Have you ever thought of yourself as a victim of a toxic

relationship? To answer this question, I will give you

clear information about toxic relationships First is the
definition A relationship is considered positive when
people in that relationship give each other positive
energy and volunteer to help each other. On the contrary,
the term Negative Relationship is a way of saying a
relationship makes us feel uncomfortable, lacking
confidence, and always in a state of anxiety. Often, that
relationship stems from dishonesty, disrespect, and
exploitation.
So how do we know that a relationship is bad You know,
toxic relationships are not only as simple in love as we
think, sometimes they also happen between members of
family and friendship. So how do we know? Here are
some signs to help you realize you're in a toxic
relationship. The first is the feeling of not being
supported When you are in a toxic relationship, instead
of being congratulated when you succeed, your success
will be a barrier to the other person, all desires and
achievements become competition and the other person.
will be jealous and can do anything to destroy your
success. The second is a bad attitude towards others This
is one of the most noticeable signs of a toxic relationship.
Through that person's daily communication with you and
with those around them, we can find the answer to the
question Is it a toxic relationship? When talking to them,
you will feel disrespected, and in the conversation, there
will often be statements with criticism and sarcasm, and
when you remind them, the response is common: "It was
just a harmless joke" Besides, this negative relationship
is also shown through a number of events such as - Often
screams and throws objects around when angry - Using
words that hurt the listener Next comes controlling
behavior When your partner exhibits behaviors like
controlling your finances, time, or relationships, it can be
toxic. They force your life to go the way they want,
deprive you of your independence, and private time, and
almost want to separate you from relatives, friends, and
favorite activities. Some controlling behaviors include: -
Threatened - controls your thoughts, always wants to
convince you that what is wrong is right - Interrogate and
want to know all information about you and the people
around you -Request access to personal devices such as
phones and social media platforms As for you, you will
always feel exhausted Toxicity will make you feel
unbalanced and exhausted because most of your time,
spirit, and energy in your relationship is spent on your
partner. When arguments happen in a relationship, it
drains your energy. Proactively get more If you feel the
same way, think about the last time you took the time to
do what you wanted, and whether the relationships
around you were affected by this relationship. When you
realize you're the victim of a toxic relationship, how do
you escape it? Set specific deadlines The longer the
relationship, the greater the degree of dependence and
the more difficult it is to end. Sometimes it's not just
because you can't give up, but also for other objective
reasons, such as if going your own way will affect your
loved ones, for example. Give yourself a “deadline” to
take cutting actions. Choose whatever time is best for
you to solve the problem and avoid procrastinating too
long. Assertiveness is the key to truly breaking free of a
bad habit and a negative relationship. Stop comforting
yourself To believe that this relationship will get better,
to believe that you can change the other person, is to
believe that the relationship will eventually fail. If these
beliefs were possible, you wouldn't have to console
yourself like that anymore. Trying to hold on will make
you no longer brave, or strong, and even reduce your
ability to think and decide. Listen to yourself If the
poison persists for a long time, it will gradually become a
habitual relationship, and the person involved will even
try to deny that it is toxic. Mental health author Therese
J. Borchard recommends asking yourself: Does being
with them help you feel energized or tired? Do I really
want to spend time with them or do I just feel like I have
to? Do I often feel disappointed by their behavior and
words? Am I trying to make this relationship work
harder than they are? If they were just strangers, would I
want to walk up to them and hope for them to become
my lover based on their actions and words to those
around them? You can also write a diary, find a trusted
relative to confide in or check in on your physical and
mental health. Be persistent with your choice After
breaking up a relationship, you will likely still linger and
remember the beautiful memories you had. However, be
persistent and confident with your choice. To come to
this decision, you had to go through a struggle that was
not easy. When you have the thought of "wanting to go
back", look to close people for advice. This is a difficult
decision, a difficult time, but also a choice that will make
your life much better. Finally, give yourself a break
Mental and even physical injuries are something we
cannot avoid when breaking up a relationship. At this
time, you need to rest so that you have time to recover,
reflect, and be healthy enough to start a new relationship.
Activities like exercising, meditating, or simply
performing emotional “first aid” exercises are ways you
can