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Sometimes these differences may seem trivial to you, but when a confli
ct
triggers strong feelings, a deep personal and relational need is at the cor
e of the problem
◦ a need to feel safe and secure
◦ a need to feel respected and valued
◦ a need for greater closeness and intimacy.
Fundamentals
Recognize the legitimacy of conflicting needs
Be willing to examine them in an environment of compassionate
understanding
This will open pathways to creative problem solving, team building,
improved relationships, and trust
Fundamentals
Successful conflict resolution depends on your ability to:
◦ Manage stress while remaining alert and calm.
◦ Control your emotions and behavior.
◦ Pay attention to the feelings being expressed.
◦ Be aware of and respectful of differences.
Conflict Resolution
Tool Kit
Win-Win Approach
Cooperation
I want to win and I want you to win, too.
Discuss underlying needs
◦ Orange example
◦ Ask probing questions to find out needs
Affirmation
◦ Affirming, acknowledging, exploring the problem
Inflammation
◦ Responding to a complaint or attack on you
Appropriate
When to use “I” statementsAssertiveness
◦ How it is on my side, how I see it, and how I
would like it to be.
◦ You need to let the other person know you are
feeling strongly about the issue
◦ Others often underestimate how hurt or angry or put out
you are, so it’s useful to say exactly what’s going on for you
—making the situation appear neither better nor worse.
Cooperative Power
Responding to resistance from others
◦ Ask open questions to reframe resistance
Find options
Redirect
◦ Move to the positive