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The Three Standards To Which Every Pastor Is Held
The Three Standards To Which Every Pastor Is Held
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Posted on December 7, 2017 by Michael R. Jones
I have just begun my eighteenth year of ordained, full-time pastoral ministry so I can
talk about this not only with confidence but with competence because I have myself
been held to these three types of standards. Only one of these standards is healthy.
But there are two other standards to which pastors are often held that are not only
unhealthy, but just plain wrong.
Hear what I am NOT saying. I am not saying that if church members get nasty the
pastor is justified in being nasty. I am saying the exact opposite: No one should behave
this way in the body of Christ. If it is wrong for your pastor to behave this way, it is
equally as wrong for you or someone else to behave this way. To expect the pastor to live
by a Scriptural standard while refusing to live by it yourself is a double standard. And it
is wrong.
Here is an example from my own experience. Back when the church was going through a
difficult time financially, a man told me that if my wife would get a job (we had small
children at the time) then the church could pay me less and save money. Now think
about this for a moment. If this same man was working at Ford or GM (I live and serve
in Metro Detroit), and his boss said this to him, he absolutely would not stand for it.
Neither should a pastor.
Woman: Pastor, I am very upset! You didn’t visit me when I was in the hospital last
week.
You should be able to see my point. These are impossible standards. The previous pastor
at this church would have apologized profusely and attempted to make up for it. But you
do a disservice to the Gospel ministry, to the church, and to these people when you
permit such things to go unanswered.
In both cases I graciously reminded them that what they were demanding was
impossible. How am I to visit you in the hospital when I don’t even know you’re in the
hospital? How am I to visit you at your sisters house when I have no idea where it is, or
how even to get in touch with you?
You must be gracious, but you do not have to allow them to do this. Graciously and
lovingly manage their expectations by letting them see what is reasonable and right.
And hopefully you’re already holding yourself to a higher standard. Demanding more of
yourself will eventually do away with the other two standards.
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