PERSONALITY DEVELOPMENT

2nd Quarter Reviewer

SY: 2019-2020

Module 8: EMOTIONAL INTELLIGENCE

*Emotional Intelligence
- is the ability to understand, use, and manage our emotions;
- sometimes called EQ (or IE);
- this can predict success in social and emotional situations;
- it helps build strong relationships, make good decisions, and deal with difficult situations;
- it is part of being People-Smart;
- EQ is more important than IQ when it comes to doing well in school or being successful at work.

Improving Your EQ
Emotional intelligence is a combination of several different skills:
 Being Aware of Your Emotions
- Simply noticing them as we feel them – helps us mange our own emotions;
- It also helps us understand how other people feel.

 Understanding How Others Fell and Why

- Being able to imagine what emotions a person is likely to be feeling (even when you don’t actually
know) is called empathy.
- It guides us on what to say and how to behave around someone who is feeling strong emotions.

 Managing Emotional Reactions

- means knowing when, where, and how to express yourself
- When you understand your emotions and know how to manage them, you can use self-control to
hold a reaction if now is not the right time or place to express it.

 Choosing Your Mood

- We have the power to decide mood is right for situation, and then to get into that mood...
- Choosing the right mood can help someone get motivated, concentrate on a task, or try again
instead of giving up.

TYPES OF RESPONSES:
 Passive response: means not expressing your own needs and feelings, or expressing them so weakly.

 Aggressive response: means asking for what you want or saying how you feel in a threatening,
sarcastic or humiliating way that may offend the other person.

 Assertive response: means asking for what you want or saying how you feel in an honest respectful
way that does not infringe on another person’s right or put the individual down.
Module 9: PERSONAL RELATIONSHIPS
Personal Relationships
- refer to close connections between people, formed by emotional bonds and interactions.
- Relationships are not static; they are continually evolving, and to fully enjoy and benefit from them
we need skills, information, inspiration, practice, and social support.

Three Kinds of Personal Relationships:

1. FAMILY
- an essential component in any discussion of relationships;
- the Bureau of the Census defines family as “two or more persons who are related by birth,
marriage, or adoption and who live together as one household”.

2. FRIENDS
- A close tie between two people that is often built upon mutual experiences, shared interest,
proximity, and emotional bonding.

3. PARTNERSHIP
- Romantic partnerships, including marriage, are close relationships formed between two people
that are built upon affection, trust, intimacy, and romantic love.

Why personal relationships are important? Low social support is linked to a number of health
consequences:
 Live longer
 Deal with stress * Depression
 Be healthier * Decreased immune function
 Feel richer * Higher blood pressure

25 MOST COMMON RELATIONSHIP PROBLEMS

1. Affairs / infidelity / cheating 14. Addictions

2. Sexual Issues 15. Excessive reliance on social media
3. Core values and beliefs 16. Lack of support
4. Life stages (outgrown each other) 17. Manipulation
5. Traumatic and/or Life Changing Events 18. Lack of communication
6. Responses to prolonged periods of stress: 19. Lack of responsibility for chores and task
- Work-related stress, illness, mental health issues, 20. Perceived lack of concern, care,
- financial problem, infertility, etc. attention
7. Bored in with Your Relationship 21. Disappointments and traumas
8. Dealing with jealous partner 22. Long term depression/mental issues
9. Having “blended” family issues 23. Significant differences
10. Domestic violence 24. Long term stress
11. Knowing you should not have married in the first place 25. Unsupportive partner during
12. Lack of responsibility: finances, children, health issues pregnancy
13. Unrealistic Expectations
TEN RULES FOR FINDING LOVE AND CREATING LONG – LASTING AUTHENTIC RELATIONSHIPS
1. YOU MUST LOVE YPURSELF
- A prerequisite to creating a successful and authentic union with another
2. PARTNERSHIP IS A CHOICE MUST NURTURE THE RELATIONSHIP FOR IT TO THRIVE
3. CREATING LOVE IS A PROCESS
4. RELATIONSHIP PROVIDE OPORTUNITIES TO GROW
5. COMMUNICATION IS ESSENTIAL
6. NEGOTIATION WILL BE REQUIRED
7. YOUR RELATIONSHIP WILL BE CHALLENGE BY CHANGE
8. YOU MUST NURTURE THE RELATIONSHIP FOR IT TO THRIVE
9. RENEWAL IS THE KEY TO LONGEVITY
10. YOU WILL FORGET ALL THIS THE MOMENT YOU FALL IN LOVE