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Causes Of Unhappiness:
Why Everyone Is So Unhappy
(With Examples)
Written by Christian
Published on March 11, 2020, last updated on December 13, 2020
Unhappiness – or sadness – is a part of life. Everyone experiences
unhappiness once in a while. But what if it seems like you’re unhappy
all of the time? What causes your unhappiness?
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1. Staying indoors
There’s more than one good reason to leave the house. For example,
did you know that spending time in nature is scientifically proven to
increase happiness? Recognizing that fact has never been more
important than today when so many of us spend more time indoors.
2. Isolating yourself
There’s another good reason not to spend too much time at home.
Humans are social beings; it’s one of the main ways we deal with
stress. And yet, only about half of Americans experience meaningful
in-person interactions on a daily basis. In some parts of Europe, up to
40% of people have only one meaningful interaction with friends or
family per month.
What? No way. Alcohol is fun! Well – yes and no. Alcohol and drugs
(including cannabis) can cause a person to be less inhibited and
experience short-lived feelings of happiness. But in the long-run, they
both can negatively impact your happiness.
It’s probably okay to have a glass or two of wine with dinner or a few
beers with friends – but if the next day you find yourself feeling
unhappy, stressed, or anxious, it may be time to reevaluate that
behavior. Everybody’s different, which means that your friends’ or
family’s behavior may not be right for you. Alcohol and drugs have
become deeply ingrained in our culture, but that doesn’t necessarily
mean that they’re not contributing to your unhappiness.
There are so many ways that sleep is important for your happiness.
Doctors recommend between 7 and 9 hours of sleep, and for good
reason. When you don’t get enough sleep, your brain can’t regulate
itself properly, and your emotions can start to go wild and take over.
While the science may be complex, the evidence is clear: people who
get adequate sleep tend to feel happier.
And it’s not just a question of unhappy people being less happy –
becoming physically active led participants to be happier.
That’s not surprising, given that physical activity has been linked to
increased confidence and emotional stability, positive body image,
improved self-control, decreased anxiety and depression, decreased
feelings of hostility, and reduced abuse of harmful substances like
cigarettes and alcohol.
Finally, when it comes to happiness, you are what you eat. One study
found that, even after controlling for socioeconomic status, weight
and physical activity level, children with poorer diets were
consistently less happy.
And one German study found that healthy eating correlated with
improved mood and happiness, the biggest effect caused by eating
vegetables.
Just like our poor behavioral habits can detract from your happiness,
so can poor cognitive patterns – that is, the way you think about
yourself and the world around you. Luckily, this is something that you
can learn to control. If you recognize the following patterns, you’ll
know where to start.
Especially when you’re already unhappy, it’s easy to feel like you’re
failing at one or more things in life. But as Dr. John D. Kelly points
out, “perfectionism is a byproduct of dysfunctional thinking”, like a
preoccupation with insignificant details, focusing on negatives, and
disproportionate thinking.
Others feel dissatisfied with aspects of their life – their job, their
relationships, or their living or financial situation. There’s a difference
between being driven and being chronically dissatisfied. If you find
that you tend to be more dissatisfied than satisfied with things in your
life, chances are you’re stuck in a negative pattern of thinking. If your
coworkers, partner, friends or parents seem to constantly let you
down – you may have developed an inappropriate cognitive pattern.
Plus, like all habits, the longer you do it, the more deeply ingrained
the behavior comes. Once you fall into the pattern of negative
affective forecasting, you’re more likely to start seeking out possible
negative outcomes and ignoring the positive ones.
There’s some truth to that, but it may be a little more complex. One
study found that anxiety is related to both remembering and
imagining more negative events, while depression is related to
remembering and imagining fewer positive events. Either way, the
problem is one of a negative cognitive pattern – the tendency to either
focus on negative events, or to have trouble focusing on positive
ones.
Admitting you have a problem is the first step. Okay, a little cliché, but
it’s actually true. You’re going to first need to find out which of the
above negative patterns or habits are contributing to your
unhappiness. And this list is by no means exhaustive – there may be
some other pattern of behavior or thinking that’s affecting your
happiness. That’s okay because this method works for all of them.
First, start keeping a journal. There are lots of different ways to keep a
journal, and we’ve spoken about how to get started. The most
important thing is to keep track of your day to day life and try to find
patterns that can you to be unhappy. Then, there are two ways to go
about identifying your habits: passively and actively.
And the longer you let them grow, the harder they are to take up. So
continue evaluating yourself for negative patterns, address them as
you find them, and you’ll stay happy.
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Felix mgbame
June 27, 2021 at 5:30 pm
I think we shouldn’t attach anything to the level of our happiness
base on materials things. Happiness is a gift and it’s a quality
attached to our real being — the spirit which is the most
essential of humans.
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Hugo Huijer
June 28, 2021 at 9:52 am
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