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If your child hits you in anger, you must move swiftly to stop this
before it becomes a habit. The next time a child strikes you in anger,
pick them up to eye level. Tell them firmly that you are their parent
and are NOT to be hit ever again. As with tantrums, remove them
from the room and place them in a quiet place. Make sure there is
no form of entertainment available. Even a corner will work. If you
get hit again, remove every toy they own. The important thing is not
to strike back in anger. If the child is kicking and screaming, a swift
hard swat to the bottom before placing in the corner works well.
There is an exception to this. If you have a child that routinely hits
out of anger, not only you, but anyone nearby, a physical and
psychological evaluation may be necessary. Establish regular
mealtimes. If the child requests a drink or snack, teach them to say
please and thank you. You get the item, not the child. This sets limits
an out-of-control child badly needs. Bedtimes need to be
established, with an occasional family late night as a reward for
cooperating. An hour before bed, bathe the child. Set a story telling
half hour aside with them, just prior to bed. If they cry and refuse
bedtime, there will be no playtime the next day. Firmly return them
to their rooms, each time they get up. Tell them they lose 15 minutes
of playtime for each time you are disturbed. It took time, as I said, to
develop the negative behaviour, it will take time and patience to
reverse them. If you are consistent, within a month you should see
some major behavioural changes in your children. If not, intervention
might be required. You chose to have children. In doing so, you took
on the responsibility for raising them to be polite, caring and
cooperative. Our nation’s schools are filled with these unruly
children, who not having any moral guidance or discipline, simply
carry on as destructively as they do at home. Why not? No ones ever
told them differently. As I tell my boys, I’m your parent, not your
friend. I love you. And that means that I have to make sure you
behave in safe ways, that you are someone people enjoy having
around. I’ve explained even adults have rules that we have to live by
every day. Being a strong disciplined parent means having the
strength of character to care about how your child will impact
society as they grow. A healthy family is a reflection of life as a
whole. Loving, considerate, respectful of each other’s feelings and
property. Raising happy healthy children keeps Americas promise of
a better future, a stronger society and a better world.