168| The Expanded DBT Skills Training Manual Definitions and Types of Boundaries 1 CORE CONCEPT: Define boundaries in order to practice them. Physical Physical boundaries include your body and the space that surrounds it (i.e., your personal space). Physical boundaries can be defined in terms of who is allowed to touch us and in what areas. These boundaries include all levels of physical intimacy and all sexual practices. Additionally, physical boundaries include what goes into us, such as food and drink, and anything else that affects our physical being. Psychological Psychological boundaries include information about yourself, your thoughts and beliefs, and your values. These boundaries might include topies of conversation and anything that occupies your “mental” space. Who knows about your inner life and how it is shared (if at all) constitute psychological boundary issues. Emotional Emotional boundaries include your feelings and their ability to be leveraged or manipulated (e.g.. emotional “hostage-taking” or guilt-tripping). Emotional boundaries also include not taking on others” distress or expecting them to take on yours. Like psychological boundaries, who knows about your feelings and how they are shared (if at all) constitute emotional boundary issues. Spiritual Spiritual boundaries include your ability to choose your own religion, higher power, or spiritual life or lack thereof. Who knows about your spiritual life and how it is shared (if at all) constitute spiritual boundary issues. Biographical Biographical boundaries have to do with your history and life story. What to tell others about your life depends on many factors. Of course, psychological, emotional, and other boundaries intersect with biographical boundaries. General Anything that defines and differentiates you as separate from others (and others from you) is a boundary, and anything needed to keep you healthy and safe interpersonally and in the world constitutes a boundary issue. General boundaries might be where you live, where you work, who your friends and family members are, and other general information about you.Grerpersonai Effectiveness 5: BOUNDARY Application CORE CONCEPT: Use this worksheet to define boundaries. Describe your physical boundaries: Describe your psychological boundaries: Describe your emotional boundaries: Describe your spiritual boundaries: Describe general boundary issues important to you: Describe what boundaries may be negotiable in some situations: Describe what boundaries are non-negotiable to you: Describe how establishing and maintaining boundaries can build and maintain your self- respect: Describe how your life will be different when you establish and maintain effective boundaries: Copyright © 2017 Lane Pederson. The Expanded DAT Sbill Toining Manual Ind Editon Al rights reserved 71