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Cinderella Complex On Working Women
Cinderella Complex On Working Women
ABSTRACT: The goal of this research is to explore the Cinderella complex phenomenon on working women.
Women with Cinderella complex tendency can feel that they are in an unrescueable condition, need men to
save them, and ultimately limit their potential. The questions from this research are (1) why does the Cinder-
ella Complex exist among married-working women and unmarried-working women? (2) How does Cinderel-
la Complex appear on married-working women and unmarried-working women? (3) How does the effect of
Cinderella Complex on married-working women and unmarried-working women work? The findings from
this research cover (1) Relationship with their closest tends to become the cause of Cinderella Complex on
participant (2) The forms of Cinderella Complex that appear are the fear for success and excessive worshipping
of men (3) The effect that can be felt covers neurotic addiction and the helplessness feeling that makes women
helpless and dependent on men.
Keywords: cinderella complex, working women, married women, unmarried women.
kok gak ada abis-abisnya, mending nikah aja lah” derella Complex phenomenon. The research sample
which is translated to “Gee!, I have never ending was decided using the purposive technique. The re-
works, then I’d rather get married”. A phenomenon search samples were married working and unmarried
like this indirectly shows there is a kind of depend- women with a minimum age of 21 years old. The
ency of women to men. Marriage is taken as a solu- process for analyzing phenomenology data starts
tion to the problem that the women are experiencing. from (1) Making a list of expressions from the par-
Women are assumed to get acknowledgment and ticipants’ answers that enable those expressions to be
honor after being “saved” by men (Su & Xue 2010). shown as it is.
Social experiment regarding Cinderella Complex Each expression is treated the same (horizonaliza-
has been done by Saha & Safri (2016) on women. In tion); (2) Deciding the initial code by sorting out the
the beginning, married working women and students expressions which can be categorized and given a la-
rejected the concept of Cinderella Complex with the bel or theme. The reduction and elimination of un-
argument that work and the desire for education that clear, repeated, and overlapped expressions. (3) De-
they are doing are based on their own desire. How- termining a theme or cluster on expressions that are
ever, after a thorough understanding of the concept consistent and show similarities. Expressions that
of Cinderella Complex, they began to relate their have been labeled are the core theme of the subject’s
life to the concept. Working women realize their fi- life experiences. (4) Validation towards labeling
nancial condition is watched and guided by men, the expressions in themes.
which makes the women happy and peaceful with The expressions to be reviewed on the interview
this condition. Indirectly, women’s career and fi- transcript or observation. Expressions that have been
nance are determined by men. Cinderella Complex labeled must be ensured to go along and explicitly
on married and working women covers the limita- exist in the subjects’ life experiences. (5) Lastly, cre-
tion of women’s’ career due to marriage status that ating Individual Textural Description (ITD) that ex-
is considered slowing down women’s work rate. plains the expressions that have been validated ac-
Married women have responsibility on work and al- cording to the theme accompanied with a verbatim
so have to prioritize family (Peus et al. 2015). quotation from the interview (Sudarsyah 2016).
The goal of this research is to explore the Cinder-
ella Complex phenomenon on married working
women and un-married working women by describ- 3 RESULTS AND DISCUSSIONS
ing data obtained related to the research phenome-
non. 1) Why does the Cinderella Complex exist Cinderella Complex on working women has varying
among married-working women and unmarried- causes, appearances, and effects. The cause of the
working women? (2) How does Cinderella Complex Cinderella Complex on working married women is
appear on married-working women and unmarried- the parenting pattern. Parents become the role
working women? (3) How does the effect of Cin- model for married participants in conquering their
derella Complex on married-working women and household life and work. Married participants who
unmarried-working women work?. are working with their partner stated that parents
teach and give the advice to work with husband be-
cause the result will be much better. Even though,
2 RESEARCH METHODS participants truly wanted to work in another field,
however still chose to follow their parent’s advice.
This research used the phenomenology approach Here’s a quote from participants statement: “Kan
with the purpose of describing and explaining a so- papa mamaku juga dari dulu naneminnya gitu.
cial phenomenon in order to enable the researchers Kamu kalau bisa jadi istri support suami, bantu ker-
to interpret and understand the meaning in a social jaan suami. bisnis yang dilakoni sama suami
environment. Each individual’s life experiences are barengan itu hasilnya bisa lebih bagus daripada sa-
unique, exceptional, and meaningful in their own tu orang yang jalani kayak gitu” (My parents al-
way. Researchers can describe, understand, and in- ways say that I must work and support my husband
terpret the essence and meaning from married work- and his business. The business that is carried out
ing women and un-married working women’s expe- with the husband together will give better results
riences concerning Cinderella Complex. than if only one person runs the business. Well, my
This research about Cinderella Complex phe- parents always say that since I was young”.
nomenon on married working women and unmarried Married participants working as an employee also
working women used data collection method of an feels that parents become the role model in taking
in-depth interview and the collected data were com- work decisions as an employee. The participants’
pared with theories used to further picture the Cin- family was all working as employees. This causes
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participants to be afraid and lack of confidence when sive adoration of their partners. The partner is con-
advised to be an entrepreneur by the husband. sidered as a superior figure that can meet their
Unmarried participants who work with couples needs, kind, is able to work and appreciate her so
experience Cinderella complex tendencies caused by that the participants let the partner control them-
patriarchal culture. Participants feel that they should selves and make them helpless. Unmarried partici-
obey their partners because they are women. Partici- pants who work as employees show a functioning
pants feel helpless and obey the desire of the couple behavior below their abilities. Participants are actu-
to work together. Other than that with unmarried ally able to develop careers, but choose to limit
participants who work as employees, they feel that themselves which can lead to feelings of saturation
the current job has no future. The decision to devel- and tend to accept fate. Fear of developing a career
op a career is hampered due to family factors, name- is greater than the desire to have a better career.
ly the aunt who becomes the boss where she works. The impact of Cinderella complex on married
Participants were afraid that when she left her cur- participants who work with partners is to become fi-
rent job, family relations could deteriorate, so she nancially dependent and decision making. Partici-
career is hampered due to family factors, namely the pants limit their careers so they cannot have maxi-
aunt who becomes the boss where she works. Partic- mum income. In addition, career decisions are also
ipants were afraid that when she left her current job, dependent on the husband and family so that they are
family relations could deteriorate, so she decided to unable to make their own decisions.
stay at work now. Although there are career oppor- Married participants who work as employees also
tunities in a better place. become dependent because of self-doubt so that de-
Feelings of helplessness and dependence on men cisions making need help from other people, such as
are shown by married women who work with partners husbands, parents, and superiors. Unmarried partici-
in the form of fear of success. Participants limit pants who work with partners sometimes experience
themselves in a career because they assume that men abusive relationships. Abusive relationships that are
have a b e t t e r career than women. This is stat- carried out are related to excessive protection, pro-
ed in the following statement: “Sebenarnya sih hibition of dealing with other people, domination, to
wanita berkarir kalau menurut aku ya, wanita manipulation of the partner that makes it increasing-
berkarir setinggi-tingginya itu gak masalah asal, ly helpless, dependent, and unable to get out of this
wanita menikah ya kalau punya suami itu kalau relationship.
menurutku gimana- gimana harus kasik “muka” ke An unmarried participant who works as employ-
suami. Jadi ya gimana-gimana kan suami cowok, ees are surrendered in a career, in the sense of
laki-laki itu kepala keluarga jadi kita berkarir, doing their recent career and ac-
sebisa mungkin selama ekonomi kita cukup ya jan- c e p t i n g the existing circumstances because of
gan sampai melangkahi penghasilan suami.” ("For anxiety and doubt to maximize their abilities Cin-
me, women with good career are fine. As a married derella complex in participants is very varied
woman, we need to show something to our husband. because the background of the participants was
Yet, a husband is a man who is the leader of our quite diverse. The dependence of participants on
family. Thus, as long as our economy is sufficient, men is less visible in some participants. This is
we should not earn income that is more than our caused by lower psychological pressure on working
husband.)" women than housewives (Gove & Tudor 1973).
In married participants who work as employ- Previous research conducted by Padma (2007)
ees, the Cinderella complex form can be seen from concludes that the Cinderella complex tendency in
the lack of participants' ability to make their own married working women is lower than married
decisions. The current work is done by looking at women who do not work. This is because work pro-
examples of parents who work as employees. The vides many benefits for participants such as earning
desire to be self-employed comes from the husband's their own income, filling in their spare time, and
advice and the reason for staying on the job is cur- wanting to increase knowledge / achievement. The
rently caused by an employer who supports his work. main motivation of participants in working is to fill
As a result, the decisions taken by participants de- their spare time and increase their knowledge. Fi-
pend on others. When participants are asked to be- nancial aspects are not the main motivation for par-
come entrepreneurs, there is a feeling of fear and ticipants to work. This is because there is still the
anxiety about failure because entrepreneurship assumption that work is not the main priority for
means not being able to depend on others anymore women, but rather taking care of the family. “Kare-
and taking care of their own work. na pertama kan tugas wanita dari awal kan..
Unmarried participants who work with partners dari awal ya lebih ke keluarga. Suami yang bekerja
show a Cinderella complex tendency through exces- cuman ya jaman sekarang ya wanita juga bisa beker-
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4 CONCLUSION
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