SINGLE PREPARATION: IN THE BEGINNING

TEXT: Mark 10:6-9

For use with the Life's Answers tape series entitled
What God Has Joined Together
* We must understand single before we understand married. I.

ORIGINAL CREATION IS SINGLE-SEXED

Life's Answers Teaching Series
(Audio Cassettes with Study Guides) A. Gen. 1:27
Assignment Against the Church
Freedom from Insecurity and Inferiority Male = the male man
God's Covenant with Your Family
How to Fight for Your Family Female = mankind with a womb матка
Millionaire Mentality
Mobilizing Believers Created = bara—to produce something out of nothing; a new thing
Purchasing and Negotiations
The Power of God's Prophetic Purpose
B. Gen. 2:18, 27-22—Making of woman
Prayer Command Center
The Prevailing Power of Prayer
Man = come from red; denotes the human race Alone - in
Success in Business
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rue Success: How to Find the Field God Has Planted for You his separation or in separation state; by itself Helpmeet = aide; a helper;
The Unshakable Foundation
Victory in Spiritual Warfare from the root word to surround, as in protect
What God Has Joined Together
Rib = a man's side. Bone of my bones and flesh of my flesh indi-
cates a good portion of Adam's being became woman.

Taken = laid hold of (seized)

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A. Gen. 2:24
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Leave = to loosen; forsake; refuse; leave destitute
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Cleave = to cling; adhere; to catch by pursuit; fasten together

Wife = same as Gen. 2:23

 One = united; in union
B. Covenant words with all other partners outside marriage
Flesh = body; with Hebrew understanding, refers to and includes more
than sexual unity C. Second virginity must be reset for marriage union to be blessed!

B. Covenant—shedding of blood—hymen D. Current marriages must have the spirit of adultery removed, as well as any
(with one mate first time for always) and all words that have the power to limit full engagement with covenant in
marriage.
III. THE BINDING EFFECT SPIRITUALLY WHEN SEX OUTSIDE OF
MARRIAGE OCCURS

A. A covenant act with a non-covenant partner throws off every created intention
and system within both parties.

1. Perversion = the state of being turned away from that which is

right, natural, or true

2. Deception = the act or practice of deceiving or misleading

(making one believe what is not true)

3. Bondage = voluntary or involuntary subjection to some force,

compulsion, or influence

B. This spiritual bondage, or flesh, or lust and control, passes through generations.

1. Youthful immorality

Eze. 23:2-3

Sex became obsessive, and mental imagery followed.

Eze. 23:15, 17-18

Mind alienated (v. 17-18) = to tear away; to draw and quarter; or as

to rip apart

2. Has. 4:12-14

Spiritual bondage transmits to children and spouse when either party

has had premarital relations.

IV. BREAK THE TIES THAT BIND

A. Covenant action with all sexual partners outside marriage

 MARRIAGE IN THE BEGINNING, supported with knowledge, respect, and honor /
THE FALL, AND REDEMPTION
Pet. 3:7
TEXT: Gen. 2:15, 18
2. He includes her with him in life, and appreciates her contribution and
support with proven gentleness.
I. THE WORKING, CULTIVATING, UNDERSTANDING, AND PROTECTING
Jam. 3:13
MAN
Gen. 2:23
A. The role of provider
D. The role of protector—he provides a Word and prayer wall around wife, family,
1. He finds the field God planted and does not stray from it, but stays gut. work, and church.

Focused, fixed, and abundance flows 1 The husband/father spiritually accepting the Word in the guarding and
training role
Gen. 2:8-9
Example: Abraham in Gen. 18:19
2. He finds God teaching him to profit.
2. The husband/father spiritually accepting prayer in the guarding and
Lets God teach and lead petitioning role

Isa. 48:17 Neh. 7:2-3

3. He replenishes all that becomes depleted or consumed, without II. THE AIDING, SUPPORTING, PROTECTING, COMPLETING - NOT
complaining or negativity. COMPETING - WIFE

Gen. 1:28 A. She knows her place with her husband in agreement, and does not build
agreements outside of the home without her husband. No division. She is
Phi. 2:13-15 developed in life to complete her husband.

B. The role of cultivator—to bring things from their seed stage to maturation Gen. 2:18
and multiplication
Pro. 14:1
1. The provision of a loving, supportive environment conducive to growth
of wife and family Luke

Eph. 5:25-31 11:17

2. Lives to serve and keep the "growing going" B. She applies all her gifting and strength to build the home (family).

Mat. 20:25-28 Pro. 31:10-31

C. The role of understanding with gentleness and to honor wife III. THE DESTRUCTIVE FORCE OF SIN—THE FALL!

1. The wife never feeling the sense of being misunderstood, but always A. Lust dominates the relationship.
 1. Gen. 3:6
C. New creation in Christ
2. 1 John 2:16
2 Cor. 5:17
B. Man goes as low as the Fig Leaf Syndrome—"The Great Cover-up."
D. Neither male nor female
Gen. 3:7
Gal. 3:26-28
C. Man now experiences fear, and does not want accountability and repentance.
E. Restored to right fellowship
Gen. 3:10-12
/ Pet. 3:7
D. The curse on marriage for woman
THE BLOOD HAS POWER TO REMOVE MARITAL CURSE!
Gen. 3:16

Desire = stretching out after; a longing

Rule over = to have dominion; reign; having ruling power over

The curse has brought the wife to a state of greatly-multiplied sorrow and
total subjugation to her husband.

Before the curse there was:

1. Equality of creation—male and female

2. Leadership of man in love and wisdom

3. Relationship as helpmeet without subjugation, but by cooperation

E. The curse on marriage for men

Gen. 3:17-19

IV. THE REDEMPTION FOR MEN AND WOMEN EQUALLY

A. Seed of woman bruises Satan's head.

Gen. 3:15 <

B. Accepted and redeemed us

Eph. 1:5-7
 HEADSHIP, SUBMISSION, and SUBJECTION: 1. Hard discipline for disobedience
THREE DISTORTED WORDS EXPLAINED
2. Reward and punishment view toward subordinates
TEXT: Eph. 5:22-24
3. Manipulation, threat, and intimidation use to get its way

INTRODUCTION II. THE MALE'S CONFLICT

Because of the curse in Gen. 3:16, marriage has been brought under the bondage of A. Trying to become what he already is
wrong thinking. Some of this wrong thinking is in the areas of authority, headship,
submission, and subjection. Many families have been ruined, wives oppressed, and 1. Husband is head
single people made fearful in the marriage understanding, due to incorrect teaching.
Today, I hope you will receive some clarity. Eph. 5:23

I. THE BIBLICAL UNDERSTANDING OF AUTHORITY OR HEADSHIP 2. Insecurity and inferiority due to power struggle; thus sees himself as
defeated!
A. The right understanding from God's Word
Many times this originates in childhood through his mother, teachers,
1. Authority= power with the legal right to use it etc.

2. Head = chief; supreme; or prominent B. Trying to force what he thinks leadership means and demanding the protection
of his stand
1. All who are chief (head) serve.
III. BIBLICAL UNDERSTANDING OF SUBMISSION AND SUBJECTION
Mat. 20:25-28
A. The right understanding of submission and subjection
B. The curse and how it is used
1. Submission = to yield the way to; to prefer before yourself as
1. Men rule
unto the Lord
Gen. 3:16
Eph. 5:22
2. To get cooperation, you must exercise your right and make people follow.
2. Subjection = to arrange yourself under
Mat. 20:25
Example: To duck, and let the husband bear the brunt of it.
C. Authority is governed by responsibility.
Eph. 5:24
D. Right authority has:
Note: Submit and subject are exclusively the right of the wife, not to be
1. Dominion over the devil
forced upon her.
2. Love and service to people
B. The curse made woman:
E. Wrong authority has:
1. Suppressed person, good only for childbearing and servile recognition
in the home
 2. Abuse became normal because of the male insecurity. MARRIAGE: AGREEMENT FOR DOMINION
C. The Scripture gives us right placement. TEXT: Amos 3:3

/ Cor. 11:3-12
INTRODUCTION
D. Can a woman teach?
Strife, division, and arguments are common to all marriages; but they must be seen as an
1. Women are recognized. attack against agreement.

Rom. 16:1-7 I. AGREEMENT

2. Women prophesying A. What is agreement?

Acts 21:8-11 1. Agreement = sound together; to be in one accord; to harmonize

3. The error is when a woman tries to be the head. 1. The promise of agreement gives multiplied power and authority.

She is not to usurp authority over the man (husband). 1 Agree in prayer

Tim. 2:12 Mat. 18:19-20 10,000

Usurp = base meaning is: one who with his own hands kills either times power Deu.
others or himself; in this context, it means: one who
acts on his own accord to exercise dominion over 32:30
IV. CONFLICTS, WHICH OCCUR At the tower of Babel, God said of those who agreed, that once they
began, nothing would be restrained.
A. Husbands become bitter.
Gen. 11:6
Col. 3:17-19
They have dominion.
Heb. 12:15
Gen. 1:27-28
B. Husbands want wives to submit where it is not proper.
3. What are the key elements in agreement?
Col. 3:18
a. The first requirement is understanding—to see as one sees. An
Fit = be proper example would be, to stand exactly where the other party is and to
see exactly what the other party sees, from the same point of view.
C. Detailed study of 1 Pet. 2:20-3:7 surfaces many conflicts.
b. Without understanding, you do not appreciate the other's sound or
contribution.

Appreciate = to value; to esteem; to be conscious of the

 Mat. 18:35 2
significance or worth
Cor. 2:10-11
c. Remember that Satan knows the power of agreement and tries to
divide so that you only see things your way.
2. Give up your right to be right, and humble yourself.
d. You must give time to listen.
7 Pet. 5:5-6
B. Make a contribution, not a concession.
3. Stop speaking back, and listen; then respond with a soft answer.
1. When the volume controls the conversation, you have no agreement,
only concessions. Pro. 15:1

2. Agreement is not give and take. 4. Quietly—away from the situation—take spiritual command, and bind
the spirits that may be present.
3. Not the nagging which brags of personal victory
5. Let every day end its own conflict. Never carry on division or strife past
Pro. 21:9; 27:15 nightfall.

II. THE DESTRUCTIVE POWER OF STRIFE AND DIVISION III. LET LOVE LEAD

A. Definitions: Until you agree, nothing is accomplished. Always agree at the lowest level, and
then build your agreement levels, to have greater dominion.
Divided = to be at variance with one's self, or to rebel against one's
self; to divide into opposing pans against one 1 Cor. 13:4-8 (AMP)

Mark 3:24-25

Luke 11:17

Example: Children siding with one parent

Strife = used in olden times, to electioneer for office by courting

popular applause by trickery or low arts; a desire to put one's
self forward; to be at odds with another for the purpose of
self-promotion

7am. 3:14-16

Example: Using unrelated information to prove your point.

Division = the state of standing apart

B. What should I do if I am experiencing strife or division?

1. Forgive from the heart.

 BUILDING COMMUNICATION SKILLS 1 Sam. 14:6-7
THROUGH THE WORD
H. Hear each other with an open heart. Let the spouse speak without interruption
TEXT: Gen. 2:18 until all views or feelings are expressed.

Mat. 13:15
INTRODUCTION
R. Respect the dignity and willingness to be honest in communication, even if
Communication = the exchange of ideas or thoughts; both listening and the truth hurts. Always be willing to forgive, and believe the best outcome.
speaking one to another, by opening ears when the other
speaks 1 Pel. 3:7

1. Communication can be verbal or non-verbal. I. Involve yourself in the other's life as if it were your own.

2. Expression and understanding one another. 1 Cor. 12:25-26

3. Every marriage problem stems from mis- or poor communication. S. Satisfy your spouse's conversation and relationship needs by spending quality
time alone. Always put your spouse first before children, family, or job.
I. THE FOUNDATION MUST BE LAID IN CHRIST
Luke 6:38
A. Mutual commitment to Jesus as Head and Lord
T. Trust the Christ within each other. Even if they fail, HE will not fail. Let trust
1 Cor. 3:9-15 build over time.

B. Mutual commitment and accountability to the Word of God as the final Pro. 31:11-12
authority in any and all conflicts
Likewise, the wife's heart trusts.
Heb. 4:12-16
III. BEGIN AT THE LEVEL WHERE YOU ACTUALLY ARE TODAY, AND DO
C. Know that you are joined in covenant with each other and the Lord. NOT STOP THERE.

1. A threefold chord is not quickly broken. 1st How are you doing? Using verbal cliches

Ecc. 4:9-12 Example: Husband comes home, buries face in newspaper; eats dinner;
watches TV; then goes to bed.
2. Do not even attempt to marry an unbeliever or one not walking in God's
Spirit with you. * Practically NO Communication.

2 Cor. 6:14-18 2nd Report facts of day:

II. C. H. R. I. S. T. a. Little or no personal input

C. Commitment to open up all areas of life without judging or criticizing each b. Very structured, cold, and impersonal
other; "no back doors!"
3rd Give out MY ideas and judgments:
 a. Whenever met by disagreement or rejection, withdraw and retreat. HOW TO MASTER MONEY

b. Little or no room for exchange—mostly one way TEXT: Mat. 6:24

4th Communication that expresses feelings and emotions:

INTRODUCTION
a. Express my ideas, even if I am disagreed with
Money — the use, lack, and avenue to get it — has crippled, divided, and exhausted a
b. The beginning of handling rejection vast majority of marriages.

c. At this level, self-image begins to develop stronger, and confidence and Family arguments, fears of never being fulfilled, or deferred hope of accomplishing their
flexibility begin to be portrayed. dreams have put many on the treadmill of hopelessness. This session will expose the
power of money's misery and empower you for money's mastery.
5th Complete emotional and truthful communication:
I. THE MISERY OF MONEY
a. We express all emotion and ideas.
A. As a product of the curse, labor has become predominantly a master of man.
b. No matter what happens, confidence exists in relationship.
1. Man works for curse.
c. Let it all hang out, and have overcome the fear of rejection
Gen. 3:17-19

d. At this level, growth occurs with God and spouse. "The Walls Are Example. I cannot afford marriage or children.
Down."
2. Lust for things, posing as an answer to the curse, has resulted.

7am. 4:1-3

1 Cor. 7:29, 32-35

Example: Marriages set financial idealisms; such as: 2 cars, house, 4

weeks of vacation, college education for children, all in the
first year of marriage. Thus, debt results, and much work.

B. Debt becomes the dominant cause of employment.

Example: Car loans, credit cards, mortgages, etc.

1. Servitude to lenders

Pro. 22:7

2. Man's mind cannot clearly see God's provision and blessing, due to
debt.
 C. Agree and commit yourself NOT to serve materialism (the world) in order to
Deu. 28:12-13 please your spouse. Singularly and together, make Jesus Head and Lord only!

C. Man, because of debt and obligation, becomes wrongfully placed in vocation D. Agree never to spend money on items without both being fully in agreement.
due to necessity, not gifting.
E. Agree to destroy debt if it is present in either party, and incur debt only when
How many people in your own family chose vocations, not out of what they absolutely necessary.
were gifted in, but for the benefits and revenue to be received?
Agree that debt will not master your marriage, in Jesus' name!
D. Because money is tied mentally to need, the family is cursed, for they robbed
God of the seed of tithes and offerings.

Mai. 3:8-9

They give to God their leftovers and sick or undesirable gift, and try to keep

the best for themselves.

Mal. 1:6-8

Thus, they live for themselves.

Hag. 1:4-6

E. Finally, the god of mammon rules.

1. The Assyrians, Babylonians, and Egyptians worshipped a god called

Mammon.

2. Mammon = what is trusted in

3. When false trust in money or materialism take the place of God in the
home, worry results!

Mat. 6:24-26 Phi. 4:6 II. MASTER MONEY NOW, OR

SUFFER MISERY LATER!

A. Agree on the church that you both will faithfully attend; commit 10% minimally
of your gross income to His House, and be blessed!

Mal 3:8-12 B Pray and break the god of mammon

in Jesus' name!