َ‫ َواتَّقُوا اللَّـه‬ 

ۚ‫ث ِم ْنهُ َما ِر َجااًل َكثِيرً ا َونِ َسا ًء‬ َّ َ‫ق ِم ْنهَا زَ وْ َجهَا َوب‬َ َ‫اح َد ٍة َوخَ ل‬
ِ ‫س َو‬ ٍ ‫يَا أَيُّهَا النَّاسُ اتَّقُوا َربَّ ُك ُم الَّ ِذي خَ لَقَ ُكم ِّمن نَّ ْف‬
َ
‫ إِنَّ اللـهَ َكانَ َعلَ ْي ُك ْم َرقِيبًا‬ ۚ‫الَّ ِذي تَ َسا َءلُونَ بِ ِه َواأْل رْ َحا َم‬
َّ
“O mankind! Be dutiful to your Lord, Who created you from a single person (Adam),
and from him (Adam) He created his wife [Hawwa (Eve)], and from them both He
created many men and women and fear Allah through Whom you demand your
mutual (rights), and (do not cut the relations of) the wombs (kinship). Surely, Allah is
Ever an All-Watcher over you.” (04.01)

Introduction
How would life be without anyone around us???
o Allah gave Hawwa to Adam.
o Even paradise is interesting only with people around.

Who Are Kith & Kin?

- ‘Ar-haam’ refers to
o Relations by lineage (e.g. parents, grandparents, etc.) and
o those family members related from the wife’s side” (e.g. Mother-
in-law, father-in-law, brothers-in-law etc.)
o and blood relations.
How to Handle?
1) Parents
i. After Allah
‫ض ٰى َربُّكَ أَاَّل تَ ْعبُدُوا إِاَّل إِيَّاهُ َوبِ ْال َوالِ َدي ِْن إِحْ َسانًا‬
َ َ‫َوق‬
“And your Lord has decreed that you worship none but Him. And that you
be dutiful to your parents.” (17:23)

“Only time they laughed at our cry was when we came to this
world” 

Dealing With Parents 

We will be stricter with our children than our parents were with us.

1. Kind treatment (even if they are non-Muslims)

- Parents show Selfless love.
o Spares her sleep, health, comfort etc.
- Old age challenges.
o When they are young we are under their control
o When they are old we think we are now powerful

2. Showing Gratitude 
  َ‫أَ ِن ا ْش ُكرْ ِلي َو ِل َوا ِل َديْك‬
“Be grateful to Me, and to your parents.” 
- We tend to do little to our parents and expect high, whereas they are always
trying to do the best for us. 
- Don’t take them for granted. The are a onetime blessing.
- When a stranger does a favor to us we make it a point to be nice to him with our
words and action. 

3. Respect & Honor 

- Don’t compare them with other parents. 
- What do we do when our parents call us? 
- Kiss their forehead.
- Start spending on them. They value even your smallest gift. Value doesn’t
matter to them. 
- Ask them about what they like and about their health. 
- Be careful about the usage of words
Dealing With Siblings
1. Anyone with brothers in the audience?
2. Learn to seek advice from siblings as well when taking decisions.
3. Treat your sisters well, it will help you to be good to your wife.

Skills we need to develop

Imagine everyone in this world looked the same and thought the same???
1. Dealing with tough relatives.
a. Level 1- Could be solved by cooperation and communication with
respect and kindness.
b. Level 2- Their continuous negativity makes us flee from them. You can’t
keep your cool with them.
c. As long as you keep trying an angel would keep you dominant (through
your kindness) over them. (Muslim)
d. Remember no severing ties.
i. Visit / call often if possible (if they are close to you).
ii. If above not possible visit on special occasions with gifts.
iii. Or send gifts – if visiting ends up in toxic behavior.
iv. With Scholarly permission, you can break certain ties.
v. Make sincere Dua.
2. Humbleness
a. Thinking we are religious than others in the family.
b. Others might have deeds we are not good at.
3. Be a good listener
- Listen without interrupting. (Why do we interrupt)
o Feeling Insulted. (Train yourself to receive criticism).
- Listen with an open mind. (Umar (RAL) corrected by a woman.
- Listen with deep empathy
4. Keep forgiving to whomsoever offends and do good in return
- Yusuf (A) forgiveness,
‫يب َعلَ ْي ُك ُم ْاليَوْ َم‬
َ ‫اَل ت َْث ِر‬
"No blame will there be upon you today.” (12:92)
- He didn’t remind them about the past. (Plan / Prison Life)
- How much to forgive?
"Forgive others as much as you wish to be forgiven"

Would you like to see yourself beg someone to forgive you??

Would you like to see a person enter hell because you didn’t forgive him?