Building and

Maintaining
Relationships
Big Question: How does knowing more about
attraction, love, and commitment help you become
more responsible in a relationship

 Objectives
At the end of this module, you will be able to:
1. discuss an understanding of teen-age relationship,
including the acceptable and unacceptable expressions
of attraction,
2. express your ways of showing attraction, love, and
commitment; and
3. identify ways to become responsible in a relationship.
WHAT DO WE MEAN BY PERSONAL
RELATIONSHIP?
 Personal relationship refer to close connections
between people, formed by emotional bonds
and interactions.

 Relationship are not static; they are continually

evolving, and to fully enjoy and benefit from
them we need skills, information, inspiration,
practice, and social support.
3 KINDS OF PERSONAL RELATIONSHIP

 FAMILY

★The concepts of “family” is an essential component in any

discussion of relationship, but this varies greatly from person to person.

★The Bureau of the Census defines family as “two or more persons

who are related by birth, marriage, or adoption and who live together
as one household.” Some typical characteristics of a family are support,
mutual trust, regular interactions, shared beliefs and values, a security
and a sense of community.
FRIENDS

★A friendship can be thought of as a close tie between two

people that is often built upon mutual experiences, shared
interests, proximity, and emotional bonding.

★ Note that online friends don’t count toward close ties—

research indicates that a large online network isn’t nearly as
powerful as having a few close, real-life friends.
WHY PERSONAL RELATIONSHIP ARE
IMPORTANT?
 Healthy relationship are a vital component of health and well-
being. There is compelling evidence that the health risks from
being alone or isolated in one’s life are comparable to the
risks associated with the cigarette smoking, blood pressure,
and obesity

Research show that healthy relationship can help you:

PARTNERSHIP

★Romantic partnership, including marriage, are close

relationship formed between two people that are built upon
affection, trust, intimacy, and romantic love. We usually
experience this kind of relationship with only one person at a
time.
LIVE LONGER

 A review of 148 studies found that people with strong social

relationship are 50% less likely to die prematurely.

 Dan Buettner’s Blue Zones research calculates that

committing to a life partner can add 3 years to life expectancy
DEAL WITH STRESS

 In a study of over 100 people, researchers found that people

who completed a stressful task experienced a faster recovery
when they were reminded of people with whom they had
strong relationship.
BE HEALTHIER

 2012 international Gallup poll found that people who feel

they have friends and family to count on are generally more
satisfied with their personal health than people who feel
isolated. And hanging out with healthy people increases your
own likelihood of health, Christakis and Fowler show that
non-obese people are more likely to have non-obese friends
because healthy habits spread through our social networks.
FEEL RICHER

 A survey by the national Bureau of Economic Research of

5,000 people found that doubling your group of friends has
the same effect on your well-being as a 50% increase in
income!
Low social support is linked to a number of
health consequences such as:

 DEPRESSION:
Those person with fewer satisfying social connections
experienced higher levels of depression, pain, and fatigue.

 DECREASED IMMUNE FUNCTION:

Study also found a correlation between loneliness and
immune system dysregulation, meaning that a lack of social
connections can increase your chances of becoming sick.
 HIGHER BLOOD PRESSURE:
Based on the study that loneliness could predict higher
blood pressure even years later, indicating that the effects of
isolation have long lasting consequences.

Remember:
Study found that a lack of relationship can cause multiple
problems with physical, emotional, and spiritual health. The
research is clear and devastating: isolation is fatal.
25 MOST COMMON
RELATIONSHIP PROBLEMS
1. Affairs/ infidelity/ cheating
2. Sexual Issues
3. Differences of core Values an beliefs
4. Life stages
5. Traumatic
6. Stress, work-related stress, illness, mental health, financial problems
and problems with the children and infertility and many more.
7. Bored in or with your relationship
8. Jealous Partner
9. Blended Family Issues
10. Violence: verbal and physical abuse
11. Knowing you should not have got married in the first
place.
12. Lack of responsibility
13. Unrealistic Expectations
14. Addictions
15. Excessive reliance on social media
16. Lack of support
17. Manipulation
18. Lack of communication
19. One-sided
20. Perceived lack of concern, care, and
consideration/attentiveness
21. Disappointments
22. Long term depression
23. Differences in opinion on how to discipline/ deal
with the children
24. Long-term stress.
25. An unsupportive partner during pregnancy
Nurture your Relationships

 Connect with your family

 Practice gratitude
 Learn to forgive
 Be compassionate
 Accept others
 Create rituals together
 Spend the right amount of time together
Ten rules for finding love and creating
long-lasting authentic relationship
 You must love yourself first
 Partnering is a choice must nurture the relationship for it to thrive
 Creating love is a process
 Relationship provide opportunities to grow
 Communication is essential
 Negotiation will be required
 Your Relationships will be challenged by change
 You must nurture the relationship for it to thrive
 Renewal is the key to longevity
 You will forget all this the moment you fall in love
Keeping Healthy Relationship

In a healthy relationship, both Partners

 Are treated with kindness and respect
 Are honest with each other
 Like to spend time together
 Take an interest in things that are important to each other
 Respect one another’s emotional, physical and sexual limits
 Can speak honestly about their feelings
 Love should never hurt
 Physical Abuse
hitting
Slapping
Kicking
 Sexual abuse
unwelcome sexual comments to kissing to intercourse.
 Emotional abuse
harms your self-esteem or causes shame.

Remember: You deserve healthy, happy

Relationships. Abuse of any type is never okay
Break the silence: Stop the Violence

 One out every eleven teens reports being

hit or physically hurt by boyfriend or
girlfriend in the past twelve months. But
why is that, and how can we change it?
How to communicate?

 Talking openly makes Relationships more fun and

satisfying; especially when you both talk about
each other’s need for physical, emotional, mental
and sexual health.
 Ina romantic relationship, it is important to
communicate openly on Issues of sex and sexual
health.
So what’s talk about?

Sexually transmitted infections

(STIs)
Possibility of pregnancy
Right time for sex
Boundaries
Talking to your parents

 Youprobably think that talking to your parents

about sex is impossible but it’s very essential in
order to be aware and acknowledging knowledge
about sex
How to avoid peer or date pressure
 Hang out with friends who also believe that it’s OK to not be ready for sex yet.
 Go out with a group of friends rather than only your date.
 Introduce your friends to your parents.
 Invite your friends to your home.
 Stick up for your friends if they are being pressured to have sex.
 Think of what you would say in advance in case someone tries to pressure you.
 Always carry money for a telephone call or can in case you feel uncomfortable.
 Be ready to call your mom, dad or a friend to pick you up if you need to leave a
date.
 Never feel obligated to “pay someone back” with sex in return for a date or gift.
 Say “no” and mean “no” if that’s how you feel.
Drugs and Alcohol

 The effects of drugs and alcohol can make it hard

to think clearly, let alone make the best possible
decisions about sex. While your under the
influence of drugs or alcohol it is easy to make a
decision you’ll regret later-decisions that can lead
to a sexually transmitted infection or an
unwanted pregnancy.
Basics Rights in a relationship

 The right to emotional support

 The right to be heard by the other and to respond
 The right to have your own point of view, even if this differs from your
partners
 The right to have your feelings and experiences acknowledge as real
 The right to live free accusation and blame
 The right to live free from criticism and judgement
 The right to live free from emotional and physical treat
 The right to live free from angry outburst and rage
 The right to be respectfully asked, Rather than ordered
 Inaddition to these basic Relationships rights,
consider how you can develop

Patience
Honesty
Kindness
Respect
That’s all that thank you