The following are "20 Guidelines for Married Devotees":

by Bhakti Rasamrita Swami

1. Remember that your house, money, family, etc. are all Krishna's
property & that all these have to be engaged in His service.  He has very
kindly given you all these out of His mercy, and He may take them away
as He pleases. So be grateful for what you have & engage all these gifts in
His service with devotion & detachment.
2. Keep the Holy name, Krishna katha & the Temple/home deities in
the centre of your life. Attend devotional programmes in the Temple & at
other devotee gatherings on a regular basis.  Especially, hearing
discourses/classes live & participating in sankirtana is important.
3. Keep your sadhana strong. Please remember that the best chanting
you can do is early in the morning. So avoid unnecessary late nights. It is
best to retire early at night, so you can rise early in the morning & be
fresh for your sadhana. Your japa is the most important activity of the
day. Try to chant clearly & hear attentively. Be in a prayerful mood.
4. Read Srila Prabhupada's books regularly & seriously. This will
strengthen faith, conviction & understanding, & help in keeping proper
spiritual focus in your day to day life. Remember: guru, sadhu & shastra
will show us our proper direction in life.
5. All the members of the family, young & old, should gather together
at home at least once every day, to have arati, kirtana & some
discussion/reading from the scriptures. Srila Prabhupada mentions this
in his purports.
6. Engage yourself in some seva regularly. It is good to take some
responsibility, small or big, according to one's situation. Serve with
humility, enthusiasm, sincerity & eagerness, without seeking any gross or
subtle reward from the service. Do not seek, or be attached to, position or
prestige that may be associated with any service.
7. Associate with devotees as much as possible. Live together in the
society of devotees with a feeling of friendship towards other devotees, &
in a mood of service to them. Ensure that this friendship is not spoilt by
ego, envy, self-interest, insensitivity or negligence. Keep Krishna in the
centre of these relationships.
8. Avoid the association of non- devotees as much as possible. Where
such association is not avoidable (at work, for example), perform your
duty well & be socially pleasant. But be careful to not let their non-
devotional consciousness rub off on you. Do not join them & take
pleasure in the things that they take pleasure in mundane gossip, movies,
sports... & violation of the four regulative principles. Set a good example
as a devotee, & speak & act in a way that will make them feel positive
about Krishna consciousness.
9. Similarly, whilst staying strong in your devotional principles
personally, deal with family, in-laws, neighbours, friends, etc in a way
that will increase their appreciation for Krishna consciousness.
10. Avoid distracting mundane entertainment offered through cinema,
TV, internet & other means. Be careful that you are not overwhelmed by
electronic gadgetry, communication devices & social media. Use them
judiciously as tools, if you must; do not become helpless tools in their
hands.
11. Take decisions (small or big) in life according to how your Krishna
consciousness will be affected, directly or indirectly. Consider the short
term & long term implications of your decision. Accept whatever is
favourable for your Krishna consciousness & reject that which is
unfavourable. This should be the ultimate criterion in decision making.
12. Purity (or impurity) of the source of your livelihood will also affect
your life & consciousness. Hence choose professions that have minimum
possible material contamination & spiritual risk. Avoid professions in
which there is a clear violation of the four regulative principles e.g.
working for a company that produces or sells liquor. Do not involve
yourself in overly risky money earning ventures, being lured by the
prospect of very quick & large profits. Avoid illegal business activities of
any sort.
13. Spend wisely. Do not unnecessarily spend on things that may not
be really required. Live reasonably simply. Follow the principle of "Simple
Living, High Thinking”. Do not be tempted or attracted by, or become
envious of, the wealth or position of others. Do not become a victim of the
modern day consumerist culture with its emphasis on excessive
consumption & flashy lifestyles.
14. Save money wisely for the future. Yet, take care to avoid a hoarding
mentality.
15. Give something in charity in Krishna consciousness according to
your means. Charity is recommended in the shastras as one of the
dharmas of a grhastha.
16. Know that your life is meant as a service to others in Krishna
consciousness & not only for yourself or your family. Keep this spirit of
sacrifice in your heart & keep away any feelings of selfishness.
17. Preach the message of Krishna consciousness whenever you get the
opportunity. Follow the advice that Chaitanya Mahaprabhu gave the
Kurma brahmana: "Jaare dekho taare kaho Krishna upadesha...." - speak
the message of Lord Krishna to whoever you meet. In this way cultivate
the missionary spirit. Preaching is not the exclusive preserve of
brahmacharis & sannyasis.  Grhasthas must also actively participate in
it, according to their situation.
18. Do not be unduly absorbed in household & material matters.  Yet,
do not be neglectful of your household & bonafide material duties. These
must be performed with care, sensitivity & responsibility.
19. Bring up your children in Krishna consciousness, never considering
it to be a burden. This is one of the most important services for a
grhastha. Adjust other services according to the requirements of this
service. For example, during pregnancy or when the child is very young,
you may not be able to do many other services. But do not mind that.
This service is also very pleasing to Krishna. When the time & opportunity
are right, however, you may do those other services. Of course, the basic
services of hearing & chanting must not be neglected at any time. And it
is important to come to the Temple for your own spiritual nourishment as
well as for that of the child.
20. Practice, preserve & teach the principles of traditional & devotional
family life -faithfulness & life-long commitment in marriage, a culture of
respect for all (including elders), sharing, caring, serving, cooking at
home, & so on. In this regard, understand well the pitfalls of accepting
modern day social norms & practices like unrestricted mingling of men &
women, eating out in 'karmi' restaurants,’ living together' before
marriage,& so on.