CONVERSATION 101

CONVERSATION 101

Thanks for checking out my conversation skills video on YouTube and requesting this special report.

I love meeting badasses who are hungry to learn more!

So, you learned some useful conversation skills in the video. Now, this special report brings you TEN

MORE tactics to take your conversation abilities to the next level.

Without further ado, let's do this!

1. INJECT ENERGY AND EMOTION TO YOUR CONVERSATIONS

This seems self-evident, but before we talk about specific conversation tactics, you need to

internalize bringing more energy and emotion to your conversations. Nobody likes to converse with

someone that is unenthusiastic and low energy, so amp up the energy and don't be "flat" when you

converse. Believe it or not, having the right energy and emotion, i.e. the delivery, when you speak is

MORE IMPORTANT than what you say.

You don't need to go crazy with this, but make sure you are conversing with at least a minimal

amount of good vibes and energy. People will catch your vibe faster than hearing what you say!

2. GET OFF "AUTOPILOT"

What I mean by this is minimize the habit of saying reflexive things or the obvious thing in any given

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situation. Instead, you want to BUILD THE HABIT of looking past the obvious thing to say, so that

you can bring much more interest to your conversations. In particular, stop saying the OBVIOUS

thing in COMMON situations (such as salutations (hi/bye) and common questions like "How are you?"

"What do you do?"). To start, try mixing the obvious with the UNEXPECTED.

To give you an example, when Hank Moody of the TV show "Californication" is asked what he does,

he answers: "I'm a writer. Books, novels, and the occasional haiku". It is this unexpected third item

that isn't obvious and brings much more interest to a mundane question and mundane answer.

3. CONVERSATION RULES

Remember these rules: Don't beat one conversation topic to death. Instead, work to change topcis

fairly frequently. A good conversation takes on an almost random nature and has many

conversation topics and threads. Once you have a good conversation going, don't let the

conversation drag on forever. It's best to leave people wanting more, so be the first to end it.

That's how other people come to see you as a great conversationalist.

4. ENDLESS CONVERSATION TOPICS

If you struggle with coming up with conversation topics, check out how you can generate endless

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You'll never run out of conversation topics again!

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5. ITS NOT ABOUT THE TOPICS

A lot of people ask me to give them interesting conversation topics so they can have interesting

conversations.

Ironically, it is not really the topics that make a conversation interesting. Instead of worrying about

having INTERESTING TOPICS to talk about, you should be thinking about how to talk about

ANYTHING, even mundane things, in an INTERESTING way. Being able to do that is jedi master level

stuff, my friend.

As an exercise, think about how you can talk about paint drying in an interesting way. Drop me an

e-mail and let me know what you come up with!

6. START STORYTELLING

A lot of good conversation is made up of storytelling. If storytelling is not something you normally

do a lot of, you definitely need to work on incorporating it into your conversational toolbelt.

Storytelling is a large subject, but here are a few basic pointers about storytelling:

-A story is not merely a sequence of events (more on this below).

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-Its not merely the story itself that is interesting. HOW you tell a story is very key.

-Bring human drama into the equation, i.e. find the drama within a story and emphasize that part of it.

-Don't just jump straight into the action of a story. Make sure you set the SCENE of the story first.

People don't want to just hear what happened. You need to create the context for the rest of your

story.

-Make sure you spend time writing down stories about things that have happened to you in your life

and constantly refine them until they become compelling stories.

7. MINIMIZE QUESTIONS

I know that Dale Carnegie wrote that you need to be interested in other people if you want to make

friends. This is true to a certain extent, but I think a lot of people have interpreted this advice to

mean peppering people with questions. They turn every interaction with another person into a game

of twenty questions. Trust me, you are not being a good conversationalist if all you do is ask the

other person questions.

Instead of asking one question after another, focus on making statements, storytelling, and

using questions only to transition topics.

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You don't have to go crazy with minimizing questions, but try to limit questions to less than 20 25
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of the time you are conversing with someone. If you find yourself going above 50 %, you have to cut

back.

8. METAPHORS

Using metaphors to describe ordinary things in your conversation is THE BEST WAY to talk about

something in an interesting way. This is the one tip to learn and implement if you don't learn

anything else from this report!

Example: Instead of saying something was "boring", you can say "It was as riveting as boiled chicken

breast with a side of overcooked cabbage".

9. DEVELOP A "DEFAULT TOOL"

I know I gave you a tool to come up with endless conversation topics from a "seed topic". But, how

do you come up with an initial talking point? Use an anagram for topics that you LOVE to talk about.

Here's an example of an anagram: FAT CAT, i.e. food + annoying people. + TV shows + cameras +

ayahuasca + travel . When there is no obvious seed topic, just go back to your default tool. Come up

with your own!

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10 . HOW TO ASK QUESTIONS

I know I told you to minimize questions earlier in this report, but questions are also inevitable as they

are a valid way for you to learn about someone and show interest in them.

When you do ask questions, however, don't ask questions that can be answered with a simple Yes

or No. Instead ask "open ended" questions which require someone to elaborate when they answer.

These types of questions will allow the conversation to bloom into a number of different threads,

whereas Yes/No questions have the opposite effect and make the conversation wilt.

The other time it makes sense to ask questions is to transition topics. Example: "By the way, have

you ever been to X restaurant?" Then, you are onto a new topic!

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Thanks for reading CONVERSATION 101 ! I hope you learned a lot and most importantly, I hope you

are now fully armed to start becoming a "conversation superstar"!

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Min Liu

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