We judge people daily, consciously or not.

Amidst conflicts or disagreements, we resort to judging,

labeling and classifying people as either good or bad. This is exactly where communication goes wrong.
By, judging and criticizing, we invite behavior that stems from defensiveness, resistance, and
resentment.
How does this solve the problem at hand?

It further deteriorates the situation and relationship. Know that criticism and moral judgments are
ineffective attempts at getting our needs met.

Making people feel guilty for wrongdoing is never helpful. So, it’s best to avoid judgments and attempt a
more non-violent and compassionate approach to resolving conflicts. Understand what the other person
feels or needs at that particular time. Rather than outrightly judging,

1. Be mindful: Although judgment is a natural instinct, try to catch yourself before you speak. You can’t
get your words back. So try and understand where the person may be coming from. Then, attempt to
rephrase your critical internal thought into a positive or neutral one.

2. Look for basic goodness: Our minds naturally scan for the negative, however, we can almost always
find something good about another person. This will help you to develop a more compassionate
approach when dealing with others.

3. Give the other person benefit of the doubt: Most of us do the best we can with the resources we have
at a certain point in time, so give others the benefit of the doubt, and they’ll do the same next time
you’re in trouble.

Learn to communicate from a place of calm and compassion, avoiding moral judgments and unnecessary
criticism!
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