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Systeme de Croyance Et Valeurs Fondamentales Cour 5
Systeme de Croyance Et Valeurs Fondamentales Cour 5
Objectives
Definition of beliefs and how they determine our reality
Three types of beliefs and their importance in life
coaching
The T-GROW model of life coaching basics
Life coaching questions that help discover limiting
beliefs and form an action plan to move forward
How to help your clients identify stressors
5.1 Introduction
Beliefs are conditioned perceptions that are
formed in our minds, based on previous
experiences, whether good or bad.
Fact
According to a survey conducted by
the Pew Research Center, one in ten Americans say they feel
lonely or isolated from those around them all or most of the
time.
Source: pewresearch.org
For example
As a child, Peter may have been fat and ridiculed at school.
He may have felt embarrassed and had a low opinion of himself
as a fat child. Since he grew up, he may now be lean, fit and
strong. However, in his mind, he may still think of himself as
an unattractive person.
One of the biggest objectives of a life coach is to help
clients overcome limiting beliefs, by shifting the onus to
themselves.
Beliefs determine what you will and will not try, and,
therefore, they also determine the type of goals that you set
for yourself. Very often, we are not inclined to push
ourselves out of our comfort zone (what we feel that we can
achieve) because our beliefs are preventing us from expecting
more from ourselves.
Activity
Estimated time: 5-10 minutes
Psychological rules
Psychological rules refer to the rules that support beliefs.
Your client may feel fearful because they do not enjoy making
potentially lucrative sales calls or visits to important
clients. They may always be looking for excuses to
procrastinate because, deep down, they are fearful of
rejection or making the wrong impression and losing the sale.
This process signals to them that they are not good enough to
meet important people. It could also tell them that they are
not good enough to push themselves beyond their limit. This is
why your client may find him or herself unwilling to accept
responsibilities that are outside their comfort zone.
Global beliefs
While psychological rules mostly shape our opinions and
beliefs about ourselves, global beliefs dictate our beliefs
towards others and the world in general. They invariably begin
with “People are …,” or “Life is …”.
Examples
If you avoided speaking to strangers when you were a child,
this helped keep you safe. However, as an adult, you may need
to communicate with many strangers during the course of a day.
You need to address and overcome your childhood belief that
taught you that it is dangerous to talk to strangers.
Similarly, you may have global beliefs that people always lie
and cannot be trusted. While this may be true for some people,
most people are trustworthy.
Limiting global beliefs will prevent you from setting goals
that satisfy you, and they are likely to prevent you from
having opportunities in both your professional life and your
personal life.
Convictions
Convictions are the type of beliefs that are backed by the
maximum levels of commitment, even if they go completely
against logic and reality. These are the beliefs that are the
most challenging to get rid of.
“I am such a dummy”
“What’s wrong with me?”
“I am such a clutz”
Ask them if they can think about where the label came from.
Possible origins could include friends, colleagues, family or
social media.
After this, ask them to think about whether each label helps
them or hinders them and to discuss how it does so.
Finally, ask your client about the labels that they would like
to keep and the ones that they would like to get rid of. Ask
them about specific situations and different ways in which
they can behave or think (come up with a doable action plan),
in order to make negative labels redundant.
For example
If you have a client who tends to discuss things in a
longwinded manner, talking about the goal during the session
is a good way in which to streamline the topics for
discussion.
It is not necessary to have a goal decided upon up front, and
it should not be carved in stone. The goal can be developed,
as the session moves forward; the important thing is that the
client should be able to benefit from achieving smaller goals
associated with each session.
Fact
As you help your clients examine their values and beliefs you
will benefit from a heightened sense of personal awareness
about your own life.
1. Straightforward approach
4. Defining the beliefs and bringing them out into the open
Activity
Estimated time: 5-10 minutes
Assignment
An Exploration of Belief Systems and an Overview of Life
Coaching Fundamentals
Module Summary
Self-limiting beliefs are usually at the core of our inability
to progress and achieve success. One of the most important
basics of life coaching is the ability to help your clients
identify limiting beliefs and then formulating plans of
action, in order to help them overcome them.