Love or Infatuation

“…but I can`t help falling in love with you”, I`m wondering, did Elvis Presly really know
what he was talking about when he composed that classic love? Love. Everyone has felt
it before, right? But how do we know that emotion we feel is really the one we think we
feel. Do we really understand the difference between love and infatuation?

Love is tender, passionate affection for another person. On the other hand, infatuation
is a foolish and extravagant passion. Though these formal definitions may show a stark
contrast in meaning, discerning the difference in a real life scenario is truly no easy
task.

Infatuation has the eyes of a falcon. It has scores points for detail and seeks out
the most fashionably impressive individual. The most beautiful girl, cutest guy and so
on. For the lack of a better term, I`m going to go ahead and say this. Love is blind. It
isn`t affected by physical attraction, appearance, or even human nature. To truly love
someone involves overlooking all flaws and imperfections they display.
 Moving on, Infatuation is short- sighted and short- lived. Distance and time are
factors that severe the bonds in a relationships built on infatuation. It`s like building a
castle on a bad foundation, and when time takes its toll, it will ultimately crumble. Love
in the other hand, is eternal. Separation only strengthens it, fueling its passion to burn
brighter. The longing to be together would only deepen the bond, rather than weaken it.

Furthermore, infatuation is impulsive. It acts on instinct and on the spur of the

moment. This form of affection doesn`t wait until the time is right, but rather choose
to fulfill its lusty desires with no regard for anyone else. On the opposite end of the
spectrum, love is patient. Time is immaterial to it. Literally, love can wait forever, or at
least until the time is right for it to blossom. It`s the product of the magic that God
created, and not the drunkard sensation you get after a barrel of beer
Nevertheless, infatuation is selfish. A common individual would like a “love” to work in
their favour, in their own benefit. Let`s look at this from a regular perspective: ladies,
if you could choose between a rich, established gentlemen or a kind, loving, regular guy,
which would it be? It`s not an easy decision, because of what? A selfish attraction. Un-
likewise, love is selfless and understanding. Sometimes it`s not the pleasures but the
compromises that express how true a love is. As quoted by maroon 5 in their hit- single
She will be Loved,“ It`s not always rainbows and butterflies, it`s compromise that
moves us along.”

I know it may not be easy for an intellectual to accept the points mentioned above, so
I`m gonna explain this from a scientific standpoint. Infatuation is the result of a series
of chemical responses and reactions within the human body . Yes, this involves
hormones and pheromones, common in all living organisms. The human brain reacts to
sexual attraction the same way it reacts to thirst and hunger. Mother Nature made it
this way to ensure continuation and survival of the species. Just like the body needs
foods and water, the same force drives it to want to mate and reproduce. Intimacy is
only added into the equation due to pop cultural influence..
 You wouldn`t say that litter of kitten is a result of a divine love, would you? We
can`t fault infatuation, because it`s only natural.

Simply put, true love cannot explained by scientific means. True love is the result of
God`s grace on us. It`s devotional and committed, the same way God loves us for who
we are, the same way He loves us obstacle. It`s like gravity. You can`t explain it`s
really there, it just is.

Fact is, infatuation is lie. We only lust people for their perfections, but truly love
people for their imperfections. I guess that`s the hardest face to accept: that we are
all actually under the veil of infatuation, like it or not, and you`d be naïve to insist
otherwise. Anyone can and might “fall for” that beautiful girl or a cutie one across the
street, the one with the perfect eyes, perfect hair, perfect body, but it takes that
special someone to overlook all your flaws, and see you as the person you secretly
wished you were, and still be able to look you in the eyes and say “ I love you”.