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Mackenzie Glaser
“The delicate balance of mentoring someone is not creating them in your own image, but
giving them the opportunity to create themselves” (Spielberg S.) was one quote that has really
embodied my mentor philosophy that I have developed. In this class, we have looked what is
needed in order to be an effective mentor. Throughout the semester we have looked at different
aspects such as what knowledge is, emotional intelligence, and different mentor styles. During
this semester, I have had to look at a lot of different styles of leadership as well as different
aspects of those styles. Now, in those styles, I have also reflected on what my personal mentor
philosophy are and what aspects are important to me. The most basic aspect I had to think about
was what a mentor was. Reflecting more and more about it gave me the conclusion that being a
mentor is being able to effectively communicate expectations with the other. This requires some
sort of acknowledgement from both sides as to if they are in a mentoring relationship to one
another. I also want to state that being a mentor is a relationship between two or more people
where information is gained on either side of the equation. Creating an environment where a
philosophy that works and is important to me. My mentor philosophy is concentrated on being
able to acknowledge personal truths, having clear expectations, as well as being able to
others personal truths. This outlook on knowledge can be very subjective and unpredictable, but
being objective and not acknowledging how someone feels, even if it is different than the way
you feel, is far worse. While Dewey believed that knowledge should be objective and to
look at knowledge from an outside perspective, I side more with Plato who says that personal
experience can be a form of knowledge and should be treated as such. When they both try to
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pinpoint what “the real object” (Dewey J., 1981) is, Dewey takes more of a literal approach and
does not believe that a person’s point of view is knowledge necessarily. They both look at how
experience plays into how it can be evaluated as knowledge. This was intriguing because
experiences can be perceived differently by anyone. In mentoring, both of these views can have
their time and place but can be looked at as insensitive or as too clouded by emotion depending
on the situation. When you have an experience that is different than someone else’s, and that
One example of acknowledging others’ personal truths is starting college. I was super
excited for college to start and I know some other people that were too. I remember specifically
about halfway through the semester one of my friends was not having a great time. I tried to get
her to go out and meet people and get involved but it did not work and it was lost on me how two
people could have such a different experience in college. I wanted to bring this into my mentor
philosophy because of the fact that in this instance two people in the same circumstances can
have such different experiences. I also learned from this experience and in class to be able to be
more empathetic and be there for others regardless of my experience. This kind of fed into my
mentor philosophy due to the fact that through these close experiences with others and
acknowledgement of their troubles allowed myself to form a closer bond and to be more
Another activity that helped me pinpoint this aspect of my mentoring philosophy includes
when we read the emotionally intelligent leadership booklet. This helped me reflect on my
mentoring philosophy because we looked at our strengths and weaknesses in various aspects of
empathetic person, which I use in my mentoring. It made me reflect on myself and my strengths
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and weaknesses because of the fact that my friends/other people in the class had such different
strengths and weaknesses, such as others’ lack of empathy. When so many people that I have so
much in common with, have such different strengths and weaknesses, then why wouldn’t
mentors and mentees? When thinking about the mentor relationship I thought of how much two
people differ from each other even if they hold some of the same values and are from a similar
background. Even in my friend group alone we have people from different places, with different
drives, motives, and personal philosophies. For this reason, it is notable to include in my mentor
due to the fact that if there are not clear expectations, then each side of the relationship can feel
as if their needs are being ignored or not met. This can spark distrust and an ineffective
relationship. The crux of this issue is the skill of being an effective communicator. For example,
without communicating what you want out of the relationship (support, specific professional
One example of this distrust is when my friend had a mentor in the past who could not
communicate with her frequently, which was something that she wanted in a mentor. However,
this was never communicated so both sides felt unfulfilled. Since both sides felt this way, the
trust and bond between these two was lost, which is a shame due to the fact that if it was
communicated, then it would have been solved. The ineffective communication also stops a
deeper bond and trust from being formed which is a huge factor in being an effective mentor. If
you do not create a personal connection with the other person, then your surface level issues and
questions can be faced but delving deeper is highly unlikely. This seems as a missed opportunity
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due to the fact that a deeper connection can harbor a sense of trust and can have both parties
This important piece in my mentor philosophy was also supported by things that my
interviewee Pam said. She stated that clear expectations make the interaction meet everyone’s
needs and promotes building a connection. I have also experienced this in my own life while
working at coffee and bagels. I have had the experience to kind of informally train new
employees and creating a connection with them is an easy way for me to be able to help them
improve or help them with any questions they have. This has given me a lot of success in helping
others and this along with reinforcement from others, is a huge reason as to why this is a big part
of my mentor philosophy.
Lastly, I believe that, as in anything, it is an ongoing process. I think that a huge part of
being a good mentor is always learning and never assuming that you know what is best for others
without knowing their current situation on a deeper level. Thinking that you do not need to learn
can be a huge barrier between you and your mentee because they might see you as not willing to
cooperate and are not invested. In our Buddhism reading, it states that “we must know that the
human being is but a temporal fictitious mixture” (Shien, G.M.,1953, July). In this quote, it
means that a person is just a mixture of changing and unreal aspects. This elaborates on the fact
that people change all the time and so do situations, so even if you think you know what is going
A specific example of this was while talking to my community leader, Pam. She
currently is a high official of a major health corporation as well as was my Girl Scout troop
leader for about 10 years. She stated that as she gets older, she thinks she knows the answer but
knows to reflect more to try to overcome that challenge. That scenario also made me think about
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my own life such as thinking about age differences in mentors and mentees. Evaluating learning
and age difference I thought that a mentor could be younger than the mentee because of the fact
that they have as much of a capability of learning as the next person. They could also have a
higher skill level. I also reflected how little I interacted with younger people in a leadership role
and realized that I did not see them as a person I could learn from. I wish that I could say that I
applied my conclusion I made in class, in my everyday life. This made me reevaluate the way
that I look at younger people and see how much they could teach me. These resources made me
come to the conclusion that being a mentor can mean you are at many different levels. It also
helped me realize that being a mentor is a learning process where many people are at many
In this class, it has opened my eyes to the many different ways in which someone can be
a successful mentor. These topics and articles that I encountered in this class made me think
about how I want to proceed in my mentoring relationships in the future. The three aspects that
stood out the most for me were the aspect of always learning, acknowledging personal
experience, as well as having clear expectations and meeting them. These were of significance
because they seemed to be woven into a great deal of class activities as well as in my personal
experiences and in other successful mentors. Within my mentor philosophy I also found that
these three aspects seemed to interact closely together. In order to have a successful mentorship
you need to know what kind of things they want out of it. The way you find out what They want
is talking to them and actively learning from them. In order to do that you need to have clear
expectations so that they feel comfortable with you and feel as if they care about their success.
With my interactions, with my interviewees, and in my personal experiences, I have found that
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these three aspects usually foster a successful mentor relationship. I plan on incorporating into
References
Allen, S, Miguel, & R, Shankman. (2015). Emotionally intelligent leadership for students. San
Dewey, J. (1981). The Need for a Recovery of Philosophy. (McDermott, J.). Chicago, Illinois:
Shien, G.M. (1953, July) The Epistemology of Buddhism, Taoism, and Confucianism, Volume
Company, Inc.