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Identifying foundational or core values
Questions that help clients identify core values
Limiting beliefs and their effect on success, happiness
and fulfilment
Signs that limiting beliefs are impeding life progress
How to help clients overcome limiting beliefs
2.1 Introduction
Mental and emotional issues are coming to
the forefront in today’s world, and people
are now realising that it is not a taboo to
ask for help with life challenges.
Limiting beliefs are often hidden and lie below the surface;
therefore, they are difficult to identify. Left unresolved,
such beliefs about ourselves inhibit progress and turn us into
fearful individuals who are afraid to live life to its fullest
potential. As a competent life coach, you can help clients
identify limiting beliefs and overcome them.
Fact
Although life coaching does not
involve any qualification or certification, many clients
prefer coaches that belong to professional organisations, such
as EMCC (European Mentoring and Coaching Council) or the
Association for Coaching (AC).
Source: nationalcareersservice.direct.gov.uk
Integrity
In essence, integrity of character describes who we are and
what we stand for. It is defined as a blend of morals, ethics
and values. One of the clearest indicators of integrity of
character is doing things the correct way, simply because it
is the right thing to do and not because of monetary or
material considerations.
Accountability
This refers to the act of accepting responsibility for your
choices and actions. High levels of accountability prevent
people from blaming other people or the government or the
weather for failures and mistakes.
Diligence
Diligence means paying full attention to a specific task and
following it through to a successful conclusion, without
giving up. As a life coach, one of your biggest challenges is
to help your clients develop diligence.
Discipline
Discipline is also a core value that helps you live a richer,
healthier and more meaningful life. Discipline is simply the
ability to obey rules or governance (this could be your own
internal governance), despite being faced with the temptation
to stray away from your goals.
Activity
Estimated time: 5 minutes
Limiting beliefs work deep down in the psyche and behave like
invisible forces that prevent us from putting forward our best
self. We feel held back and inhibited and do not maximise our
potential because something holds us back.
Have you ever felt that there were times in your life when you
could have moved towards a better relationship or a better
career, and you simply did not do so? Most of us have
undergone such experiences at one time or another, and this is
usually due to the existence of limiting beliefs.
For example
We may have forgotten our lines, while on stage during a
school play. The resulting nervousness or embarrassment may
lead us to believe that we suffer from stage fright and cannot
speak in front of people. This limiting belief often prevents
people from speaking confidently, even when they become
adults.
Life coaches offer invaluable services to clients, insomuch as
they help them overcome limiting beliefs and motivate them to
move forward. If you aspire to be a life coach, one of the
most empowering tasks will be to help clients identify such
beliefs, fears and insecurities.
Lack of motivation
Does your client really lack motivation, or are they burnt
out? Is there something in their environment that is draining
and negative? Lack of motivation usually leads to inadequate
energy levels – your client may complain of disproportionate
exhaustion and may often find it difficult to get through the
day. As a life coach, you need to be able to find out if the
cause is burnout or lack of motivation.
Chronic procrastination
While laziness could be a basic cause (and this is often
related to lack of motivation), procrastination is usually due
to one reason: fear.
Lack of resources
Lack of internal resources is often reflected as a lack of
external resources. Once you encourage your client to think
about courage, success, skills, clarity, passion and
willpower, external resources will also begin to seem
abundant. Change for the better starts by identifying your
strengths.
For example
If you believe that you are bad at maths, your subconscious
mind will encourage you to do badly in maths, although you may
not even realise that this is happening. Once you do badly,
you will be even more convinced that your belief about your
maths ability is true.
As a life coach, you must be able to identify limiting beliefs
and help clients to overcome them over time. Limiting beliefs
are one of the causes of low self-confidence. They dominate
our life stories and crop up in every direction, no matter
where we turn.
Activity
Estimated time: 10 minutes
Sit down and think calmly about any limiting beliefs that you
may have about yourself.
For example
If you study to be a doctor because your father wanted you to,
but your real interest lies in art, you will be unhappy all
your life because you did not fulfil your own wishes.
Seeking third party approval and people-pleasing is one of the
main causes of internal conflict, depression and stress. We
end up blaming the weather, the government, other people and
every other circumstance for our own choices. We have the
power to create whatever we put our minds to. This includes
both good and bad aspects.
As a life coach, ask your clients what they do and do not feel
passionate and enthused about. If your client has stopped
dreaming, they will show a lack of interest.
As the old saying goes, ‘You will miss 100% of the shots that
you never take.’
The very first step in helping your clients move on with their
lives is to rekindle their passion for life. You can even
apply this to yourself. The more interested and passionate you
are about becoming a life coach, the more successful your
practice is likely to be.
Lack of planning
Lack of planning often means that we live our lives on auto-
pilot and simply allow life to happen to us. We react to the
challenges of each day and continue to live humdrum, mundane
lives, without daring to dream. The underlying belief
operating here is that, as we do not believe that we can
succeed, we do not bother planning.
Boost self-confidence
A high level of self-confidence is one of the best ways in
which to eliminate limiting beliefs. We may have spent many
years or even decades harbouring these limiting beliefs.
Fact
Assignment
Foundational Values & Limiting Beliefs
Module Summary
Foundational or core values are formed from circumstances,
relationships and experiences right from our childhood days.
Values define human beings and help them lead a purposeful
life. There are many values, and each person may internalise
the values that resonate with them.