‘where she interacted with educated men who flocked there to
read, write, and recite.’ 47 Of course, it must be remembered that
p. 51.
52 Hatlie. ‘Images of Motherhood and Self in Byzantine Literature.’
p. 52.
53 See N Choniates. O City of Byzantium: Annals of Niketas Choniatēs. H
Crusade?’ p. 41.
58 ‘The perpetual strain of panegyric and apology awakens our jeal-
ousy to question the veracity of the author.’ E Gibbon. The History of the
Decline and Fall of the Roman Empire. (New York, NY: Harper & Bros.,
1880), v. 4, p. 619.
182 V.K. MCCARTY
1261. p. 69.
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This study will take four passages from Origen’s Commentary and
Homilies on the Song of Songs, in order to trace Origen’s under-
standing of love and its role in the ascent of the soul to God. It will
also look at his writing on the secondary themes of the ordering of
human love and marriage within the corpus. Applying K. J. Tor-
jesen’s system for reading Origen, the study notes Origen’s repeat-
ing exegetical cycle within the passages. The varied levels of mean-
ing within texts are noted, moving from Origen’s direct explica-
tions to his allegorical reading; and Origen’s teachings to the indi-
vidual reader, concerned with preparing the heart to receive Christ,
are highlighted. The first passage under consideration is taken from
the Prologue to the Commentary On the Song, and examines the
nature of love. Origen writes partly in reply to Plato’s Symposium.
The second passage, from the Commentary, traces God’s love for
the preexistent church through scriptural history. The third text
under consideration, also from the Commentary, addresses the
problem of human love; and the fourth, from Origen’s second
Homily on the Song of Songs, is studied as an example of the rhe-
torical treatment of the problem of human love. The study in gen-
eral serves as an introduction to Origen’s method of reading and
analyzing a text, as well as setting out Origen’s theologoumena on the
love of God and the response of humanity to God’s love.
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Origen examines is ‘We will make thee likenesses of gold with sil-
ver inlays, till the King recline at his table’ (SS 1.11–12a).
The section as a whole exhibits elements identified by Tor-
jesen in her analysis of Origen’s exegesis: after quoting from the
Song of Songs, Origen explicates the passage in his own words,
identifying the actors who are speaking (‘Verse’); he continues, of-
ten utilizing catalogues of citations from scripture based on a single
term, followed by an aside to the reader, but also in the form of a
general analytical statement on the passage (‘Narrative’); sometimes
Origen’s explications refer to the Bride as the church (‘Teaching’),
and sometimes to the Bride as the soul (‘Reader’). Concluding this
section, Origen writes a final repetition the original verse with a
spiritual teaching to the reader (‘Reader’). Rather than conforming
to Torjesen’s concluding figure pattern, it is one of Torjesen’s in-
termediary steps in the cycle (‘Reader’), since it is not the conclud-
ing passage of the book.
TEXT ANALYSIS
even as the Lord says through the prophet: ‘I gave you silver
and gold, but you have made silver and golden Baalim’ [Hos
2.8]. Which is as much to say: ‘I gave you perception and rea-
son, with which to perceive and worship me, your God; but
you have transferred the perception and reason that is in you
to the worship of evil spirits’ (CS 2.8 [151]).
In this case, Israel has misused the gifts of God, perception and
eloquence.
There is a further symbolic meaning in silver and gold, as the
visible expression of the divine. Origen then turns to the Tabernac-
le (Ex 25–7) and notes gold altar objects such as the Ark of Testi-
mony and the altar of incense, then seeing the Temple itself as the
visible expression of the heavenly order, patterns of the true, but
not the truth. He sees that everything written under the Law is also
a likeness of gold, a natural law that contains knowledge (CS 2.8
[152]).
Origen returns to a quotation from the first exegetical cycle.
While it referred to the angels ministering to the preexistent church
in the first exegetical cycle, here the quotation will refer to the Law
as a divinely inspired pattern of truth, but not the truth itself:
For it seems to me that because the Law which ‘was ordained
by angels in the hand of the mediator’ [Gal 3.19], had ‘but a
shadow of good things to come, not the very image of the
things’ [Heb 10.1], and because all the things that happened to
those who are described as being under the Law happened in a
figure, not the truth, these things are all of them likenesses of
gold, not true gold (CS 2.8 [152]).
In this case, the true gold represents things unseen, with the like-
nesses being the visible expression of things unseen (CS 2.8 [152]).
What is in heaven contains the true, while what is on earth is a pat-
tern of the truth. Origen sees the Law and Judaism as a pattern of
the true, but not the truth itself (CS 2.8 [153]).
The point of Origen’s discussion of the symbology of silver
and gold is that the companions of the Bridegroom, the angels,
prophets and patriarchs referred to earlier, have been teaching the
Bride through the Law and the Prophets ‘by means of figures, and
images, and likenesses, and parables’ (CS 2.8 [152]). Origen goes on
to say that the ‘silver inlays’ of the verse are ‘tokens of a spiritual
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For Origen, faith in the coming Christ imparts the same under-
standing of the truth as faith after the Crucifixion. It brings the
soul to the same state of maturity. This reflection takes Origen to
his second interpretation, pertaining to the individual soul.
For the soul, ‘ till the King recline at his table’ has to do with
the Bride’s readiness to accept Christ into her heart. Likenesses are
for a specific purpose: to ready the soul, as the Bride, to receive the
Bridegroom of Christ. In one of several asides to the reader
(‘Reader’) in this cycle, Origen states:
These likenesses had, therefore, to be made only ‘till the King
recline at His table’ – that is, only until such a soul shall ad-
vance sufficiently to receive ‘the King reclining at His table’ in
herself. For this King says Himself: ‘I will dwell among them,
and I will walk among them’[Lev 26.12], meaning among
those, surely, who offer such roomy hearts to the Word of
God that He may even be said to walk about in them, that is,
in the open spaces of a fuller understanding and a wider
knowledge (CS 2.8 [158]).
Origen interprets Leviticus in a new way. Reading back into scrip-
ture from the Crucifixion, he can now see the quote applied to the
individual soul as well as to the nation of Israel. Origen then de-
scribes the soul ready to receive Christ: ‘That King, who is the
Word of God, reclines, then, at His table in that soul who … has
no vice in her … full of holiness, full of piety, faith, charity, peace,
and all the other virtues.Then it is that the King takes pleasure in
resting and reclining at His table in her’ (CS 2.8 [158]). Origen goes
on to describe the banquet that Christ and Father have in the heart
of such a soul: ‘Peace is the first food put there, with it are served
humility and patience, clemency likewise and gentleness and – the
sweetest of all to Him – cleanness of heart. But charity holds the
highest place at this banquet’ (CS 2.8 [159]). In his lesson for the
reader, charity is the crowning virtue, the one to be most sought.
This is the instruction to the reader, paired with the spiritual read-
ing of the verse (‘Reader’).
This exegetical cycle concludes the section. Origen imparts his
concluding teaching, making it a spiritual teaching to the reader in
Torjesen’s system (‘Reader’), but incorporating the repetition of the
verse from Torjesen’s final movement of the exegetical cycle
(‘Verse Repeat’): ‘On these lines, therefore, on this third interpreta-
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tion, you will see that the words: ‘We will make thee likenesses of
gold with silver inlays, till the King recline at His table’, may be
applied to any individual soul’ (CS 2.8 [159]). At the end of the
third cycle, Origen reveals a dual concern in this section: the spir-
itual advancement of the reader and the premise that the Church,
as Bride of Christ, has been loved by God from the beginning of
Creation.
Conclusion
The three exegetical cycles Origen forms out of the text all support
one conclusion: the prophets and patriarchs of Israel, as well as the
angels, have been guiding and guarding the Bride, the church, from
the beginning of creation, teaching her through parables, figures
and the Law until the Bridegroom, Christ, should appear to claim
her through the Crucifixion. These companions of the Bridegroom
have not the wisdom of the Bridegroom, but they have some un-
derstanding of it, which they impart to the Bride. This the Bride
must learn to be ready to receive the Bridegroom so that he may
feast and live within her. For the individual, the teachings of the
companions are a preparation of one’s heart, making it fit for the
Bridegroom. All of this happens because God loves his creation.
Origen as Homilist
Origen’s first and second homilies are abridged versions of his
Commentary. While the first homily covers the first two books
extant of the Commentary, the second homily covers the last two
books extant. In writing for the congregation, Origen makes a few
concessions to the more general knowledge of his audience. Most
of the same points are made. The logic underlying them is not ar-
ticulated.
The text of the Homilies was translated into the Latin from
the Greek by Jerome. There has been controversy over the transla-
tions of Origen into Latin, particularly the work of Rufinus in the
Commentary. This chapter presents an opportunity to compare
two exegesis of one text; ‘Set ye in order charity in me’ (SS 2.4b).
Chapter 3 examined Origen’s exegesis of the text in the Commen-
tary (CS 3.7). Origen’s exegesis of the same text appears in the sec-
ond homily (HS 2.8). Origen’s rationale remains the same, even if it
is not set out before the congregation. The ordering of human love
remains unchanged. The most notable difference is that Jerome’s
text is clearly one to be heard rather than read, but this would be
appropriate in a homily.
Torjesen’s cycle of exegesis is somewhat different in the
homilies than the Commentary. The verse is repeated (‘Verse’), but
the narrative and the teaching are combined into a narrative where
the story is told as spiritual interaction between Christ and the
Church that the hearer is to act upon in his or her own life (‘Narra-
tive/Teaching’). In the homilies the hearer is often addressed di-
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TEXT ANALYSIS
The Lesson
Origen begins, as in Commentary, with the quote of the verse to be
analyzed: ‘Set ye in order charity in me’ (‘Verse’). Then he goes di-
rectly to his teaching saying: ‘For truly the charity of many is in a
state of disorder; they accord the second place in their loving to
that which ought to be first, and to that which should come second
they give the first … But the charity of the saints has been set in
order’ (HS 2.8 [295]). Origen assumes his congregation to be like
most people, loving inappropriately. He acknowledges that the
right order of love is difficult: only the saints love in an orderly
way.
The change of tone from the Commentary is immediately ap-
parent; this is not an intellectual discourse written for the academic
mind. Origen gives the kind of illustration and detail for the aver-
age congregant preoccupied with family and community. He
doesn’t cite the scriptural proof texts for his assertion. It isn’t im-
portant for his congregation to understand what the foundation for
his lesson is. They have to follow it to bring their souls closer to
God. This is the point of Origen’s homily. However, the pattern
for the ordering of human love is exactly the same as in his Com-
mentary (CS 3.7).
Conclusion
In reading the second homily, a different rhetoric emerges from
that of the Commentary. Origen engages his hearers directly, chal-
lenging them to put the lesson into practice. He repeats his mes-
sage several times, always recasting it in a different mode: story,
direct challenge by employing the interrogative, and deliberate dis-
ordering of the order of human love. Origen’s language is vivid,
paraphrasing scriptural sources and weaving them seamlessly into
the narrative of the homily. A master exegete, Origen is a master
homilist as well. He is able to impart all the nuance of his theology
to his congregation as effectively as to his serious students.
Bk II, ii.
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6 Hans Urs von Balthasar,. Origen, Spirit & Fire, (Washington, D.C.:
The Catholic University of America Press, 1984), the introductory note.
Hans Urs von Balthasar quotes Origen: ‘I want to be a man of the
Church. I do not want to be called by the name of some founder of a
heresy, but the name of Christ, and to bear that name which is blessed on
the Earth. It is my desire, in deed as in spirit, both to be and to be called a
Christian. If I, who seem to be your right hand am called Presbyter and
seem to preach the Word of God, if I do something against the discipline
of the Church and the Rule of the Gospel so that I become a scandal to
you, the Church, then may the whole Church, in unanimous resolve, cut
me, its right hand, off, and throw me away.’
7 James Zona. ‘‘Set Love in Order in Me’: Eros-Knowing in Origen
thing. Everyone who has reached the age that they call puberty
loves something.’ 8
To understand Origen on Love we must identify the various dy-
namics attributed to the idea. Origen rarely ever identifies philoso-
phers by name, with a major exception being against Celsus, so
when looking at Origen’s ideas it is best to understand him in the
context of the broader thought. Though typically cast as a Middle-
Platonist, Origen is probably better understood to be a synthesis of
Hellenistic and Christian thought, but heavily influenced by both
Hebrew and Egyptian culture. Because names are not important to
Origen, locating the idea of Love is going to have to be done in the
same way scholars try to understand problems in Origen’s soteriol-
ogy – an aspect of his system directly related to his idea of Love.
His soteriological design has been in question since the time he
wrote it up until this very day. 9 The problem Origen’s critics have
is his leaving of the door of salvation, potentially, opened for Satan.
His soteriology best represented in the Peri Archon, but the method
used to understand his thought is by contextualizing the ideas
against other contemporary and historical thinkers. Then, by look-
ing at thinkers before, during, and after Origen’s time on the exact
same concepts – Agape, Eros, Philanthropia – we should be able to
attempt to accomplish the task at hand.
New Testament, the word Love is translated from the word caritas
which is translated from the word agape. The Greek word agape is
practically the only word used for the idea of Love in the New Tes-
tament outside of very few instances otherwise.
Agape is a transcendent form of Love. Anders Nygren in
Agape and Eros argues Christianity’s notion of agape supplants the
Hellenistic notion of eros. 10 The difference between the two forms
of love is that agape is typically understood from above and eros
from below, the latter being in accordance with sexual relations or
the ascent of the soul. Though later theologians would use the
terms to their liking, the notion that one comes from above and
one comes from below worked well with whoever was using the
ascent of the soul or the descent of God’s Love in their work. 11
However it was, the terms were usually used in contrast to each
other, continuing through Latin’s words of love caritas (agape) and
amor (eros). The distinction itself is only necessary insofar as it is one
which is used. Grace, typically, is the normative way Christians
speak of God’s Love. Grace is the participatory aspect of a human
being with God’s Love. Eros is a different form of participatory
love, it is different in that it is sexual and, most importantly, is an
ascending process. The descending is from God’s Love for the par-
ticular human being and for humanity itself.
Basically, agape as a transcendent form of love (God is Love;
cf. Jn 1) interacts with grace in that it is the participatory element of
Love-itself with its love for humanity. Irving Singer says, ‘agape pre-
cedes man’s love and excels it in every aspect’. 12 It is the idea of
God as Love from which grace flows. This is why it was as potent
in its association as God’s Love in its translation in the Greek New
of Nyssa, etc. would still use various Greek words for Love.
12 Irving Singer. The Nature of Love, Vol. I: Plato to Luther (Chicago, IL:
language of eros is far more dominant. In that time, it was the dom-
inant way of speaking about non-political love.
Agape, though not the dominant language for Platonists, is the
common word for Love in the New Testament. In fact, eros is not
in the New Testament at all. Eros was, however, appropriated by
Christian thinkers after Origen. Gregory of Nyssa and Pseudo-
Dionysius, influenced by Origen, preferred the language of eros.
Christians writing the Greek translation of the New Testament fo-
cused the language of God on agape, but in just a few centuries the
language of eros would be as common. Plotinus’s language on the
Beautiful is important to distinguish from Dionysius. While the
latter speaks of the Divine Eros in a sense of passing beyond the
limits of the finite self and as representative of God, Plotinus has it
has a mechanism moving towards it. Eros is an aspect of the One
or the first principle, but it is not the transcendent One itself. 18
This distinction is only important to note because for Plotinus,
nearly a contemporary of Origen and similarly educated in Middle-
Platonism, we see where the idea of Greek love is subordinated. In
Dionysius, a post-Origen apophatic Christian, we see a strong privi-
lege of the idea, no matter if the language is the New Testament’s
agape or the philosophical or sexual notion of eros. 19 To Plotinus,
God is more synonymous with the object of Beauty rather than the
activity of love. God is Beauty inasmuch as God calls all things
towards God’s self by being Beautiful. For Origen, these notions
are distinct and highly interrelated, yet the privilege – if there could
be said to be one – would rest on the idea of Love.
This is a big difference between Origen and other notable
Middle-Platonists. He makes a particular point of heading down
the Christian line of thought. The distinction Nygren sets up, with
Origen privileging agape over eros, is best combated with Crouzel’s
understanding that Origen combines the two ideas positively and
synthetically. Though successfully blending Hellenistic and Chris-
23 Ibid., 201.
24 Themistius, Oration I, 5 c.
25 Rist, ‘On the Platonism of Gregory of Nyssa’, 208.
26 Aeschylus, Prometheus, line 11. The word is sometimes understood
tian lines between eros and agape get tricky. Philanthropia, as we see,
has two meanings. While in Prometheus Bound it is to imply a love for
humanity that transcends our ignorance or imperfection, in later
times it splits into a) man’s love for humanity (Acts 28:4), and, b)
God’s Love for humanity (Titus 3:2). This is basically a love that
moves horizontally and downwardly, depending on how you look
at it. What is missing, then, is a love which moves upwards. As
Crouzel observed, Origen’s understanding of love is basically a hy-
brid of eros and agape, meaning that his love ascends and descends
simultaneously. Philanthropia shows us how Origen believes God
loves humanity and, in his saving act, incarnated so that we might
have a vehicle of salvation. The concept of philanthropia in this way
is a one-time act. But for Origen that is anything but the case. To
Origen, this act opened up the world to grace, a perpetual form of
God’s philanthropic love for humanity. By the divine love called
grace we ascend towards God and mimic that very love towards
each other.
For a wide commentary on the life and thought of Origen see Jo-
27
dition, however, has always held Origen as one of the most histori-
cally significant thinkers in Christianity.
Having been trained in what we broadly categorize as Middle-
Platonic thought, Origen positively synthesized the volksgeist of
Egypt with the fledgling Christian religion. In Alexandria, he was
not alone in his religious conviction, but it was also not necessarily
an area yet dominated by the tradition. It was not until at least two
hundred years later that Christianity was a dominant, less contested
religion in that area. Alexandria was a highly diverse area and Ori-
gen was writing for a diversely educated group of people. In a way,
Egypt was the Light of the World. Though his actual students
were, in fact, of a particular social segment and relatively well off,
he was still dealing with a broader cultural context which took Hel-
lenism seriously. Pagan or Hellenistic philosophy was later rejected
by Christian thinkers, but in Origen’s day it was not so clear-cut.
The most important aspect of his metaphysical system is, like other
Middle-Platonists, the logos. To Origen, the logos is the One; it is
synonymous with Christ. In his Commentary on John, he represents as
high a Christology as one can have. Jesus, the Son of God, is an
Incarnation of what he calls the Prefigured Christ (logos). 28 This is a
contested point amongst interpreters of Origen, but Christ repre-
sents the visible aspect of the Godhead we call the Father. The
relationship between the two is controversial because, some would
believe, he may have subordinated the Son (Christ, logos) to the Fa-
ther. This, of course, is partially why he was in trouble in later cen-
turies, posthumously condemned for heresy.
Origen says in his commentary on Psalm 1 that it is ‘danger-
ous to speak of God,’ even when you are going to tell the truth. 29
The Godhead is practically ineffable to Origen. Origen may be
classified as apophatic for this reason, but he built a considerable
systematic theology around the God after whom one cannot easily
speak. Paramount to this system is an incorporeal God. 30 This in-
forms his anthropology of the human in a fallen state which is in
need of Atonement. This also informs his metaphysical structure in
31 Origen, Peri Euchus 25.2. cf. Cor 15:24, 28, 53f. Hunt, ‘Love,’ L
1959.
32 Origen, Peri Archon, 3.3.4.
33 Ibid., 3.3.5.
34 Origen, Peri Euchus 29.13-14. cf. Hunt, ‘Love,’ L 2331.
35 Ibid., L 3136.
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word best associated with God’s Love. It is the love which God
generously gives us and we have the opportunity to accept freely.
Some scholarship exists probing whether Origen, in granting such a
significant role to freedom and volition, downplays the role of
grace. 46 This does not seem to be the case. What needs to be un-
derstood is that grace is the receptive quality of philanthropia. It is
the participatory aspect of God’s Love in which the human being
has the opportunity to say they do, in fact, love God. You must
remember, the human being is here in this world because he or she
chose to love themselves over God. This sort of decision, especial-
ly with an amplified notion of the free choice of intelligences like
ours, is paramount.
Placing an importance on freedom in our choice to love God
is also reflected in his casting of virtue. He says, ‘to destroy volun-
tariness of virtue is to destroy its essence’. 47 This is spoken of in
relation to grace in the sense that if we do not voluntarily accept it
we may destroy the very character of such love. Origen knows
from agape that God’s love is ultimate. He also knows that sexual
love is divine eros. But most importantly he knows of the negative
experience of the human being. Origen knows of our limited state
and the existence of death. This is combated by philanthropia, which
is man’s love of humanity, but most importantly for Origen, God’s
love of humanity. Here, by grace, God offers love in another way.
He repeats Philo, another Alexandrian, in our dependence on grace
for our basic activities. Because of our volition, Origen says it ‘is in
our power whether we use [our God-given faculties] for good or
for bad’. 48 This is echoing his Platonic education, but also the He-
brew tradition, of a dual nature in humanity. Part of his anthropol-
ogy is the bestial nature of the soul and the battlefield taking place
for its seat at the throne of the heart.
There is one last notion of love which marks Origen’s system
and helps our understanding as a distinctly Christian theology.
Many of Origen’s pagan contemporaries and historical interlocu-
‘Love,’ L 2425.
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tors did not exactly have a rich prayer life. The prayer tradition Or-
igen sets out is widely influential in Christianity today. Especially in
the Eastern sects, Origen’s prayer life carried on through Evagrius
of Pontus all the way down the line. Most of his treatises begin
with prayers and he believes, most definitely, the point of prayer is
a means of being granted God’s grace. 49 Furthermore, it is for a
human ‘to become like God,’ as our angelic state is still made in the
divine image. 50 This is ultimately to cultivate ‘virtuous works from
part of prayer’. 51 Evagrius says, ‘The state of prayer is a condition
transcending material obsessions. In profound love it carries up the
spirit that loves wisdom to the heights of intelligible reality’. 52
Evagrius was very much influenced by Origen and considered the
ascent of the soul was especially enriched by a strong prayer life.
Origen says in the preface of On Prayer:
There are realities that are so great that they find a rank superi-
or to humanity and our mortal nature; they are impossible for
our rational and mortal race to understand. Yet by the grace of
God poured forth with measureless abundance from Him to
men through the minister of unsurpassed grace to us, Jesus
Christ, and through that fellow worker with the will of God,
the Spirit, these realities have become possible for us. 53
Most basically, prayer is a means towards uncovering the incorpo-
real ineffable Godhead by way of grace. This divine love manifest-
ed by grace is given to you freely so long as you rightly accept lov-
ing God. This is uniquely Christian and takes God’s philanthropia to
further ends than its early Greek instantiations or its later implica-
tions in 4thC statecraft. This love is highly involved. It is highly at-
tached as well. In contrast to his predecessor Clement, Origen be-
God and were cast into this material state. Though God is incorpo-
real, Jesus incarnated in flesh and blood yet still shared in the divine
nature of the logos. What Jesus did is allow for the entrance of
God’s grace into this world so that intelligent beings would freely
choose to once again love God. They would return to their angelic
status one by one and, at the end of time, God would be All in All.
This is a positive summary of Origen’s historical arc, but what it
leaves out is one controversial subject: is God’s Love so great that
even Satan is saved in the end?
It would seem Origen leaves room for Satan’s salvation at the
end of history in a sense. 59 What his soteriology implies is that God
loves all creation, including Satan, the first of his created beings
who rebelled and cooled. But Satan, free to do what he wills, does
not wish to turn away from his own desires and back towards God.
So, whether Satan is saved in the end is actually up to him. 60 God
loves all of creation and, though the apokatastasis implies an end in
which 1=1, it seems there may still be difference with Satan should
he not choose to accept God’s Love. God’s Love is embedded into
the soteriology not only of humanity but of the cosmic structure of
reality. At the end of history, God will have saved all humans and,
if Satan so chooses, him as well. To say what that looks like is up to
God. Remember what Origen says, we are treading dangerous wa-
ters when we speak of God, even when it is true.
61 Zona, 1999.
FAKHRUDDIN ‘IRAQI’S DIVINE
THE REFLEXIVITY OF LOVE IN
ZACHARY UGOLNIK
This paper will compare the theme of reflection in Fakhruddin
‘Iraqi’s (1213–1289) Divine Flashes and St. Symeon the New Theo-
logian’s (949–1022) Hymns of Divine Eros. In both pieces of litera-
ture we find a profound reflexivity between the beloved and lover.
‘Iraqi describes this relationship through the image of the mirror,
where the distinction between seer and seen dissolves and there is
neither beloved nor lover, only God. Symeon often describes the
relationship between the beloved (as Christ) and the lover (himself)
through the imagery of a sun and the lamp within the soul that the
sun ignites. Symeon’s encounter is a personal and participatory re-
lationship, predicated upon incarnational theology, where Symeon
retains his individuality, despite, at times, suggestions of self-
annihilation. Conversely, individuality dissolves in ‘Iraqi’s encoun-
ter, predicated upon the Sufi metaphysics of oneness of being, de-
spite, at times, suggestions of a certain distinction. This paper will
argue in both encounters, however, there is a profound interplay
between the beloved and the lover where each reflects the other.
This reflexivity includes, to certain degrees, a conflation of percep-
tion – a fruitful model we can apply to our own encounters of love.
Both authors use light imagery to express this relationship though
each employs the imagery in very different ways.
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224 ZACHARY UGOLNIK
CONTEXTUAL FRAMES
St. Symeon the New Theologian was born in Galatia, Asia Minor,
in 949. He moved to Constantinople to pursue a political career,
but saw his career decline as the young Emperor Basil II came to
power. At the age of thirty, in 977, he became an abbot of Saint
Mamas Monastery but clashed with a number of his monks and
imperial powers. He was exiled in 1009 and spent his remaining
years across the Bosporus, rebuilding the monastery of Saint Mari-
na.
McGuckin dates the writing of Hymns between the years 1003
until Symeon’s death in 1022. 1 St. Gregory of Nazianzus’ autobio-
graphical poems, Concerning his own Life, Concerning His Own Affairs,
and Lament Over the Sufferings of His Soul, perhaps influenced Symeon
to write about himself in a similar fashion. McGuckin, however,
describes the genre of the Hymns, as closer to the secular form of
Erokita, or ‘Love Songs.’ 2 A number of the hymns demonstrate a
dialogue between Symeon and Christ, modeled after the Patristic
understanding of the Canticle of Canticle, where the soul addresses
the Beloved. In Gregory of Nyssa’s commentary of the Canticle, the
soul becomes a mirror of the Beloved, perhaps influencing
Symeon’s own imagery. Symeon, however, describes the union
with Christ in personal terms not yet seen in the Byzantine tradi-
tion.
Symeon shares with Gregory of Nazianzus and St. John the
Evangelist the title of ‘Theologian.’ As the ‘New Theologian’ he
synthesizes the light spirituality of Origen, Gregory of Nazianzus,
and Pseudo-Dionysius with an emphasis on the sensibility (aisthesis)
of this light in the heart, echoed within the Syrian school of Isaac
of Nineveh as well as Gregory of Nyssa. 3 For this reason, as well as
the profoundly personal account Symeon provides of religious ex-
perience, Divine Eros provides an ideal piece of literature to com-
pare to ‘Iraqi’s Divine Flashes, a piece of literature, which for its own
part, occupies a unique place in Sufi tradition.
‘Iraqi was a Persian poet born in the ancient city of Hamadan,
who spent a number of years in India, as well as in Konya and
Toqat in present day Turkey. As a contemporary of both Ibn ‘Ara-
bi and Jalaluddin Rumi, he was associated with the Muhyiddin Ibn
‘Arabi school of Sufism and was well versed in the Persian school
of Sufism. ‘Iraqi’s originality consists in his synthesis of the meta-
physics of the Unity of Being (wahdat al-wujud), found in the school
of Ibn ‘Arabi, including ‘Iraqi’s master Qunawi, and the description
of Ultimate Reality as Love, found in the writings of Ahmad Ghaz-
ali (d. 1126). 4
‘Iraq’s Divine Flashes includes twenty-seven flashes, or chap-
ters, and is written in both Persian prose and verse, some quoted
from other Sufi writers, some original. ‘Iraqi composed it as a
complete piece of literature, opposed to Symeon’s Hymns, which
the Abbot Niketas Stethatos complied thirty years after Symeon’s
death. 5
The Hymns of the Divine Eros, which contains fifty-eight hymns
ranging from seven to eight hundred and fifty-eight lines (nearly
11,000 verses in total), 6 uses three types of verse: a meter of eight
syllables per line; twelve syllables per line; and fifteen syllables per
line. A few of the hymns contain a mixed meter of all these types,
but the majority of the hymns are constructed using fifteen sylla-
bles per line, a form which came to later dominant Greek poetry.
His words then do not describe Love itself, which is too ‘exalted
for us to gaze upon its real beauty with eye unveiled and vision di-
rect,’ 15 but rather the stations, or states, of love experienced by the
lover and the Beloved.
that not even the higher heavenly orders can gaze upon the true
nature of the incomprehensible divine, rather:
But only the rays of glory
And an emanation of my light
Do they contemplate, and they are deified.
For like a mirror that
Has received the rays of the sun
Or like a crystalline stone
Illuminated in midday
So they all receive the rays
Of my divinity. 21
Symeon, here, is careful to keep the transcendence of God intact,
drawing a distinction between God’s nature, the supreme Godhead
as God the Father, and the light that He emits. This light Symeon
can contemplate and in turn reflect: ‘I see the beauty; I look at the
luster; I reflect the light of your grace.’ 22
However, at times, when describing his encounter with the
Logos, as the incarnate second person of the trinity, Symeon
speaks of reflection in derogatory terms. Referring to the Logos’
relationship with humanity, Symeon writes:
You converse with them as with friends,
Not in shadow, nor reflection,
Not like one mind to another mind,
But as the Logos Who is from the beginning. 23
The incarnate Logos, through taking on flesh, has already estab-
lished itself as the intermediary between God and man, and thus
does not require a medium of reflection when encountering hu-
manity. The pairing of ‘shadow’ and ‘reflection’ is evocative of
Paul’s letter to the Corinthians: ‘For now we see in a mirror, dimly
(ainigmati), but then we will see face to face.’ 24 This verse can be
understood as a contrast between a mirror and a face-to-face en-
not repent that banished him from the Garden of Eden, not the sin itself.
THE REFLEXIVITY OF LOVE 231
DOUBLE REFLECTIONS
The question still remains to what degree are these entities united
and in what ways do they experience unification? Both Symeon and
‘Iraqi are very concerned with the conflation of the human and the
divine. Each describes a unity between them though to different
degrees. In Symeon’s narratives of his deification we read some of
his most profound statements. In emulation of Christ’s bodily res-
urrection, Symeon’s own body is deified where every organ is unit-
ed with Christ, not excluding, we find at the end of his list, his
genitalia:
and each of our members shall be the whole of Christ.
For while we become many members He remains one and
Indivisible,
And each part is the whole Christ himself.
And so thus you well know that both are Christ: my finger and
my penis.
Do you tremble or feel ashamed?
But God was not ashamed to become like you,
Yet you are ashamed to become like Him? 41
Symeon’s transfiguration mimics the transfiguration of his Beloved.
‘He illuminates my face like that of the one I yearned for (Mat.
17.2), And all my members become bearers of light.’ 42 This process
can be thought of in two stages: illumination followed by deifica-
tion. The fact that this unification occurs within the container of
the body suggests retention of identities between Symeon and
Christ, though they share in the light that shines through them.
Symeon suggests ‘God become like you’ so ‘you can be like him’
(my italics). This is not a full union between beloved and lover,
where their identities no longer exist, but a relationship of emula-
tion and participation. However, despite the status of deification,
much like a sun and a lamp, Symeon and Christ do not exist as
equals. ‘Iraqi, too, is careful to not suggest a full equality with God:
Make no mistake
He who is lost
In God
is not God Himself 43
Here, we find in ‘Iraqi, suggestions of identity retention. The lover
cannot identify as God, but can identity as the Beloved, that is, in
union with God’s emanations. In the encounter between the Be-
loved and the lover the distinction between self and other begins to
conflate. ‘Iraqi ’s language in the Divine Flashes, where it becomes
difficult to distinguish between pronouns, mimics this problem of
identity:
‘I’ and ‘you’
have made of man a two-ness.
Without these words, you are I
and I am you. 44
This ‘two-ness,’ however, is an illusion and the self must not identi-
fy with the other or with itself but must be completely annihilated
(fana). Describing the self in terms of a city, ‘Iraqi writes:
‘Let there be in this city
but you … or ME
for no government can survive
a double kingship!’ 45
‘So … begone!,’ he writes, ‘When God’s river overflows, Jesus Riv-
er disappears.’ 46 In Jami’s commentary of Divine Flashes, he de-
scribes the Jesus River as ‘a stream near Baghdad which supplies
many farms with irrigation.’ 47 Jami claims this proverb is men-
Flashes, p. 128.
THE REFLEXIVITY OF LOVE 237
tioned after heavy rains cause the Tigris to overflow into these
farms. Just as this stream disappears when the waters of the Tigris
subsume the banks that contain it, the self disappears when united
with God. In addition, we can understand this proverb as a refer-
ence to the annihilation of the personhood of Jesus within the
Godhead, a philosophy anathema to Christians, who recite in the
Nicene Creed that his ‘Kingdom shall have no end.’
Christ always maintains his personhood within the Trinity,
and Symeon, too, when united with Christ maintains his identity.
Yet, this unity in distinction is a mystery realized, not necessarily
explained, and for that reason, Symeon struggles for the words to
express it, a technique McGuckin describes as ‘stammering theolo-
gy’ 48:
Nevertheless, I and He
To Whom I was united, have become one.
So what shall I call myself?
The God Who is double in nature,
Who is one hypostasis
Has rendered me double 49
His verses beat like a drum, reaching out for analogies and pushing
the reader with shocking statements that verge on the edge of or-
thodoxy, mimicking in a sense, the ecstasy that nearly implodes the
structure of the self yet operates within its bounds. Like ‘Iraqi,
Symeon speaks of union and duality, but this duality is not an illu-
sion but an expression of his participation with the nature of Christ
as both man and God. Through this union, Symeon is transformed
from a singular human state to a dual human and divine state in
emulation of Christ’s double nature. Symeon as Man-God reflects
Christ as God-Man.
However each exists as a singular hypostasis, or person.
Symeon uses the terms God and Christ interchangeably, since each
are one is essence yet exist as different entities within the Holy
Trinity. What he can ascribe to Christ he can ascribe to God, thus
UNITY OF PERCEPTION
Both writers describe a conflation of perception between the be-
loved and the lover, though to different degrees and at different
stages along the mystical path. For ‘Iraqi, this experience draws
from the philosophy of unity of being, which can also be translated
unity of perception. For Symeon, it draws from the incarnation and
Symeon’s emphasis on the sensibility (aisthesis) of the Holy Spirit.
divorce ourselves?
You and I gone
and only God remain?’ 71
This dual reading of Symeon and ‘Iraqi has attempted to bring the
writers in conversion with one another and to achieve, to a certain
degree, a mutual perception of the two. Love, for both writers is
the stuff of eternity. Beyond reading Symeon and ‘Iraqi as models
for how to love God, if we can substitute their Beloved, for our
own beloved and people we encounter every day, then among oth-
er things, we hear a reminder to see through the eyes of those we
love and to lose a part of our selves in that seeing. Love demands
an emptying. Through this constant cycle of love, compassion, and
repentance we can begin to set aside the selfish aspects of our per-
sonality so that we can begin to perceive love and eternity in and
through all creation, so that we can perceive those we have never
met as those we love dearly. The Beloved is an icon of all humani-
ty.
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246 CARRIE FREDERICK FROST
tions for the new mother: ‘The woman who has given birth stays outside
the holy place forty days if the child which she has borne is male, and if it
is female, eighty days. If she enters the church, she is to pray with the
catechumens.’ The Canons of Hippolytus. Carol Bebawi, trans. Paul F. Brad-
shaw, ed. (Bramcote, England: Grove Books Limited. 1987), Canon 18,
20.
5 Streett, ‘What to Do with the Baby?,’ 53.
248 CARRIE FREDERICK FROST
The oldest extant copies of the Churching rite are from the
eighth century, and they do not contain any prayers for the mother,
but are instead focused entirely on the child. 6 It is only later, ap-
proaching the twelfth century, that prayers for the mother, which
include the impurity theme, begin to be incorporated into the
Churching rite. The First Day rite was an even later addition in its
entirely, first appearing in fourteenth-century manuscripts. 7
The Levitical concept of impurity was introduced into these rites
– not retained from antiquity – most likely with the help of pagan
superstitions about pregnancy and childbirth, which were in the air
in the late Byzantine period. 8 Additionally, several historians argue
that: ‘The original sense of ritual impurity [from Leviticus] because
of blood-flow had been lost’ and replaced at this point of Christian
history by ‘only the notion of a sinful state [associated with child-
birth].’ 9
It is significant that the impurity language was a late addition
to the rite, yet, even if the rite were continuous and unaltered,
which is not the case, this question would still be valid: after the
coming of Christ and his fulfillment of the law, are there valid cate-
gories of ritual impurity around childbirth, or did Christ cast all
categories of purity and impurity into the sphere of free will, into
the choice between vice and virtue?
A look back through two thousand years of theology finds a
bag of answers that is mixed. Sister Vassa Larin’s work on the his-
tory of the theological concept of impurity in Christianity is helpful
for a balanced picture of this history, and I will rely on her work
here. Some Fathers interpreted Old Testament purity symbolically;
they ‘interpreted levitical categories of ‘purity’ and ‘impurity’ allegori-
the Service for Women after Childbirth,’ Journal of the Canadian Church His-
torical Society. XXVIII. 2 (1986): 53–62, 57.
POSTPARTUM RITES OF THE ORTHODOX CHURCH 249
cally, that is to say as symbols of virtue and sin.’ 10 St. John Chrysos-
tom went so far as to specifically say in reference to childbirth,
‘Those things are not polluted which arise from nature … but
those which arise from choice,’ 11 advocating for perceptions of
female impurity after childbirth to be left in the past. On the other
hand, other patristic thinkers ‘viewed all proscriptions of the Mosa-
ic Law as purely symbolic except those concerning sex and sexuali-
ty,’ 12 including childbirth.
The law of the Church is mixed as well. The third-century
Christian treatise, the Didascalia Apostolorum emphatically be-
seeches women to consider Levitical laws about women’s blood
loss obsolete, and to go to church during times of bleeding. 13 On
the other hand, other canon law proscribed strict prohibitions from
Communion for menstruating and postpartum women.
Christ himself transformed Levitical practice many times,
most notably for this examination in his encounter with the woman
with the issue of blood (Matt 9:20–22, Mark 5:25–34, Luke 8:43–
47). Jesus Christ let her touch him, he healed her, and he acknowl-
edged her. In this way it appears that he eschewed the Levitical
understanding of impurity having to do with a woman’s blood.
Here and elsewhere in the Gospels, Christ shifted categories of
Levitical purity into the realm of the free will.
St. Paul also abandoned the Levitical approach to the Law re-
garding impurity, except out of cases of charity. Indeed, he repeat-
edly emphasized that the new human has put on Christ, and that
any impurity has been left behind by baptism: ‘You were washed,
you were sanctified, you were justified in the name of the Lord Je-
sus and in the Spirit of our God’ (1 Cor. 6:11 NKJV). For Paul,
baptism was the ultimate purification, after which none was need-
Gardiner, Nicene and Post-Nicene Fathers, First Series, Vol. 14. Philip Schaff,
ed. (Buffalo, NY: Christian Literature Publishing Co., 1889).
12 Larin, V. ‘What is ‘Ritual Im/purity’ and Why?,’ 280.
13 R. Hugh Connolly, trans., Didascalia Apostolorum. (Oxford: Claren-
CONCLUSION
The First Day prayers and the Churching rite both contain other
theological concepts; they are not dominated by talk of impurity,
and it is significant that the Orthodox Church even has rites that
welcome (both male and female) children into the world. In cele-
brating these rites, we, as Orthodox, acknowledge the glory that is a
new life born, and the constant hope we all have for our own re-
birth into the next life. We also offer liturgical hospitality to new
mothers and their children. This is no small thing, especially in a
culture that is confused about the significance of parenthood and
childbirth, and in the midst of other Christian churches that have
no liturgical acknowledgment of these things. I grew up in a tiny,
elderly Orthodox parish in West Virginia, and the first time I wit-
nessed a Churching rite was when I was churched with my
firstborn. I heard the bits about impurity and they jarred me – of-
fered as they were with no explanation whatsoever – but I also
heard the rest of the rite. After experiencing a dangerous delivery
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254 WILLIAM EPHREM GALL
But not all are called by God to this form of home and family.
St. Paul explained this much in his first letter to the Corinthians, in
which he extols the unmarried state as more conducive to a per-
son's single-minded devotion to Christ. Through St. Antony the
Great, the Desert Fathers, and St. Pachomius the Great, the mo-
nastic way developed into a predominantly coenobitic, shared living
situation. In other words, a different kind of family. But not all
unmarried persons are called to the monastic life.
Orthodox Christian monasticism, while not neglecting hospi-
tality, has focused on liturgical and hesychastic prayer as the central
activity of this particular form of common life, directed toward
purification, illumination, and deification in Christ. One would
have a strong argument that the Orthodox Church counts monasti-
cism as the optimal situation for continuing human development.
An earlier Orthodox Christian expression of monastic life
which gave more of an emphasis to both prayer and service to oth-
ers is St. Basil the Great’s Basiliad, which operated as a hospice. St.
Gregory the Theologian recounts how St. Basil would himself wash
the feet of lepers. St. John Chrysostom, in one of his homilies,
urged traditional families to provide a guest chamber in their home
with a bed, table, and a candlestick for a poor or disabled person
who otherwise had no home.
In the West, Roman Catholic monasticism developed many
orders with a variety of focuses, including that of service to the
poor. This vision of a common life with Christ in the persons of
the poor while not being the main emphasis of traditional Ortho-
dox Christian monasticism is nevertheless an effective means for
social welfare (and has been such since the very inception of East-
ern Christianity). This is perhaps the reason why it became a famili-
al paradigm for Orthodox Christians who do not feel the call to
monastic life, including those who are single as well as childless
couples. Hence, their faith is sustained by the example of good
works of the Fathers and monastic communities.
There are various contemporary manifestations of such a vi-
sion to be mentioned in this context. For instance, Jean Vanier, a
former professor of philosophy at the University of Toronto and a
Roman Catholic Christian, after encountering two men with intel-
lectual disabilities in an institution, chose to live with them himself.
From this small beginning a movement began, and many have been
inspired by Jean Vanier to choose to share their lives with persons
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PHILIP MAMALAKIS 1
257
258 PHILIP MAMALAKIS
challenges that arise. See Mamalakis P. and Joanides C. The Journey of Mar-
riage in the Orthodox Church (New York, NY: Greek Orthodox Archdiocese
of America, 2010).
5 Chrysavvgis J. ‘The Sacrament of Marriage: An Orthodox Perspec-
15 (1979): 204.
7 Charalambidis. ‘Marriage in the Orthodox Church.’ 207.
8 St. Maximos the Confessor. Selected Writings. (New York, NY: Pau-
love, becoming perfect love toward our spouse. ‘The couples gift
of self to each other is to come to love in a divine way…’ 12
That perfection is not simply an outward perfection of a cou-
ple who never fights, but an essential transformation of the persons
of the husband and wife who participate through grace in the di-
vine nature of God. (2 Peter 1:3–4) St. John Chrysostom, ‘If you
ask Him, he will work an even greater miracle than He worked in
Cana: That is, He will transform the water of your unstable pas-
sions into the wine of spiritual unity…’ 13 Yet, in my marriage, I still
love my wife imperfectly. And, more noticeably at times, she loves
me imperfectly. Because we know that ‘only the perfect person,
with a perfect conscience, a perfect mind, and perfect power can
have perfect love. Such a person is our God.’ 14 Within the sacra-
ment of marriage, my spiritual journey of acquiring perfect love
intersects with her journey. The daily struggles of marriage are situ-
ated within this call to acquire perfect love. (Mt 5:48).
This journey of acquiring perfect love for our spouse is a
journey toward the kingdom of God, which we can say with cer-
tainty is far from struggle free, because the kingdom of God suffers
violence and the violent take it by force (Mt. 11:12). However the
distinct nature of the struggle is not against our spouse but against
the flesh (cf. Galatians 5:13–25). It is not that there are struggles
along the path of marriage but the struggles are the path of mar-
riage.
For the Orthodox, Christ is the celebrant of wedding ceremo-
ny, and it is Christ who is at the heart of marriage. ‘In fact, this
wedding is the wedding of the spouses to Christ.’ 15 In and through
marriage, each person is wedded to Christ, in and through their
union with each other. ‘I am married, then, means that I enslave
Light of the Orthodox Tradition. (Crestwood, NY, St. Vladimir’s Press, 1985),
123.
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marital intimacy is outside the scope of this paper. For more information,
see Gottman J.H. The Marriage Clinic: A Scientifically Based Marital Therapy.
(New York, NY: WW Norton and Co. Inc., 1999).
22 Dr. Gottman observed that husbands heading for divorce disre-
gard their wives’ bids for connection 82% of the time, while husbands in
stable relationships disregard their wives’ bids just 19% of the time.
Gottman. The Relationship Cure.
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ready knows how his wife is feeling, so why should he ask. I re-
mind him that we ask her how she is feeling to express care and
concern, to connect, rather than to get information. When a wife is
struggling with something, she turns to her husband to connect,
rather than to be told what to do. The loving response is to turn
toward, to be attentive and to listen. The nature of sharing and lis-
tening is that it is a turning toward, and as such, expresses care and
love.
Turning away refers to the distracted, preoccupied, disregard-
ing, or interrupting responses, which communicate a lack of inter-
est. Turning away communicates: ‘I don’t care about your bid,’ ‘I
want to avoid you,’ ‘I am not really interested in you,’ ‘I’ve got
more important things on my mind,’ ‘I’m too busy to pay attention
to you.’ We have all experienced this turning away when talking to
someone who is watching television or checking his or her cell
phone. While it is not a turning against, it is certainly not a turning
toward.
Turning against bids for connection are contemptuous put-
downs, and belligerent, combative, contradictory, domineering,
critical, defensive, angry, or blaming responses. These hostile and
aggressive reactions are the most damaging to relationships and
communicate disdain, disrespect and hatred. They communicate:
‘Your need for attention makes me angry,’ ‘I don’t respect you,’ ‘I
don’t value you or this relationship,’ ‘I want to hurt you,’ ‘I want to
drive you away,’ and even, ‘I hate you.’
Spouses are tempted to turn against each other when they are
angry, overwhelmed, stressed, hurt, hungry, or tired. Spouses are
deceived into believing that they are too tired, too hurt, or too an-
gry to turn toward each other so they turn against with comments
such as: ‘I don’t have time now!’ ‘You’re lazy.’ ‘Why can’t you
help?’ ‘You don’t care!’ ‘Can’t you see I’m busy!’ While feeling
overwhelmed or angry are common experiences in marriage, in
those moments love demands that in our anger, we turn toward,
not against our spouse (Eph 4:26).
Other times, a spouse might feel that s/he does not have the
time to turn toward. Yet, it takes as much time to turn toward, with
a statement like, ‘I’m too angry to talk now,’ as it does to turn
against with a statement like, ‘Get out of here!’
At the heart of marriage, Dr. Gottman discovered, are the
seemingly mundane interactions of daily life through which couples
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grow in intimacy and closeness as they turn toward each other. Far
from being insignificant, these interactions are the context for
building oneness, expressing love and growing in love. In his re-
search, Dr. Gottman found that couples who turn toward each
other most demonstrated the greatest capacity for affection when
difficult issues arose in their marriages. Couples who turned away,
or against, each other most often seemed to disconnect and experi-
enced greater difficulty working through major challenges. 23
23 Dr. Gottman makes the point that spouses are not the only ones
who bid for connection. Children bid for connection through their inter-
actions with parents. Students are bidding for connection with teachers,
and, most relevant for pastors, parishioners are continuously bidding for
connection in their exchanges, requests, and demands on pastors. How a
pastor responds to these bids communicates powerful messages, often
unintentionally.
24 Vladimir Lossky. The Mystical Theology of the Eastern Church. (Crest-
ANNMARIE GIDUS-MECERA
What is our obligation to our parents when the effects of old-age
take away their independence? As Christians, what is our responsi-
bility – if any – to our parents’ well-being as it becomes necessary
for them to rely on others? What can we learn from the Old and
New Testaments about our duty to our parents? What wisdom can
the Church Fathers impart on us? What do contemporary theologi-
ans and writers have to say?
This paper explores our obligation to our parent, what it
means to care for our parents, and how we can best meet that chal-
lenge. Our Christian obligation is addressed by looking to Holy
Scripture and the Church Fathers. Jewish leaders are noted, due to
the connection between the Orthodox Faith and Judaism. The phi-
losophies of contemporary theologians and caregiving experts are
included to help bring balance to our unique situation in today’s
society.
Moses to ‘Speak unto all the company of the sons of Israel…’ (Le-
viticus 19:2). In her thesis, Counseling the Caregiver: Addressing the Bibli-
cal Responsibility and Care of Aging Parents, Holly Dean Drew points
out that the Hebrew word ‘ben’ is used for the word ‘sons’ in this
exhortation, which suggests that the commandments were directed
toward an adult population. If God meant any of the command-
ments to be directed to children, Dean says, the word ‘yeled’, mean-
ing ‘child,’ would have been more appropriate. 1
In his article ‘The Ten Commandments,’ Fr. Matrantonis says
that the fifth commandment is directed to children who are both
young and old. Fr. Matratonis explains that children are urged to
express their love to their parents, and especially honor them
throughout their lives. 2
Leviticus 19:32 implores us: ‘You shall rise up before the gray-
headed, and honor the aged…’ Proverbs 16:31 teaches that ‘A gray
head is a crown of glory; it is found in the way of righteousness.’
We hear the words ‘revere,’ ‘honor,’ and ‘glory,’ when the elderly
are discussed in these passages. These are words that are used in
reference to someone who deserves respect.
In his letter to Timothy, Paul instructs him by saying, ‘Anyone
who does not provide for their relatives, and especially for their
own household, has denied the faith and is worse than an unbeliev-
er.’ (1 Tim 5:8) And more so Paul says in 1Timothy 5:4, ‘But if a
widow has children or grandchildren, these should learn first of all
to put their religion into practice by caring for their own family and
so repaying their parents and grandparents, for this is pleasing to
God.’ As a result of these passages, Drew draws the conclusion
that to avoid caring for one’s family is to deny the ‘Biblical princi-
ple of compassionate love that is the heart of the Christian faith’
that was demonstrated by God Himself, ‘For God so loved the
world that he gave his one and only Son, that whoever believes in
him shall not perish but have eternal life.’ (John 3:16).
www.goarch.org/ourfaith/ourfaith7115
CAREGIVING AS AN EXPRESSION OF FAMILIAL LOVE 275
McKenzie, who was quoted earlier, also states that, ‘As the
devaluation of human life in Western culture continues to acceler-
ate, and American states debate and even approve the legalization
of euthanasia, Christians need to grapple with the responsibilities
involved in a serious pro-life ethic. One such responsibility con-
cerns our obligation to demonstrate Christian love to the elderly.’ 7
The temptation is to avoid that which is difficult, ties us
down, and robs us of our freedom to do what we want. This is par-
ticularly the case when we are empty nesters wanting to enjoy the
flexibility we did not have when our children were young or we had
work obligations. The task is made more difficult when we are
dealing with a parent or parents with whom our relationship is not
ideal. Perhaps there are unresolved tensions or lifestyles that are
very different. Yet this may be where the opportunity lies to
strengthen our relationship with God. In her article ‘In a Family,
Love Doesn't Always Mean Agreeing or Understanding’, Diana
Rodriquez says, ‘Nurturing and caring for familial relationships is
something everyone can always seek to improve. Family is the
greatest and most powerful concept human beings from every cor-
ner of the planet can understand and experience. It endures when
temporary things, like wealth, health, glory, and youth, fade.’ In the
case of strained relationships – even estrangement – can past hurts
and disagreements be put aside? ‘You don’t have to agree with, or
like a person, to feel great love for them as a member of a family,’
Rodriquez says. ‘Familial love is one of the greatest and strongest
bonds a person can experience. It defies logic and reason. It stands
up to great adversity and shows amazing resilience. It can be one of
the most selfless and inspiring examples of love and kindness. Fa-
milial love is not something easily explained. It is better to be expe-
rienced.’ 8
Archbishop Chrysostomos of Etna writes about how the Or-
thodox Church ‘exalts the family. The Church itself is often charac-
terized by the Fathers in images drawn from the family,’ Chrysos-
tomos says. ‘In the family, as in the Church, basic values are
formed, the soul is shaped and established, and the path of salva-
tion is set forth. The family is that warm place where the leaven of
the Faith is nurtured, where we first begin to rise to full life in
Christ. It is for this reason that every Bishop, every Priest, every
monastic, and all pious laymen remember, in their daily prayers,
their mothers and fathers, that their ‘days may be long on the
earth.’ It is for this reason that, even after their repose, we remem-
ber our fathers and mothers and family members, praying for them
fervently and, in our prayers, reaching across the chasm of death to
be with them even in the afterlife, in the spiritual world. So special
is the family that we remember those in error and heresy and sin
even more dearly than those upright and unwavering in the Faith.
This is the wonder of the family.’ 9
tical. Each of us must draw on our faith and prayer to make the
members care for them outside of a nursing home facility, this may not be prac-
best decision.
Regardless of where our parents carry out their end days,
there are qualities we can adopt to help them enjoy security, peace
and comfort – qualities that are basic to their well-being. In My
Mother, Your Mother, Dennis McGullough, MD, says, ‘Because of
the ultimate powerlessness and dependency, indeed the utter frailty
of the old and infirm, kindness (italics mine) is the fundamental po-
sition that a caregiver has to sustain.’ In fact, he precedes this
statement by saying, ‘…kindness (italics mine) is the single most reli-
able ethical and practical guide to doing this work well.’
The goal of offering kindness is also expressed in the book
Stages on Life’s Way by Jon and Lynn Breck. While this book specifi-
cally deals with caring for the dying, much of the insight can also
pertain to those who are in their end years. The Brecks state, ‘The
thread that connects these reflections (end-of-life issues), at least in
my mind, is that of care. In more biblical language, the question is
how we can offer to dying patients a depth and quality of love (italics
mine) that will most effectively guide them along the final stages of
the pathway that leads from this earthly existence to life in the
11 John and Lynn Breck, Stages on Life’s Way: Orthodox Thinking on Bio-
ethics (Crestwood, NY: St. Vladimir’s Seminary Press, 2012), p.214.
12 Ibid., p. 230.
13 Diana Rodriquez, “In a family, love doesn’t always mean agreeing
or understanding,”
http://saynotomean.blogspot.ru/2012/01/in-family-love-doesnt-always-
mean.html
14 Ibid.
CAREGIVING AS AN EXPRESSION OF FAMILIAL LOVE 281
17 Ibid., p. 39.
18 Ibid, p. 48.
19 Ibid, p. 50.
20 Stanley Samuel Harakas, ‘Religious Beliefs and Healthcare Deci-
the fruits of our good deeds. Only after we honor our parents can we do
The amount and type of help needed can vary. Some people
ourselves also.
CONCLUSION
Caring for parents can be a most challenging undertaking. Yet if we
allow it, caregiving can have a profound spiritual effect on us.
Caregiving builds perseverance, hope and love for God. We can
experience joy in knowing we gave our parents comfort, kindness
and compassion in their last days. Caregiving can transform us; it
can provide us with the humility required to enter into the King-
dom of Heaven.
Contemplating our duties as a caregiver requires setting aside
time to pray, seek counsel, find support, and take respite. God ex-
pects us to care for our parents as they become feeble and lose
their self-sufficiency. It requires that we throw off our pride and
selfishness in order to demonstrate kindness, compassion and em-
pathy to our parents.
Our parents will look to us for comfort, support and security.
We may need to help them prepare spiritually for their entrance
into the Heavenly Kingdom. We may be able to offer them nothing
more than honor, respect and kindness – but this can be everything
they need. Caring for our parents can also prepare us to enter into
the Kingdom of Heaven. As a result of the sacrifices we make, we
can be transformed. Our pride can be diminished; we can discover
humility; we can find joy in sacrifice; we can learn patience – all
necessary characteristics for entering into the Kingdom of Heaven.
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‘Be sure that you dearly love your parents; delight to be in their
company … Remember that you have your being from them
and come out of their loins; remember what sorrow you have
cost them, and what care they are at for your education and
provision; and remember how tenderly they have loved you …
remember what love you owe them both by nature and in jus-
tice, for all their love to you, and all that they have done for
you: they take your happiness or misery to be one of the great-
est parts of the happiness or misery of their own lives.’
TOWARD A BETTER UNDERSTANDING OF
THE CLERGY COUPLE
KERRY PAPPAS
The content for this brief article is informed by a variety of
sources, which include: anecdotal information gathered from
clergy wives and couples, the personal experience of the au-
thor, and general findings of research on clergy couples from
a variety of sources. As such, this is not an academic paper,
and sources will not be cited. The purpose of this article is
to offer insight into some of the blessings and challenges cler-
gy couples encounter.
Increasingly, the marriages of clergy couples are in distress. This
reality is manifested in the growing number of divorces among
clergy and the decreasing number of clergy marriages that outward-
ly reflect life and vitality. In the Orthodox Church, unlike other
Christian churches, divorce statistics among clergy are not system-
atically maintained; thus, evidence for these disturbing trends is
presently anecdotal. Furthermore, unlike the practice of other
Christian churches, where divorced clergy are allowed to remarry
and remain in ordained ministry (depending on the circumstances
of the divorce), the divorced Orthodox priest cannot remarry and
remain a priest. He must choose between the two.
In the Greek Orthodox Archdiocese of America, a growing
awareness of marital distress among clergy couples has prompted
its leadership to take several initiatives, which include an assess-
ment of the impact of the stressors of ministry on priests and
presvyteres and funding for an intentional ministry to seminarian
and clergy couples. The specifics of this ministry are just beginning
to evolve as information is gathered.
Clergy couples generally regard the opportunity to be present
with people at the time of the most significant events in their lives
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into their marriages and to seek God more fervently through more
intentional prayer.
This brief overview has only begun to scratch the surface of
the challenges clergy couples encounter in their personal lives and
marriages as they fulfill their call to ministry, which is, in reality, a
‘mutual ministry.’ Whether the wife of the priest is publicly visible
and active in the life of the parish, or whether she chooses to be a
more silent partner, she, too, is called to a life of sacrifice beside
and with her husband. Along with the sacrifice, by the grace of
God, it is a life of abundant joy that presents boundless opportuni-
ties to serve and grow in Christ.
‘THE BEGINNING OF WISDOM IS TO FEAR
THE LORD, AND SHE WAS JOINED
WITH THE FAITHFUL IN THE WOMB.’
WSIR 1:12
THE THEOLOGY OF CHILDREN, AN
INSIGHT FROM THE OLD AND THE
NEW TESTAMENTS 1
VICKI PETRAKIS
The theology of children is about each person’s calling – Judges
13:25. The story of life begins with birth, genesis. The Christian
understanding of childhoodness is the story of this genesis and call-
ing which incorporates a physical birth and the embodiment of
logos to the human condition for spiritual growth and discernment
according to a pattern, a taxis. Within the Christian perspective this
intelligence accounts for a physical and spiritual awakening, a re-
birth into a deified outcome and the fulfillment of the Seal of the
Holy Spirit through the Baptismal waters. The theology of children
is not an appendix to the Orthodox Christian holistic outlook, but
the central tenant to its doctrinal and practical application of the
faith. It encapsulates the understanding and practice needed to be-
1 All Scriptural references are taken from The Orthodox Study Bible (St.
Athanasius Academy of Orthodox Theology, 2008). Scripture taken from
the St. Athanasius Academy Septuagint™. Copyright © 2008 by St. Atha-
nasius Academy of Orthodox Theology. Used by permission. All rights
reserved. / Scripture taken from the New King James Version®. Copy-
right © 1982 by Thomas Nelson, Inc. Used by permission. All rights re-
served.
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‘He came to His own, and His own did not receive Him. But
as many as received Him, to them He gave the right to become
children of God, to those who believed in His name: who were
born, not of blood, nor of the will of the flesh, nor of the will
of man, but of God.’ (John 1:11–13)
The physical birth of God as a child highlights the Father-child
relationship that was espoused in the Old Testament and mandated
in the New. The crucial development however was that this child
was connected in essence to the Godhead so for didactic purposes
in understanding the Orthodox perspective of the child, the Person
of Jesus assumed the example and the primacy in facilitating the
relationship which the Father expected from His children. Thus in
the New Testament we come to a more subtle understanding of
the expectations and outcomes of the relationship between Father
and child as revealed through Christ.
The Book of Isaiah provides another key feature to a mature
appreciation of the theology of the child. In facilitating the transi-
tion from a God who reveals Himself to one who Incarnates, the
NT arrives to a closer understanding and teaching of the unique
attributes of this theology. The seeds of change are implanted in
Isaiah 7: 15–16,
‘Butter and honey He shall eat before He knows to prefer evil
or choose the good, for before the Child knows good or evil,
He refuses the evil to choose the good;’
Butter and honey represent the necessity of the Father’s role as
pedagogue. This child chooses the good before It is able to distin-
guish between good and evil suggesting that there is a deeper con-
nection between God and the human condition. The theology of
the child is thus intricately connected with a state of innocence and
a non-discriminative capacity to align oneself by nature with the
good, as will be explicated in the NT. There, the same theology as
Isaiah is utilised to elucidate on Christ’s origins, our destiny and the
methodology of creating a bond between the two. If in the OT it
was obedience to the Word and the sanctification of God that cap-
tured this essence, the practical application of these was delivered
in the NT through Christ’s own Personhood, and regard for chil-
dren.
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OF M ACRINA
ANTONIA ATANASSOVA
In recent scholarship St. Gregory of Nyssa’s ‘jewel-like’ retelling of
the death and burial of his sister Macrina has been the subject of
much scrutiny. She stands as a suitable symbol for discussion in
this present volume in the light of what familial love and the re-
nunciation of marriage symbolized in the early Church; for her life
was composed by her brother St. Gregory of Nyssa, and her mo-
nastic community was founded on the familial estates of her clan,
and continued to include several of her immediate family members
(her mother Emmelia and her brother Naucratios) who cannot be
as easily identified as ascetics/philosophers as her other brothers,
Gregory, Basil of Caesarea, and Peter of Sebaste.
St. Macrina, who leads her proto-monastic female community
in Caesarea, an important but textless Christian philosopher, is var-
iously described by her modern commentators as the embodiment
of liturgical piety, a symbol of eschatological hope, a (literary)
Christian recasting of Homeric themes, and a model for future hag-
iographers. 1 Such multiplicity of perspectives on her image as pre-
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The relics blind him with their brilliance and fill him with a clear
sense of foreboding. Once he finds the ‘great Macrina’, near death,
he realizes that what he had seen in his dream has slowly begun to
take shape in reality: Macrina is departing from this life, carrying in
her body and spirit the living proof of God’s glory. To Gregory, a
brother and a bishop, belongs the honor of handling the virgin’s
remains as well as reconstructing her memory with those willing to
listen to his testimony. Gregory’s mission as an author and a pastor
is to confirm the value of Macrina’s relics by presenting them to
the community. Macrina’s significance, he suggests at the beginning
of his story, goes beyond her family circle and ascetic group; in the
form of relics, shining with the grace of the Holy Spirit, she is to be
offered to all and imparted to all.
While commentators have tended to focus on the rhetorical
dimension of the dream episode rather than on its purported histo-
ricity, I find Gregory’s way of conveying the story to transcend the
mere choice of words and imagery. His bedazzlement marks him
off as an official witness rather than a manipulator of a holy wom-
an’s memory. Overwhelmed by the splendor of the deified relics,
he carries them in a worshipful manner, awed and shaken to the
core. In continuation of the emotional and visual impact of this
event, he would later describe Macrina’s body as a mirror of the
divine presence reflecting it as a climactic transformation into a
pure ray of light. 3 These two instances of transfiguration serve as
the thematic bookends to Gregory’s hagiographic testimony. At the
beginning and the end of her life Macrina shines with the kind of
holy beauty that only a deified being would possess: her body ar-
ranges itself in repose naturally, she suffers no final struggle, even
manages to offer a concluding prayer with her recitation of the
evening office. Those are memorable details that are yet to be de-
fined as standard in subsequent hagiographic patterns of discourse.
Macrina dies with liturgical prayers on her lips ‘so that there may be
no doubt that she was in the presence of God and that he was lis-
tening to her’. 4 As she lies on the bier, she is covered with a dark
cloak yet ‘even under this dark covering, she was radiant; the divine
power, I think, added this further grace to her body, so that her
beautiful form seemed to throw out rays of light, exactly as I had
seen in the vision which occurred in my dream.’ 5 Thus Gregory’s
account of Macrina’s death is not simply a confirmation but a cul-
mination of what his initial dream has foretold.
Gregory’s depiction of Macrina’s transformed humanity im-
plies that a person becomes real only as they are revealed or envi-
sioned from the viewpoint of God. This is a logical corollary of the
fact that a defining feature of the human self is the image of God
placed at its very core. The idea has both Scriptural and Platonic
overtones. Thus, notwithstanding G. Clarke’s assertion that biog-
raphies and hagiographies do not coincide, I contend that, within
Gregory’s epistemic schema, Macrina’s portrayal is meant to pro-
vide an account of what is, existentially and philosophically speak-
ing, ‘real’ rather than what is merely historically accurate. 6 Thus for
Gregory the real content of Macrina’s personhood is her iconic
image. Seen through the eyes of God and reconstructed in the di-
vine realm, Macrina’s identity is centered on a nucleus of dazzling
beauty which, at the time of her death, usher her into the realm of
the resurrection and the ‘true life.’ If one is to find the real Macrina,
Gregory suggests, we are to respect her wish to see her as she pre-
sents herself – with an enlightened spirit and light-bearing flesh,
with no need to leave written words behind, but the type of a life
whose actions testify louder than words.
His approach is in conflict with the post-modern deconstruc-
tionist perspective, according to which the late antique vitae of holy
women provide meager even if tantalizing glimpses into the actual
lives of their heroines. Such texts are usually seen as the final prod-
uct of a collation of theological perspectives to a degree where his-
torical accuracy becomes superfluous. They are ‘sacred fictions’
4 Ibid., 70–72.
5 Ibid., 77.
6 For the alternative argument see Gillian Clark, Women in Late An-
tiquity (Oxford: Clarendon Press, 1993); also Gillian Cloke, This Female
Man of God (New York: Routledge, 1995).
ST. GREGORY OF NYSSA AND THE LIFE OF MACRINA 307
these texts; she goes on to claim that ‘sacred biography, in all its various
forms, facilitated the creation, preservation, and extension of Christian
sanctity in an era when there was no systematic, institutionalized process
of identifying a saint’ (27).
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12 Ibid., 75.
13 Ibid., 70.
14 The themes of ascension and divine infinity are also found in
18 VM, 69.
19 Ibid., 77.
20 Cf. Krueger, Writing, 494–6.
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21 VM, 76.
22 Ibid., 81.
23 VM, 82.
24 The Thecla analogy was a standard literary convention found in
the vitae of other holy women from this period (Cloke, 165).
ST. GREGORY OF NYSSA AND THE LIFE OF MACRINA 313
30 VM, 65.