Professional Documents
Culture Documents
By
Duhaylungsod, Shaynie T.
Ebuenga, Jenelyn A.
BSED
2020
Chapter I
INTRODUCTION
Water does not flow upward to the mountains separating but downward to the seas
joining. Man and women are downward course of each other. A live-in relationship is an
arrangement of two people make a life together without entering into formal relationship called
marriage. They are involved in a sexually intimate relationship on long-term or can even be only
a permanent basis. Live-in relationship is merely common since then because everyone has
different thoughts and perceptions when it comes to relationship basis. There are so many
reasons for a couple to decide living together but this kind of situation must think carefully since
it involves certain kind of responsibilities. A situation that must evaluate before deciding on
taking the step, it might lead to only a permanent basis or long term basis kind of relation. In
view of the fact that the live-in relation must have a great commitment and strong bond of your
married couple in a one house. You can possess a person`s heart, but you can never control his
mind and his actions. Your partner has a will of his own. If he/she wants to leave you, nothing in
the world can really stop him/her. If, for instance, you feel that the passion in your relationship is
losing its magic you can`t force your partner to bring it back.
Live-in relationship is like a marriage without legalities. You can even know your partner
better and understand each other in a deeper level. Nevertheless, some couple likes to contact
with its partner in a live-in relationship situation before they can get married for real to merely
experience and think deeper what it is like to take step further in life. Thinking they might not
want to risk being tied with a messy divorce battle. Yet any quarrel or fight can lead to a split,
whereas in a marriage a fight is often followed by reasoning and resolving. Everyone hates
fighting, the complaints of past and present with renewed anger. Negative comments are thrown
to relieve past hurt than to reach peace. This will only create new pain and even more
resentment. As a result, one of the partners may feel ‘suffocated’ in the relationship due to the
lack of personal space. Some may even feel a sense of monotony which causes trouble for the
relationship and could eventually lead to a heart-breaking split. Sociologist have exploded some
certain myths about the benefits of live-in arrangements, which this situation is very common in
many countries of the West, specifically in Europe. A rationalization of ten given for starting
with a live-in arrangement is to avoid a broken home in the future by just fist checking the
compatibility between the partners. In contrary, in the average research of the researchers the
result shows that couple who live together before marriage have double chances of divorce or
break-ups. Living in does not help build the habits of commitment, mutual communication and
support that are at foundation of marriage. Spouse who eventually divorce tend to be the people
who don’t have high level of commitment and self-sacrifice to always seek the good of the other
person. Thus, it has been found that living together is the worst possible preparation for marriage
Conceptual Framework
FINANCIAL STABILITY
LIVE-IN ARRANGEMENTS
DEPRESSION
LACK OF COMMITMENT
Significance of Study
When it comes to emotional well-being, young adults - especially women - seem to get as
much of a boost from living with a partner as they do from marriage. Cohabitation living
together without the commitment of marriage is on the rise. Given this new information about
the possible benefits of co-habitation and the controversy surrounding long-term outcomes, it's a
good idea to examine the fears and ask questions before making this important step.
The generalization of this present study would be great contribution to the vast
knowledge in relation to The Danger in Live-In Arrangements. Vitals result of this investigation
Parents: This refers to Parents who is live-in arrangement. In this study, they’re the instruments
in the materialization of the young adults. Parents give exact information the danger of live-in
arrangements in young adults. The parents can give the advantage and disadvantages of live-in
arrangements. We can gain information to the parents that can help the young adults.
Young Adults: They are the main concern in this study. In generation many young adults don’t
know the danger in live-in arrangement. They find it relationship goals when is not really a
goals. In this study the findings of this research will open mind, enlightened and become
This study focused on knowing the dangers of live-in arrangements. The study will
include various effects on the couple emotional development, financial stability, its difficulty in
work, personal intimate sexual pleasure, fights (violence) and religion. This study is limited
only to the thoughts and theoretical based on the dangers in living together with your partner.
The selected respondents will specify their thoughts and ideas to the impacts of live-in
arrangements in our City. There will be 60 limited respondents coming from the students of
both private and public college schools. The conducting of questions will be in the following
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1 Iligan Medical Center School 30
2 MSU- Iligan Institute of Technology 30
TOTAL OF RESPONDENTS: 60
Live-in arrangements the way someone organizes how and where they will live.
Cohabitation the state of living together and having a sexual relationship without being
married.
Live-in Relationship in which an unmarried couple lives together in a long-term
intimacy.
Quarrel a heated argument or disagreement, typically about a trivial issue and between
Despite the fact that such a relationship isn't bound by the lawfulness of marriage, the
lady just as her kids are secured by law to guarantee their privileges. Couples live together,
instead of getting married, for an assortment of reasons. They might need to test their similarity
before they focus on a lawful association. They might need to keep up their single status for
budgetary reasons. Whatever the reasons, somewhere in the range of 1970 and 1990, the quantity
of couples living respectively outside of marriage quadrupled, from 523,000 to about 3 million.
Cohabitation often exhibit many of the same characteristics (Brown, 2005; Casper &
Sayer,2000; Kiernan, 2004, p. 985): ‘‘shared home, economic support, sexual intimacy, and not
infrequently, children.’’ Increases in cohabitation have been observed across race and ethnic
lines and across socio-economic categories, with cohabiting relationships now frequently
including children. Couples with less education and fewer financial assets are more apt to
cohabit. Having low social status (education or employment) will be a greater barrier to marriage
for men in the Philippines than for women, thus making cohabitation more likely for them.
Cohabitation experience will be more common among lower class than among higher class
divorce, and acceptability of cohabitation) will be more likely to have co-habited than will those
These couples face a portion of indistinguishable lawful issues from wedded couples, just
as certain issues that their wedded companions need never consider. It is neither true that
cohabiting is a way of adapting to modern times. Historical research shows that cohabitation and
contraception were common in the ancient Roman Empire. This led to the mistreatment of
women, considered as toys for sexual pleasure, the degeneration of families, and the eventual
moral decay of society. The Christian vision of marriage and family brought respect, dignity and
happiness to families and society. Those who are cohabiting swear that they love one another
and want to be together as early as possible without the formalities of marriage. These people
should be told that if their love is real and not a matter of volatile feeling, they will want to give
the best for each other and for their mutual relationship. Research and proven wisdom have
shown that cohabitation is bad for the partners, for their future marriage and their children.
According to Villegas (2016), that a good number of his workers, most of whom are
Catholics, had not been married in Church and were just “living in”, he went out of his way to
consult a Catholic priest about how to convince these couples who were cohabitating to be
formally married in their faith. Just using his common sense, he was convinced that people in
live-in conditions could pose a danger to his workforce and can affect the productivity of his
workers. True enough, his instincts are supported by social science research. On the contrary,
studies show that couples who live together before marriage have double the chances of divorce
than those who don’t. Living in does not help build the habits of commitment, mutual
communication and support that are at the foundation of marriage. Spouses who eventually
divorce tend to be people who do not have a high level of commitment and self-sacrifice to
always seek the good of the other person. Then there is the excuse of saving up first in order to
attain financial stability. Ironically, research has found that cohabiting couples have lower
incomes than married couples. A possible explanation is that married men with children are
motivated and committed to become more responsible and productive. In marriage, there is
more sharing of economic and social resources, thus acting like an insurance pool as protection
from uncertainties. Furthermore, studies have demonstrated that people who are cohabiting
experience lower levels of subjective well-being and higher levels of depression, domestic
violence and murder. One research suggests that due to the lack of long-term commitment,
couples who live together without the benefit of marriage are less motivated to develop their
conflict resolution and support skills. Also, compared to married couples, live-in couples are
less connected to the community and the church. Thus, they get less emotional, social and
material support.
The poverty rate among children of cohabiting couples is five-fold greater than the rate
parents, children age 12-17 with cohabiting parents are six times more likely to exhibit emotional
and behavioral problems. Likewise, adolescents from cohabiting households are 122% more
likely to be expelled from school and 90% more likely to have a low Grade Point Average
(GPA). One of the greatest problems of children of cohabiting couples is the high risk that the
couple will break up. Cohabitation is condemned by most religions because it is all about pre-
marital sex. In Islam, living in zina, fornication, is absolutely forbidden and is severely
violation. It is condemned by Hinduism. The Jewish Torah prohibits it: There shall be no
More recently, Pope Francis in the “Joy of Love” presents a very strong case against
cohabitation: “Marriage is a means of expressing that we have truly left the security of the home
in which we grew up in order to build other strong ties and to take on a new responsibility for
another person. This is much more meaningful than a mere spontaneous association for mutual
gratification, which would turn marriage into a purely private affair. As a social institution,
marriage protects and shapes a shared commitment to deeper growth in love and commitment to
another, for the good of society as a whole. That is why marriage is more than a fleeting fashion;
it is of enduring importance. Its essence derives from our human nature and social character. It
involves a series of obligations born of love itself, a love so serious and generous that it is ready
to face any risk.” Nicolas (1994) nothing should be more important to the person you marry than
your spiritual well-being. Some couples actually decide to cohabit because of its differences of
religion. Church leaders even warn that they may not go to heaven if they have a relationship
with someone outside the faith. For couples intending to get married but have contrasting
religious beliefs, the primary test of the relationship. Most of the people will just have a live-in
Cohabitation does not only hurt the live-in partners themselves. It is also a disservice to
society itself.