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Compatibility of INFJ with ISFJ in

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INFJ with Other Types

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INFJ with INTJ (/type-relationship-advisor/I/N/F/J/I/N/T/J)
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INFJ (/type-relationship-advisor/I/N/F/J/I/S/F/J) | INFP (/type-relationship-advisor/I/N/F/P/I/S/F/J) | ENFJ

(/type-relationship-advisor/E/N/F/J/I/S/F/J) | ENFP (/type-relationship-advisor/E/N/F/P/I/S/F/J)

INTJ (/type-relationship-advisor/I/N/T/J/I/S/F/J) | INTP (/type-relationship-advisor/I/N/T/P/I/S/F/J) | ENTJ

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ISFJ (/type-relationship-advisor/I/S/F/J/I/S/F/J) | ISFP (/type-relationship-advisor/I/S/F/P/I/S/F/J) | ESFJ

(/type-relationship-advisor/E/S/F/J/I/S/F/J) | ESFP (/type-relationship-advisor/E/S/F/P/I/S/F/J)

ISTJ (/type-relationship-advisor/I/S/T/J/I/S/F/J) | ISTP (/type-relationship-advisor/I/S/T/P/I/S/F/J) | ESTJ

(/type-relationship-advisor/E/S/T/J/I/S/F/J) | ESTP (/type-relationship-advisor/E/S/T/P/I/S/F/J)

Are INFJ (/personality-type/INFJ) and ISFJ (/personality-type/ISFJ) personality types compatible?

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See how INFJs and ISFJs get along in this guide to INFJ/ISFJ relationships. If you're an INFJ in a
relationship with an ISFJ, discover how you'll communicate, interact, and relate to each other in
daily life.

How INFJ and ISFJ Get Along

INFJs and ISFJs have some common themes that often arise when they get to know each other. As
an INFJ, you'll want to keep these issues in mind when you get to know an ISFJ.

As an Intuitive Feeling type, you seek deep, meaningful connection in your relationships. You
want to truly understand what drives the people you care about and help them to be their best
selves. You are drawn to people who seem to be sensitive, thoughtful, and idealistic, and prefer
relationships that help you to grow and develop.

The two of you have some very fundamental differences in how you see things, and this can make
getting along a challenge for both of you. That's not to say you shouldn't be friends; in fact, you
might find that spending time with this person introduces you to ways of thinking that help you
learn and grow. But this relationship will not be without its frustrations.
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change when you see it as a positive move forward.

In contrast, your counterpart puts a high value on tradition and stability. It's not that they don't
care about people or making the world a better place, but they tend to be suspicious of change in
general, and they rarely see it as a solution for anything. They tend to believe that the best way to
serve people is by keeping things consistent and predictable, and they may find your ideas for
overhauling established systems odd, unnecessary, and disruptive.

If you've tried to share your dreams and vision with this person, you've probably noticed their
distinct lack of enthusiasm. They're not trying to be negative; your counterpart simply doesn't
have your talent for visualization. If they haven't seen an idea work in practice, they're probably
not very excited by it. This can frustrate you to no end. At your worst together, you'll tend to view
this person as dull, stagnant, and unimaginative. They'll see you as flighty, unrealistic, and
impractical.

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So what's the upside? The same things that irritate you about one another are also opportunities
for learning. Yes, you have wonderful ideas, but you also truly can be a bit impractical. This
person can help you think through the realities of your ideas so that you're better able to actually
make them happen. And for your part, you have an opportunity to get them out of their rut and
help them imagine possibilities for a better world. If you play it right, they may actually become
enchanted with your creativity and wide-eyed idealism.

Communication Between INFJ and ISFJ

Communication can be a challenge between any two people, and communication between INFJ
and ISFJ personality types is not the exception. By being aware of the issues that often arise when
INFJs and ISFJs communicate, you can learn how to reach an understanding more quickly.

You have a different style of communication from this person, and you’ll need to make some
accommodations if this relationship is to reach its full potential. 

You tend to communicate in an abstract, theoretical way. You focus on making connections and
interpreting meaning, exploring the "why" of the thing in question. Much of what you
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on facts, details, history, and real-life experiences. They focus on the "what" when discussing
something, and convey information that they observed directly or can back up with real-life
evidence. When making plans, they tend to focus on the specific steps that will occur. And
generally, they're interested in talking about real things, not ideas or theories.

While it may sound like you are speaking different languages, the truth is that although you have
different comfort zones when it comes to communication, you are well able to get out of those
comfort zones to meet halfway—and you'll both be the better for it. You can help your partner
to stretch to look beyond the obvious of things and explore the deeper meaning. And in turn,
they can help you to come back down to earth and discuss the details and facts of a situation, not
just the big idea. 

INFJ vs. ISFJ Values

Values are intensely personal, and while an INFJ and an ISFJ can find common ground, there will

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always be some differences in what you hold dear. However, understand how your INFJ approach
to values compares with your ISFJ counterpart's will help you to appreciate and overcome your
differences.

Both of you share a deep empathy and compassion for others and probably make plenty of time
in your lives to be of service to your family, friends and communities. You both enjoy jobs that
allow you to help people, in health care, social services, education or the like, or you both may
spend time volunteering for causes that are important to you. However your sympathy plays out,
you’ll both agree that the thoughtful helping of others is an important value for you.

Where you differ is how your values are directed. You are a deeply idealistic and so passionate
about what you believe. You can easily imagine how the world could be a better place and enjoy
empowering others to explore possibilities, whether they act on these ideas or not.

Your counterpart has a similar value system, but theirs is more practical and logical. They show
their concern through pragmatic solutions, delivered in the here and now, such as giving a
helping hand to a friend in need. They offer support that can be useful immediately—that’s today
instead of someday—since, for your partner, it’s important to see a tangible result to their
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traditional and closed to new ideas (“that’s not how we do it”) when you’re considering ways to
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tackle problems. While you’ll appreciate your partner’s tender heart, you may worry that they lack
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a higher purpose.

There’s an opportunity here to introduce one another to new ways of thinking. You both excel in
sticking to values that are important to you, but your partner can help you understand the
practical reality of these values. On the flip side, you can help them gain a passion for big ideas,
and take a more well-rounded approach to how they see the world. The challenge for you is to
not get too annoyed if your partner tends to value tradition and the wisdom of lived experience
much more than you do, instead of using creativity and imagination to forge a better way.

INFJ and ISFJ in Daily Life

Lifestyle is an under-appreciated—but extremely important—element of compatibility. Your
values and ideals may coincide perfectly, but if you can't agree on how to conduct day-to-day
matters, your relationship will always have friction. As an INFJ in a relationship with an ISFJ, you

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can expect certain issues to arise in your daily life. Discussing these in advance, and figuring out
how to deal with them, will make things go much more smoothly as you develop your
relationship.

You take a similarly orderly approach to life and share an appreciation for schedules, to-do lists,
and organizational systems. If you share space, it’s likely to be well organized and tidy. While you
may sometimes disagree on exactly how to organize something, you both appreciate the process
of creating structure, and will typically enjoy working together to get systems in place. 

Finding harmony in your life together may take some effort because you see and communicate
different things. While you look for patterns and metaphors in every interaction, your
counterpart takes things at face value. For them, daily life is for living through their body and
their senses. For you, it’s a springboard for testing out ideas.

In your mind, life exists to feed your curiosity and help you learn new things. Discovering new
ideas is a lifelong pursuit and you take it very seriously. You tend to read widely, take classes for
fun and pursue activities that allow you to explore the ‘yet to be discovered.’

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interesting, your counterpart has a low tolerance for shaking things up for the sake of it. Instead
of seeing this as a source of conflict, understand that you have much to offer each other here.
You can focus on the big picture and offer up the angles and possibilities that give your partner a
broader understanding of the world. They can focus on the details, on the present moment, and
remind you what is important right now. As long as you’re communicating effectively, it’s a
wonderful win-win.

You both get overstimulated by too much activity and both enjoy spending quiet time alone. You
and your partner might often find yourself at home with takeout and Netflix, or even in the same
room without actually talking to each other, and you’re both okay with that. You likely both have
small but intimate circles of friends and there may be no great urgency to work your way into
each other’s friendship circles as a way of deepening your own bond. Personal boundaries are
important to you, and you respect each other’s personal space by default.

You likely share a slower pace of life and appreciate the need for down time to balance out the

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busyness. Neither of you feels a burning desire to attend party after relentless party, and it’s likely
that you’re on the same page regarding the booking of your social calendar. The problem is that
when you do make plans, it can be dangerously easy for you to talk each other out of them.
Hiding away is not healthy or practical. If your relationship is a priority, one of you must bite the
bullet and motivate the other to follow through.

Despite both being introverts, one partner may need more down time than the other, or you may
have different social needs. It’s a balancing act to sync your calendars and maintain a balance
between your respective needs. Communication is key, although that too can be challenging as
you both tend to shy away from confrontation because it’s overstimulating. Acknowledge when
you’re bottling up feelings. Making a conscious effort to focus on conversations that take your
both out of your comfort zones is the key to discovering new aspects of your relationship.

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