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housewives in the middle of the twentieth century. The women during this time
were set on being a housewife. Their whole lives it was all they had dreamed
about and thought of. In Friedan’s book, The Feminine Mystique, she said “ in all
the millions of words written about woman, for woman, in all the columns, books
and articles by experts telling women their role was to seek fulfillment as wives
and mothers” (Page.1). The whole chapter she talks about this “problem” that
these housewives suffer from. She goes on to explain their feelings and what this
problem actually is. She gives a much deeper understanding of how these
women lived and how society made them what they were supposed to be and act
Women were supposed to act and look feminine. From how they looked, to
the way they lived. Everything they did had to be this way. Every girl dreamed of
having a life like the women in the images of the American suburban housewife.
Being a housewife, they had everything they could have wanted. A husband, a
mother, a nice house, she was free to do whatever she wanted to with the house,
etc. But although they had all of this, they were very unsatisfied with how they
were living their life. They were often exhausted most of the day even though
they got plenty of sleep at night. The problem was not with their house, children
or even their husband. The problem was themselves. They felt lonely and empty
inside. One woman Friedan had talked to said she had done everything she
thought women were supposed to do like hobbies and such. Women who felt like
this described themselves as desperate. They had no idea as to why they all felt
like this.
These women began to question who they were. They felt as if they had
management, and all things feminine. Majority of them left school early to get
married and start a family. In fact, for some the only reason they went to college
was to look for a husband. No wonder these women felt like this. Because their
husband made all the money and was in control of all the financials and anything
dealing with money, the women had no money and were stuck in that house
especially since they had no career. Housewives did everything so that their
husbands could come home, eat and relax. “Dinner would be on the table ready
and waiting for the man of the house on his return from work. Housework and the
care of children was considered women's work so the man would expect the
house to be clean and tidy, meal ready, children fed and washed and his clothes
This was their everyday lives. They had little or no time for themselves.
The problem many of these women struggled with was harder to talk
about than sex. Many doctors and psychiatrists didn’t quite understand what the
problem was, but they were sure it was not sexual. Most of the women kept
saying there was no problem at all. What is interesting about this is that when a
group of mothers would get together, they would know what “the problem” was
without having to say anything. Friedan had realized that this problem was more
common than she thought. It was a problem with women all over america. The
women with this problem thought there was something wrong with her marriage.
They would compare their life with others and then start to wonder if she was the
problem. They would say they were “so ashamed”.2 They thought having more
items, more money, a fancier and bigger house would help with these feelings
another word for unhappy. These were the women “who wanted to be poets, or
but society at this time found it strange and unacceptable. The housewives
1
The 1950s housewife. (n.d.). Historic UK. Retrieved March 21, 2021, from
https://www.historic-uk.com/CultureUK/The-1950s-Housewife/
2
Friedan, B. (2001). The feminine mystique. W. W. Norton & Company.
3
Friedan, B. (2001). The feminine mystique. W. W. Norton & Company.
learned what it meant to be truly feminine. If they wanted to have a career, have
rights or any higher education, they were not considered feminine. Gender roles
were strict. In fact, women were applauded for their femininity. It was called their
new maturity. Being a housewife was a devotion. As said earlier, little girls get
taught how to do this but from such an early age they are also taught to find a
husband and to have children, Because of this there were way fewer girls who
The women who had “the problem” were sucked into it at an early age.
This is why so many of them are unhappy and confused about who they are.
They had only been taught to marry and have children. They were having an
identity crisis. It did not help that The 1950’s strict gender roles were an
expectation. Because of this “certain gender roles and norms were socially
they had dreamed about and had been taught was not at all like they thought it
would be.
these roles that they are supposed to fit. If they do something out of that role,
they are judged and looked at differently. Today, they are still supposed to be and
show feminine qualities. Friedan was showing the significance of the housewives
4
Women in the 1950s (article) | 1950s america. (n.d.). Khan Academy. Retrieved March 21, 2021, from
https://www.khanacademy.org/humanities/us-history/postwarera/1950s-america/a/women-in-the-1950s
feelings during the middle of the twentieth century. The book was focused and
centered around these women. It was manifesting and was revealing the problem
most of these women had and how hard these women's lives used to be on them
physically and mentally because of the social norms and expectations that were