Considerations 1. Denial Early School-Aged Youth to Preteen Avoidance, Confusion, Elation, Shock, Fear (6-12 Years) What to look for: 2. Anger Discomfort with expressing feelings Frustration, Irritation, Anxiety Irritability/Disruptive Behavior Decline in academic performance 3. Bargaining Somatic complaints Overwhelmed, Helplessness, Hostility, Flight Lack skills to deal with intense 4. Depression feelings May want to put grief off to not Struggling to find meaning upset caregivers Reaching out to others Telling one's story What they might need: 5. Acceptance Routine and Familiarity Reassurance that adults can handle Exploring Options, New Plans, Moving On things ** These do NOT always occur in a linear way. Appropriate models
Working with Bereavement
Early Adolescent to Young Adult (13-18 Years) Make sure you are emotionally-equipped and mentally capable. What to look for: Pay attention to what they are telling you. More comfort with expressing emotions Normalize their experiences. Risky behaviors (for coping) Asking them how their life has been different. Depression/Withdrawal Coping Questions Questioning identity Scaling Questions Threatened Autonomy Guilt/Anger Positive Blaming Recognize how well they have been doing. What they might need: Develop a Future-Focus Routine and Familiarity Finding ways to remember those who pass Knowledge - Normalize their experiences and help them Adjust to changes and new environment that understand what to expect no longer include the deceased Social Support - Let them know they Bibliotherapy are not alone and others have had Group Counseling similar experiences. Provide social groups. Mindfulness Based Stress Reduction Listen to and acknowledge their Techniques feelings Refer to outside services if necessary.