What is maturity

Whenever we mention the word maturity we mention it in the sense of growing up.We mention it
in the sense of becoming mature.What we mean is, maturity is something to be achieved.You
become mature, notice the word become.I am not mature, I will become mature.

For us maturity is something in the future. For us maturity is something to be gotten through a
process after a period of time.You say these experiences made me mature.So something will
happen which will bring maturity to you, but you are firmly convinced that right now you are
not mature.

Let me give you an alternative.May be maturity is not an achievement.May be mature is not

what you become. Maybe maturity is what you already are.May be maturity is something that
you just discovered.There is difference between discovery and achievement.

When you say you are achieving something, what you mean is you do not have it and you will
be getting it,that is what we mean by achievement . What is discovery? It is right there but it is
covered so you can't see it.So what you are doing,you are discovering it.you are not achieving
,you are just discovering what is already there.

Maturity is something to be discovered.At your age given that you are adult, maturity is already
there, right with you right within you.You are already mature,you do not have to achieve
maturity.I am not say the same thing to eight year old with eight old the physical apparatus is yet
not ready , the brain is not yet ripe.As far as anybody after the age of 13 ,14 or 15 goes maturity
Is available.

But whether or not you live in maturity depends on whether you discovered it.so the question
arises under which thing your maturity is hidden?

Your maturity is covered under your belief that you are immature.understand this your maturity
is covered under your own belief that you are still immature and your deep interest in going on
believing in your immaturity.

What is maturity? I am saying that maturity is already there with you,but very few of us actually
feel mature. Very few of us would accept that we are mature. Most of us have a deep interest , a
deep stake in believing that we are immature.What is that interest , what is that stake ?

maturity comes with responsibility, to be mature is to be responsible.To be mature is to be

capable of living life as per your understanding. To be mature is to give up all crutches and
supports.

But you have become habituated to crutches and supports.You do not want to give them up
and there is no better way to continue using supports, then to declare I am immature.So your
logic is very simple,you do not want to stand on your own lags,you do not want to live as per
your own intelligence.So what do you do?

You declare that you am still immature and because you are still immature you need a lot of
support, that is the logic of your life.You are still kid.You may be 20 or 25 or whatever age it
doesn’t matter you go on believing you are still kid.Believing you are still immature gives you lot
of benefits.It gives you a sense of security.It makes you feel safe because you are immature so
others must give you security.Because you are immature so others are responsible for your
life.Because You are immature so others can take decision for your life and you feel very good
with all that.

Yes, Of Course there is a sense of security in feeling immature, but that is a false security. Yes
Of Course you don’t have to decide for yourself but then when you don’t decide for yourself then
your life is not your life .

Why do you not want to grow up? Why do you want to continue believing there is
something wrong with you that you are still not capable of living freely?

On one hand you continue to say you are dependent. On the other hand you complain when
you have to pay the price of that dependency.The price of that dependency is your
freedom.Don’t you see that , you are taking support from so many people what you are giving
in return? You are paying for that support with your freedom, you have surrendered your
Freedom.

So let me say now , freedom is the joy of maturity and you are already mature ,and it is such a
tragedy that in spite of being mature you do not experience that freedom which is our
birthright. You do not experience that freedom that is your basic nature.You are already
mature just stop compromising .

You will have to pay some price,you will have to give up all your comforts initially at least and
that will make you feel a little vulnerable when your safety and security goes away. But if you
decide to always remain safe and secure and dependent then ,Are you alive? Are you young?
Are you mature?

I will repeat first that you are already mature. Second you are not discovering your maturity only
because your maturity is covered under your own belief that you are immature.Third you
continue to belief you are immature because that belief is providing you certain comforts that
belief ensures that others are responsible for your well being and upkeep So there is some
apparent benefit that you get out of believing that you're still immature and Fourth if you
continue to belief that you are still immature if you continue to remain dependent, then you are
not really alive. Only the free one is alive.Being alive, being free, being mature that are all one
and the same thing.