Q3. A common conception in couples is "I know everything about my partner." Debate.

Ans. Defining love has never been easier. Today, love is understood in terms of spontaneity, madness, and even

estrogen and testosterone among other chemical releases in the body and the brain that makes one excited and

leaves with the feelings of happiness. Couples, married or unmarried, young or adults, all have at some point

experienced what it means to be in love and in a relationship with a significant mate at some point. However,

this is where they reach the conclusions of all sorts, including the common perception, ‘I know everything

about my partner’, which is indeed a common misconception.

Everyone, out of human nature, tends to get excited and all happy, whenever there’s something new and

different happening /, enters their lives. Be it new clothes, new car, new house, new college or even new

people. This is what is the excitement which lasts in relationships leading to the misconception of knowing

everything about one’s partner. Everybody, is not, including many of course, an open book easily understood,

whilst even open books are not fully read and understood properly. Nothing in this world is well read and

understood evenly. Not even a person himself knows himself so much and encounters a new quality, skill, or a

face of himself whenever put in an unconventional and novel situation not encountered any time before. And

while being with someone in a relationship over a satisfactory period, it makes sense that as the “newness”

wears off and individual shifts into a more comfortable pattern of being with their partner, it becomes more

challenging to hold onto the excitement.

This is also suggestive of the fact that everyone, including one’s partner, is ever-changing, just like the

individual himself is. Nothing in this world is constant and everlasting. If even the universe understood, nothing

lasts forever as it is, it is necessary for the individual also to know and understand that he himself and his

partner are not constant beings, but are changing each moment. This means one must make room to get to know

the partner as they continue to grow and change.

In my stout opinion, this is a common fallacy which is carried out in the hearts of all whenever they come

across somebody they have never known, someone ‘special’ which brings joy with its approach, leading the
individual to think s/he is the one and they know everything about the new person. This misconception,

however, many times leads to different levels of expectations too. This may lead a person to expect that since

everything I know about the person, I also know that this person would always be there with me in time good or

bad. The individual starts to expect, and when these expectations end up getting crushed is when it leads the

individual hurting.

In a word, it is important to understand the difference between ever-knowing a person for as long and

knowing a person little yet believing one knows everything. Nonetheless, this misconception is carried out in

the hearts and heads of people which is to be broken and rather it’s important to know the significant partner for

as long and keep “the spark” alive.