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Isabelle Marshall
English 1201
18 November 2021
Literature Review
day grow older and find someone to marry and settle down with. That thought
has been drilled into our minds for years, but sometimes getting into relationships
can cause more harm than bring any love to you. Sometimes you can't reach out
because of past experiences that ruined the idea of love and closeness to you
because of that you lose friendships and potential partners due to these bad
affect your future relationships and how do you communicate effectively about
this without sabotaging your relationships or hurting the people in your life?
In the past relationships were never about love. Women would meet with
several men, with her parents present, to pick the most suitable match for
marriage, which heavily relied on factors such as financial and social status. In
many previous years, love was not seen as the central importance to a marriage,
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and if it was to come it would emerge after the wedding had already occurred so
it wasn't about love it was about money and social status. Of course neither
partner was allowed to talk about their issues mentally or happening. They were
made to shut up and look like they were happy in their situation. Since there was
no love in a relationship like this, this is the type of relationship that would cause
a trauma upon someone to shut down and no longer try to express themselves
because they were stuck in this situation. In this age it was taboo anyways to
express yourself in any way, so talking about your feelings or what is bothering
you at the time is already just not happening and not normal at all.
Trauma has a major impact on the mental health and wellbeing of people
globally. Friends, family and members of the public are often well positioned to
potentially traumatic event. In Offering mental health first aid to a person after a
potentially traumatic event It says “The Delphi consensus method was used to
someone rather than preparing to respond while the other person is talking is key
to rebuilding trust, and should be done shortly after your infraction. If you hurt
your partner, ask what your partner thinks happened and why it hurt. Empathize
with aspects you couldn't see from your vantage point. Apologize for what your
partner perceived as the harm. During these conversations, you must focus your
full attention and time on listening and, without interrupting, asking questions to
someone's trust in you, the person might have trouble believing in your
can harm the emotional and physical connections between partners. Rebuilding
trust between people can be a long road. It's probably one of the hardest things
that most people have to experience, because it's very time-consuming, there's
been people stuck in this mindset that need to put in the real work. Oftentimes
they may or may not need professional help, depending on the scenario, to get to
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professional treatment, may help to prevent the onset of mental illness or may
minimise the severity of mental illness should it develop many people do not
receive treatment, family and friends can play a role in recognising the symptoms
professional help. The mental health first aid guidelines for trauma have been
“An increased level of detail compared to the previous version of the guidelines,
giving more guidance in providing initial assistance, talking about the trauma,
understand.
through relationships too quickly searching for "the one" and making quick
but "check out" or do not work on their issues. Some sabotage by not entering
relationships. This is due to a belief that they are not worthy or that the
individuals are moving through relationships too quickly searching for "the one"
and making quick assessments of their romantic partners. While others sabotage
In this case, individuals have "checked out", or have lost hope, and are no longer
theme to explain motivation amongst all these cases is fear. Participants in the
Peel and Caltabiano study shared their heartbreak stories and explained how
fear of being hurt again, fear of rejection, or fear of abandonment prevent them
from trying new relationships. Fear was also mentioned as a motive for why
and loss of hope. Defensiveness, trust difficulty, and lack of relationship skills
coupled relationship.
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essential part of any healthy partnership. All relationships have ups and downs,
but a healthy communication style can make it easier to deal with conflict and
relationship and each person has different communication needs and styles.
Healthy communication styles require practice and hard work. Listening is a very
experiences, interests and concerns with your partner, and showing affection and
close and attached to your partner. It means being able to comfort and be
comforted, and to be open and honest with each other after a toxic relationship.
This openness and care for your partner is one of the most important parts of a
and to help change those patterns, as well as providing strategies, tips and a
All the sources that have been discussed and analyzed came from the
articles that are represented. These articles were set on helping accept love and
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trust in life. They were made for the people with these issues or the people they
love to understand what and why these people do what they do. Most were from
opposing viewpoints and were academic journals based upon mental health
struggles in relationships and trust after traumatic experience with someone you
loved. A lot of these were made for the friends and families of the certain
individuals like this that do these things as an escape or a way to not get hurt and
to understand why they do this. All of these articles connect with each other
through love and trust and the question of; Do past experiences in relationships
affect your future relationships and how do you communicate effectively about
this without sabotaging your relationships or hurting the people in your life?
Most misconceptions would be that it's their fault that they don't
communicate when people go through traumatic events that cause them to shut
down or not trust. There's also so many mental illnesses or illnesses in general
that cause you to separate from the people around you. In the article Offering
mental health first aid to a person after a potentially traumatic event “In 2015, it
was estimated that in the past year, 3.6% of the global population experienced
disorder. Anxiety disorders were ranked as the sixth largest contributor to non-
fatal health burden and depressive disorders ranked as the largest contributor. In
2010, mental and substance use disorders accounted for 183.9 million disability-
adjusted life- years or 7.4% of all DALYs globally. Significant treatment gaps for
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only received by a minority of those who need it.” This shows the statistics and
facts of these illnesses that cause this to happen. Sometimes the person who
won't communicate doesn't have trauma that makes them do this the illness
does. It also says “When you violate someone's trust in you, the person might
romantic relationships, distrust can harm the emotional and physical connections
one of the greatest costs of broken trust is the loss of rapport due to negative
emotions and therefore avoiding each other, which prevents resolving the
distrust.” With partners you can lose trust in each other due to a number of
things but with this you have to learn how to trust your partner again and learn
There are easy steps to help your communication with your partners and
Nonverbal Cues, Don't Try to Read Their Mind, Conversations are a Two-Way
Street, Set Aside Time to Talk and Tell Them What You Need From Them in
order to have good communication with the people around you. The reason
people do this is due to not being able to process your feelings and what's
happening in your life. As it’s been stated before “If you're on the receiving end of
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someone who has made mistakes, not a perpetrator whose only intention is
harm. You, too, likely have made bad or inconsiderate choices at some point.
Recognizing this can help you work together. Rebuilding trust can be a long road.
It's probably one of the hardest things that most people have to experience,
because it's very time-consuming, Jackson said. I've seen people stick in there,
put in the real work. Oftentimes they may or may not need professional help,
depending on the scenario, to get to that goal. But once it gets to that place, I
often feel like those relationships are stronger than they were before.” Trust is
truly one of the hardest things to earn or keep. It's easily broken and it's one of
the hardest things to earn back. Some people trust so easily and others can’t due
to a number of reasons that's been discussed. it just depends on the person and
their circumstances
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Work Cited
Peel, Raquel, and Nerina Caltabiano. "The relationship sabotage scale: an
evaluation of factor analyses and constructive validity." BMC Psychology, vol. 9,
no. 1, 19 Sept. 2021, p. NA. Gale In Context: Opposing Viewpoints,
link.gale.com/apps/doc/A678028682/OVIC?u=dayt30401&sid=bookmark-
OVIC&xid=2fc077df. Accessed 13 Nov. 2021.
Chalmers, Kathryn J., et al. "Offering mental health first aid to a person after a
potentially traumatic event: a Delphi study to redevelop the 2008 guidelines."
BMC Psychology, vol. 8, no. 1, 6 Oct. 2020, p. NA. Gale In Context: Opposing
Viewpoints, link.gale.com/apps/doc/A637885317/OVIC?
u=dayt30401&sid=bookmark-OVIC&xid=612a177a. Accessed 17 Nov. 2021.
"How to rebuild trust in your relationships." CNN Wire, 5 Oct. 2021, p. NA. Gale
In Context: Opposing Viewpoints, link.gale.com/apps/doc/A677964032/OVIC?
u=dayt30401&sid=bookmark-OVIC&xid=8583c3a5. Accessed 13 Nov. 2021.
“The 10 most common problems people have in relationships – and how to solve
them” inews.co.uk
https://inews.co.uk/inews-lifestyle/wellbeing/10-common-problems-people-
relationships-solve-125001
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