1) The document provides 12 lessons from counseling masters on topics like following pain, charting stimulus-response patterns, checking self-defeating thoughts, visualizing change, and being a positive change agent.
2) The lessons emphasize naming pain, understanding triggers, recognizing inconsistent thoughts, discovering one's purpose, and using metaphors and symbols to facilitate change.
3) Each lesson poses questions for reflection to help internalize the lessons and apply them to one's own life, counseling approach, or desire to serve others.
1) The document provides 12 lessons from counseling masters on topics like following pain, charting stimulus-response patterns, checking self-defeating thoughts, visualizing change, and being a positive change agent.
2) The lessons emphasize naming pain, understanding triggers, recognizing inconsistent thoughts, discovering one's purpose, and using metaphors and symbols to facilitate change.
3) Each lesson poses questions for reflection to help internalize the lessons and apply them to one's own life, counseling approach, or desire to serve others.
1) The document provides 12 lessons from counseling masters on topics like following pain, charting stimulus-response patterns, checking self-defeating thoughts, visualizing change, and being a positive change agent.
2) The lessons emphasize naming pain, understanding triggers, recognizing inconsistent thoughts, discovering one's purpose, and using metaphors and symbols to facilitate change.
3) Each lesson poses questions for reflection to help internalize the lessons and apply them to one's own life, counseling approach, or desire to serve others.
> Apo: wisdom, perspective,reverence > Mt. Apo: highest peak in the country > “Progress hungers for mysticism, for power should be channeled in the service of love. Drawing from the great ideals of religion, holy men and women can help perfect human nature.” Cory Aquino > Nasaan na si Apo sa kanyang mga apo (malay-Pinoy)? Some of the APOS Joey Velasco AN EXAMINED LIFE Teodulo Pamintuan Gonzales, SJ JAIME BULATAO, SJ BEN NEBRES, SJ RUBEN M. TANSECO, SJ NILO TANALEGA, SJ 1. FOLLOW THE PAIN (DISGUSTING) 1. FOLLOW THE PAIN Give voice to the HISTORY/STORY OF THE PAIN. ANNA O. THE PYROMANIAC KID, AND THE KID’S MOM. •Identify fears/anxiety/losses/insecurity/helpless ness/trauma. •LESSON: Name the pain. Claim the pain. 1. FOLLOW THE PAIN 1. Tell your story. Breathe out the load inside, lighten your burden. 2. Give importance to the process, like labor pain to give birth to new person. 3. Understand the pain. Be compassionate. Embrace the pain. 1. FOLLOW THE PAIN
1. What hurts you the most?
2. If you look into your heart, what will it say? 3. What is your greatest worry/fear/loss? 2. CHART STIMULUS- RESPONSE 2. CHART STIMULUS- RESPONSE •KNOW THE TRIGGERS AND THE DESTRUCTIVE BEHAVIORS. CHART THE TIMES WHEN THE ADDICTION IS AWAKEN. WHAT IS THE STIMULUS TO THE RESPONSE? •LESSON: Learn good habits or stay with bad habits. 2. CHART STIMULUS- RESPONSE • 1. Record the dynamics of the event and its effect
• 2. Notice what influences good
and bad behavior.
• 3. Do more of the good habits to
have good outcome. 2. CHART STIMULUS- RESPONSE •1. When did your trouble start? •2. Who are the people who hurt you the most? •3. What events affected you the most 3. CHECK TATOO OF THE MIND 3. CHECK TATOO OF THE MIND
•Be aware of self-defeating
thoughts/overly emotional reactions/destructive behaviors •Disaster is a loss of a star (MEANING). •LESSON: Your thoughts can imprison or liberate you. 3. CHECK TATOO OF THE MIND
•1. Recognize your negative
feelings but balance it with other aspects of reality. •2. What gives meaning to your life? •3. What inspires you to take care of your family or other people? 3. CHECK TATOO OF THE MIND
•1. What feelings and
corresponding thoughts surprise you? •2. What are you most grateful, despite the adversities of your life? •3. What will balance your life 4. SPOT INCONSISTENCY BETWEEN THE IDEAL AND THE REAL 4. GAP BETWEEN THE IDEAL AND THE REAL •WHAT STANDS IN THE WAY/BLOCKS TO ACCOMPLISHING OR ACHIEVING MY GOALS? •The longest journey is from the head to the heart to the hands. •LESSON: There is a distinction between what is expected and what is implemented. 4. GAP BETWEEN THE IDEAL AND THE REAL •1. How do you write your life now- 0- 10. •2. Whatever answer will be the baseline, a starting point. •3. What hinders or what blocks you in the implementation of dreams or deepest desires? 5. YOU ARE FREE TO BE OPEN OR WITHOLD 5. YOU ARE FREE TO BE OPEN OR WITHOLD •You can freely and fully own your emotional desires (not just acting out!) •Responsible choice; YOU ARE FREE TO BE SHALLOW OR DEEP •LESSON: You have a choice to discern or just be carried by 5. YOU ARE FREE TO BE OPEN OR WITHOLD •What is unmanageable or out of control in your life? • You can by flooded, imprisoned by resentments or make a choice •What is hard to let go in making choices? 6. BE WHO YOU ARE MEANT TO BE 6. BE WHO YOU ARE • CONGRUENCE, DEFINE YOUR HEALTHY EGO. • LOOK FOR MEANING/PURPOSE/BURNING BUSH/ DEFINE WHAT IS IMPORTANT/OF VALUE/SPIRITUAL RESOURCE. WHAT IS THE PERSON WILLING TO LIVE FOR? • LESSON: Discover what is burning in your heart. 6. BE WHO YOU ARE
• 1. What is your burning bush or higher
purpose in your life? • 2. What will define your life? • 3. Amid the pandemic and the COVID-19 virus spread, what did you realize as most important? 6. BE WHO YOU ARE
•1. What is most basic and
fundamental in your? •2. What will integrate your whole life? •3. What makes you are willing to life for and die for? 7. CARRY THE FLAG 7. CARRY THE FLAG •WHO WILL BE IN CHARGE FOR CHANGE? RESPONSIBILITY IS TO MAKE A CHOICE WHAT TO DO SOMETHING OF HIGHER VALUE, •CHOOSE YOUR BATTLE/WHAT CAN YOU DO NOW. •LESSON: Someone will have to make it happen. 7. CARRY THE FLAG
•1. Huwag lang umangal, ibalik ang dangal.
•2. Serenity Prayer: “Grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change; courage the change the things I can.” •3. Do not count the days, make the days count. 7. CARRY THE FLAG
•1. What meaningful rituals you need to do in
the meantime? •2. What small, strategic steps you can do to realize your dream? •3. Who will help you realize your dream? 8. ROLL WITH RESISTANCE 8. ROLL WITH RESISTANCE •PEOPLE HAVE DIFFERENT PACING FOR CHANGE. •HARD TO LET GO OF SOMETHING YOU DERIVE SOME BENEFIT OR GAIN. •Change is incremental. •LESSON: Be patient with change. 8. ROLL WITH RESISTANCE •1. What made you come to seek help anyway? •2.What brought you here, despite some hesistance? •3. How can you make this time meaningful for you? 9. VISUALIZE CHANGE 9. VISUALIZE CHANGE
•LOOK FOR METAPHORS OR
SYMBOLS. •THESE ARE MORE POWERFUL TOOLS FOR CHANGE. •LESSON: If you can dream it, you can achieve it. 9. VISUALIZE CHANGE
•1. Be attentive to the metaphors your clients or
counselors use during the session. •2. Metaphors can also come from the counselor to convey the key points or motivation for change. •3. Symbols speak to the imagination and the heart. 10. BE A POSITIVE CHANGE AGENT 10. BE A POSITIVE CHANGE AGENT •Identify, continue constructive or best practices/strengths of the person •Learn the best from the past and respond to the needs of the present. •LESSON: Bring out the best in people and allow them to shine. 10. BE A POSITIVE CHANGE AGENT •1. Look back in the history, what works best in the history of the counselee? •2. What do you need to do for self-care (set boundaries) or (bonding or creative compassion)?. •3. What gifts can you offer for significant others or the common good. 11. BOUNDARY OR BONDING; BOUNDLESS COMPASSION
•ARITHMETIC OF LIFE (-, +, /, X)
•TRAFFIC OF LIFE (RED, YELLOW, GREEN) •ASSIGNMENTS/HOMEWORK 11. BOUNDARY OR BONDING; BOUNDLESS COMPASSION
•1. How do express self-care or setting
boundaries? •2. How do you connect or reach out in creative compassion or social solidarity? •3. What does balance asks of you from the perspective of greater love? 12. SERVICE
•MESS-MESSAGE •CRACKED VESSEL BECOMES A SOURCE OF WATER OF LIFE •PURPOSE: LIGHT OF THE WORLD; WOUNDED HEALER 12. SERVICE
•1. What out of control/unmanageable behaviors
turned out to be a miracle in your life? •2. What weaknesses you have that became a source of strength for others? •3. What is the burning bush or purpose in your 12. SERVICE
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