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TEENAGE FRIENDSHIPS
l.Introduction:
What are friendships all about? Why is it so important to have friends?
Friendships are bonds between two or more people who want to engage
with one another. It involves having mutual interest in each other’s
thoughts, feelings and experiences. Friendships work on reciprocity of
trust, respect, emotional support and admiration."Friendships are
relationships that involve two very critical dimensions – interdependence
and voluntary participation," explains Northern Illinois University
psychologist and friendship expert in an email interview. As anyone who's
ever been in a friendship knows, it's a complex process and experience.
"True friendships are hallmarked by each member's desire to engage with
the other; it's about mutual interest in one another's experiences and
thoughts, as well as a sense of 'belongingness' and connection," she says.
"Friendships require reciprocity of admiration, respect, trust, and emotional
and instrumental support."
That's all well and good, but if a potential new friend doesn't see the same
joyous charms in you, it's unlikely that anything deep and lasting will come
of it. That said, there's no telling when and where a friendship will develop.
Often, they arise from a shared interest or hobby, and people are typically
drawn together because they're in the same stage of life, like new parents
or retirees. People of similar backgrounds and cultures also tend to come
together by bonding over shared lifelong experiences. Although most of
these relationships take time to get really deep, occasionally friendship is
more like a lightning strike. "Sometimes you can be in a big group of new
people and you catch someone's eye and it's like 'boom!' instant
friendship," Degges-White says about an experience she's termed the
"clicking phenomenon." "It's kind of like that burst of 'love at first sight,' but
it's a friendship, not romance."
What Are the Different Types of Friends?
Friendship is categorized into four types: acquaintance, friend, close friend
and best friend. Over time, an increase in mutual respect and the degree of
reciprocity builds up and strengthens friendship.Males usually bond with
one another during activities while women bond while sharing their feelings.
Like everyone, young people can have occasional mood swings, feel
irritable sometimes and be particularly sensitive to rejection and criticism.
But if these symptoms and behaviors have lasted for two weeks or more,
the young person could have depression.Depression is a mental illness,
and it is one of the most common health problems for young people in
Australia. There is no single cause of depression; life events, hormones,
chemical imbalances, and genetics can all play differing roles depending on
the individual. While each young person will have their own responses to
life events, some circumstances that can contribute to anxiety and
depression in young people.
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V.Possible Solutions
Self-reflection and awareness are the keys to overcoming intimacy
problems. Often, pushing people away is an unconscious process, a
defense mechanism to avoid stressful situations. When these mechanisms
are in tip-top condition, we don’t notice them. But when they malfunction,
we get problems. Today’s understanding of psychological defense
mechanisms suggests that we can get a better grip on problematic
behaviors by learning to recognize how we defend ourselves and why.
Keeping a journal of how you feel day-to-day might help you spot patterns
and emotional triggers.From there, you can start replacing problematic
habits with positive ones. Letting people into your life is a gradual process,
but you can do things to make it a smoother one.Start small for example,
next time you get an Insta DM from a friend you keep ignoring, send a short
message back instead of leaving it on unread. This way you can learn to
redevelop trust in others.While recognizing your tendency to push people
away marks a key first step toward change, it’s just that a step.Learning to
let people in will take time and practice, but these strategies can help.Some
people are naturally more outgoing than others. You might be perfectly
happy keeping a small circle of close friends to confide in (which certainly
makes the holidays cheaper). But more extroverted peeps might see it as
more of a problem to solve.If you’re going to make a conscious effort to
change your behavior and open up to more people, do it for you. If you’re
losing touch with close friends or partners, people you value in your life,
then you might want to explore options to fix that.But don’t feel the pressure
to become a social butterfly if that’s simply not who you are.Forcing
yourself to maintain more relationships than you can cope with risks
unnecessary stress. If you feel there’s a problem that needs correcting, you
can look at taking steady, positive steps.Effective, honest communication
indicates a healthy relationship. It can also be scary if you’ve fallen into a
pattern of shunning communication. If past trauma is your reason for doing
this, opening up can feel like a massive step. Don’t worry, though. As with
the previous step, slow and steady is best.Think critically about how much
you need to open up to sustain a relationship. You might not need to give
your life story and all the reasons you have problems with intimacy right
away. In fact, that might overload the other person if they didn’t know it was
coming.
VI.Conclusion
If you really want to forge more connections with more people, there’s the
temptation to rush things. That’s doubly true if you used to be naturally
outgoing and you want to get back to the way things were. But it’s rarely
the most sustainable method.Studies show that showering people with
affection in the early stages of a relationship, sometimes called love
bombing, isn’t a healthy sign. It indicates low self-esteem and a degree of
social anxiety.Instead, take things slowly. Give both yourself and the other
person time and space to breathe. Rather than focusing on your plans or
goals for the relationship, try to notice what’s happening in the moment.
Offer support. If something is happening in other areas of their life, ask how
you can help them. This means they don’t have to go it alone.
Don’t make promises you can’t keep. If your partner fears rejection,
overcommitting to solutions risks setting yourself up to fail.
Be patient. Your loved one might not want to open up at first, or they may
still be struggling to articulate how they feel.
We’ve all got the right to decide how many people we want in our lives. We
get to choose how close we want to be to them in order to feel satisfied.
But whether you’re a happy hermit or the life and soul of the party, pushing
away the people you love can be a sign of deeper problems.
Reference:
Introduction:
https://people.howstuffworks.com/what-is-friendship.htm
ll:https://www.betterhealth.vic.gov.au/health/conditionsandtreatments/Depression-in-
young-people https://www.healthline.com/health/mental-health/pushing-people-
away#how-to-stop
lll-v::https://www.healthline.com/health/mental-health/pushing-people-away#causes