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Husbands, love your wives, and do not be harsh with them. (Col 3:19)
Know this, my beloved brothers: let every person be quick to hear, slow to speak, slow to anger;
for the anger of man does not produce the righteousness of God.“ (James 1:19-20)
I therefore, a prisoner for the Lord, urge you to walk in a manner worthy of the calling to which
you have been called, with all humility and gentleness, with patience, bearing with one another
in love, eager to maintain the unity of the Spirit in the bond of peace. (Eph 4:1-3)
FAMILY AND MARITAL ISSUES:
•Marital Conflict – impact on children
•Adultery
•Divorce – impact on children; custody/care and control/visitation;
reconstituted families
•Spousal violence
•Sexual deviance
•Addictions (substance, behavioural)
•Abortion
•In-laws, extended family issues
•Caregiving for family member with mental illness or addictions,
chronic or life-threatening illness, dementia, disability
PARENTING AND CHILD-RELATED ISSUES:
•Parenting
•Parent-child interaction
•Children at risk – mental health, suicidal/self-harming,
defiance/rebellion, offending, gang, drugs, internet addiction,
school refusal, sexuality issues, disabilities
•Prodigal children
•PKs and MKs
•Child abuse and neglect
FACTORS AFFECTING RELATIONSHIP 1. Personality Factors
2. Attachment Styles
STABILITY AND SATISFACTION 3. Interactions Patterns
KNOW YOURSELF: PERSONALITY TRAITS
1. How would you describe yourself? Which end are you leaning towards?
•Openness
•Conscientiousness
•Extroversion
•Agreeableness
•Neuroticism
Attachment
Relational
Factors Gottman & Levenson, 1992
(Interactions)
7. Rooting our sense of self in Christ’s work for us and our identity as a
child of God
Accepting influence
STEPS TOWARDS MORE HEALTH COMMUNICATION
AND CONFLICT MANAGEMENT
Taking time out if needed
✓We demolish arguments and every pretension that sets itself up against the knowledge
of God, and we take captive every thought to make it obedient to Christ (2 Cor10:5)
✓Finally, brothers and sisters, whatever is true, whatever is noble, whatever is right,
whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is admirable—if anything is excellent or
praiseworthy—think about such things. (Phil 4:8)
✓Being confident of this, that He who began a good work in you will carry it on to
completion until the day of Christ Jesus. (Philippians 1:6)
SUMMARY
1. Relationship difficulties may have arisen from family of origin issues,
childhood experiences, personality, or interactional issues.
3. Nothing is so bad or so insignificant that you can’t talk about or get help for
7. Be prayerful
Imminent risk of danger to self or Police (999) and Ambulance (995) Police and Ambulance services
others Reporting
Financial problems Social Service Office (SSOs) (MSF) Financial Assistance
Comcare hotline 1800-220 0000 School Pocket Money Fund
Parenting offered 10 Parenting Support Providers Parenting programmes (MSF) – Triple P and Signposts
(PSP) – MSF website - Triple P Level 2 Seminars
- Triple P Level 3 4 one to one consultations
or - Triple P Level 4 5 group sessions + 3 phone sessions
- Triple P Online (TPOL) – toddlers to tweens; pre-teens and teens
email (register online on MSF website)
parentingsupport@msf.gov.sg - Signposts for primary schools – 5 weekly group sessions
Pray - “Let our hearts be broken by the things that break God’s heart”
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A father to the fatherless, a defender of
widows, is God in his holy dwelling.
God sets the lonely in families.
Ps 68: 5