Psychology Negative Emotions - The Fourth Way®

Education Concerning the Work Teachings of G. I. Gurdjieff, Maurice

Nicoll MD, P. D. Ouspensky, and Others:
There is nothing more mechanical in our life than negative emotions.
Negative emotions are an example of the wrong work of the
emotional centre. They are unnecessary, and an important part of
awakening is to free ourselves from their grip.
Negative emotions are things like fear, anger, envy, greed, sloth,
and also pleasant things like enthusiasms, passions, and certain forms
of love.
They are based on identification and imagination-they keep us asleep.
The pleasant type are characterised by a tendency to turn into their
opposites - for example when we end up hating people we were
formerly `in love’ with.
Real emotions do not turn into their opposites.
Properly speaking, the emotional centre does not have a negative half.
Negative emotions are tremendously powerful, despite being
completely useless to us.
We can poison our lives extremely quickly with them, destroying
life-long friendships with a few words, or making disastrous choices
because we are out to prove something.
When we study the Food Diagram, we can see that man is rather like
a chemical factory, refining food, air, and impressions into much finer,
more volatile energies.
These finest energies are used by the higher emotional centre,
and the higher intellectual centre. When we express negative emotions,
we plunder this store of finer substances.
We can use up the factory’s entire production for a day with one
emotional outburst.
It is possible to use even more energy, even damaging the factory
beyond repair if we go too far (rather like the effect power surges have
on computers).
With this energy thrown away, we have no fuel available to think
our highest thoughts, or to experience our highest feelings.
So the first part of work on the emotional centre is non-expression of
negative emotions-to stop this energy leak.
This practise is exceptional in the Work, in that it is permanent,
and available to all.
(The methods and form of the Work are continually evolving, so it is
usual for an exercise to be set for a specific length of time, in specific
circumstances to specific people, and then only on the basis that they
understand exactly why they are doing it.)
As well as saving us energy, this practise also helps us in self-observation,
because we need to resist our mechanics before we can see them.

The second part of work on the emotional centre is transformation

of negative emotions. This is advanced work.
Briefly, we can see that the problem with non-expression of negative
emotions is that we are still having the emotion-we are just not
expressing it.
If we are self-remembering at the moment when an impression enters
that would normally cause a negative emotion, it is possible
to use the resulting energy for ourselves, rather than seeing it disappear
off down well-trodden paths.
This is also known as the Second Conscious Shock.
In the Work, long practice at non-expression of negative emotions and
self-remembering are necessary before this becomes possible.
Negative emotions often originate in the instinctive centre.
If we are tired, or hungry, or in pain, these inner sensations can often
be converted into negative emotions by our imagination.
A cold, a headache, a late night or a missed meal are all enough to
drastically alter our behaviour.
We may be irritated by far less than usual.
We may feel tearful at the slightest pressure.
To work with this, we need to be more aware of the life of our
instinctive centre. We need to remember our fatigue, our aches,
and our appetite, so that we can digest impressions correctly.
One way of doing this is to be small, to slow down, and be quieter.
This gives our organism more time to operate, alleviating the
unpleasant feeling of pressure everyday life creates in us when
we are a little worse for wear.
First take the log out of your own eye, and then you will see
clearly to take the speck out of your brother’s eye. Matthew 7:5
Negativity towards others is often caused by us seeing in other people
exactly what we dislike about ourselves.
This negativity is usually accompanied by thoughts such as, `I’m not
like that at all!’ and `How on Earth could they do/say/think such a
thing!’ Such negativity will paint the victim as a `something’, where the
`something’ label allows us to think of the victim as being different to
ourselves --- labels such as fool, drunkard, monster, and so on.
These attitudes prevent us seeing what we, as humans, are really like;
they prevent us from learning about and understanding the full variety
of human expression.
This we must do if we wish to become balanced men.
We can tell that our reactions to others’ shortcomings are subjective,
because usually we are only bothered by certain things, and are able to
remain calm in the face of other faults.
We need to remember that negative emotions are a general law
on this world. That is to say, virtually all people will express them,
will glamorise them, will accept them as the normal.
The violence of our `civilised’ societies stands testimony to this.
After thousands of years of history, man can walk on the moon,
can harness the power of the atom, but still is unable to avoid going
into a rage when his food is not cooked properly.
So we should not be surprised when people are negative,
and should not condemn them for it. We are all negative.
To even begin to free oneself from this law takes great and continued
efforts.
One problem arising from the `normality’ of negative emotions is that
work on them sometimes involves behaving differently to conventional
wisdom.
Sometimes people do appear to behave badly towards us, and it is
very easy to feel negative towards them. If we voiced our anger and
frustration, people would assure us that they would feel exactly
the same in our shoes. At times like these, it is especially important
to remember why we are trying not to express negative emotions.

We are not doing it to `be nice’, or because it’s `bad’ to express negative
emotions. We are doing it because we wish to study ourselves,
and to save energy and time.
 We are doing it because we wish to wake up.
We must observe the fact that we enjoy our negative emotions.
Being in a towering rage can feel dramatic and exciting.
We feel energised, passionate, and more alive.
Sometimes we are moved to eloquence as our tongue lets fly,
and caution goes to the wind.
The truth is, when the Work tells us not to be negative,
our unspoken reply is, `But I don’t want to stop being negative!’
Giving up negativity is part of the price we pay for awakening.
We have to give up something if we wish to make space for something
new in our lives. We can hardly be receptive to higher forces when we
are busy flaying someone alive with our tongue.
Also, we have to remember that being negative does not just mean
having exciting passions. It also means being ruled by self-pity,
depression, loneliness, boredom, dissatisfaction, inadequacy, and envy.
We should not fool ourselves that saying we do not want to stop being
negative means we could stop if we wanted to.
We have no control, and cannot chose not be negative.
Until we recognise this, we have no hope of changing.
Work on negative emotions becomes easier when we see that our
repertoire of negative emotions is quite limited.
Although our circumstances change throughout our lives,
and we continually encounter different situations,
the basic causes of our resentments do not change.
This will be things like not being recognised for one’s true worth,
or thinking that one needs a change in one’s life.
One student had been feeling bored and unappreciated in his job.
He realised this was a negative emotion when he remembered that he
had felt exactly the same about his college degree, several years ago.
Although the justifications were couched in different term,
the inner relationship to his main occupation had not changed.
Recognition of these emotions can be enormously liberating,
because we start to see where they are making the decisions in our life.
We have an opportunity to live more intelligently, to stop fear and
anger doing all our talking.
To be in a passion you good may do, But no good if a passion is in you.
William Blake
It is important to distinguish expressing negative emotions from
standing up for oneself.
Non-expression of negative emotions does not mean allowing people
to exploit you.
If someone is rude to you, or dominates you, or starts to bully you,
you have to defend yourself, or you will store up only more of the same
for yourself in the future.
When we notice people probing for weaknesses, a shot across
the bows at that moment can prevent a full-blown war in the future.
It is possible to be firm and direct without becoming identified, without
becoming negative.
We can see this in the way a good mother treats a naughty child,
or in the way a good dog-owner disciplines their pet.
Every situation has a certain amount of power.
Sometimes you are in control, sometimes the person you are dealing
with is in control.
We should not become negative when we discover people using power;
rather we should learn the rules of the game, and play it intelligently,
according to our aims in a particular situation.
To know when to stop is to preserve ourselves from danger. Lao Tzu
Sometimes in our lives, certain people become huge obstacles for us.
Their shadow seems to fall across our whole existence.
Every word they say acquires immense significance. We live in terror of
them, and entertain all sorts of absurd fantasies about what they will
say or do next. In these situations, we can end up with the unnerving
feeling that we are in a play.
We start to see every moment of our lives in relation to this drama.
In this state, we may still be reminding ourselves that we should not be
expressing negative emotions.
Perhaps we do not allow ourselves to voice our feelings or change our
circumstances, because we do not want to be negative, because we do
not want to `fail’.
We need to be intelligent here, and consider our own capabilities.
It is almost certain that there IS a charm for our fears, that we can
change our inner relationship to this person.
But remember that non-expression of negative emotions is just one
line of work.
If a situation really is making the rest of our work and our life impossible,
we ought to consider the `failure’ option, be that walking away,
or something else. We may need to learn more before we can
deal with certain kinds of situation successfully.
It is very important to understand the difference between talking about
negative emotions, and expressing them.
It can often be useful to describe our negativity to someone else,
so that they can help us see the attitudes behind this.
What is not useful, however, is when this discussion turns into a repeat
of all the identification with unpleasant emotions originally experienced.
Then we are simply re-expressing negativity, we are throwing more
energy away, we are strengthening that certain undesirable something
within ourselves.
With enough repetition, this can become a negative attitude.
This situation is actually far more common than the first.
We have all witnessed people describing their woes,
and the intensity and passion with which they explain themselves.
To describe an incident in one’s past when one was negative
dispassionately requires effort, because negativity is mechanical,
and to avoid it, we have to cease being mechanical with respect to
the circumstance that originally lead to our negativity.
Often this involves changing our relationship to an event.
It involves seeing something new, such as seeing that the person we
are negative towards has done nothing unexpected---nothing we
wouldn’t have done in their shoes.
If we start to work in a group, we will certainly encounter and ex-
press negative emotions within that group. Sometimes we use work
terminology to `score points’, or to hurt people we are working with,
or to impress the teacher.
This occurs because the Work ideas have to enter through the lower
parts of centres, and they become food for misuse by these parts in the
same way as any other ideas does.
Another form of negativity is resentment of the teacher or the Work
when things start to get harder for us.
Seeing this negativity can help us see that going to meetings is not the
same as being more awake.
When we realise that all of our petty resentments and motivations
appear in a group situation, just as in real life (if not more so),
we will begin to realise that the Work is not in the meeting room or
the teacher, but is inside.