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reported that more than 50,000 children were officially counted as victims of
emotional abuse?
...they can leave marks and memories from a short time to a lifetime.
Hurtful remarks can come from loved ones such as parents, and the psychological and
emotional damage can be detrimental to a lot of people...
The way parents raise their children and behave around them sets up the basic
ground which builds their personality and self-esteem.
Here are eight things toxic parents say that can affect a child's life.
One.
"You're ugly, too fat, too short or too skinny, or you have ugly hair."
Degrading a child based on their appearance will likely only increase their
physical insecurity and worry about their body image.
Parents are supposed to teach their children how to love themselves no matter how
they look on the outside.
Two.
Like, "Why do you act so weird?", "Why do you walk that way?"
questions or remarks like these may make the child feel like there's something
wrong with them.
This makes it very hard for the child to be themselves around people, even during
their adulthood.
and they may then be trapped by the discomfort and fear that others may laugh at
them, or notice the flaws that they're toxic parents made up for them. (poor
sobble...)
Three.
Selfish wishes.
"I wish you were never born.", "I wish I had an abortion.", "I regret having you.",
"I wish you were a different child."
It'll make them feel like they weren't supposed to exist in this world in the first
place, and that they don't deserve to be alive.
They diminish their whole sense of identity, which can lead to self harm and early
depression.
Four.
"You cost me too much money.", "It's so hard to take care of you.", "Having you
exhausts me".
If a parent says this to their child, the child will feel like a burden.
It'll cause them to unconsciously hide their needs feelings and problems...
Considering that,
Nemours, a non-profit children's health care system, reported that lack of love and
affection, or materialistic things are some of the causes for some children to lean
on stealing, and being abusive.
Five.
Unhealthy comparisons.
"Why aren't you like your sibling, cousin, or the other kids?" "The other kids are
better than you."
This will reduce a child's self-esteem substantially, and makes them think that
they'll never be good enough, no matter how hard they try.
Also, comparing siblings with one another only promotes an unhealthy relationship
between them.
This will cause them to feel jealousy and resentment towards each other.
Siblings should be equally given the right to build their own independent
identities.
Six.
"You're stupid.", "Useless." "You're a loser." or, "You'll never make it."
It's important that parents encourage their children into believing in themselves.
Seven.
Threatening abandonment.
"I'll leave you.", "I'll put you aside.", "You'll wake up and never find me.",
"I'll just disappear".
Fearing that people they love will leave them because of who they are.
When a child grows up this belief will be unconsciously ingrained in their mind.
And, eight.
Empty promises.
"If you do this, I'll buy you that.", or "I'll take you there next time."
When a parent makes promises that they don't keep, it breaks the child's trust.
Making fake promises is an excellent way to teach a child how not to trust others
in life.
Parents or future parents can also be more mindful about how they talk to their
children.