In a family, if your partner hurts you emotionally, would you rather push him/her away or pull

him/her back to give a second chance.

In this case, our team chooses to PULL him/her back and give him/her second chance . What is a Second
Chance?
According to Merriam Webster Dictionary, second chance is an opportunity to try something again after
failing one time.
Second chances are about unconditional love and forgiveness. This forgiveness formed a new bond
rooted in hope, love and trust. Second chances provide people with hope, patience and gratefulness. Hope
for a better future, patience while making the right decisions and gratefulness for the opportunity to be able
to start over and learn from our mistakes.
A second chance extended to another person is also a second chance for you. Don’t limit your potential
by closing your mind to the possibility of change. Your decision that someone is not worthy of forgiveness
is in fact a statement saying you are not worthy of peace.
In a study, University of Bremen psychologist Katja Hanke teamed up with Christin-Melanie Vauclar of
the University of Lisbon on a massive analysis of nearly 42,000 participants from 30 countries on cross-
cultural variations in the personality trait of forgiveness. Presumably, in countries that emphasize the virtue
of forgiveness, people would be more likely to espouse this trait within their own personalities.
Analyzing the data from 168 separate studies, Hanke and Vauclar examined the relative ranking of
forgiveness on a list of 18 values. Forgiveness ranked eighth overall, beaten out by virtues such as honesty
(#1), responsibility (#2), and loving (#3), but it outranked imaginative (#17) and obedient (#18).
We chose to pull him/her back and give him/her a second chance for the following reasons:

REASONS:

1. IT WILL MAKE YOU STRONGER

As tough as it is, practicing forgiveness and giving second chances will help you mature as a person.
Learning how to “pick your battles” will help you recognize when addressing a conflict is actually worth it.
It was Mahatma Gandhi who said, "Forgiveness is the attribute of the strong" – and better about yourself.
Holding a grudge is bad for your blood pressure (no surprises there), causes anxiety and can reduce your life
expectancy. It affects you and not them – the offender has probably forgotten all about what's making you
bitter and twisted.

These wounds can leave you with lasting feelings of anger and bitterness — even vengeance.But if you don't
practice forgiveness, you might be the one who pays most dearly. By embracing forgiveness, you can also
embrace peace, hope, gratitude and joy. Consider how forgiveness can lead you down the path of physical,
emotional and spiritual well-being.

Aline with this reason, studies have found that the act of forgiveness can reap huge rewards for your health,
lowering the risk of heart attack; improving cholesterol levels and sleep; and reducing pain, blood pressure ,
and levels of anxiety, depression and stress. And research points to an increase in the forgiveness-health
connection as you age.

“There is an enormous physical burden to being hurt and disappointed,” says Karen Swartz, M.D. , director
of the Mood Disorders Adult Consultation Clinic at The Johns Hopkins Hospital. Chronic anger puts you
into a fight-or-flight mode, which results in numerous changes in heart rate, blood pressure and immune
response . Those changes, then, increase the risk of depression, heart disease and diabetes, among other
conditions. Forgiveness, however, calms stress levels, leading to improved health.

2. FOR THE CHILDREN’S SAKE

Even though it’s hard, we should forgive our partner for the sake of our children, for the future of our
children. In life, we need to sacrifice our feelings and emotions. Hoping that the person who we gonna
forgive will change by learning through his/her mistakes.

According to the research of Patrick Fagan and Aaron Churchill entitled “The Effect of Divorce on the
Children” When parents divorce each other, another sort of divorce occurs between the parents and their
children. The primary effect of divorce is a decline in the relationship between parent and child.
Immediately after a divorce, most parents have two sets of problems: their adjustment to their own
intrapsychic conflicts and to their role as a divorced parent.

The stress of divorce damages the parent-child relationship for as many as 40 percent of divorced
mothers.The support they receive from home is rated much lower by children of divorced parents than by
children from intact homes, and these negative ratings become more pronounced by the time children are in
high school and college.

Children in divorced families receive less emotional support, financial assistance, and practical help from
their parents. Divorced homes show a decrease in language stimulation, pride, affection, stimulation of
academic behavior, encouragement of social maturity, and warmth directed towards the children. The
presence of fewer toys and games is common, as is an increase in physical punishment. Though some
studies show that parental divorce itself may not affect parenting, it often leads to worry, exhaustion, and
stress for parents. These factors affect both parenting and parental control. Thus, divorce and separation
result in less caring and more overprotective parenting during the adolescent years.

Moreover, the research also shows that there is a significant relationship between the children of divorced
parents compared to the children of non-divorced parents in the cases of teenage pregnancy, abortion,
increased trouble in romantic relationships, decline in school achievement, increased emotional and
psychiatric burdens, suicide, intake of drugs and juvenile delinquency. Wherein, in this cases the children of
divorced parents has higher rates compared to the children of non-divorce parents.

3. ROAD TO A BETTER RELATIONSHIP

A grudge is like an emotional anchor. It will keep you grounded in a pool of negativity, and this will drain
you emotionally. Forgiveness and a second chance will be your wind and your sail to moving forward.

Life is too short to leave things on bad terms. Granted, the best solution in some situations is to walk away,
especially when fixing the situation will in itself could cause further harm. But if you have regrets about the
way things panned out, giving someone a second chance might lead to a better outcome.

Giving second chance is worth waiting especially if that person is willing to change and is sincere to his/her
apology. Both of you have learned from the mistakes of each other, and this will be a foundation to a better
relationship.

We believe that a second chance is an opportunity to be better and to grow as a person. We also believe that
these mistakes are just a test on how strong your relationship is. These mistakes serves as a learning or
lesson without them we wouldn’t be that mature or experienced to handle these kind of situations.

According to the research of Dr. Nicole Anderson, senior author on the paper and senior scientist at
Baycrest's Rotman Research Institute, he has found evidence that mistakes that are a 'near miss' can help a
person learn the information better than if no errors were made at all. These types of errors can serve as
stepping stones to remembering the right answer. But if the error made is a wild guess and out in left field,
then a person does not learn the correct information as easily. In this case, mistakes serve as a stepping stone
or foundation to to do the right thing and change for the better that he/she deserves the second chance you
gave.

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4. YOU’VE NEEDED FORGIVENESS TOO

Think about a time when you yourself had to ask for forgiveness or a second chance. Why did you do so?
Because a second chance is an opportunity to be better and to grow as a person. If you hope that others can
see this type of potential growth in you, be sure to offer it when you see potential in another person too.

5. YOU WILL LEARN FROM IT

Try to treat negative situations as learning opportunities. You can learn how to avoid negative situations, but
you can also learn how to be a better communicator because of them — both with the person who you want
to forgive and with others you may encounter later in life.

6. YOU DESERVE PEACE OF MIND

By denying someone a second chance, you are denying yourself the peace that comes with forgiving and
moving forward. Release the burden from yourself, as it is not yours to carry.

1. That factor of subjective well-being. You feel happier when you forgive someone else. The cross-national study
supported what research on individuals has shown, and suggests that being magnanimous pays off in terms of your
own emotional benefits.
2. People can change. Additional research on why you should give second chances focuses on the idea that personality
isn’t set in stone. People can learn from their mistakes—and when you give them a second opportunity, you allow them
to demonstrate this.
3. It’s practical and saves emotional energy. You gave your mechanic the job of fixing a defective valve and now it’s
broken again. You could hire someone else to fix the fix, but that person will know less than the mechanic who tried the
first time. Similarly, your previous romantic partner may have done things that caused you to break up, but when you
start with someone new, you’re back to square one. Once your anger subsides, pushing the “reset” button on the first
partner may just give you greater insight and appreciation for that relationship.
4. You’d like people to treat you the same way. Turn the tables and imagine that it’s you who needs the second chance.
Wouldn’t you feel better if you were given an opportunity to try again? Whether it’s the car you’ve been hired to fix or
the relationship that took a turn for the worse due to your own mistakes, it’s nice to know that someone is willing to
give you a chance to redeem yourself.

Can You Learn to Be More Forgiving?

Forgiveness is not just about saying the words. “It is an active process in which you make a conscious
decision to let go of negative feelings whether the person deserves it or not,” Swartz says. As you release the
anger, resentment and hostility, you begin to feel empathy, compassion and sometimes even affection for the
person who wronged you.

Studies have found that some people are just naturally more forgiving. Consequently, they tend to be more
satisfied with their lives and to have less depression, anxiety, stress, anger and hostility. People who hang on
to grudges, however, are more likely to experience severe depression and post-traumatic stress disorder , as
well as other health conditions. But that doesn’t mean that they can’t train themselves to act in healthier
ways. In fact, 62 percent of American adults say they need more forgiveness in their personal lives,
according to a survey by the nonprofit Fetzer Institute.

Do you understand that forgiveness does not mean condoning anything?  It doesn’t change the wrong, you are simply making a
choice to stop carrying it with you. It doesn’t mean that you are extending an opportunity for this person to hurt you again. 
Forgiveness is about your personal decision to make your life better.
· Extending your forgiveness will not be able to fix everything.  Maybe the person who hurt you will remain angry and hurtful. 
This is not about changing that.  Release the burden from yourself and let them go.