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We can have anything we want, but we can’t have everything. Despite being aware of this, we obsess
over what others have that we don’t. We compare our paycheques, houses, and even our
appearances to those we barely know. We spend time thinking about the perfect lives of others while
drowning ourselves in self-pity and a profuse sense of failure. Such habits can easily fool us into
falling for the comparison trap, leaving us feeling inferior or depressed.
In the age of social media, this comparison trap has become even more wider than ever. According to
a study, “Social media generates ubiquitous comparison information and accessible feedback, such
as the number of likes, followers, comments, and retweets. Information such as these allow people to
form impressions of others quickly.” Another research suggests many use social media to find
inspiration and to figure out their purpose in life. But in the process, they lose sight of their main
objective and end up getting discouraged by the good fortunes of others. What follows next—as per
the research—is they: “feel inadequate, have poorer self-evaluations and experience negative
emotions”.
So, how do you stop comparing yourself to others? To get started, here are a few important tips to
climb out of the comparison trap.
Shift your focus inward
Focusing on your goals means taking charge of your life, without blurring your vision by comparing
your goals with others’. One way to do this would be to keep a daily journal of your routine, making a
list of experiences you’d like to have, challenging yourself to try something new, and more. When you
shift your focus towards yourself, you start living a more fulfilling life. The more you do this, the sooner
you will stop comparing yourself to others, and enjoy what you have.
Count your blessings
Make an effort to value what you have, and not be stressed about the things that you don’t. Be
grateful for all the good things in your life. They could be your family, friends, or a job that you love.
Gratitude prevents you from becoming unhappy and makes you appreciate your life. According
to research, gratitude invites positive emotions that can have many physical benefits including
“decreasing levels of the stress hormone cortisol and increasing oxytocin”—the bonding hormone that
makes us feel good.