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SINGLE-SEXED
A. Gen. 1:27
Man = come from red; denotes the human race Alone - in his separation or in separation
state; by itself Helpmeet = aide; a helper; from the root word to surround, as in protect
Woman = issha-woman; wife; mate. She is depicted as the physical counterpart of man, thus deserving
of unswerving loyalty.
A. Gen. 2:24
Flesh = body; with Hebrew understanding, refers to and includes more than sexual unity
A. A covenant act with a non-covenant partner throws off every created intention
and system within both parties.
compulsion, or influence
B. This spiritual bondage, or flesh, or lust and control, passes through generations.
1. Youthful immorality
Eze. 23:2-3
Sex became obsessive, and mental imagery followed. Eze. 23:15, 17-18
Mind alienated (v. 17-18) = to tear away; to draw and quarter; or as
to rip apart
2. Has. 4:12-14
Spiritual bondage transmits to children and spouse when either party has had premarital relations.
D. Current marriages must have the spirit of adultery removed, as well as any
and all words that have the power to limit full engagement with covenant in
marriage.
MARRIAGE IN THE BEGINNING, THE FALL, AND
REDEMPTION
MAN
1. He finds the field God planted and does not stray from it, but stays gut.
Gen. 2:8-9
Isa. 48:17
B. The role of cultivator-to bring things from their seed stage to maturation
and multiplication
Mat. 20:25-28
1. The wife never feeling the sense of being misunderstood, but always
2. He includes her with him in life, and appreciates her contribution and support with proven gentleness.
D. The role of protector-he provides a Word and prayer wall around wife, family, work, and church.
1 The husband/father spiritually accepting the Word in the guarding and training role
2. The husband/father spiritually accepting prayer in the guarding and petitioning role
Neh. 7:2-3
A. She knows her place with her husband in agreement, and does not build
agreements outside of the home without her husband. No division. She is
developed in life to complete her husband.
B. She applies all her gifting and strength to build the home (family).
Pro. 31:10-31
1. Gen. 3:6
2. 1 John 2:16
Gen. 3:7
C. Man now experiences fear, and does not want accountability and repentance.
Gen. 3:10-12
D. The curse on marriage for woman
Gen. 3:16
The curse has brought the wife to a state of greatly-multiplied sorrow and total subjugation to her husband.
Gen. 3:17-19
Eph. 1:5-7
2 Cor. 5:17
Gal. 3:26-28
/ Pet. 3:7
INTRODUCTION
Because of the curse in Gen. 3:16, marriage has been brought under the bondage of wrong thinking. Some of this wrong
thinking is in the areas of authority, headship, submission, and subjection. Many families have been ruined, wives
oppressed, and single people made fearful in the marriage understanding, due to incorrect teaching. Today, I hope you
will receive some clarity.
Mat. 20:25-28
9. Men rule
Gen. 3:16
10. To get cooperation, you must exercise your right and make people follow.
Mat. 20:25
Eph. 5:23
17. Insecurity and inferiority due to power struggle; thus sees himself as
defeated!
Many times this originates in childhood through his mother, teachers, etc.
B. Trying to force what he thinks leadership means and demanding the protection
of his stand
Eph. 5:22
Example: To duck, and let the husband bear the brunt of it.
Eph. 5:24
Note: Submit and subject are exclusively the right of the wife, not to be forced upon her.
1. Suppressed person, good only for childbearing and servile recognition in the home
/ Cor. 11:3-12
Rom. 16:1-7
Acts 21:8-11
She is not to usurp authority over the man (husband). 1 Tim. 2:12
Usurp = base meaning is: one who with his own hands kills either others or himself; in this context, it
means: one who acts on his own accord to exercise dominion over
Col. 3:17-19
Heb. 12:15
Col. 3:18
Fit = be proper
INTRODUCTION
Strife, division, and arguments are common to all marriages; but they must be seen as an attack against agreement.
I. AGREEMENT
A. What is agreement?
Agree in prayer
At the tower of Babel, God said of those who agreed, that once they began, nothing would be
restrained.
Gen. 11:6
significance or worth
23. When the volume controls the conversation, you have no agreement,
only concessions.
A. Definitions:
Divided = to be at variance with one's self, or to rebel against one's self; to divide into opposing pans
against one
Strife = used in olden times, to electioneer for office by courting popular applause by trickery or low
arts; a desire to put one's self forward; to be at odds with another for the purpose of self-
promotion
7am. 3:14-16
Example: Using unrelated information to prove your point. Division = the state of standing
apart
7 Pet. 5:5-6
27. Stop speaking back, and listen; then respond with a soft answer.
Pro. 15:1
29. Let every day end its own conflict. Never carry on division or strife past
nightfall.
III. LET LOVE LEAD
Until you agree, nothing is accomplished. Always agree at the lowest level, and then build your agreement
levels, to have greater dominion.
INTRODUCTION
Communication = the exchange of ideas or thoughts; both listening and speaking one to another, by opening
ears when the other speaks
1 Cor. 3:9-15
Heb. 4:12-16
C. Know that you are joined in covenant with each other and the Lord.
34. Do not even attempt to marry an unbeliever or one not walking in God's
Spirit with you.
2 Cor. 6:14-18
II. C. H. R. I. S. T.
C. Commitment to open up all areas of life without judging or criticizing each other; "no back doors!"
1 Sam. 14:6-7
H. Hear each other with an open heart. Let the spouse speak without interruption until all views or feelings are
expressed.
Mat. 13:15
R. Respect the dignity and willingness to be honest in communication, even if the truth hurts. Always be
willing to forgive, and believe the best outcome.
1 Pel. 3:7
I. Involve yourself in the other's life as if it were your own. 1 Cor. 12:25-26
S. Satisfy your spouse's conversation and relationship needs by spending quality time alone. Always put your
spouse first before children, family, or job.
Luke 6:38
T. Trust the Christ within each other. Even if they fail, HE will not fail. Let trust build over time.
Pro. 31:11-12
III. BEGIN AT THE LEVEL WHERE YOU ACTUALLY ARE TODAY, AND DO NOT STOP THERE.
Example: Husband comes home, buries face in newspaper; eats dinner; watches TV; then goes to bed.
c. Let it all hang out, and have overcome the fear of rejection
d. At this level, growth occurs with God and spouse. "The Walls Are
Down."
HOW TO MASTER MONEY
INTRODUCTION
Money - the use, lack, and avenue to get it - has crippled, divided, and exhausted a vast majority of marriages.
Family arguments, fears of never being fulfilled, or deferred hope of accomplishing their dreams have put many on the
treadmill of hopelessness. This session will expose the power of money's misery and empower you for money's mastery.
Gen. 3:17-19
7am. 4:1-3
Example: Marriages set financial idealisms; such as: 2 cars, house, 4 weeks of vacation, college
education for children, all in the first year of marriage. Thus, debt results, and much work.
Pro. 22:7
36. Man's mind cannot clearly see God's provision and blessing, due to
debt.
1.Deu. 28:12-13
How many people in your own family chose vocations, not out of what they were gifted in, but for the benefits
and revenue to be received?
D. Because money is tied mentally to need, the family is cursed, for they robbed
God of the seed of tithes and offerings.
Mai. 3:8-9
They give to God their leftovers and sick or undesirable gift, and try to keep
Mal. 1:6-8
Hag. 1:4-6
39. When false trust in money or materialism take the place of God in the
home, worry results!
Mat. 6:24-26 Phi. 4:6 II. MASTER MONEY NOW, OR SUFFER MISERY LATER!
A. Agree on the church that you both will faithfully attend; commit 10% minimally of your gross income to His
House, and be blessed!
Mal 3:8-12 B Pray and break the god of mammon in Jesus' name!
C. Agree and commit yourself NOT to serve materialism (the world) in order to
please your spouse. Singularly and together, make Jesus Head and Lord only!
D. Agree never to spend money on items without both being fully in agreement.
E. Agree to destroy debt if it is present in either party, and incur debt only when
absolutely necessary.
Agree that debt will not master your marriage, in Jesus' name!