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Abstract: Reciprocity refers in its general meaning to a mutual give and take. It is a
background feature of all productive supervisory relationships. In this essay I want to
bring it into the foreground. I will describe it by contrasting supervision and analysis.
For, in my view, that is exactly what reciprocity is in the supervisory relationship: it is
an attitude of mind in which the supervisor performs the task of differentiating internally
the supervisory from the analytic vertex, in the context of the asymmetry of the super-
visory relationship.
Introduction
Empathy is a form of identification and as such is a perceptive process, Jung
described it as ‘a movement of libido towards the object in order to assimilate
it’ (Jung 1971, para. 871). It is a process influenced by reciprocity, a term which
refers in its general meaning to a mutual give and take. It is a background fea-
ture of all productive supervisory relationships. I think of it as an attitude of
mind in which the supervisor performs the task of differentiating internally the
supervisory from the analytic vertex, in the context of the asymmetry of the
supervisory relationship. I am borrowing the term vertex from Bion, to refer to
‘views with which I am identified. With myself as the vertex all these vertices
represent “other-people-as-seen-by-me” ’ (Bion 1965, pp. 145–6). So if I write
‘an analytic response …’ that’s one vertex, or ‘some people think’ is another,
or ‘Jungians generally …’ is yet another. In using the term vertex Bion was
getting away from the implicit confusion between the literal and the metaphor-
ical that a term such as ‘point of view’ with its emphasis on the visual system
gives rise to.
By way of orientation I will begin with Michael Fordham’s observation
about analysts and learning how to become an analyst.
The analyst will know that every single statement he makes is an account of the state
of his psyche, whether it be a fragment of understanding, an emotion, or an intellectual
insight; all techniques and all learning how to analyse are built on this principle. It
is thus part of the analyst’s training experience to realise that he is often going to
learn, sometimes more, sometimes less, from each patient, and that in consequence
he himself is going to change.
(Fordham 1957, p. 69)
This is my starting point. I have in the back of my mind the principle which
Fordham enunciated, and the fact that both supervisor and supervisee are
going to learn something from the work together. This encourages mutuality.
The essence of supervision is that it provides a space for thinking (Rustin 1996).
It is therefore both clinical and didactic. It is a space which has a certain quality
of attention, not dissimilar to analysis, in that the communications are being
thought about from the position of multiple vertices (Rustin 1996). It is like
analysis too in that supervision leads to the internalization of a process and a
model, which enables us to monitor our sessions. Openness to different ways of
thinking about experience, absence of judgemental attitudes, benevolence and
analytic thinking in all its forms are features which characterize both super-
vision and analysis. But supervision is unlike analysis, in that the supervisee’s
transference to the supervisor is not systematically analysed or interpreted.
I acknowledge that as supervisor I am learning from the relationship with
the supervisee, and from their relationship with their patient. I proceed on
the basis that they are learning from their patient and from their relationship
with me. I recognize that there exists in their mind my relationship with their
patient, and that this can sometimes cause difficulties in their work with their
patient. I also demonstrate in my interventions that my relationship with the
supervisee is monitored from different vertices including the supervision itself.
I pay attention to what is being reported, the way it is being reported, and
what I experience while it is being reported. While this is happening I am con-
sidering and rejecting hypotheses about the material under consideration. I am
thinking about this in the context of what I know about the supervisee, their
characteristics, tendencies to understand the material in a particular way, and
their residual psychopathology as revealed in relation to me. Technically this
means that I often make use of questions, expressed ruminatively or tentatively.
This is because questions allow issues to be raised in an unthreatening way.
Most of us have had the experience of understanding something new about
our own material just from talking about it to a colleague. We can understand
this coming together of two minds as a form of parenting, in which the thoughts
and ideas we have about the supervisee’s patient are the children of the process.
During a session with his patient, the supervisee found himself unable to concentrate
on what the patient was talking about. His attention kept drifting away and he
found himself preoccupied with personal concerns. Unable to bring this process of
involuntary distraction to a halt, he decided to associate to the problem. He recalled
his experience of the last supervisory session in which his patient was discussed. At
a certain point in the session, his supervisor began to talk about his own work with
a similar kind of patient. The candidate remembered feeling slightly unsettled by
this but resolved the matter by thinking to himself as follows: ‘Oh that’s good. He’s
treating me like a peer’. It came to him, while associating, that he had actually
suppressed feelings of being emotionally abandoned by his supervisor, and he then
understood that he had been unwittingly and uncontrollably subjecting his patient
to similar mistreatment.
(Epstein 1997)
This example of how the supervision repeats itself in the session reveals how
important it is to be clear in one’s mind as a supervisor that mutuality and
reciprocity contain necessary asymmetries. Epstein restored the situation by
reverting to his supervisory function.
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on the two planters on either side of the door when she had come to the
Monday session and had expressed her interest in the connections between
their contents. Now the supervision session is beginning to take shape. We
had an impasse, a patient who felt misunderstood, and an analyst who knew
something was not right because he had spoken out of his anger. Then we had
a way of thinking about the impasse, the Oedipal theory arising out of the
material, which was filtered through the knowledge and history of our relation-
ship. A fertile interaction could occur. The supervisee’s further reflection was
that his identification with the denigrated object (a bit of his own pathology)
prevented him from seeing the Oedipal dynamic. This I did not comment on.
I strongly disagree with supervisors who tell their supervisees to take such and
such a feeling to their analyst. We are analysts, so let us proceed analytically
not as traffic policemen. Apart from anything else this comment usually in-
dicates some rivalry or unexpressed hostility towards the supervisee’s analyst,
as if the problem would not have arisen if the analyst had done a better job.
In thinking about the supervisee’s contribution to that example, I recognize
that by being open and unguarded about the interaction with the patient
he enabled me to feel into it. By being receptive to thinking about my altern-
ative suggestion and how I had derived it, he both facilitated further asso-
ciative exploration of the idea and elaborated it. I, as the supervisor, needed his
response for me to be effective. He could quickly see, once we had started on
the Oedipal theme, that his previous position was not the significant dynamic
of the session we were discussing. It was as if he was employing last week’s
idea on today’s material. A further aspect of the reciprocity inherent in this
supervisory relationship concerns the question I have been developing further
with this supervisee: that is the meaning for his patient of embroiling him in
her drama in the way this material demonstrated.
content of her material and that this was probably due to some difficulty
he had with envy. So my colleague now talked and talked, filling the whole
session with material. He was determined to get through the sessions he had
brought. No time was left for discussion or examination of the material. I
indicated that time was up and that we would have to return to this in a
fortnight. He said in a somewhat peevish tone of voice, ‘Is that all?’, meaning
was that the best that I could do. I was put in the position at that point of the
analyst/supervisor who was not able to produce enough, which was exactly his
dilemma, with his patient and within his practice. I was the recipient of the
feelings the supervisee had when with his patient, but which he was unable to
interpret to her satisfactorily. So I said that his comment ‘Is that all?’ sounded
like the sort of thing his patient said to him; this struck a chord with him and
he replied that, yes, that did seem to be the transference.
This pithy little exchange at the end of the session encapsulated the issue.
My colleague took it away and worked on it. When he returned two weeks
later he had digested it and internally elaborated it so that without the bound-
ary of our work being broken he could acknowledge the significance of our
exchange, and felt freer of his identification with his patient’s projections of
inferiority and anger. In consequence he was able to work with these feelings
inside himself and to work with the patient more productively, to interpret the
patient’s consultations with the other analyst as the potentially better one. It
helped him realize that deepening his work involved a process of working with
his own ambivalence as it was constellated in his transference to his patient.
I will formulate in relation to myself the question in this transference prob-
lem that was brought to supervision. If what I have written is making you pick
holes in what I am saying one of the questions you, the reader, might ask is:
Whose problem is this? Is this your own problem (your envy for instance) or
is it my problem (my envy) projected into you defensively as a way I might have
of protecting my own inner object from attack? My colleague was struggling
with just this dilemma.
that it had helped to diminish the yelling, gradually one could add a reference
to her rage and frustration and its effects on her inner world, namely that she
felt broken up by it. When in this state of mind the patient could not be inter-
preted to until her present emotional state was acknowledged. You could only
say, ‘I know you need an answer to your question, but I also know if I try to
talk to you about this in relation to your terrible losses as a child it is going to
make you even angrier because you feel this is urgent and this is now and that
was then’. This patient needed that to be recognized. That is what I understand
Jung to have meant when he wrote of the ‘real’ relationship which is necessary
in analytic relationships. Real means understanding that what you are hearing
is a memory in action but the patient does not know this yet, and so she needs
containing and not exposing. Feeling exposed is what can happen if a reductive
interpretation is made too soon. It can also sound accusatory. What I am
trying to demonstrate is that by responding in this way, the therapist stood a
better chance of engaging the patient’s imagination and interest in the analytic
process.
The interpretation phrased like that recognizes the unconscious meaning
within the transference of the patient’s demandingness and also the therapist’s
countertransference. What it conveys is that the therapist has understood what
the patient is feeling like. It is another matter whether the patient wants to under-
stand what the therapist has said. That is why I suggested delaying at this stage
the additional observations which are directed at the patient’s understanding
rather than just being understood (Steiner 1993, chap. 11).
The interpretative style here is aimed at the patient’s urgent demand for
love, and her intolerance of frustration. It is not aimed at making the patient
feel guilty for having these feelings. I am particularly keen not to make border-
line patients feel that their situation is entirely of their own making or due to
their own nature: in this instance, that she was put in hospital because she
was unliked, and not visited because she was so intrinsically unlikeable. Inter-
pretations directed towards these feelings are deeply demoralizing, ego weak-
ening and destructive of the development of resources within the patient to
cope with living in their own mind. (It is difficult enough for all of us to live
in our own minds without analysis making it worse.)
1997, pp. 16–17). These feelings stirred in the supervisee by her patient are
part of the supervisory discourse, whereas her countertransference muddles
arising from her own Oedipal difficulties are for her own analysis. This is
clearly understood between us. She lets me know whether what I am saying
is of any use to her and we proceed from this supervisory vertex. All this helps
me, in that I can wait and process the experience she brings and speak out of
my analysis of this experience. I do not have to know. She trusts me and the
unconscious and I trust her and the unconscious and out of this mutual trust
something usually happens.
Sometimes we both get stuck. On one occasion the therapist’s impasse
with the patient was enacted with me. She brought material which I could
not follow. I simply did not understand what she was saying. She spoke about
the patient having had a series of minor accidents and that these must be in
some way significant. She had no thoughts about this and neither did I. We
were both like the patient, unable to think. I became inattentive. The therapist
became increasingly fed up with her inarticulateness in the supervision, which
my response was highlighting, but significantly, she did not become fed up with
me. She realized she was having a difficulty in conceptualizing the problem
both emotionally and intellectually. She felt annoyed with herself. She left
feeling frustrated. She had understood during her supervision that the problem
with her patient centred round an impasse and, as in her relationship with me,
this had something to do with not being able to articulate intense feelings. I am
describing here as nearly as I can what I mean by reciprocity as an aspect of
countertransference. I am understanding at an analytic level what is going on
and comparing it internally to the supervisory vertex from which I speak to
my supervisee.
In the sessions with her patient following our meeting, she stayed close to
this bewildering feeling of impasse as she sat and listened to her patient. Into
her mind came the image of a huge dam. She thought of the dam as holding
back water from other dams and that the structure was defensive more than
containing. She began to speak out of this feeling. She described to her patient
how frightening it would be if there was a crack in the dam and her feelings
flooded out; would they ever stop, would they drown the very person she
wanted to hear them? The patient was receptive to this and together they
thought about the accidents as fissures in the wall, and that these fissures were
communications from the unconscious. The impasse was now defined in
outline. It formed the basis for further investigation of her defences. Out of an
apparently unproductive supervision came a reflection on the process which,
when thought about as the enactment of the transference, led to the problem
becoming more accessible. And the fear of being overwhelmed diminished in
both patient and supervisee.
Some reflections on empathy and reciprocity 379
that they can feel sad, and feel sad that this makes them sad), you do not take
account of the deficit in their object. The consequence is that the patient feels
accused ‘of being totally responsible for this state of affairs’ (Alvarez 1997,
p. 761): blamed, despondent and despairing, without hope of change. This can
prolong treatment, since it does not allow the possibility of an object that can
be repaired and of a person (the patient) who can repair it.
is very anxious about what is going on, the supervisor becomes more active in
trying to help him contain the experience and makes more proposals and
suggested formulations. If the patient is becoming less contained the supervisor
tries to be more containing to his supervisee, perhaps even directive, if the super-
visee is at a loss. At other times the main function of the supervisor is to be, what
Margaret Rustin calls, ‘the thinker of interpretative links’ (Rustin 1996).
I was listening recently to material from an experienced therapist who
was analysing an experienced patient. The links she was making were close to
the material and to the point. The patient was speaking about the difficulty
of living in two places, a house in the country and a little flat in town from
which her husband went to work and where she stayed three nights a week.
She described her behaviour in the language of performance and acting: ‘getting
my act together’ was how the patient described her move from the country
(no analysis) to London (analysis).
At first the therapist was interpreting this in terms of the different states of
mind in which she lived, relating it to the three sessions a week (analysis and
London), and the non-analytic time in the country. But then I began to realize
that there was considerable anxiety in the therapist about the falseness of the
patient’s description in terms of ‘getting her act together’ and that her efforts
to help her patient understand this were failing. This feeling the therapist
had about her failure to get through to her patient was not uncommon in our
experience of this patient. We had noticed that she had a way of not allowing
the truth to touch her. I was aware that I was not being an effective supervisor
at this point, and I was thinking about this and the material when I realized
what the problem was. ‘Getting her act together’, performing, and all that that
meant, was central to the whole process, especially the analytic endeavour.
I suddenly realized that the patient was experiencing the therapist’s inter-
ventions as just so much performance art. In this example the communication
inherent in the patient’s performance was its inauthenticity which matched the
therapist’s feelings of frustration that she was not getting through to her.
The problem, as I now understood it, was that the therapist was perceived
by her patient as playing at being a therapist while she played at being a patient.
So the therapist interpreted and the patient ‘ummed’ along and from the patient’s
point of view this was all that was necessary, each was in role and the truth
remained in the hands of an unseen author, who did not need to be consulted.
Nothing else had to happen. The therapist spoke and the patient responded,
not by letting the words, feelings, and images settle in her mind, not by savour-
ing or digesting, but by tasting and pushing away. The act of serving up the
interpretation was the therapy. The patient did not have to make any commit-
ment to what was said, just as she did not have to make any commitment to
her own feelings, nor any commitment to the consequences of recognizing what
the implications of certain truths were. Once I had grasped that, I elaborated
on it at length, becoming active and descriptive in response to my supervisee’s
inactivity.
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Concluding statement
In the clinical examples I have reported I have endeavoured to distinguish the
analytic from the supervisory vertex, with reference to reciprocity and empathy
as aspects of countertransference. In essence I have described emotional ex-
periences which were felt to be meaningful and which became the basis for
further thoughts about the process of supervision.
TRANSLATIONS OF ABSTRACT
Réciprocité est un terme qui se réfère, dans son sens général, à un donner/recevoir
mutuel. C’est un trait de base de toute relation de supervision productive. Dans cet
article je cherche à mettre au jour ce trait de base. Je le décris en différenciant super-
vision et analyse. En effet, de mon point de vue, c’est exactement dans cette réciprocité
que se situe la spécificité de la relation de supervision: il s’agit d’une attitude, d’un état
d’esprit dans lequel le superviseur s’applique à différencier à l’intérieur de lui l’axe
analytique et l’axe de supervision, dans le contexte de l’asymétrie de la relation de
supervision.
Reziprozität bedeutet allgemein ein gegenseitiges Geben und Nehmen. Es handelt sich
um eine Charakteristik im Hintergrund jeglicher produktiver Beziehung in der Super-
vision. In diesem Aufsatz will ich diese Charakteristik in den Vordergrund bringen. Ich
werde sie beschreiben durch eine Gegenüberstellung von Supervision und Analyse. In
meiner Sicht ist Reziprozität nämlich genau dies in der Beziehung in der Supervision: es
ist eine psychische Haltung, in welcher der Supervisor die Aufgabe vollführt, innerlich
den supervisorischen vom analytischen Vertex zu unterscheiden, und zwar im Kontext
der Asymmetrie der Beziehung in der Supervision.
La reciprocità nella sua accezione generale si riferisce a una reciprocità di dare e avere.
E’ una caratteristica di fondo di ogni rapporto di supervisione produttivo. In questo
saggio vorrei portarla in primo piano. La descriverò mettendo a confronto la super-
visione e l’analisi. Perchè, secondo me, ciò mostra esattamente cos’è la reciprocità in un
rapporto di supervisione: è un atteggiamento mentale per cui il supervisore raggiunge
lo scopo di differenziare internamente l’aspetto di controllo dal vertice analitico, nel
contesto dell’asimmetria del rapporto di supervisione.
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