Fifty Shades of Prim!

Chapter 1
Please take time to read and analyze the contents of this disclosure. I want to thank all those who
participated in my big accounting project hehehe and it is now time to present the case…

Get yourselves a full bowl of nuts to chew on while reading this…trust me you will need it. Coffee too
perhaps? Likely not! Magigising kayo for sure!

I am not sure what reactions, comment, or even rage will arise on this matter pero I will be direct to the
point. I hate na magpaikot ikot pa, masakit na ang aking mga daliri sa kakatype answering individual
querries! This is very personal to someone who had caused so much uproar at marami ang upset na.
We all are matured, educated, and well experienced na in life to have surpassed all trials that were laid
on our paths to get us where we are now kaya I know we can all handle this.

We all are aware of Primrose’s ongoing cry for financial help due to her “illness” which she failed to
disclose the actual diagnosis. Thank you so much to those who made the effort to run to the nearest
Western Union booth to answer the “please send money immediately” plea.

Aug. 2012 – Prim had posted the result of her Ultrasound exam on her profile – sonographer’s
impression: “Pelvoabdominal mass, probably Ovarian in origin, benign by Sassone”.

After this time, I and likely all members of this group started receiving private messages. I honestly
ignored her initial message, I found it odd na wala man lang further explanation. Aba eh! sa dami ba
naman ng online scams sa panahon ngayon iba na ang nag-iingat right? And for someone to just give out
a bank account number to everybody like that – it is a classic example of those online money transfer
scams!

Months after – I received a second message and I am almost positive na kayo din…, so I said to myself -
oh okay so it could be really Prim. I now looked at her profile seriously and asked some friends around.
The comments I gathered are all confusing… Even so my family back home are going through a lot of
hurdles at that time kaya I was very sorry to tell Prim na wala akong maextend na financial help. She
said naiintindihan nya.

March 2013 – Another message from Prim ang nareceive ko and likely kayo din… This time hiyang hiya
na ako sa kanya kasi I had to say- I am sorry to disappoint you again. I do not have to tell everybody my
reasoning , I am simply broke! Hindi ako nahihiya magsabi nyan, we all know the facts and realities of
living abroad and I am sure you know what I mean. Lahat tayo may kanya kanyang obligasyon sa mga
families natin- our own family, si nanay, tatay, kapatid – include relatives and 10th generation cousins
and family friends na din! And no matter how hard we try to help we have our limitations to the point of
kahit tayo mismo needs help na din.

October 15, 2013 – Another message received from Prim and likely kayo din…This time she was asking –
“kahit $50 lang sapat na sa akin yan, para mo nang awa” (original message was ilokano). This time I

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almost cried na kasi I am about again to say - I am sorry wala ako maibigay. In the span of 3 weeks twice
na ako nagsend sa family ko di kaya ng bulsa ko! Ang sakit kaya sa kalooban na may humihingi ng tulong
eh wala ka maibigay – I am pretty sure kayo din ganyan ang feeling. Hindi ko muna sinagot ang message
nya, I was hoping na may laman ang aking plastic card! Hahahaha Kaya nagpost din ako sa group natin.
Sorry another problema ang napost! I so miss those happy times yong tuksuhan and all!

October 18, 2013 – nagmessage ulit sya sa akin – “Wait ko message mo sis, tnx” yan ang sabi nya. OH
TRUST ME THIS BLEW ME OFF!!! Gabriela Silang na ako sa message na yan sa totoo lang. Feeling ko
tuloy eh pinautang nya ako ng $50 at naniningil na! So then I started asking more people around…

Chapter 2
Let’s examine the messages we all received.

EXAMPLES OF MESSAGES PASSED ON TO ME:

“pls find time for me, kailangan ko lang talaga” (aba eh, kinumusta mo ba ako baka may sakit din ako!)

“kelan ka magpapadala bibili na ako ng gamot” (anong gamut kaya yan? Eh sabi nya may libre
nagbibigay)

“may maasahan ba ako sa iyo?” (hmmm nanliligaw ka?)

“kahit $100 lang, eh matagal ka na jan siguro naman eh magkano lang sa iyo ang $100” (wow the nerve!
Aba teh! Ang $100 panggrocery yan! Ilang oras ding work yan)

“may cancer ako” “malala ang sakit ko” – (hmmm U/S exam reveals benign mass – enlighten me
cancer?)

Worse yet – “ pakimessage mo naman si blah, blah, blah pakisabi sa kanila na nagpadala ka na sa akin
noon. Para kasing di sila naniniwala na ako talaga to. Nagmessage na ako sa kanila di nila ako sinasagot”
(hmmm… may binebenta kang bagong herbal na gamut kaya need mo ng endorsement?)

Kaya pa ba mga kaibigan?...marami pa pero yan ung mga classic na birada nya sa ating lahat.

Chapter 3

Ang mga comments na nagdatingan sa inbox ko:

“Matagal na yang paghingi hingi nyang yan noong Friendster days pa! “ (what???? My son is 1 and a half
year old nung una akong magsign up sa Friendster, 11 years old na ang son ko in December! Bakit kaya
ano kaya sakit nya?)

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“Oo, nanghihingi…pati pangload sa cellphone nagpadala ako” (ang kawawa kong father na sakitin na, ni
hindi humihingi ng pangload nya sa luma nyang cellphone, nagtatanim ng sitaw sa bukid binebenta para
may pangload daw, pambili lang gamut ang kelangan ko yan ang sabi)

“kahit $50 lang pamasahe papunta sa Baguio para makahingi na tulong” (hindi pa ba sapat ang post sa
wall ng group page natin? Bakit mo sasayangin sa pamasahe oh di ibili mo na lang ng high dosage gamut
mo para mas mabilis ang pagrecover mo and start applying for jobs! Sabi mo may sakit kang malala bakit
ka luluwas, aba eh magdamag din yata ang byahe from Tuguegarao to Baguio, correct?)

Marami pa yan pero inum lang ako saglit ng Advil para makatype pa ako further…

Chapter 4
Malaki na ang hinala ko pati ung iba naghihinala na, okay…time for Q and A!

Tanong ko: anong gamut ba ang kelangan mo ihingi kita sa kilala kong doc…

Sagot: hindi na sis kasi may nagbibigay na sa akin ng gamut na libre, kaklase ko nung high skul.

(Kung ganun pala eh bakit may message ka sa isang tao saying this – “yong gamut ko kasi 4 thousand
kada buwan” - okay pakiexplain ulit nalilito ako may libre kang meds from someone pero 4 thousand
ang cost each month?)

TANONG KO ULIT: Nasurgery ka ba ulit? May ongoing therapy ka pa ba?

SAGOT: Actually sis, nakapalaki na nagastus naming nung maopera ako. My husband is a poor tricycle
driver and I am a poor housewife. Yong kinikita nya diretso sa pinagkakautangan namin. May tatlo akong
anak na nag-aaral din. Ang hirap… (short cut ko na!)

(Sinagot ba nya ng tama ang tanong ko? Hindi yata!)

TANONG KO ULIT: okay so magkano pa ba kasi utang nyo sa pinakautangan nyu para alam namin ang
lilikumin naming funds…
SAGOT NYA: 28, 000 pa!
MESSAGE NYA ULIT: “If u kud help me send message 2 blah, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah and blah. I keep
on sending messages 2 them asking help but they are not replying” (ayoko magsabit ng names kaya I
edited the names!)

Marami pa pero cut short ko na ha! Carpal tunnel syndrome abot ko neto!

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 Chapter 5

Anong favorite subject mo nung college tayo? Ako recess… Pero sorry Simple Accounting ang
subject today!

MAGSIMPLE ACCOUNTING TAYO… - bakit tama lang naman na kwentahin natin yan, hindi nagtutugma
tugma ang kwento eh. Sino sa atin ang namumulot ng pera dito, wala! Kaya we have all the right to
ask clarity and transparency sa cash donations na naibigay na… and maraming salamat ulit

A valid source (Tita mismo ng girl in question!) confirmed hospital bill – between 30, 000 to 40, 000
pesos – okay let’s consider the higher estimate – 40, 000. She did not confirm any other therapies Prim
has to undergo or has undergone. Ang sabi daw eh after ng surgery okay na sya. And yung bill sa
hospital pumayag ang hospital na installment ang bayad. Nagpapasalamat sya sa mga nakapagbigay ng
tulong. Hindi nyo sya obligasyun kundi awa nyo na lang – yan ang sabi nya. Naawa din ako dito sa Tita
nya na eto kasi nagkabreast Cancer, namastectomy sya, finished her 4 months of chemo and will now
start Radiation therapy kaya hindi na daw sya nakapagbigay kay Prim para sa hospital bill nya. And
matagal na daw na wala syang contact kay Prim kaya hindi na nya alam kung naopera ulit.

Donations from abroad

Total Amount donated as of today in peso – 32, 834.00 (yung mga naconfirm ko lang yan na nagbigay
and kind enough to disclose kung magkano binigay, may apat pa na hindi pa nagconfirm kung magkano
binigay pero I think that is enough validation)
Total Amount donated as of today in US dollars - $200.00 – hindi ko yan sinali sa peso amount kasi hindi
ko sure ang dollar to peso conversion nuong naipadala yan, so assuming mababa noon ang palitan –
8,000 pesos total add natin sa peso
Donations from abroad Grand Total – 40, 834.00 subtract natin ung hospital bill total 40, 000.00. May
tira pang 834.00 that is good may pang gamut sya – pero teka may nagbibigay ng libreng gamut so sige
pangkain para mas lalo sya lumakas at gumaling na or pangload sa telephone para at least connected
sya sa atin at makahingi pa ng konti pang tulong.

May nagbigay din na nasa Pilipinas – amount not confirmed

My Conclusion: Kahit hindi minsanan na naibigay sa kanya ung grand total ng donations kung tutuusin
Bayad na pala nang mga kind hearted friends natin ang hospital bill in full kung ibinayad nya! May extra
pa, libre din ang gamut so sana okay na sya, pang day to day expenses na lang ang kelangan nya, so
siguro naman kaya na yan ni mister…

Chapter 6

Ang huling message ko sa kanya at sasabog na ang ulo ko eh medjo manipis pa naman na ang buhok ko
- hindi na ako nakarecover sa paglagas ng hair ko after my giving birth to 2 adorable kids. Masakit na
din talaga ang dibdib ko sa mga natuklasan ko – ayoko na magpatuloy pa eto. Magcacarpal Tunnel
Syndrome na ako sa kakatype sa mga katanungan nyo na paisa- isa kong sinasagot in private kaya
magkabistuhan! Bahala na… This time salamat sa feature na copy and paste! Pasensya na din sa
grammar error – sa work ko ginawa eto kaya I typed my life away!

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Sis, if you do not provide clarity kung saan mo gagastusin ang mga nahihingi mo you will not get
anymore help. And besides I do not need to endorse your case to anybody else at this point, everybody
is pretty much aware na kasi we posted on our page repeatedly. Yung 28 thousand na utang mo pa from
whom? we need name of the person na pinagkautangan mo, telephone number nya, resibo nya sa
utang mo, resibo from the hospital including mga gamot na binibili mo. You owe those people big time
clarity and transparency doon sa mga nakapagbigay na sa iyo. Linawin mo ang lahat.
As I said sa message ko last time, we all have our limitations. Hindi ganun kadali ang manirahan abroad.
To be honest with you, since I posted sa wall I am getting a lot of messages asking the validity of your
plea. I promised them all my intention to find out and provide them the clarity they require. Ako mismo
hindi na kampante ang loob ko magbigay sa iyo. There are poeple however na gusto pa ding tumulong
sa iyo BUT before we proceed further you have to start giving us solid answers to some questions. And
take note, no one is complelled to help you pero nature ng mga Filipinos ang tumulong maski hindi
kakilala. Cash lang ba talaga ang pwede namin itulong sa iyo at this time? Are you scheduled for another
surgery or already have a second surgery? Are you still going through treatment therapies, if so,
magkano ang bayad per treatment and ilang buwan ang treatment? Oh by the way you have not
provided us your real diagnosis pala, so anu ang diagnosis mo. Sino ang physician na may handle ng case
mo and which hospital or clinic ka nagpapatingin? I will reiterate na some or a lot of us living abroad are
bound to family obligations that does not allow us some flexibility sa cash flow and limits us to extend
you help financially. But as I said over and over, there are many ways to help someone in need. No one
has put me in charge on this matter, I simply wanted to figure out a way how to help you best. Also
marami ka ding naupset on the manner how you asked. Send a message, not repeated messages and
many times you are not even asking for help you are demanding help. Ask but do not demand the
amount. I have so many friends and relatives na nangangailangan ng tulong almost to the point of me
getting broke at kinicredit card ko na pantulong ko but they have never asked the way that you. You
have have no way of denying this fact at marami ang nagforward ng mga messages mo as akin. I do not
mean to hurt you in any way, I want to help you in your path of self destruction. If you do not provide
answers to all the questions i asked you, I will continue to give flat out answer to those people asking me
na huwag na muna silang magbigay sa iyo. We have our own rights to be protective sa pinaghirapan
namin, hindi namin pinupulot ang pera dito. We work kahit masama ang pakiramdam. I know you will
say it is easy for me to say all this kasi hindi ko pinagdadaanan ang sitwasyon mo but look at this way,
ikaw din kaya ang lumugar sa shoe namin? Ang sakit din kaya sa kalooban ng isang tao na gustong
tumulong pero limited din ang resources nya. You have no idea how much i cry each time na may
magask sa akin ng help at hindi ako makatulong. Help us figure out how to best help you. And i suggest
for now sa akin ka na lang muna magconfide, so many people are upset right now on this matter, baka
kung anu pa marinig mo. And by the way, all your answers to my questions, will be disclosed to those
asking for clarity. From this point, we will make a decision as a group kung paanu namin iextend ang
tulong sa iyo. Ang taong nangangailang will not decline means of help available to her. Go out and meet
with people, policiticians, organizations and seek help. I will wait for your answers to my valid questions.

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 Chapter 7

Epilogue – tama ba? Prologue pag sa beginning ng story right?

I do not know kung ano isasagot nya or kung sasagutin pa nya yan. Yan ang buong katotohanan na alam
ko. Nasa sa inyo na i f you still want to give her the benefit of the doubt, she may still have a chance to
explain herself. PERO AKO, AYOKO NA! I am sure may mga matutuwa din siguro to know all this. May
mga maiinis or magagalit kaya I sincerely apologize sa inyong lahat. I have never ever done anything like
this in my life before. Marami ding nagencourage sa akin from the group to proceed with this
disclosure. I keep my peace with everybody sa paligid ko pero I am not the one to just shut up din kung
kung sa tingin ko di na tama ang nangyayari. Feel free to unfriend me, block me on your friends list as a
result of this, hindi ako magagalit sa reaction nyo should I end up losing friends. Nagmamalasakit lang
ako, I cannot bear to see na ung mga pinaghirapan nyo ends up in the hands of someone who is
wrongfully in need.

I AM NOT JUDGING HER ACTUAL NEEDS AND DESPERATION OR HER AS A PERSON FOR THAT MATTER AS
WE ALL KNOW DESPERATE TIMES CALLS FOR DESPERATE MEASURES BUT THERE IS A BETTER WAY…

Before I made my decision to fully disclose all the informations na nakuha ko, I asked someone’s advise
– the winner of 2012 Best Field Investigator of the Philippine National Police in the Philippines – my
uncle. Marami na daw ang cases na ganito sa Pilipinas – he says it’s a high profile case of Extortion.

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