Elaine G. L. R.

12 – Justice 17Aug29M

WHICH IS THE HARDEST THING TO DO,

TO FORGIVE OR TO ASK FORGIVENESS?

FORGIVE. It is for us to give up vengeance as we give up our resentment of others who

trespassed against us.

As a child, I do not have any problems of asking for forgiveness or to forgive when others ask it,

or so I thought. Because as I grow up, to emphasize it more, I am able to forgive ONLY WHEN

OTHERS ASK FOR IT. Here lies the problem.

This problem may be lighter than the other, because yes, I am able and capable to give

forgiveness. However, there are just conditions I would like to follow to be able to sincerely give it out.

Sincerity is what I ask for the person to be pardoned. Even though it is the sin of the person that I resent

and not actually the person himself or herself, that certain person must sincerely realize what he had done,

and sincerely apologize for it.

I can do apology easier than pardoning, because I believe that a conflict is not only done by one

person, but all people involve in that conflict. This is why, when I realize I’m in the middle of this kind of

situation, I may have done something – wronged or hurt the other person or people, and this is why I then

ask them what is wrong or just reflect by myself (since there are some people that would not talk to you if

they’re wronged, or would just say that they’re okay, even though their avoidance of you is as obvious

when you shift your gaze as your teacher looks at you during the oral recitation, and when I realized it, I

then ask for an apology. To realize your mistake and ask forgiveness is easier, than forgive those who are

not even aware of their mistakes, that may have apologize and gave effort, but because they don’t realize

or accept what they have actually done wrong (prideful people), it lacks sincerity that I cannot accept.