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by amy blackstone
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Percent of women who have never given birth,
ages 40-44
20 percent
15
10
unfortunately, do not differentiate The women and men I’ve interviewed consideration. I think about all kinds of
between the childless and the childfree. say not wanting to give up valued activities stuff. I camped over the weekend and I
From these studies we know that non- is one reason they are childfree. Steve, an saw the trash that people with kids left
parents (including childless and childfree) engineer in his early 30s, shared, “I want and let build up from so much over use of
are more heavily concentrated in pro- to be able to travel. I want to be able to a camp site. I think about stuff like accept-
fessional and managerial occupations. do things that I would not be able to do if I able population levels.”
Also, non-parent couples are, on aver- had kids.” Janet said simply, “I don’t want
age, more highly educated, less religious, to give up my healthy sex life.” childfree identity
more likely to live in urban areas, and Interview participants also describe As concern over declining birth rates
hold less traditional beliefs about gender not having kids as an ethically responsible mounts, longstanding stereotypes and the
roles than couples with kids. choice. Kate, a student in her mid 30s, accompanying cultural hostilities toward
Studies that focus on the child- said, “I’m really just concerned about our childfree people have emerged. Recog-
free specifically, find several differences
between women and men. For childfree
women, the choice not to parent is often Non-parents (including childless and childfree)
linked to the desire to develop meaning-
ful careers. Men identifying as childfree are more heavily concentrated in professional
cite the high cost of rearing children and
a desire for financial flexibility as impor-
and managerial occupations, more highly
tant to their decision. Childfree men and educated, less religious, more likely to live in
women also differ with regard to edu-
cation; while higher education greatly urban areas, and hold less traditional beliefs
increases women’s likelihood of being
childfree, it does not for men. In 2006,
about gender roles than couples with kids.
researchers at the National Center for
Health Statistics found that about half of
35-44-year-old women without kids were world. At this time in our social struc- nizing their choice as stigmatized, some
childfree. That is, they were nulliparous ture right now it’s not going to be a good childfree have mobilized around this iden-
by choice. Participants in this study were thing to have children. We can’t bring tity. In 2013, childfree authors and activists
asked whether they expected to have them up healthfully.” April, a social worker resurrected Non-Parents Day, a celebra-
children; those who did not expect to in her late 30s, said not having children tion originally founded by the National
have children but were capable of having “is responsible. Instead of this kind of Organization for Non-Parents in 1973.
them were defined as “voluntarily child- blindly following the societal expectation, This “annual recognition of amazing child-
less,” or childfree. it means really taking a lot of factors into free people and their lives” was renamed
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trends
International Childfree Day and serves to market research firm, published a 2014 microbiology, challenge our dominant
foster acceptance of the childfree choice. “Shades of Otherhood” study noting cultural ideals of femininity. While this is
Each year the International Childfree Man that each woman who doesn’t have chil- laudable, it also contributes to the myth
and Woman of the Year are named for dren represents “enormous untapped that the childfree choice is “unnatural.”
their efforts to promote acceptance of the potential as a consumer and influencer.” As one news piece put it last year, happily
childfree choice in society. The media too has taken notice. childfree women are viewed as “danger-
Via blogs and social networking “The Childfree Life” graced the cover of ous oddities.”
sites, the childfree find camaraderie Time last summer, Slate and other news In Robin and Bernadette’s cases,
and challenge cultural stereotypes and sources weighed in, and childfree guests both characters ultimately soften their
misperceptions. This online community made the talk show circuit on Katie last childfree stance, reinforcing the myth
is growing; a 2009 University of Oxford fall. Conservative commentator Harry Sie- that all childfree women eventually
paper identified 18 Facebook groups gel in his 2013 Newsweek article laments change their minds. Upon learning she
focused on the childfree; today over 80 the rise of “postfamilial America” and can’t have children, Robin breaks down,
such groups exist. The role of online com- remarks that “the choice to be childless mourning the fertility she’d spent six sea-
munities in childfree people’s lives has not is bad for America.” This fear has been sons evading. Bernadette decides she
yet been systematically examined, but echoed by others such as Pope Francis would consider changing her mind if
her partner agreed to stay home with
the kids.
For childfree women, the choice not to parent is Despite negative popular narratives,
sociological research indicates that the
often linked to the desire to develop meaningful childfree may have more time and moti-
careers. Men identifying as childfree cite the vation to contribute to their communities
through charitable and volunteer efforts.
high cost of rearing children and a desire for Recent studies also suggest that they
help rear the next generation by serving
financial flexibility as important to their decision. as mentors, teachers, counselors, and
friends to children, and that they lead
research shows online communities help who commented that the childfree are fulfilling and happy lives; form “cho-
other stigmatized groups unify, solidify doomed to a fate of “old age in solitude, sen families”; care about our collective
identities, and provide support. with the bitterness of loneliness.” future; and enjoy the benefits of diverse
Whether the childfree identity is Despite changes that have paved the social networks as they age.
one around which people can effectively way for more than one possible answer As these studies proliferate, they
mobilize remains a question. Several to the question of whether to parent, may widen awareness and understanding
studies note that the heterogeneity of cultural narratives have not yet caught of the childfree choice and contribute to
the childfree as a group may hamper up to this reality. The dominant narrative more realistic predictions of the impli-
collective organization efforts. So far, that continues to be that, of the two options, cations of people choosing to remain
hasn’t seemed to slow the proliferation of parenthood is the more mature, selfless childfree.
childfree-focused blogs, meet-up groups, choice. Pop culture depictions of the
or dating sites. childfree perpetuate the myth that not Amy Blackstone is in the sociology department at the
having kids is an unnatural choice made University of Maine. She blogs about childfree choice
entering the public by deviant people who may eventually at werenothavingababy.com.
consciousness change their minds. Robin Scherbatsky
Some businesses have heard the col- of How I Met Your Mother and Big Bang
lective voice of the childfree, or at least Theory’s Bernadette Rostenkowski-
taken note of their economic power. In Wolowitz are two of the few prime-
the past year, airlines and restaurants time childfree female characters. Robin,
made headlines as they added kid-free a gun-toting commitment-phobe, and
sections and hours. DeVries Global, a Bernadette, a scientist with a Ph.D. in
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