Amleke 1

Leul Amleke

Professor Judd

HLTH 2200

20 October 2020

Perspective paper 2

Many things happen in a person’s lifetime that can leave them speechless. In this scenario, I

honestly would be just that. As I sit down with this person, and they tell me that they are

transgender, I would be very mad and would not know what to do. I have no problem or personal

hate towards transgenders but as a straight man caught in a situation, sleeping with a former guy,

it would make me very mad at myself, and the other person. I would be mad at the other person

because they did not tell me they were transgender, and I would be mad at myself for being

caught up with that person and not seeing that they are transgender. At the moment that they tell

me they were transgender; I would be completely quiet. Honestly, I cannot see myself saying

anything for the first couple of minutes due to being in shock. I consider myself an overthinker at

times of big moments, and if this happened, I would be filled with thoughts. At the end of the

day, even though I would be mad at the person, I would have to be mad at myself and make sure

I make better decisions the next time it happens. Even though this happened hypothetically, I

would not change the way I feel or look at myself any differently because I know I am a straight

man who got caught up in a situation. For the other person, I do not see myself ever talking to

them again. Now if this scenario ended with me and the person not having sex but becoming

friends at the wedding, I would have no problem with that because even though I do not believe

that the life decisions they made were correct, does not mean I cannot be friends with them. But
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since this scenario ended with me having sex with them and them not telling me, I would look at

them completely differently. I would also question the other person, and make sure they do not

do this to any other person because unlike me some guys would take it to another level and

would end up getting into a fistfight with them. With the idea of dating them, I would never do

that, because I am attracted to the female gender and I have been this way since I was young.

The chapter reading even states, “by the age of 4 to 5, children have learned a wide array of

social stereotypes about how boys and girls should behave”. Around that age I knew females

where the sex I was attracted to and saw that with my friends. I understand that transgenders who

go from male to female are considered female, but from my view, the fact they were a male at

one time will always sit with me, and the look of me dating one cannot come across my mind.